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I like my friend, hes so fun to be around & I think at one point he used to like me too, you know how you can just tell? Besides, i used to nag him about who he liked and at that point, he would say that he was shy and such, and that he didn't want to ruin anything if he said something. Anyways, after a while, i started to like him and it was obvious hehe. I told him I like him and wells he told me to call him back when I had a chance to talk about it, when I did, he ignored the subject and wells i thought something was there but i guess at that point there wasnt. Anyways, nowadays, it seems like he likes me again, doing the same things when he might have liked me, but on and off..and i think i still have feelings for him..should I ask him about it?
Yes, ask him about it. I know that you said that you told him you liked him, but really get him to talk to you about it. Who knows, he's probably really shy about this situation. Some things just come natural you know? Just continue to hang out with him and everything, and maybe sooner or later his true feelings will come out. He's going to do it on his own time
Best of Luck!
Take care hun!!
i was wondering when a baby's unblilical cord is supose to heal and what age i should start bathing them at..thanks
The rest umbilical cord should start falling off around the 3rd or 4th week it depends. For now, just give the babe sponge baths, until the rest of it is completely off. And make sure you you dont let it get infected. Doctors these days say not to put alcohol on it...but my mom told me to do it anyways, cuz she did it with me and i turned out ok (lol)
Maybe a little more info then you wanted but o well lmao
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im 16 and had a baby 3 months ago today.my mum and dad are strict catholics and demanded that me and my baby)s father to get married.well me and the babys father split. so my mum and dad were like "i told u so". i left home and moved into a council flat.i have got exams this yaer and im finding it so hard.even tho i have paid childcare thoughtout the day im so tired to do anything.my mum said that i had her and so shes my responsability.im getting desperate now and even thought about adoption.has anyone got any good advica on how to cope. the last thing i want to do is say to my mum that she was right.sorry its long.
First off..im 16, and I have a 4 month old. I KNOW that it is hard. And it was even harder for me, because I was raped..and damn near everyone told me to get an abortion, because it will mess up my future. But I knew that having an abortion would be wrong so I went through with it.
The thing that kept me going is that I knew that by raising the best child ever, I was proving everyone wrong that told me something negative about having my baby. You just have to be strong. Thats really the only thing I can say. I mean, if I can do it, you can to. I'm only in the 11th grade, and I have 2 jobs. plus school work, and all that other sh*t that goes with it. Just tell yourself that you can do it. DONT even think about adoption as an option. Prove your mom wrong. That baby was brought to you for a reason. Thats what I tell myself also. God would never give you responsibility over something HE KNEW would be to much for you. It's just up to you to believe that.
(i know its long--sorry!)
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Where do i begin? I was recently married 9 months ago to a 47 yr. old nurse. I am a female,45,and officer and have 2 girls, 11 and 16. I was single for 6 yrs. before, having been abused and mistreated for 11 yrs. I started over and now have a nice home and 2 cars, and have worked hard alone for what I have. So anyway I always wanted to marry again someday and have the family thing, and be happy.So I took a chance and boy I have been wondering about my judgement. We so rarely make love its getting hard to recall. He is just not interested he says, He hates when I say something about it, Another problem is I wonder could he be Bi-sexual, Right after we got married I caught him on the computer with men and women and talking sex, writing Bi-Sexual couples etc. I have caught him not about 5 times since we got married,. I Now have forbid him to use my computer, well he went to the library, and did it and he probabley does it at work. He denies that he is BI, saying it was for kicks, he was just messing with them and he was just curious about people. He hurt my feelings so much and not wanting to sleep with me, makes me feel unloved,and depressed, I love him, and want my marriage to work, but you dont have to be a bright light bulb to figure something is wrong here. I have threatened to go elsewhere for sex and he says go right ahead. I am so hurt Im miserable. He says he loves me but he sure dont know how to show it and says he will leave if that is what I want. Im getting to where I dont talk to him, I hold things in, Do I need someone to just slap me and make me wake up here and quit wanting that fantasy of a decent kind,loving husband? Thanks P.s. He has 2 kids that wont have anything to do with him, he was an alcoholic and married twice before.
