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Lately, Ive realy wanted ot become balimic or anterexic.. the thing is i cant. i love my boyfriend to death and he would flip if he found out.. also i would loose all trust in my parents.... soo what do i do?? is cutting back food a badd thing???


--thx--

OK, anorexia and bulimia suck...I know that is a stupid thing to say but they do...

It ruined my life...I was very close to dying fro them...they got so bad for me...

If you have a boyfriend you should know that you obviously must be fine so there is not reason for you to...but then again I know how you feel about it, but really if you think about it you mush be fine...

And really to be healthy you should eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner...but eat healthily and eat in moderation...

Please make the right choices...if you need anything drop it in my inbox...

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hi, im 14 and im 5'6" and i weigh 118, what can i do to lose weight? i want to especially lose weight around my ab and thigh area. I dont drink any soda and i run 5 times a week, anything esle would be great thanks. xoxo

OK, I am sorry but I needed to comment on this...what pootietang said was completely wrong and such a horrible thing to say...please disregard their advice...

And as for what to do haloguy was saying the right thing...especially about eating breakfast...but really you sound like you are the perfect weight already...

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Can you be forgiven for being gay? Is it really a sin? What if you just want to try it and see what happens are you going to be penalized for that? Can someone help me asap.. these questions are for a friend who really needs it

I think you should tell your friend, that it does not matter what a religoin, or person says...every person is an individual with their own feelings, sexuality, thoughts, etc...and that your friend should just do whatever they want...

And really if you think about this, why would you want to believe in a god who does not exept a certain kind of person?

So really I think you should tell your friend to do whatever the hell they want...they can be gay, or they can just try it out for fun...god is not going to strike them down with a lightning bolt...

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Hi

I am 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have sex and we use protection but on night my boyfriend put his penis a little bit in my vagina, and took it out again,, it wasn't even in there for a minute. He took it out and i wiped my self off. I missed my period this month, and i am worried that i might be pregnant, I am going through a lot of stress this month and I am sick with the flu.. but i am still scared that i might be pregrant, what do you think..

First of all don't stress out too much yet...not until you know for sure...

Of course there is a possibility that you are pregnant...so my advice to you would be to go out and by a pregnancy test.

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does anyone here know how to get over a guy u really really love???? i need tips! i'll rate high for good advice

Distractions....just distract yourself with things you like....

Do things that will not remind you of him, but they are someting fum and something you enjoy doing..

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At least how old do you think a girl should be to have a first kiss? I don't mean a peck on the cheek, and 8 year olds drooling all over each other's noses does NOT count

There is not a specific age...everyone has their first kiss at a different age...having it at a younger age is not bad, and having it later is not bad either....it just depends on the comfort level of the person, and just when they feel the time is right...

I personally had my first kiss when I was 13, I know people who have had it at 12, 13, 14, 15...so really it is just when the girl feels it is right, or when the moment comes...

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well

my ex dumped me he said it wasnt me it was him ( such an old line ) okies well after he dumped me he went over and asked another girl out he didnt even wait 1 hour before dumping me well i nkow there going out cause there always togther and his hugging her and everything but he dosnt want anyone to know cause he will nkow that i will get upset and um i really like him but he likes her and i know he dumped me for her he said he loves me as a sister but that was an excuse to break up im really upset that there going out and he alwys hugs her and everything in front of me and when i ask him are use going out he says no and im kinda jealous please help what do i do i tried hanging with my friends but whereever we go we see htem togther =[=[=[=[ plz plz help :(

Hun, there is only one thing you can do....get over him...he has jerk written all over him.

You really need to just forget about him...I know that seems like the hardest thing in the world, but trust me he sounds like a cheezy jerk...just leave him alone and get him out of your life.

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Hey guys..
I'm making a CD mix.. and I need suggestions for songs to put on it... my mind is kinda blank, and I can't think about what songs i should put on it...

so far, I've got FOB-"Dance, Dance"
Panic! At the Disco "I write Sins Not Tragedies"
Relient K "Who I am Hates Who I've Been"
Click Five "Just the Girl"
AAR- "Move Along" and "Dirty Little Secret"

any other suggestions??
thanks!

*Shimmy Shimmy Quarter Turn- Hellogoodbye
*Perfect Situation- Weezer
*Everything Is Alright- Motion City Soundtrack
*Almost- Bowling For Soup
*Memory- Sugarcult
*Punk Rock Princess- Something Corporate
*All The Small Things- Blink 182
*Such Great Heights- The Postal Service
*Midde of Nowhere- Hot Hot Heat

Well, I tried to stick with the genre of your other songs...if you do not like the song I said you could even just think about the artist and look at their other songs.

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not to be mean but why do girls with fat stomachs wear shirts that make their big jellyroll hang out? do they think thier not fat or something?

Ok, seriously why would you even say "not to be mean..."?

