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being outgoing with people
im 18 years old female. i would say im somewhat outgoing but i CANT keep a conversation for the life of me. i work with kids and parents and the parents will try to make a conversation with me and i will just answer their question, while the other employees start talking to them and can keep a conversation going. same with my friends, i am usually the one who is just listening to the conversations, well except with my best friends. i am usually the one always talking with two of them, because we tell each other everything obviously and its easy to talk to them. i just wish i could work on my communication skills, they suck i will admit. i just love when people can keep a conversation going, and be funny and outgoing. is there any steps i can take or any advice on how to keep a conversation going, and be talkative haha thanks!
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if you want to do better then try this. first, try to take what they say and add to it. you don't have to add much. if they say "tommy loves coming in in here". maybe say "oh we, when he's here." or 'tommy sure makes things interesting for us. i'm sure you have some stories." you don't have to say much at all really. i've telemarketed. one of the best things is to ask questions. people usually don't avoid questions. also you're taught to not ask yes or no questions. so instead of asking "is tommy a bad kid at home?" maybe ask, "oh what kind of mischief does tommy get in at home?" now, they are forced to say something to answer the question. since you didn't ask a yes or no question, they have to say much more. another thing is this. if you have some joke or silly story, even if you have told all of your friends or coworkers, these people never heard it. youcould have just told this story 50 times but as long as they weren't in the room it seems you are being charming. also, try to find unique questions. personally, i think questions like "what is your favorite color?" is a waste of time. try to ask things nobody else asks. for the most part if someone seems like they are trying to be personable it's taken well. think about it, if someone makes an effort, how does it make you feel? i'd say most people would probably feel accepted and in a way honored that a person is making the effort.
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