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I'm the worst boyfriend in history (long story
Tonight I cheated on my girlfriend, my soul mate, the only thing that is keeping me alive. What makes matters worse is that it was with a guy. She won't ever forgive me. I want to confess to her if I do I know the odd of her accepting me back are farely high. But I can't risk that. If she says that she can't be with me I will kill myself, hands down. I just spent the last 4 hours crying and debating whether or not to tell her, then I remembered that I had an account on here. I need advise. Well, I want advice but I really need to talk to her about this. She'll be coming to see me in a few days, we have a long distance relationship butive been in love with her for over 3 years now. I can't live without her. What should I do? Opinions matter a lot to me right now, thank you.
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Hey dude.... I think if you and her are truly soul mates then she'll be understanding... especail if you did what you did because of being curious... just sit with her and talk it over and reasure her that it will never happen again... and I don't think its healthy to kill your self over a girl... I hope this helps and if you got any questions just message me...
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What is done is done. You can't change the past no matter how much you would die for it. This is a lesson/obstacle in your life that you will have to face and go foward. Don't cheat yourself through it because your next problem will be bigger and worse.
My question is...if you don't mind me asking...is why did you cheat on a girl you have been truly in love for 3 long years. Are you feeling lonley since its a long distance relationship? Or were you just horny you weren't thinking? I'm not sure but its a bit strange for someone who says you will die for anything for this girl yet you cheated on her. Is that fair for your girlfriend? I feel your pain though. This is your decision...you can tell her that you cheated on her. However I don't know your girlfriend so what do you think she will most likely respond? Will she understand it or leave you in the dark. Well...if you does leave you I think killing yourself will just make it worse. Like I said...don't cheat yourself through. Dying is easy...living is the true obstacle. So endure it and learn from that mistake. There are so many mistakes I wish I could go back and erase...but those mistakes makes me who I am. You will learn from this horrible mistake you did and in the future you will never cheat on a girl...hopefully. And this wil make you a better person. The consequence is loosing her. Is she truly your lover...because if she is, you wouldn't be in this battle with yourself. Just speaking the truth.
If you don't tell her...it depends how your conscious's role in your life. Maybe you can brush this mistake and keep it a secret. Of course you learned from this mistake and you understand what you did was not right. You learned your lesson and maybe you deserve to live happily with your girlfriend while keeping some secrets from her...your trying to protect her from your mistakes. You don't want to bring her down with you. Is your able to continue with your life and forgetting as much as you can about this. However please do not comit suicide over this! You have other options.
I hope I helped giving you 2 points of view of this dilema.
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hello sarline here.
to start off, why would you want to that to ure "soul mate". and secondly i think she would forgive you. I think she needs time alone to think things through. She has a big decision to make that would be affecting her for the rest of her life. Wheater to take or not to take you back. Explain to her why yoou did what you did and let her know you can be trusted to lrt your relationship last. (she will understand if she feels the same way you do about her). she might need some time to think though but iam sure it will work out.
P.S don't kill yourself. just think if you do, you would just leave her to be alone and no shoulder to cry on. and beside you will never know unitl you try.
bye.
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come clean. if you dont tell her, and she finds out later, that will make her twice as likely to end it. if you guys are true soul mates, itll be alright in the end. its alright to question your sexuality. if you tell her about it, she should understand if shes good enough for you. explain to her that you didnt go out thinking, "hey im gonna cheat on the woman i love tonight". it was more of an impulse, and you were experimenting with the opposite sex (if its your first time). its alright that you "experimented" with a guy instead, because if you really were gay, then it wouldnt be fair to her to be dating someone that doesnt know who they are yet. im not sure how old you are, but it sounds like youre in a serious relationship.
just try to explain to her that it was a one time thing, and you feel horrible. if you truly feel bad, she will see the pain in your eyes. if she loves you like you love her, this wont affect anything. some trust will be lost, but that only gives you more time to re-gain it. it is very important that you come clean and spill your heart to her, because if you dont tell her, that will make it ten times worse. tell her how you cried, tell her how much guilt you are feeling, she'll get it.
just please dont kill yourself over something like this, things will get better. tell the truth, you will feel so much better. you seem like such a sweet guy to be crying over this, and i doubt she would let a guy like that go, if shes a smart girl. you crying over this shows that you really do love her, otherwise you wouldnt be so worried about it. just tell her, and see what happens.
hope that helps. if you need to ask me something else, feel free to.
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If she is your soul mate there is no reason to kill yourself if she does say she doesn't want to be with you. You should know that if you do tell her she will more than likely be very mad and yes probably break up with you but it is because she needs time to process things. If you are soul mates you will just have to wait. Believe me you can live without someone. It is hard for a long time and sucks a lot, but you have to talk to her about this after you look inside yourself and figure out why you did it. Talk to her calmly and tell her you know she probably needs time and you are willing to give it to her but make sure she knows why you did it and what you will do in the future to prevent this from happening again. She needs to know that you are sorry.
Do not kill yourself over a mistake. learn from it and change it and never do it again. You will gain nothing by doing such an act except hurt the one you love even more. I am sure she feels she cannot live without you either so killing yourself would be making her live without you and you without her.
good luck
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I think you should ask yourself why you cheated on her in the first place. Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. They require a lot of communication. What was going on in your mind before you made the decision to cheat? There was a moment when you could have said "no", but you didn't. Why do you think that is? Think back to that moment.
As for the fact that it was with a guy, ask yourself if you question your sexuality or if you're just curious. If she is your soulmate, talk to her about this. Especially this. If you question your sexuality enough to experiment with a guy, you need to tell her before you end up committing to a relationship under false pretences. That's probably what scares people the most. There's no denying that she's going to be upset. But she'll be devastated if you string her along for years only to find out that you like men. Or maybe you're bisexual. You have to be really honest with yourself and figure out what you really want. It's hard to come to terms with your sexuality. It's hard to tell the ones you love. But it's harder to deny it and live a lie. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. I bet she would rather you be honest with her, no matter what. Chances are there'll be tears and loudness, but eventually you'll both appreciate the honesty. Maybe you'll end up being the best friends in the world. Maybe you won't speak for a while. But it's not the end of the world. It's just hard. And you have to be brave. Sometimes soulmates are just friends. Nothing wrong with that. Let me know if you need to talk more.
Good luck
L.C.
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