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Q: I was friends with this girl named Tina for a whole grade before we grew apart. REcently, her mother died from cancer, and whenever I saw her after that she acted like she was fine, so I always made sure to act cheery and bright around her, and to pretend as though it never happened. My other friends all tell me I'm heartless and pretending like it never happened to her is just going to make it worse. What do I do?
I think you're completely right.

The thing with people who are grieving is, if they want to talk about it, they will talk about it. If they want to be cheery and pretend it didn't happen, they will do that too. If you must, test the waters by lightly mentioning it. If she wanted someone to start the ball rolling for her, she will take the opportunity. If not.. then not.

Follow her example.

Q: I need to make a cd for this dance/party. What are some good songs,like hip-hop or something you can dance to? Thanks a bunch.Oh, and by the way, what was that onesong from last year with trick daddy ... ahh i forgot who else and what it goes like. maybe someone knows? thanks a bunch. easy rating. =)
For a song to be good to dance too, it needs to have a clear beat. Fast or slow, it doesn't matter, although fast is preferable.

Go to www.cdzinc.com and under "urban" listen to artists you already know have good songs. You can listen to songs there. If anything makes you wanna move as soon as you hear it, PICK THIS SONG.

Some suggestions:
1,2 Step -Ciara (awesome for dancing)
Yeah - Usher
Anything by Nelly

That's all hip-hop of course. If you wanted to be really cool, play a little swing and of course... Cotton-Eyed Joe

Oh, and it is essential to have such dance classics as:

The Chicken Dance
The Macarena
The Cha-Cha Slide
Annnnnnnnd...

The YMCA!

Q: Tomorrow, I'm taking an AP test and all year long, I haven't paid any attention..so now I have to cram and review the whole book..It's so hard to stay concentrated because the subject is so boring..(Human Geography) I need tips on how to stay focused and the best way to study..pleaseeee! I'm in 9th grade and if I pass this test, I won't have to take it in college...any advice is greatly appriciated!
:o!!! You don't like Human Geohraphy?!? I love that course!!

But anyway, first you need to study the vocabulary, and branch out from there.

Make a list of the vocab words, and their definitions. Then learn all the background info for each word, and learn about everything associated with it.

For instance, the term is "Steppes" You should know that they are in Southern Russia, that they are flat and grassy and that they are most of Russia's farmland.

More tips:

**Get a list of what you will need from your instructor. Just go in and say you're a little overwhelmed and you'd like a better idea of what to know. They should be happy to oblige.
EDIT: I just realized you only have one night. In that case, nevermind. You could try emailing or calling, but if not, you should be fine without such a list. Did the teacher hand out a review? If so, make sure to use it.

**Study for about 30 minutes at a time, with 5-10 minute breaks inbetween for snacks or whatever.

**Study with a classmate, it will keep you interested.

**Make up devices for things you need to memorize, like maps and the five pillars of Islam (which are Prayer, Pilgrimage, Charity, Faith, and Fasting at Ramadan ;) (Ex: King Philip Called Order For Green Soup is the taxonomy list: Kingdon, Phylum, Class, Order, Family, Genus, Species)

**Make flashcards for really boring stuff out of notecards.

And remember, if you don't know, just pick C.

Q: My best friend and I have been really close since the beginning of this school year. Back when we first started to become really good friends, we would do everything together. Lately, shes been wanting to hang out with her boyfriend and her other friend all the time. And she always points out the bad stuff about me, like what I say, and how my personality bugs her and stuff. But I really wanna be friends with her it just hurts that shes nice to me sometimes and then so mean other times... I don't know what to do.. please help?
You have two choices, it just depends on how much you want to save the friendship.

1) Talk to her an explain that she really hurts you when she says things like that. Tell her that you want to be her friend, but you feel neglected and even though she may not realize it, she's hurting you a lot.

2) Realize that you deserve better and end the friendship. Say "Goodbye and thanks for all the fish", and get out of there. Spend time with other friends and let the healing begin.

My reccomendation would be to try number one, and move quickly to number two if she blows you off, or says she'll be nicer but isn't.

Q: I don't really understand it, but whenever I meet a guy for the first time now, I always feel like I'm crushing on him. My heart will start beating fast, my stomach will flip, and I'll turn bright red around them. I have some guy friends, but they only became my guy friends when they excluded me from something or got girlfriends themselves. I don't know why I like everyone...Any ideas?
Hey, teenage horomones get the best of all of us. Sometiems, I feel like I like everyone too... and I do mean everyone.

