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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Woah woah woah...he made a facebook GROUP about your relationship?? And he's hiding it from you? That is really just plain weird. But getting past the weirdness, I am going to tell you something that will come in handy in all of your personal relationships from here on out: keep it PERSONAL. If you want a relationship to work out without unnecessary interferal from other people, keep it between the 2 of you. Of course, he has obviously broken this rule which shows that he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship. He not only broke that rule by posting personal relationship issues online, he lied to you about it. He is completely in the wrong here hun, you can't just let him get away with it. If he won't talk to you about it, then maybe you should consider how stable your relationship actually is? The building blocks of a relationship are trust, honesty, and communication, and he's already messed those up. Talk to him again but if he won't listen, i'd recommend you find a guy who will respect you enough to not go behind your back. Goodluck!

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What things can I do to intimidate my enemy at school?

The thing is, most people on this site probably won't be up for telling you how to intimidate your 'enemy'. Why? Because most of the advice givers are very mature. Trying to "intimidate your enemy at school" is a very immature approach to getting rid of someone who's bugging you. This isn't what you wanted to hear and you'll probably rate me low but all I'm saying is the best way to get on someone's nerves is to ignore them...

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What exactly happens if you have sex during your period? Is there a chance you can get pregnant? Also, dont guys thing its gross for having sex while your bleeding? I would like girl and guy replies please(: its urgent.

Sex during your period is just like sex when it's not your period except, obviously, much more messy. It's actually the most likely time of the month for you to get pregnant, so be sure to take the appropriate precautions. Some guys do, some guys don't care. That's usually an issue that comes up with sexually active couples so you'll have to discuss it with your partner to decide what your preferances are. If you have any more questions, send it to my inbox.

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I know that cold water makes hair shiny but I don't know why it works? Do you know? should I even care as long as it keeps working? LOL!

I guess what I wanna know most is does it hurt your hair?

Ok what I've HEARD is that hair kind of works like your skin does with pores. Hot water opens them up and cold water closes them. So if the 'pores' on your hair follicles are closed, it's not as textured so it's shiny and smooth :) Haha it's kind of a confusing answer but basically no, it doesn't damage your hair at all :)

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i've just one question?
does masturbate harmful 4 a female or male?

No.

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How do you make it not hurt at all, besides using lubricant. Im scared that its going to hurt because hes big and I dont want it to hurt real bad because I know it will. My friend told me that having sex for the first time feels like your getting knives stuck in you... and the the pain is unbearable. I dont want it to feel that way.. Please help

Everything that the person below me said, but I have one thing to add; every girl is different, and it doesn't hurt everyone the same. My first time didn't hurt at all and my boyfriend is very 'well endowed'. So just relax because if you stress out about it then it will more likely be more unpleasant.

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how do you eat out

It's quite simple really. You just get into a car and drive to a nearby and preferably cheap restaraunt.

But seriously though, no one here is going to answer that question. Google it if you really want to know.

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How can I practice the keyboards so I can play by ear and make my own music? So is there a program or book or good video that I can practice too? Should I take lessons?

Also, is it difficult to play with both hands but have both hands play different notes? How long before this skill is usually developed?

I'm very passionate about music. I would love to be in a band but I am only a beginner. I prefer the techno sound..

I have a M-Audio KeyRig 49. So there is room for growth. I eventually want to learn synthesizers.

Well, the good thing about learning the piano (or in your case, keyboard) is that it is all laid out very simple. From lower pitch to higher pitch. This makes it so much easier to learn to play by ear. Just do some simple scale exercises to warm up before you practice and you will eventually know what note makes what sound without pressing the key. You don't have to take lessons...I took lessons for a few years but I think I did better on my own because I have a natural talent with piano so the lessons moved much too slowly. Plus I liked playing music that I picked. But if you need some easy warm up exercises, I'd suggest picking up one of those beginner books at your local music store. Saied, Ben Jacks, Blue Moon, and Guitar Center are a few places I can think of that I would recommend (guitar center is what I would recommend, they have an amazing selection on anything having to do with music). These books will also help you a lot when you're trying to play with 2 hands because they teach it very slowly. Practice makes perfect though, so you can only get better at playing with both hands if you practice a lot :)And another tip would be to watch youtube players. There's a LOT of youtubers who do kind of an "online course" thing on their channels. I'm sure you can find a few to help you out with your keyboard :) Just remember to practice, practice, practice! Haha
goodluck!

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ok! so my boyfriend and i were having sex while i was on my period.. and the condom broke, but he pulled out and he said he pre-ejaculated before he went inside of me, so my question is even if he did ejaculate in me, since i was on my period and it was heavy that night.. could i still get pregnent?

Yes, you could be. Get a pregnancy test to make sure.

