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Q: I got this girl who is a friend. We have known each other for practically 3 years. Been there for each other, been though some problems as far as people together and then some. And as far as her i have some feelings toward her i have never felt before, i cant explain how they are. I have tried asking her out quite a few times and she said she is worried bout our friendship. I told her i understand that, but at the same time i aint been able to look at any other girl and say she looks good i want to date her.I am not going to stop being friends us cause of dating. Here recently she sent me an email saying she is thinking about giving me a chance. But then an old friend of hers comes in the picture and now they are going out. Of course i am heart broken now and am going to wait and see if i will get my chance to go out with her cause of how deep of feelings i have for her.The crazy thing is her mom or sister dont like the boy she is going out with. But as far as me her mom and sister love me as if im a son or a brother. With this screwed up situation and how i feel for her what am i suppose to do?

K, Whenever a girl goes out with her guyfriend and they break up, they tend not to speak to each other, in most cases, or are embarrassed to be around each other. Make sure you guys are like the best of friends, then ask her out again. If her mom and sister (especially sister) don't like the guy she's dating, it can't last that long. Even if it does, you'll still have your chance one day and if you like her, you should try to get her. Girls like guys that would try real hard to get them to go out with them, but not too hard.. that's kinda stalker-ish.
Good luck!

Q: To all you guys out there and to all girls who might know what to do here's a little quesion for you. This guy that i like wrote me this amazing letter with a bunch of poems and REAAALLLY sweet, breathtaking stuff in it. Like REALLY! i let my 19 year old friend read it (and she's had like 1000 Boyfriends) and she had no clue what to write back. Does anyone know anything cute and sexy to write back (even though you dont know what he wrote) do you by any chance know what makes a guys heart beat really fast? (for the guys) Is there anything that you would like if a girl wrote to you in an e-mail? Anything really sexy/cute/sweet..but not too serious i dont wanna scare him away. Also, this guy has ALOOOOT of girls, and they're all really hott - older- girls so they probably all say the right things..so im a little worried. And even though i know he's probably sent that poem to about 1000 girls, i dont care..i still wnat him. And i want to send him an e-mail that will make him speechless. Any ideas? Thhhaaaannnkk yyyoouu! i appreciate ANNNNYYYY answers.

If a guy wrote that to me I would write an email saying "OMG that was so sweet of you to do that for me! I like you too!"

Or some other variation (mine was a little korny)

Good luck!

Q: Is it abnormal for a guy to like Full House? Like, from the first season to the end, having seen nearly every episode? I've only seen one other guy who watches it, so I don't know whether it's something to discuss... thanks. And if the answer is no, please don't me a smartass about it. I know that I may be metro. I don't care.

Who cares?
Guys that watch full house are totally normal, especially if they grew up, or are growing up with 1 or more sisters..
But who cares about what you watch?
If you're embarrassed about it you don't have to tell anyone...

Mucho

Q: Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.

I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....

And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time.

God.
You know, I'd seriously love to have a guy like you...

Maybe get her a present for christmas, valentines day, or her birthday. In small steps, give her a clue that you REALLY like her. Or if you wanna take a direct approach, just ask her out when you know she's single. I'm 13 too, and I might get a little creeped out if a guy was stalking me (actually, one did), but you seem to be not a stalker, but you really like her.

If you ask her out and she rejects, maybe ask out a few other girls you like and then come back to her. Maybe she'll come to her senses. But I'm just telling you, any girl would love to have a caring, passionate guy like you.. so if things don't work out with her, there's a bunch of other girls out there that you will meet..

Best of luck!

Q: I have a college induction day tomorrow, where they go through your subject choices and you get to meet people at the college... it's a private college (there was a test to get in and it costs alot to go there) and the dress for the day is "smart casual"... would it be okay to wear jeans? A pair that arn't ripped ect... lol I don't have trousers! But if it's not a good idea I can borrow something off my mum :S
What do you think?
16/f/UK

You should think.. what impression would you be making on these people?
If you have to wear jeans, pick ones that are nice and dark. Then wear nice heels (black) and do a cami under a blazer type of thing. Make it seem professional, like you want to really do business with them. Also toss in a pair of silver dangly earrings and make your hair look like you fixed it up for the occasion (maybe a butterfly clip or a bun)
Good luck getting into college!!