That is not advice, and if it bothers you then look away...

Maybe they feel that with the way society is today that they have to dress just like everyone else to fit in...

Think about it...

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Hey my name is Alex you answered my question about me being in love with a friend of mine from my class, you told me to keep my love to myself and try to move on.
So ectually this is going on for almost a year
& and I tried to do what you said( I asked the question on the site just know and not a year ago) and I just can't do it, and seeing her almost everyday for helf a day doesn't really help.
Do you have any advise to help me get over her???please...

p.s
I'm sorry to bother you but your answer was the most logic

Alex,

Hey!

First of all you are not bothering me at all, I am on this website to help people so it is not bothersome at all....

Ok, I can deffinately see that this is very difficult for you and is causing you probably a lot of pain...especially since you have to see her everday...

Now, you said you did not want to lose her friendship...you need to remember that, because if you do tell her you are pretty much guarenteed to lose her friendship...maybe not immediately but it will turn awkward and then things will just go downhill from there...So you need to remember that if you want to remain friends with her, you are keeping this inside for the right reasons...

A year is a long time...and I can tell that you really have serious feelings for her, so this is going to take a lot of effort on your part to be able to get over this.

There are many ways you could do this...one way would be just to stop communicating with her for a little bit, but I don't think that would do you any good so I will not recommend that, but it is one solution....

Another way would be to try and find another girl to put your feeling into....I would strongly recommend that...try getting a girlfriend...That would be good so you could put all of your feelings into her, and try to put the focus off of your friend...

I hope you realize that you will not just get over her in a matter of days, it sounds like you have true feelings for this girl and so this will take a while...So please know that you cannot expect things to change overnight...

You also need to realize that she does have someone else in her life and I know that is probably hard to think about, but that is just how it is...and if you really care about her then you want her to be happy, right? So try and exept that...and I also know that is extremely hard to be happy for her when you have so many intense feelings for her, but you just have to do that...

So basically what I recommend is trying and finding another girl to date, or just to like, so you are not focusing on your friend so much... And maybe one day you will get lucky and she will like you back and you two can go out...but for right now you know that you can't do that so just try and find another girl...

Hun, I really want everything to work out for you, I am so sorry that you have to go through that, because it sucks...

Well if you ever need anything just feel free to ask again...and tell me how things go with you, I really hope they go well!

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im dating this guy!! we've been off and on for like 6 months now!!! i really like him alot but were so wrong for eachother but yet theres this wiered attraction between us! we fight all the time he makes me so jelouse but we can never truly end it!!! he always ends up wanting me back and i aways say yes!! what can i say to make him really understand that i cant be with him anymore!! i want to but i know hes not good for me!! i need some strong words of wisdom to get me through this!! please help me!!

I have gone through a some-what similar experience...

It is really good that you know that you need out of the relationship...becuase I did not, and it just took a lot of people to help me...

But I will tell you some of the things that helped me be able to let him know we couldn't be together, and to get through that hard time...

So you guys have been dating for 6 months now...that is a good amount of time so I am sure that you have a lot of feelings for him,even though you don't have the best relationship...So this is going to be tough for you and you need to be strong and know that this is for the best and that your life will be a lot better once he is out of it...and I am sure things will be better for him as well.

You need to sit him down...and do this in person... it will add more power to what you are trying to say..so sit him down in a place where you two can be alone..

You need to first start off by telling him how you feel about all of this...and say that you are sick of always going back to him, and that you know that your relationship is just not a good one.

So be sure that you just talk to him, and if he starts crying, or just giving you sad looks or anything...ignore it..you have to!

Now even if he does understand at the time...he is probably going to try and call you and talk to you and get you back...and this is where you need to be strong and realize that you cannot keep going back to this boy...your life will be so much better without him...

So before you do anything you need to just sit down and do some thinking, and tell yourself that no matter what you will not let this boy back in your life..that you just want it to be over with and it will just make things a lot better for you...

After you do it you should try and just move on...or just hang out with friends a lot and do stuff you like to do...Just distract yourself so you won't think about him...

I hope I have helped some-what...and I really hope you are able to go through with this...If you ever need anything drop it in my inbox...Good Luck...

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hmm ok well about a month or so ago i broke up with my bf cause i had some issues i needed to work out.well during that time we were apart he went out with this other girl,which is a whole other story, but anywho we're back together. him and his ex gf are still friends which doesnt really bother me all that much she seems like a cool girl but like whenever they talk on the phone i get soo i guess jealsous and i get this weird feeling . .i trust my bf and everything and i just dont know why i feel this way
or get this feeling ..i think she still has feelings for him. what should i do??

thanks in advance!

Hun, I really think that you should just trust your boyfriend....

It is pretty normal I would think to feel jealousy when your boyfriend is talking to their ex...but I think you should just understand that he is dating you now and not her..

