Am a bit of a wrinkly now (i was 24 on 4/9/05, but I had the best birthday I've ever had in my whole entire life!!!) but I know an awful of stuff about an awful lot of stuff!
I am COMPLETELY NON-JUDGEMENTAL and you can always inbox me with stuff you wouldn't ask anyone else @ MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Mel xxx
"Dance like no one is watching and love like you've never been hurt"
E-mail: MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Gender: Female
Location: Long story, born in Germany, Parents are Spanish but grew up in the UK!!!
Occupation: General Superstar and all around heroine!
Age: 24
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with all that i hear going around especially in the media, its difficult for me to decide whether sexual orientation is a mental, psychological, or conscience choice. do people decide to do it out of their own free will? is it both? any help is appreciated - will rate (link)
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Hi there,
Personally I think it is a combination of all of those things.
I have quite a few gay friends and some of them are convinced they were "Born Gay" while others think that it is because of their upbringing and one was straight all of his life until he met a certain guy who he has now happily been with for 6 years!
Sexual orientation is completely personal preference, no one can MAKE you gay and no one can MAKE a gay person straight!
Bi-Sexual people are not people who can't make their mind up they are people that prefer to choose to have relationships with people of BOTH sexes! This is a choice made by them for whatever reason!
It brings us back to the age old question are we made who we are by nature or nurture. Are we destined to be the way we are from birth or is it the way in which we are brought up and our environmental surroundings that make us who we are.
As I said before I personally think it is a combination of both.
I hope this helped a little!
Mel xx
(P.s Great to see an intelligent question on here for once!! :o)
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If you want a divorce but your spoude refuses to sign the pepers, are you still married until they sign them? Or can they be forced to sign them? Or do they even need to, to be fully divorced? Thanks all! I rate! (link)
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Hi there,
I am not sure whether you are in the US or uk, but over here in the UK you can file for divorce without the other person signing papers.
It is a much longer process but if the person asking for the divorce (petitioner) cannot get their spouse (respondant) to sign the documents then they can instruct their lawyer to go ahead anyway.
As I mentioned before it IS a much longer process (takes approx 3 years here!) but at the end of the day they will get their divorce!
Your best bet though would be to seek legal advice from a professional to get the eact answer because things are different in each case. For example - if it was a violent relationship things usually move quicker, or if their are children or property involved it can take longer to settle.
Good luck!
Mel xx
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I once had this body spray that smelled like flowers. It was called "flower power" by the Smiley Calgon collection. They discontinued it and now Im left trying to find a new perfume/body spray. If anyone could tell me of a flowery scent they know of that'd be great. I rate. (link)
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Hiya,
My favourite smell in winter that reminds me of summer sun and the best summer of my life is Escada "Ibiza Hippy", I would really HIGHLY reccommend it!! It smells good enough to eat!
Take Care
Mel xx
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Dears.
I am looking for a way,which I can make a whiter color for, Anchovy (oily fish which have dark mussels )fish past with washing system or using chemicals during washing.
Best wishes.
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Hello,
I am not entirely sure what you mean????
Your question is not worded very well.
If you mean how can you make the flesh of the fish whiter then I don't think there is a way unless you buy genetically modified anchovied that are packed full of chemicals and have none of the lovely natural taste.
There is nothing wrong with the colour on anchovies the way they are!
Lol!
Take care
Mel
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Brown Gauchos & Brown cowboy boots.
^yes or no?
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Yes, but a different colour.
If they are both the same then no one will be able to tell the dfference between one and the other and it'll look really bland!
TK
Mel xx
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Hello everyone,
I am going to be getting a bird (cockatiel). I was wondering if anyone has had this breed or another breed of bird and can lend me some tips! Also I am bilding a bird-perch and I am having some trouble with thinging of home items to use. Like (strings, wood, ect.) Or any other ideas. So if you answer these questions I would mean alot to me. Thank you.
(ps: any websites ((dont tell me to google, yahoo, other engines to search it)) and dont put anything rude or mean in the answer)
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Hiya,
I have never had a cockatiel, but I used to have a parrot! Mickey!
His favouite things were shiny things. Little glass pebbles glued to a bit of string - or even better a little make-up mirror! He used to sit and admire himself for hours in it!
Birds are great pets to have! I hope you have fun with yours!!
Take care
Mel xx
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Ok. Today I got shocked by like a 151 V. It didn't hurt but i was shaken it was my first time getting shocked.. and im still shaking from it.. very lightly. Im not hurt or anything but i still feel wierd..
Should I just let this pass overnight? (link)
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Hiya
If it didn't do you any harm pretty much immediately (other than the shaky feeling etc etc!) then I would probably hedge my bets on you being o.k!
If you are still shaky in the morning and feel out of sorts than I would let your parents know and get them to take you to the E.R!
Good Luck (and in future try not to shock yourself with electricity - if in the future you feel the need to shock yourself, either dye your hair bright pink and get a mohican or jump in a bath of iced water on a cold day!)