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My period ended 3 days before schedual. I have stomach pains. Light headed every time I walk around. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex two weeks ago. Saying all this, could i possibly be pregnant? How would I tell my mom? I'm only 16.

There's really only one way to be sure. Go take a pregnancy test.

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your advice on suicide was great the usa is the worst most fuck up peice of shit place to live im ashamed to have been born here your exactly right is compleatly fucked i live in pittsburgh and have to serve 1year in jail for having 6drinks in 5hrs its complete bullshit but yet my cousin has 13 dui`s in another county and doesent get one day our goverment is so croupt and wack out it is insain this country does make me wanna kill myself i cant stand it here the only way your life will be not that bad is if your born into money or otherwise your fucked the only thing this country cares about is one thing and one thing only ( money) money could mean shit to me norway here i come cause ide rather die than spend another day here fuck you united states you lieing sac of shit there is nothing free in this junk bullshit sorry piece of shit of a country i feel bad my fam has lost lives and fought for what you call freedom if this is freedom than i dont want it all the usa is is fucking lies!

I agree. Please do leave.

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My boyfriend pre cumed on the outside of my butt, my cherry hasnt been poped and he wasnt near my vagina. I also went and washed off and changed pants and underwear. Could I be pregnant?

It's highly unlikely.

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Uh, I have asked this question numerous times to try and get answers for my problem. So, here it is again. I am fifteen and female.

This goes back to Jr high when I was in 7th (12 yrs.), 8th (13 yrs.), and 9th grade (14 yrs). I am in band and this is relating to my relationship with my Jr high band director. He was and still is an amazing guy. People, my peers and some of his other students really questioned the relationship we had. I always just saw it as him being a father figure to me. I trusted him and he was always there for me. Always. To help you decide, I will name a few things about our relationship and you tell me what you think..

-In the beginning of school I didn't really care about my looks and when I started getting older and caring more about my appearance, he notices immediately and he commented that my hair looks different and that he likes it.

-I would be in a lesson with him and he would allow me to stay after and miss a little bit of my next period to help him set up seats and stands for practice with the whole band.

-If you teach band or orchestra, you also teach a music class, he would let me sit in on his music classes and listen to what he has to say or if I didn't have anything to do in study hall, he would let me sit in on his classes and play on his computer.

-At the end of ninth grade, all of the ninth graders got a trophy for completing band and we hugged when I gave him mine.

-One time in practice I got excited because I got the hardest piece down and I put my hand on his thigh in excitement, not to make move or anything, I was just so happy. He didn't move my hand, he listened to what I had to say.

-He would always call me by my first and last name so I told him one time I was going to call him by his first name and I started doing it and he didn't mind. But when my friend tried doing it he would tell her that she can get in trouble for doing it.

-If I didn't like a class, he would write me a pass to get out of gym or something to go down and practice.

-I would intentionally be late for classes by stopping in bathrooms and checking my hair and stuff, the bell would ring and I would walk down to his office and he would just look at me at his desk and say "(first and last name) late again?" and I would shake my head yea and he would write me a late pass. Always.

-I don't live far from school, so after Sr high band practice, I would walk home and hear the Jr high band practicing, so I would walk in and listen to them and he'd introduce me and let me sit in and listen to them and help the young'ins out if they need it.

-If my clarinet had a problem, he would let me go into his office and into his desk to look for the tool I needed to fix it. He also let me take reeds without paying, when he made the rest of the students pay a dollar for each one they took.

-His office is right smack dab in the music hall suite and he always kept his door shut to keep the practicing instruments out and I would go in and talk to him about random things when I was bored and the door would always be shut and kids would walk by making kissy faces.

-He had since become a father when I left for the Sr high, while I was still a student of his, he and I would joke around that whenever the special day comes that he would be blessed with a bundle of joy that he is going to have a girl, they're going to name it after me and she was going to grow up exactly like me. He always joked back that he would put her up for adoption if that were to happen.

-Sometimes when band would let out, I would be sitting on the sidewalk waiting for a ride and he would always always always made sure I had a ride before he left.

-My mom said that if I ever had this kind of relationship with any other teacher, she would be worried.

-Lastly, this might just be me but I feel like every time he made a joke, he would look over at me to see if I was laughing.

I am sorry it is so long, it's just, since the show Pretty Little Liars, people from Jr high have been texting me "wow, Aria and Fitz are a lot like you and.. who? (;" Please tell me what you think of our relationship. Don't tell me to put it behind me, that he isn't my teacher anymore so I shouldn't worry about it because I still see him when I go to help out the Jr high kids. I need answers, I don't care how long. Thanks!