I seriously dont think that this is the kind of guy that you want to spend the rest of your life with...right? You dont need him. If your telling him that your gonna go elsewhere for sex, and he says go right ahead, then you damn sure dont need him. It seems to me that you were doing ok by yourself! A great job (my sisters an officer), 2 kids, 2 cars... I think everyone dreams about that perfect family. and no, it's not a fantasy, because its something that almost anyone can have. and I believe you are one of those people.
I think that he probably is gay, or bi, but is still in denial about it. The best thing that I can tell you is to try and work / talk it out. Your not happy and there are plenty of other men out there who dream about that perfect family also. You dont need to be hurt, or miserable. Think about your kids, think about your happiness, that about what you truly want. Someone that you love---but your being hurt by. Thats not love. Find someone that is willing to put in the effort just like you are.
Hope I helped
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old, girl Freshman. Recently this guy moved to my school. He is a Senior and he rides my bus on the way to school and from school. After a few weeks of being here, he started to talk to me. He got me to write him notes and I only like him as a friend. But quickly after that he began asking personal questions like, "Are you a virgin?", "What have you done with guys?", or "Do you want another guy to do that to you?" He doesn't want me to go out with any other guy. He wants me to go out with him. It is getting really annoying. He is the most perverted guy I have ever met and everytime I wear a skirt he is always peeking up it! I can't stand him! Now he wants me to sit in the back of the bus in the morning so he can do stuff or whatever. I said, "No!" of course and made up an excuse. Then yesterday he told me to skip 3rd and 6th period at school so he can 'do' me ith the bathroom. I am only a virgin and he is 18 I think! I don't know what to do. I tell my guyfriends and they say 'smack him', but I'm not violent.
Please help! This guy is so annoying. I don't like him anyway. He does drugs, smokes, and drinks. He is not my type and he has sex with all these girls! I don't want to have sex until I am WAY older! What should I do? Will this turn into something bad later? Thanks for the help!
If this guy is giving you this much or a poblem and making you feel that uncomfortable...and youve already expressed to him not to do certain things, then I would take this up with a conselor or maybe a school policeman (i you have those at your school) He doesn't have the right nor permission to do those types of things and say that kind of stuff to you! Stand up for yourslef and let him know that your not a smut and he's a perv!
Good Luck babe!
is 12 too young to wear thongs?
to be TRUTHFUL....I would beat my nieces' ASS if ?I caught her in a thong! Yes, personally, I think its to young
how is a good, healthy, and quick way to lose weight?...like 20 pounds or so? (not atkins)(or Jenny Craig)
I know you've heard it a million times before. But thee is no quick way to lose weight. Especially that much. Be best way is to play by the rules...Eating healthy, exercising, not skipping breakfast..you know the usual stuff. Check out this website! www.fitteen.com
Ok.... I went to my best friends b-day party and my g/f was there and we were watching a movie and we started making out for like 15 seconds. Now i can't wait to see her again because i really feel different becasue we made out. Is this normal?
Please Help
Yes its normal! Give her a call and let her know how you feel! I bet she'll feel the same way and you guys could hook up again!
my grades are so low....and im in the highest program at my school and its too hard for me...ive always had good grades till now...im doing my homework and everything but i dont know..im not understanding ANYTHING...ive talked to my mom about and today she talked to my dad but he started yelling saying im on the computer too much and talking on the phone too late and my social life is taking over and he wont let me change out of the program...he said hes not gonna let me see my boyfriend *of 6 months* anymore..=\...wut do i do im so upset? he said hes gonna have a talk with me tonight..(hes not mean hes just strict about my grades/school
Try to explain to him that it doesn't have anything to do with your social life. Your just not ready for the work that you have in front of you. Tell him that you work your ass off, and its not getting you anywhere. Just tell him that as long as you have classes like that.. then those are the grades that he should get use to! then see what happens
hi. im 13/f. i was just wondering how to get a bf. i mean, ive never had a relationship or kiss or anything. and i feel bad at school when i hear girls talking bout their bfs. i am shy round guys and...yeah. :( it sux. help please. please dont say "flirt" or crap. what can i do 2 get a bf?
the only thing I can say to you is....be yourself. If you have an interest in someone...you have to speak up and tell them...What if a guy likes a girl and the girl likes the guy..and they had the potential to be a great couple and spend the rest of their lives together?? But neither one of them speak up..so they just missed out on a helleva lot. It all starts with a convo! and always be yourself!