Take Care
Mel xx
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I have to go for my first "girly" check up alone because I am having problems at school and they are being slowly sorted out but my parents know nothign about it but my health is going down. What I want to know is during this check up do they really look at your vagina and boobs and what do they do to them? Also do they do anythign to your bum? I am really embarrest andits happening in a month please give me some advice. (link)
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Hiya,
I grew up in Spain and the UK, but when we had our first girly checks they didn't actually "touch" anything, they just asked lots of questions about how we/I thought my body was.
I really wouldn't stress yourself out about it sweetheart, they can't do anything you don't want them to anyway.
If you feel uncomfortable about anything then ask them to stop, and you ALWAYS have the right to ask for a female nurse/doctor/gynae.
Take care, you'll be fine!
Mel
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i downloaded adobe photodelux 3.1 but everytime i try to upload the photos onto myspace, photobucket...or anything like that...it doesnt work b/c it's a PDD file. can someone explain to me what to do? (link)
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Right click and "Save As!£ a jpeg to "My Pictures!"
That should enable you to view stuff if you are havin troublr viewing online.
Take care and Merry Christmas!!
Mel xxx
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what are some ways to calm youself before you perform music, like audition or concert (link)
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Hiya!
My Mom and dad made me take musical instrument lessons and singing lessons ever since I moved to the U.K 18 years ago (am 24 now! How old is that!!!)
As a result I do a lot of concerts both playing the flute (my favourite instrument! (other than the bagpipes, but no-one has much call for them nowadays!!)) and singin.
The best thing that relaxes me before I perform in front of people is 5 minutes away from everyone!
If you have a dressing room then lock everyone out of it and have 5 minutes to yourself listening to your favourite song! (Mine's Greenday "Minority"
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if anger sin, why do we have a "wrathful god"
if jealousy is a sin, why do we have a "jealous god"
hipocracy on the churches part?
what about the crusades?
the witch hunt?
is this the basis of a good religon? (link)
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Hola!
It entirely depends on what religion you believe in, if you beliveve in any religion at all....
You can't really ask any question about religion here without clearly stating your beliefs first.
Not just that but you have the right to believe in whatever you believe in.
With questions about religion the only person you should be asking is yourself, because everyone has different beliefs.
Think what you want to think and act according to what you think.
Nowadays people don't give a second thought to religion.
your religion nowadays is what you make it, as long as you are happy with the choices you have made then nobody should have a problem with it!
If you ever need to have a chat then inbox me or e-Mail me at MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
Take care
Mel xxx
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my parents are cinda like "gay"?!
my frinds are drooing me like crazy ever since they got marryed!! what should i do ???
♥ they r inseprable??!! ♥
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Hi there,
These 2 people despite their colour, creed or religion are your parents and you love them... right.
It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.
We all have some weakness/ something that the rest of our social circle will pick on when we are teenagers, The fact that your parents are gay is yours.
It's probably just a phase! While they are talking about your family they are leaving some other poor guy/girl alone!!
Just let it go over the top of your head hon.
You have 2 parents (regarless of their sexuality) that love you, that's a lot more than some have.
Just rise above them!! (I know it can be hard!!)
If you don't react to it then it will soon stop and they'll move onto something else!
I know it's stressful but the reason people "pick" at other people is cos they're not happy themselves! It'll pass shortly!
Take care and if you ever fancy a chat you can e_mail me at MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
LtzOLve
Mel xx
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i weigh 200 pounds...and i'm 15 and a girl is that fat? ((this is serious))
please help♥
i dont want advice on how to lose the wieght, cause i didnt ask for that advice.i just want to know if that is seriously overweight. (link)
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Hiya,
The best avice has already been given.
Go to the link the person below gave.
It depends on how tall you are.
If you are 6 foot and weight 200lb then you are probab;y underweight!
Check out the link it's a really good one!
Take care! (and no mater how much you weigh be happy!)
Take Care
Mel xx
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I don't know if this is teenagers all around of if it's just my high school but it seems that they have just forgotten (or not taught) what manners are!
I see so many kids in school being rude everyday it's crazy.
Today I saw a teacher walking with allot of things in her hand and this guys in front of her opened the door for him and then just shut it in her face.
I've seen people kick books that others drop, turn around and bitch someone out just because the person accidentally ran into them, yesterday I even saw that a guy had dropped his text book and a girl that was walking tripped over it and fell on the ground and he didn't even say anything to her, just picked up his book and walked off. Just mean things like that.
Have kids always been this rude?
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Hi there,
I don't think it's always been this bad, but it's getting progressively worse. Even since I was at school 8 years ago!
The only thing you can do is make sure that you are polite and that if/when you chose to have children you educate them well to be polite and midful of their manners!
Take care!
Mel xx
Ps Contrary to what TeenWillHelpTeens said London is not perfect eother! We have just as many little sh!ts over here as you get over there!