Q: I need acne medication, but not a topical one, i need something to take; like a pill. Because i have acne on my face (but i can rid that with cream), mostly on my back, chest, and some on my butt (gross i know) =\. I want to take a pi.. because it will take alot of cream to get to all those spots and i cant reach it all. Im 15/f if that helps. I am not going to go to the derm because i cannot afford it, and i seen one packafe at the store in particular. It was really expensive, about 22.99, and it was in a little orange-ish box and it was pills for acne. Has anyone tried these and do they help? I need something that works, that they sell at a local drugstore, and that isnt very expensive. Thank you to anyone that helps!!
-trishh

If it's really severe, noting OTC is gonna work. I'm sorry.. my brother had severe acne and the accutane my derm perscribed was really good, but was a lot of money. Do you have health insurance? It helps.

Q: My sisters friend, I'll call her Kaitlyn, is only 12 years old and might have an eating disorder. She doesn't eat anything at all. Shes naturally skinny, but she won't eat anything. She'll put food in her mouth, then go to the bathroom and spit it out. Does that mean she might be anorexic?
Also she has a strange habit. She won't sleep. She stays up all night and then gets up at 5 in the morning, gets dressed, and then sit at the edge of her bed until 7:45. What is up with her???

I think something's wrong. I was 12, I know the feeling, but if she thinks shes fat, tell her that she could take up a sport and/or go work out or swim or something. Tell her that if she doesn't sleep, then she'll also die. People who don't sleep die faster than starvation. She also needs to find a psychologist to help her out. You don't want to lose her, do you?

Q: Whats a good first day of skool outfight exspesicaly if your going to a new skool next year!?

It really doesn'tmatter what you wear. I have been to 7 different schools and the people you end up becoming friends with don't care about what you wear. Don't sweat it. Just look nice and presentable (meaning no sweatpants). I've moved a butt ton of times so I know what I'm talking about.
Good Luck!

Q: what if you are in the orchestra and can't get fake nails cuz it will mess up your playing..but i REALLY want some for school..so what should i do?!!?!

I'm in the orchestra, second chair 1st violin.
Being in tune is WAY more important than fake nails. If you get fake nails, you'll get that gay donkey sound from it and if your voilin doesn't sound good, then what's the point of even continuing orchestra? I LOVE orchestra, but that's just me. I'd wait till summer or just get a simple mani.

Q: ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?!

What you should do is write it down in a diary. You won't have to show it to anyone, and the stress is on paper instead of inside of you. Hide it somewhere really clever that nobody would think of. And DON'T bring it to school. If there are secrets that you know that will possibly involve physical and emotional scarring or harm, then tell an adult right away. You're letting the abuse go on if you don't tell anyone about your friend.

Q: well im going out with this kid,we'll call him jack. Hes so awesome and funny and hott and everything..[[haha..but hes a nerd]] b4 we went out his profile said he was desprate...so i was thinking did he go out w/ me just bcuz he was desprate?? we never talkin in school and stuff,but i would really like to,and we dont even hug..how can i slowly but surely get to no him and become a good girl friend to him?? i really love him and he dose to but its boring just to talk on aim ...

i rate high

i no who u r.

Q: well..i just started a job as a hostess and i have to wear black pants and a white shirt.
i was wondering where would be the best place to look for these? somewhere cheap and stylish

My older brother works at applebees as a host and he has to wear the same thing. he got his stuff at target, but of course he's a guy.
Hope i helped!

Q: okay thers this guy i like alot alot alot!! and i think he might know.. but im not sure... well we were talking online and we got along so well!! and then i talked to him on the phone for a little bit (maybe like 5-10mins) and he seemed sorta mad/iritated/tired...so i told im id talk to him later... but then i called him the next night and he never answered... i saw him in calss and he completly ignored me!! i was like ummm hello?! so i was really upset!! well i like him a lot and i have no idea what i should do to make him think of me as a really good friend/ girlfriend... any tips?? and also how can i keep him interested??

