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Hey my name is Alex you answered my question about me being in love with a friend of mine from my class, you told me to keep my love to myself and try to move on.
So ectually this is going on for almost a year
& and I tried to do what you said( I asked the question on the site just know and not a year ago) and I just can't do it, and seeing her almost everyday for helf a day doesn't really help.
Do you have any advise to help me get over her???please...
p.s
I'm sorry to bother you but your answer was the most logic
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Alex,
Hey!
First of all you are not bothering me at all, I am on this website to help people so it is not bothersome at all....
Ok, I can deffinately see that this is very difficult for you and is causing you probably a lot of pain...especially since you have to see her everday...
Now, you said you did not want to lose her friendship...you need to remember that, because if you do tell her you are pretty much guarenteed to lose her friendship...maybe not immediately but it will turn awkward and then things will just go downhill from there...So you need to remember that if you want to remain friends with her, you are keeping this inside for the right reasons...
A year is a long time...and I can tell that you really have serious feelings for her, so this is going to take a lot of effort on your part to be able to get over this.
There are many ways you could do this...one way would be just to stop communicating with her for a little bit, but I don't think that would do you any good so I will not recommend that, but it is one solution....
Another way would be to try and find another girl to put your feeling into....I would strongly recommend that...try getting a girlfriend...That would be good so you could put all of your feelings into her, and try to put the focus off of your friend...
I hope you realize that you will not just get over her in a matter of days, it sounds like you have true feelings for this girl and so this will take a while...So please know that you cannot expect things to change overnight...
You also need to realize that she does have someone else in her life and I know that is probably hard to think about, but that is just how it is...and if you really care about her then you want her to be happy, right? So try and exept that...and I also know that is extremely hard to be happy for her when you have so many intense feelings for her, but you just have to do that...
So basically what I recommend is trying and finding another girl to date, or just to like, so you are not focusing on your friend so much... And maybe one day you will get lucky and she will like you back and you two can go out...but for right now you know that you can't do that so just try and find another girl...
Hun, I really want everything to work out for you, I am so sorry that you have to go through that, because it sucks...
Well if you ever need anything just feel free to ask again...and tell me how things go with you, I really hope they go well!
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