Agreed. He's young, he's still learning to be the best teacher he can. Anything that you might have thought of as 'flirting' could very well be just proffesional inexperiance on his part. You don't see him that much anymore, he's much older then you, and he's married with a kid on the way. Do NOT pursue this 'relationship' because I doubt very seriously that he would just throw away his career and family. Leave it alone and find a boy your own age.

-Jess 16/f

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"its so fluffy" what does this mean? lol

Yep, it's from 'Despicable Me'. The youngest girl is obsessed with unicorns and goes crazy when the guy gets her a stuffed unicorn, thus yelling 'IT'S SO FLUFFY!' haha.

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f/15

I've been with plenty of guys and have gotten pretty close to a number of them both physically and emotionally. For some reason, lately, I've had the tendency to kiss my boyfriend on his forehead a lot. I'm not sure why. I just find it strange, because I've never been inclined to anyone on the forehead, around the eyes, or on their temples or anywhere in that general region. Now, in the movies, I've always gotten the impression that kisses like this were only given in relationships from elderly people to children, (which is a little funny considering he's the older one by four years). I was just wondering what message me kissing him like this all the time could be sending. I see him as a lover/best friend and just think it's funny. He's the only one I've ever kissed like this and for some reason I find that whenever I kiss him like this it's just....right. ( He doesn't seem to have anything against it, in fact, he seems to love it but ,I'm just worried he may think it's a little strange too. is it? )

So yea, just wondering. Any advice? :)

Nope, it's not strange at all :) I kiss my boyfriend on the forehead every once in a while and he told me it's adorable haha :) it doens't really "mean" anything...just that you love him and you like to kiss him lol

-Jess

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how do you know if your a good kisser? how do you learn to kiss? whats the best kinda kiss?

Trust me, it comes naturally. It's very hard to be a "bad kisser". Just don't knock teeth, no biting, and don't slobber all over the guy. You'll know what I mean when you kiss a guy, it's really quite easy and nothing to worry about :)

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how much does an abortion cost? i live in pittsburgh pa if that makes a difference.

Ignore those people that are like "OMGZ DON'T KILL THE BABY" :/ sorry, just had to say that...anyways, there are different kind of abortions, depending on how far along you are (ex the abortion pill, surgical abortion,etc.) and the prices vary depending on where you go. You might want to check out the "planned parenthood" website. They have abortion information on there and it tells you all about the different kinds :)

-Jess

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Ok so I'm female and I'm 16 and I have been hinting at my mom about wicca asking her how she feels about it and what she thinks it is well my mom is not really religious but she freaks out and tells me "Wicca is a cult. And cults don't believe in a god." How can I tell her I'm wiccan if she wont even give me a chance to explain it's not a cult that we believe in helping the earth through the magick of the elements and the living things around us and that we do believe in a god and a goddess (well many gods and goddesses) please help.

I agree with the person below. This just sounds like another teenager phase to me...do you really want this hanging over your head when you get older and probably grow out of it? I had a friend who 'went Wiccan,' as she called it, at about 17...she was over it in about a month and everyone still teases her about her previous belief in magic and all that Wiccan jazz :b So yeah, don't tell them...you won't be taken seriously...teenagers are always looking for new things to try that they usually don't stick with.

-Jess

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I am from london
Lol this is crazy, but who knows I can find some god advice here!
Ok, I'm a guitarist and songwriter who has achieved alot this year in LA, the city I love. Now that the summer has arrived I have two choices. 1) stay in los angeles and have the time of my life but put my music dream to the side...also i have no job so ill be spending all my money...also dont know anybody but count on my social skills...b) go home to dreary london and lock myself up in a room all summer studying music...dark and depressing but when come bk to la next semester im all ready to conguer the music world!
so both are extremely amazing yet both have their serious down sides...
whats more important? should i go home and study or stay and have fun?
tx for ur time people :)

Well are you more worried about the present or the future? It seems like you are looking for us to encourage you to stay in LA (ex: "dark and dreary" london, lock myself up, etc.) which might be fun, but it might not be helping you in the long run with your music career and all. However, the choice is ultimately yours so you know better then me :) goodluck with whatever you do!

-Jess

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I am in love with this guitar

http://www.lunaguitars.com/acousticprodu…

But it is 3/4 size.. would it be a bad thing if I played it? would it be hard to transition to full size and/or electric guitar since its not full size? I'm 16 btw.

If you don't think I should get it, what other sites can I get interesting acoustic guitars from? I hate the kinds that are just a boring tan, and maybe with a strip of a darker wood on it. But I don't want something cheesy like Daisy Rock.

Thank you!

Well it depends on what fits you, although there isn't too much of a difference between a 3/4 and a full sized guitar...I personally prefer a 3/4 just because my arms are short. Maybe you should head to a local music store and just check out what size fits you the best :)

-Jess

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