Meeting guys was a huge deal for me last year because I go to an all girls school, and last year I didn't noe any guys until like the end of the year when a friend of mine introduced me to some of her guy friends. Me and 2 of those guys started talking and it turned out that one of them had a really big crush on me, which worked out perfectly because I had a huge crush on him too. So, the whole summer, him and I are talking and he use to tell me the sweetest things. We would have the most romantic conversations. The problem comes in when his best friend and I become best friends. Its not like I was in love w/ him or anything. We were just best friends. And one day the guy I like was over at his house and he saw that we were talking. And that was when ole hell broke loose. So, William, our best friend hurt me really badly by telling me and calling me horrible things. Okay, so summer is over and school starts and both of these guys are like so popular. Even if they don't go to our school, everyone in the school knows them both or at least they think they do because in front of everyone else they have to be machos and those are the guys they know. Not the sweet guys I use to know and Jason claims he doesn’t like me. And I knew he does, but he just doesn’t show it like before. I thought that playing hard to get was going to help me get the guy more enticed, so that is what I did. I never told him I loved him, but I wanted to, so badly. And I still love Jason... so much! I see him at all the parties and stuff, but it's not like before. And then I instant messaged William to say hi after the big fight like months l8er, we were back to being friends. But nothing every has been the same since that night. So now that William and I are friends again, I asked him a question about my I pod because he’s like an expert at that stuff. I went out the next night and I saw that he left me a message on my away message saying hey. Just like old times. So, I said hey back and I had to call him the next day because of a very delicate reason. I never call guys but this was a very delicate situation. He got so mad @ me! Then he tells me that we are not friends, we are acquaintances. He told me that he hated me and that he has always hated me because I am annoying.
What is wrong w/ William? & I really miss the way Jason and I use to be. How can I get him back?
I really cant say that I know whats going on here. Maybe william was getting a little jealous that you were going out with his best friend. And Jason was jealous that his g/f was hangin with his best friend. It must have been some little incidents between all this..cuz I cant put this together. The only thing I can tell you is that if you really still like Jason, then tell him. Otherwise nothing will happen. And talk to Will..try and get some kind of info out of him! Sorry I couldn't be a better help!
hey. i like this guy...but he likes my good friend. its kinda hard to see him flirt with her bcuz i like he so much. what should i do?
To tell you the truth..I dont think there is anything you can do As of right now he is into your friend..And to remain a good and loyal friend, I dont think you should ty anything with him. So try to set your feelings aside, and let things be..
It might be easier said then done...but you can do it
hay i am 14 and single and i am a female. oneday i was walking in the hallways and this guy tapped by shoulders and was just like "hi" and i said hi and i just went along with my business. a few days later i was walking in the hallways and he said hi to me but i never replied because i never knew who he was talkin to. 2 mins later i passed back that same way with my friend and he was there with this guy i knew. and the guy who was he was with knows me and he was like hi sarah and i was like hi and then the guy was like "now i know your namme" and i smiled and walked to my business. the same day at my lunch the guy was behind me and he was like hi naiome and i said hi and dat was that. the next day i was going to my locker and he was going somewhere and he was like hi sarah and i said hi and i asked him why do u always say hi to me and he was like i think you are pretty and i smiled and then he said you are too young for me the sanme time his friend came along and asked who i was? and i didnt hear what the guy told him.and then i was like ok bye i got to go. then after i left he was still talkin with his frend and i heard them talkin and i think his friend was asking about me ... i didnt hear and his friend watched back and began smiling with me and i smiled back and then i went away to by business.does he like me ? does he want to go out with me? he is older than me i think 3 /2 yrs dunt know
I think he likes you! But I dont think that it would be wise to date a man thats almost grown..and your only 14. You never know...some people are crazy these days. But as for now..I think that you should continue this hi and bye relationship until he steps it up and says something of importance. You never know...guys can do the craziest most unexpected things sometimes!!