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Hi, I would REALLY apprecaite some advice :) OK, my partner (male 32) is driving me (female 26) up the wall! We have a 6 month old baby. My parner works, I am at home alone with the baby all day. He has this really annoying habit where he get's home, sits on his lap top and then only goes to bed at about 5am! His alarm goes off at least 6 times before he gets up for work (obviously making him late!) and then he has to stay at work late to make up the time. By the the time he gets home from work, I am so wound up that we argue! I have tried to comprimise by designating "laptop evenings" but when we do this, it lasts for a few days and then we are back at square one. The worst of it is, that he he has difficulty with "demands". He sees everything as a demand and then feels that he must rebel! This makes him worse. Please can you give me some practical advice to get him to sleep earleir and to wake up on time for work. We are due to get married in Jan and I feel that this is a real reason for me to call it all off :( Thanks :) (link)
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Hi there,
Ah... men, you can't live with em, you can't shoot em either! Lol!
If I were you I would try talking to him again and explain that you are thinking about calling the marriage off.
If he asks why (which he will - if he doesn't you shouldn't be marrying him anyway!) then tell him that you feel like you come second to his laptop.
Explain that you don't sit around all day doing nothing you are looking after your home and the baby! Maybe on his day off you could swap roles so he sees just how much you actually have to do - and you can sit there and play on the laptop all day!
I too have been a computer widow! It's not fun and if all else fails then the only thing I found that worked was to steal the cables that made it work - naturally it caused the mother of all arguments but in the end we managed to come to a compromise.
I'm sure if you BOTH want your relationship to work then you will sort something.
Another thing I would suggest is getting involved in a mother and baby group - this would give you some outside activity away from your home. It'll also be a place for you to socialise with others in your situation and it'll be good for your baby too!
If you need a chat or just to vent some frustration then drop me and e-Mail sometime!
MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
Take Care
Mel xxx
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I have been really sick lately with sinus infection. I woke up this morning with really bad chest pains. They are on the front of my body, in between my breasts. They only happen when I take a breath in, the deeper the breath, the sharper the pain, and when I puff out my chest. I'm kind of scared because I thought they would go away, but they arent, and its hard for me to breath. It hurts pretty badly. What could they be? What should I do. Please help me, its getting scary. (link)
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Hi there,
Nobody here can really tell you whether or not it is pneumonia.
The best thing you can do is book an appointment as soon as you possibly can to see your doctor who can diagnose you properly and treat you for whatever it is that's wrong.
If the pains suddenly get worse or you are finding it really hard to breathe then get them to take you to the hospital.
Hope you are well again soon
take care
Mel xx
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i thought my real dad was in prison but the other day this man came to the door saying he was my dad had my birth certificate and everything im just confuse he said do i want to come out with him to get to know each other. But why has he waited al dis time to come see me im 16 now so do u think i should go and wat would i say to him (link)
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Hi there,
Wow! I bet that came as a bit of a shock!
The best advice I can offer you is to arrange a time and a place that you feel comfortable in and meet him.
That's if you want to. I imagine you must be feeling pretty confused about the whole thing.
I personally would meet him and ask all the questions that were going round inside my head as only he will be able to answer them.
Whatever you decide to do, whether you meet him adn want to start some sort of relationship with him , or meet him and then decide not to see him again or not meet him at all and have no contact, the choice is YOURS and no one elses. Don't feel pressurised by him or anyone else to do anything you don't want to.
Do what you want to do when you feel ready to do it!
Hope all goes the way you want it too.
Take Care!
Mel xx
(Please make sure that if you decide to meet him you tell someone what time you are going and when you will be back)
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hey im not really good at sports and have been on the bteam on every sport i play. this is totally fine with me but for once i made the a team. i was really happy but now i can't keep up with the players on the team. i don't know if im paranoid but i always feel as though they are talking about how i do not deserve to be there. i have never played with these girls before and we have only had like 4 practices but i don't want them or the coach who picked me to think it was wrong decsion. Once again i could be paraniod but i think they don't even want to pass it to me. I don't want you to get the wrong idea and to think i stink because i don't these girls just don't like change and have had no new additions to their team for about 5 years. How do i fit in and show them that i belong there? i will rate high. (link)
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Hi there,
Firstly if the team hasn't had much change then your coach would NOT have put you in there unless she/he thought you were one of the best!
Just practise hard and show them that you are A team quality and I'm pretty sure in no time you 'll feel a lot happier!
Good luck and well done!
Mel
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What do I do when my mom tells me that I'm the cause of all of her problems? (link)
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Hi there,
I would ignore it.
Wpeak to your Mom when she is calm and tell her that what she said upset you and you'd like to know what problems you cause her. Chances are she won't be able to say anything and will apologise.
I would say most parents get to that point sometimes and more often than not it is not your fault.
Maybe at the time she said it she was having trouble somewhere else in her life and even something as small as you asking her a question could have made her say it, you know the straw that broke the camels back and all that... and she lashed out at you.
Don't worry about it, she'll probably apologise to you before you even have to say anything, and if she doesn't then approach her or a close family member about it.
Take Care
Mel
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im asian and i curl my eyelashes and put mascara on so they look longer and curled ..what are some other tips i can do so they look longer and thicker? (link)
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Hi there,
My friend has short eyelashes and she uses a heated eyelash curler, then she uses Max Factor 2000 Calories Mascara.
This makes her lashes look much longer and fuller!
Hope this helps!
Mel
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