Don't worry about it too much. As time goes on, your insatiable urge to get boned by every male will subside, I promise. All you can do until then is ride it and enjoy your silly little crushes.

Silly little crushes are fun. :)

Q: i am getting major bullied at school. everyon says to stick up for myself but it's so hard. my teacher knows but they don't do anything which is screwed up. i talked to the counselor and she said to confront them in person but i don't want to do that becuause that pus me in danger
Teachers & counselors = jerks!!!

Tell your parents and tell them to call the school. The school is REQUIRED to do something, I'm pretty sure.

Goodluck

Q: i'm 13 and i'm only 5'1. i'm very self-conscious about my height so i measure myself everyday. why is it that when i wake up i'd grow half to a full inch from the night before when i measured but at the end of the day i'd measure myself again and it said that i shrunk again? this happens almost every morning, when will i stop increasing an inch and then losing an inch by the end of the day? how can i prevent it? thank u
This is quite common.

What happens, is that as the day progresses, and you are vertical, your spine compresses. (hah, that rhymed)

You can't really prevent it unless you lie down all the time. Don't be self concious, short people rock. I hate being tall.

Q: i want to dye my hair out of a box as opposed to getting it done professionally. is this a bad idea?
Nah, as long as you follow directions and do it correctly.

I did my highlights out of a box and they turned out great, everyone asked me where I got them done. (I used Colour Rays, blonde)

It's fun too. :-P

Q: i'm in 8th grade and we have a field trip to islands of adventure (universal) we have the money to go but my parents dont think it will be safe.my teacher who planned it is one of the most responsible people i know and she called to convince my dad but he just simply told her 'no' and wouldnt let her explain.i cant get them to listen to me!what should i say so they'll let me go?!
Lie.

Don't tell them which day it is, fake their sig on the note and tell your teacher they changed their minds.

You will most likely get in trouble later, but it will be worth it.

Q: so yah.. if a guy "hides" your relationship does that mean he's embarrassed of you? i dunno. he's happy and everything but it's sort of awkward i guess. he doesn't deny it but he won't say yes..does that mean he doesn't really like me?
That means you need to break up with him, and he's a slimeball.

Any guy who won't admit to having a relationship with you is not worthy of your precious time.

Q: I have acne on my face that I hate.

I have an apointment for the dermatologist  in May. But does anyone know some good over the counter stuff that I can use till then?

One thing you need to do is not wash your face too much.

If you wash it twice a day and you find yourself still breaking out like crazy, try going to once a day. Sometimes, if you strip your face of too much oil, the glands go into overdrive, and it just aggrivates the problem.

Once a day, preferably at night(it's also convenient in the shower), wash your face with a mild cleanser or scrub(Clearasil is good) . Then, dab toner on your t-zone(forehead, chin, nose, and cheekbones). Finish with a light moisturizer(something watery and not too thick).

Once a week, use a mud-type mask. Peel-off masks will irritate your skin. My favorite mask is Queen Helene's Mint Julep, available at any drugstore. That stuff is FANTASTIC, it's made for young oily acne skin. It soaks up the oil. On your nose you can see the little spots where it soaked up the blackhead oil.

Yes yes. The main thing is to get a simple regimen and stick to it.

Q: I'm making a project for school. I was wondering, is there anyway to get a soundclip to play through the whole presentation and not just one clip?
My suggestion would be to leave the presentation silent and play the sound in another application.

Is it like a song that you want to play in the background? Or, is it an actual little clip that you want to play with each slide?

If it's background music, open sound recorder or WMP and just play in the background.

If it's a clip you want to play repeatedly with each slide, I know there's a setting for attaching sound to slides, so just do it for every slide.

Powerpoint MAY have a setting to play a CD with the slide show, but I'm not sure, so you may wish to look for that.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, I don't have PP on this machine and I haven't used it in a while.

Q: why is it that when i'm at school, i sweat alot alot under the arms, and when i'm at home, i don't sweat at all under the arms? i cud try any deoderant and reapply and reapply over and over again at school but it never ever works when i'm at school, yet when i'm at home, i barely ever sweat or it doesn't show on my shirts err ya.. well please tell me why that is so i can try to fix my problem of sweating so much that there are sweat circles under my armpits so i don't hafta wear layers and layers of clothing anymore, thanks
Well, for one, I'm sure the layers of clothing aren't helping.