I'm turning 14 and im throwing a big guy/girl party. im just burning CD's for the party and i need some good dancing music. Can anyone list some really hot music to dance to including slow songs, rock, and hip hop/rap? i would really appreciate it. the list can be as long as you want!!! THANKS!!
go to launch.com.......anything on the top ten list is a goo..popular..party song! While your there go to the top 100 & R&B/Rap music....tons of party songs!
hay i am a female who is 14 and single. i know this guy who is in my last period class but i always see him in the hallways. i never really say hi to him but if he sees me he will say hi and if too much people are not around he will ask for a hug and i will say yes. people says he has a girlfriend but i think he is playing her because he is always up on different girls. he is a really sweey guy. he is a guy that is a little "pimp". he loves to touch girls booty. oneday i was sitting by myself and he came and sat beside me and hug me and started rubbig my back and we were talking. and he was like i have a secret to tell you and i was like ok and he kissed me. i was shocked. but i didn't do anything. after he did that i had to leave because my teacher called me. but he told me to come but. 20 minutes later i was sitting by myself and he joined me and his friends did too. i was the only girl on the bench. he was hugging me and rubbing my belly and legs. he said to me i love you.... like 20 times to me but i didnt answer his question because i did not know what to say and i finally was like i love you as a friend. he told me i am pretty and thinks i have big boobs for my size and he will always say sweet things to me. sometimes he will feel me up(boobs,tits) also he will ask for a hug and he will start rubbing my back and booty. and everytime he sees me he wil grab me and one day we were walking to class and he began rubbing me up. we would always hug each other everyday sometimes once or twice. but i am not the only girl he hugs he hus other girls but when he hugs them he will just give them a decent hug but when he hugs me he would start feeling me up. i like it . i love him but i want to know if he likes me or is he just being a friend?
theres a lot of guys like that in my school. they all want to be pimps. I have a lot of guy friends that are pimps that hug me, but it stops there. You have to set your limits. And I dont think you love him.. I think you just like the attention..as any girl should. But you said it yourslef..he does this with a lot of other girls. SO do you think he wants to be with you..and only you? To tell you the truth I dont think so. I say find a guy that doesn't show that kind of attention to every girl that he meets. Thats just a pimp...dont let him pimp you.
Ok this is weird but i want to get my ear pierced and my friend has a peircing gun. But my parental unit had a problem with it. But i am 17 i should be able to pierce my own ear. So the question is should i just go pierce it and come home to see what happens or not?
I say yeah...go for it. your 17..damn near grown, and its your ears. I really dont see the problem with getting ears peirced. I got mine done when I turned 1!
Go For It!!
how does wrapping your hair make it grow
Wrapping your hair is not the part that makes it grow. Its the fact that you arent messing with it.And constantly pulling it out with combing on it. Like when you wrap your hair at night..it prevents it from rubbing a lot on the bed. thats why babies always lose their hair around the edges when they are small..because its always rubbing on the bed when they sleep.
You get it?
theres a guyat school name mitch. A lot of people hate him. But when you get to know him he is really nice. He asked me out. what should i say? I need help!!!!!!!
Dont worry about wjhat other people say. If use your good judgement. If you think that he is a ok person, and you want to go out with him...then do it! Its your life..not theres!..I say go for it!
Ok..well I had three best friends. One of them I kinda spread apart from because she is always with her boyfriend but we were still friends and we didn;t hate eachother or anything let's call her Maggie. The other two supposedly HATE me now because Maggie randomly told them I was talking about them when I HAVENT been, I mean how can I, I am never with Maggie she is always with her boyfriend. So now I am really mad because my two old best friends hate me. I guess I don't want to be friends with them anymore if they are going to be like this but I don't want them to hate me with a passion!! They won't talk to me and I don't even want to try talking to them! Do you think eventually they will get over it?? I mean one of the girls shares a locker with me and if she is going to stay being bitchy then I'm kicking her out! What should I do...please don't tell me to try talking to them because I won't thanks!
Why is maggie lying on you like that! I th ink you need to have a talk with all three of them TOGETHER to get all the facts stright..and get your friends back!
I'm a black female, and my hair stops right at the back of my neck. I just started wrapping my hair before I go to sleep, my hair also really thick if that helps any, but what I want to know is, does anyones have any other suggestions as to how to make my hair grow? By next year, I want it shoulder lenght or else, I'm just going to cut it short into a pixie cut and keep like that. Thanks!
My hair isn't that short but keepin it braided up and not combing on it constantly everyday will reduce the breakage. Try some individuals or micros..and remember to cut those split ends!