But if this is really bothering you then talk to your boyfriend about this...don't sound too overly jealous, but just let him know how you feel...

Hope everything turns out well...

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OMG me and my boyfriend fight everyday and its almost to the point where we are braking up, i dont want 2 brake up with him and he dosn't want to brake up with me but we fight everday and i need 2 find a way so we dont fight anymore or @ least not as much

Hmmmm....well I am sorry you are going through that...

I think the best thing to do would be to just take a break for a little bit...it will probably make you and him feel better and just to get away from eachother for a little bit..

I hope everything turns out ok....if you need anything drop it in my inbox...

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ok so over the summer this guy who i really really liked gave me a chance (that i never thought i would get) we didnt ovicially date but well i hope u kow what i mean and he ended up breaking my heart MAGERLY im still hurt by it the thing is he kinda left me for one of my friends he wasnt just a guy he made me feel special and he was everything iw anted i cant let him go he has a girl friend who he is in love with but still likes me and that get me really upset we flirt kinda sometime but harmless the thing is though i have a boyfriend and we have been dateing since november he means so much to me but often times i feel weird about the sitiuation i want toget close to him but i find it impossible even though he mean so much to me and we are so alike i just dont know how to let go of my past relashon ship an dmove on to the one that matter so deeply
i hope u can help

OK first of all I am sorry you are going through this...

Now one option would be to just get out of relationships all together...just have a break from them..and get to know yourself and figure out what you want, and when you feel ready to date again..then date..

Or you just need to give this all time...I know it has been a while already but just give it some time..

I think that you should also cut of all communications with the ex and just focus on your present boyfriend, that will probably help a lot..in fact I strongly recommend doing that...

Well I hope everything turns out ok...if you need anything drop it in my inbox...

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Well at the moment, i fancy this guy, i never get to talk to him because he's always around with his friends. He's really shy and he's knows that i like him, but he's always looks at me whenever i see me.does that mean he likes me?

Well....I wouldn't just jump to conclusions from that. You should probably just try talking and getting to know him maybe then you will be able to decide if he likes you or not...

Well Good Luck!

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My problem is that I'm like head over heals(in love :-P ) in a girl in my classe and I don't know what to do, and I don't know what to do beacuse of a few reasons
*She is a really good friend of my & I'm afreid that if I tell her it could kill our friendship
*She is curentlly dating someone

please help me....
what should I do?????

This is probably not what you want to hear but...

I really think that you should just keep your love to yourself.

I mean if you tell her your relationship will just be awkward, and on top of that she has a significant other so it probably wouldn't go over too well with her or her significant other.

So hun, I am sorry but under those circumstances I really think you should just keep your love inside, and try and move on...

Well, I hope everything turns out ok, if you need anything drop it in my inbox.

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I have this friend.. Haley. She is going out with Steven. Steven is really really really cute. and he is the ONLY guy that will accualy be my friend. hes so niicee.. and is the only guy that I am confertable being arround. But he likes haley, and haley likes him. And I dont wana ruin the relationship between them but i flirt with him so much that its not even funny!! Help!! I dont wana lose either of my friends!!

Hey,
This is probably not the answer that you want but..I really think you should just let them be and just continue to be friends with both of them and be happy for both of them.

So I think you should just keep your friendship with them, and try to find another boy, or at least realize there are other guys out there and you will find one..just give it some time...

So really I don't think you should risk your friendships for one boy..

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ok so I just found out my x bf has a gf and he told one of my rly good friends he also said not to tell anyone if that matters at all. but she told me and now i feel like i rly need a bf but I dont want one just to get back at him. I've liked this other guy for like almost a year now. and we dont rly talk but we go to the same church and we see eachother like every single sunday and wednesday. my friends say they think he likes me but I dont kno what to do! I rly want a bf. please help!

xo K

OK, if you want any chance with the guy you like you HAVE to talk to him...so just start talking to him and getting to know him better, and things will eventually progress from that...

Now this is the part of my answer you are not going to like...but I am sorry I need to say this:
I take it you are a teenager....if not then...wow...but you do not NEED a boyfriend...people just put that into teenage girls minds that they aren't cool unless they have a boyfriend.
Well it is a pretty stupid thing because girls get sooo worked up about boys...
So you do not need a boyfriend and if it does not work out with this guy...enjoy your life...hang out with your friends do stuff you love to do...don't let not having a boyfriend bring you down..

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 16 years old and I was wondering if you just started going out with a boy like a week ago is it to soon for a first kiss literally this will be my first kiss ever by a boy.

If you feel you are ready go for it!

Good Luck!

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How do I ask this guy that I really like who I talk to a lot in school to hang out? I think he suspects that I like him a little but I just want to hang out with him.

"Hey (insert name), how are you? Are you doing anythig this weekend? Let's go to the movies or soemthing.."

It is really not too hard..
Good Luck.

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