Tell your doctor that you sweat a lot, and you need prescription deodorant, they make some that's REALLY strong.

Sleeveless?

Q: Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.

Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.

I was wondering what it meant to you guys.
Yay! Philosophy!

I think fair is giving them what they need to play, but not any kind of advantage. (Like, letting them use the cart, but not giving them any other leniencies.)

Then again... fair should really be totally equal.

Hmmm, I'm all on the fence and whatnot.

Q: My hair is extremely long and straight, and I recently took four inches off of it so the tips reach around the middle of my back. I'm a dancer, so I can't go too short, but I want to make it seem shorter by making it wavy. I heard curling irons can be damaging to hair. Is there another way to get my hair into waves?
Yes! Scrunch it!!

First, your hair must be pretty damp. Not dripping wet, but definitely not dry. Next, spray a little bit of hair spray on front, back, and underside. Not too much. Then get a glob of gel and work it through your hair. Bend over, so that your hair falls around your face.

Grab handfuls of hair and scrunch them up to your head. Hold each one for a few seconds. Repeat this a LOT. Concentrate on the hair directly in front of you when bent over, this is the hair that will be by your face. Get some more gel and work through again. Scrunch some more. Then a teeny bit more hair spray. Finish with one or two more scrunches.

If you want, you can use a diffuser on a blowdryer to dry your hair. The diffuser deflects the air, so all you get is the heat. Thus, keeping that lovely wavy shape. Or you can let it air dry, and keep the "wet look" longer.


Q: what are the health benefits of eating blackberries?
Blackberries are rich in manganese and tannins. They can soothe sore thraots, and help prevent tumors. They contain antioxidants, which fight disease and aging.

Good to eat!

Q: hey guys. i can never seem to get a bf. like i have a lot of guy FRIENDS. just FRIENDS. im always the friend, never the girl. i cant FLIRT! can anyone give me some flirting ways/tips/techniques? i love anyone who helps!!
i just cant open up so easy to guys i like and then when i do its like hey your funny and im like.. eh heh.. yeah just funny! it never turns into something more. last year (6th grade) i got a TON of guys! but this year im more friendly and brave and open.. ugh
I have one word for you: confidence.

Walk upright, eyes up. Look people in the eye when you talk to them (especially boys). Remind yourself constantly (in your head!) that these boys are lucky to even talk to you. Soon, they'll think so too.

It's corny, but it's so true. An ounce of self confidence makes a world of difference.

Q: Ok, so my friends are telling me this guy likes me, but it's not the guy I like. They said he might ask me out, but I don't have feelings for him. How can I say I don't want to go out w/ him without sounding mean?
Excuses are good. Excuses are very good.

-I already have a boyfriend.
-I don't want a boyfriend right now.
-My parents won't let me date.

If not, just tell him you're flattered, but you aren't interested. He'll get over it quickly.

Q: I can record videos on my digital camera. Is there any way to get those videos on the computer so I can share them through email, or whatever?
Your digital camera should have come with a USB connection to your computer, and most likely software to handle incoming media. If you aren't sure, call the company and see if they can help you out.

Q: Okay.. i need some way to cover a hickey.. i have a huge one on my boob.. which is no problem.. but if i get one on my neck.. i need a way to cover it while im around my parents.. Is there any special make up for it? I've tried foundation and concealer.. neither worked.. If you know of anyway to hide it.. besides covering it with my hair.. lemme know!!

Thanks!

P.S. I'm female.. so I have access to all kinds of makeup
I generally use concealor. Thick, pancake concealor.

You know, hickies on your neck are easily avoided. Just say "I love it when you give me hickies, how about my boob again?"

Really, just don't let the guy suck your neck. Either don't give hickies or suggest other places.

If it does happen, ice the area almost immediately. (THROUGH A WASHCLOTH!!) This will help a little, but it only works if you do it early. After you've done that, wear your hair down a lot and wear thick concealor. The hickey will fade in a few days.

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I'm 15 and I like answering questions. I try to be as competent, coherant, and helpful as possible. Everyone is welcome to ask me questions personally, as it it makes me feel special.

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