*he broke up with his girlfriend of eight months in like dec i think... so hes gettng over an ex (possibly)

but please help me out on this!! despreatly need help!! thanks!!

Maybe he doesn't want tog et into another relationship. Maybe what he needs after this breakup is a friend to relax with. Maybe you could just be his friend and when he realized how cool you are then he'll ask you out.

Q: Do you think it's possible to find your soulmate at 12? When I was 12 I got my first bf and we're still together. (I'm 14.) We've been through a lot together and I feel really close to him. But I don't know if that's just because he's the only person I've ever been with, or if my feelings are real. I can't imagine us not being together. He's my best friend. So... Do you thinkit's possible he's my soulmate or am I too young and am being fooled?

You aren't being fooled, and you aren't too young. What you are too young for is some type of really romantic relationship. I wouldn't go too far into it or if he breaks up with you you might go into depression.

Q: ok i have some acne. not a lot but some. and my friend will sometimes make fun of it. i dont think she realizes it, but she still does it. then when i ask her not to say it she just goes, "gosh i was just kidding!" now this girl is flat chested, and if i ever make a joke about that she completely refuses to talk to me for like a day. today something happened and i apologized to her 3 times but she wont forgive me! ive known this girl since second grade and i really dont want to lose a friend. help please!
*confuzed*

Tell her to go climb up a tree when she makes fun of you. It may seem hard to say, but she's no friend of yours if she makes fun of you.

Q: A year or two ago i went out w/ this girl. i liked her, she liked me. i dumped her ,because i relized that she wasn't that actractive, and she hated me. she wouldn't talk to me look at me etc. now i see her in the halls and at dismissle. now she really actractive. i don't want to go out w/ her or anything, i just want to be her friend again.what should i do?

p.s. she has a boy-friend now

When i get dumped becuase im not a supermodel and extremely sexy, i feel bad. For some girls that really take it personally, they could get bulemic, anorexic, and/or start cutting themselves cuz they're not good enough. APOLOGISE cuz you dumped her for teh wrong reasons. Tell her what you did wrong and BE sincere don't SOUND sincere, BE sincere. She will hopefully appriciate this and maybe you two could be friends again. Hope it works out! ~Kylie~

Q: This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.

Thanks!

I like to hear "your one of the most amazing people ive ever met" or somethin galong those lines.
Or "you have beautiful eyes"
Compliment something about them you can't buy in a store becaues it will make thenm feel like an individual.
Also when she's acting wierd ask her whats wrong and try to make her feel better.. that's what EVERY girl wants.

Q: i used to go out wid this kid(lets call him jordan)and then i broke up wid him because i found out he was cheating on me with this girl(lets call her becky)this was in around october novemeber and it ended in january and it turns out he was cheating on my for like a month and now jordan dumped kasey and now kasey still likes him but jordan likes me and he has since the 4th grade but im starting to have feeling for him again and my guy friend(lets call him mike)just recently told me he was gunna ask me out on monday and i like him but i dont kno if i can trust him because og him cheating on me the 1st time but i really really like him what should i do???

please help

sorry for the longness

He asks you out, say no and give a reason. If he seriously wants you back, he'll make himself better by fixing the problem. If he doesn't fix it, he's not worth it to you.

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three months. We havent kissed yet, but i think i want to. How should i tell him??

You should just kiss him. If he doesn't appriciate it, then he's not right for you! Don't make it long, just in case he's not that comfortable with you yet.
Hope i helped!
--Kylie

Q: i am 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m we are both virgins and we are in love with each other.. for sure .. i know what hes in this relationship for and i feel like having sex with him.. not to just f*ck but to share something with him that neither of us have experienced.. do you think this is a bad idea? do you think ill regret it? will peopel look at me differently?
signed--
stonecoldmystery

You guys are too young in my opinion. This stuff leads to serious problems. Rumors in school, and you mgiht even get pregnant. I would save it for after high school. If youi love hom that much, you should be able to stay together that long.
--Kylie

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I'm Kylie and I'm here to help. My dream is to go to the Naval Academy and be a Navy Shrink. Please ask me whatever you want, because I will try my best to help you to solve your problem.
Kylie:)