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===IN THE THIRD PERSON:===Meet Kathryn: burlesquer, model, actor, ukulele-er, fantastic cook, and font of wise words and amusing anecdotes. She loves to listen to you and, if she can, help you with your troubles, or, if she can't help, direct you to someone who can. And that's why you're here, no? ~grins~
Kathryn is a person of wide and varied experience. Her only routine is to try something new every day. She has met many people in her travels from many different backgrounds, countries, and expertises. "Knowledge junkie" is something Kat frequently calls herself.
===THINGS I FEEL QUALIFIED TO GIVE ADVICE ABOUT:===
***romantic relationships
***general and nutritional health (I disclaim: I am not a doctor, nor a certified nutritionist yet...I merely have read a lot, experienced a lot in my own life, have personally heard testimonials on a variety of health issues and healthy lifestyle practises, and am a yoga instructor and Ayurvedic health consultant)
***sexual health
***technology (computers specifically, but other techie things like me too ^_^)
***philosophy, theology, and psychology
***social issues
***crafty artsy thingies (excuse the technical jargon)
===POSSIBLE POLITICAL/IDEALOGICAL CONFLICTS WITH YOUR OWN VIEWS:===
*I was raised as a Catholic (the Roman kind), I went to Catholic parochial grade school, I attended a Catholic high school (a Sacred Heart school), and now I attend a Catholic Jesuit university. Although I don't call myself Catholic or Christian, I respect and acknowledge the good things I was raised with.
*I am not prejudiced against any ethnic, socioeconomic, or cultural background.
*I am not prejudiced against any religion or spiritual path, including a lack of one (atheism, don't-give-a-damn-ism).
*I am not prejudiced against any sexual orientation or gender identity. I myself am romantically and sexually queer, physically female, mentally gender-f***ed. If you ever want to talk about sexual orientation and/or gender identity, don't hesitate to contact me! I am working toward a sexology degree, and these things interest me immensely!
*I don't care for politics very much, but I respect the people who are wise with their words and respectful to others.
===SOME QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE FOR ME (BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY ASK YOUR QUESTION):===
"You're only 24! You don't know anything about the world. How could you possibly give me advice on anything?" Perhaps I am fairly young to be giving advice to people. But I do know this: everyone who has ever come to me looking for counsel has always told me, either during or right after our "sessions", that I am not overly critical, that I am honest and fair, that I am sensitive and understanding, that I am open-minded and tolerant, that they can count on me to give a good outside objective perspective, and (something I think is most important in being an advisor) that I am a good listener.
"What types of things do you give advice on?" Well, I can give you advice on almost anything, really. If I personal experience with what you're asking about, I'll patch it through. If I don't, I'll put in my two cents and let you know where you can get more firsthand knowledge.
"Why do you write sooooo muuuuuch?"
I'm a writer, I blabber sometimes, heh. I do take a lot of care in my writing though, I want to give you a well-thought-out answer. But the other reason I write so much is because I don't want to give you a one-sentence reply, unless it's to a very black-and0white question like "What time does 'House' air on Tuesday in Cincinnati?"
===IN CLOSING:===
You got questions? Lemme at 'em!
I wish you all lives filled with tasty food, goofball antics, and people you love to share them with you.
~*Kathryn*~
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I am 25. She is 22. Together we have spent almost half a year together. However She has broken up with me after seeing a pornsite on my computer. My question is why has she now turned her back on me. Why has she cut off all means of comunication with me. I mean we were so close. I did everything for her. I held her when she cried. I gave her flowers when she least expected it. I did everything for her. Now she wont even look at me. I am so confused. I mean she wont even talk to me. I love this girl and would do anything to get her back. I am not much of a comunicator. How can I win her back when it seems hopeless. PLease help me.
like mylinhthan said, a heartfelt voicemail or writing her a letter would probably help your case, depending on whether she's a visual or audial person. i know that i love it when my boyfriend leaves me messages at one in the morning and i wake up to find that i have one new voicemail and i get to hear that i am the most beautiful creature on the face of this earth and so wonderful and how glad he is to have me in his life, all right before my day starts, and that almost always just makes me have a good day. ^_^ (sorry, mushy moment there...) granted, we've been together for more than a year, but i won't put a time limit on love.
personally, i don't really care or mind if someone looks at porn as long as it doesn't because an unhealthy obsession (unhealthy as in they spend all their time and money on it). if she won't talk to you, you've got to try and figure out on you own why she was so upset by it. was she offended by the very fact that you were even looking at porn and she's a very devout catholic (i have no idea if that's the case, and i do know some catholics who don't mind and even enjoy the occassional porn ^_^)? why she angry because she felt like you wanted the porn instead of her? was the kind of porn upsetting to her (it's possible she doesn't like girl-on-girl action or something, but again, i don't know what's on your computer)?
in the end, i think you should definitely consider about whether or not she is good for you. to me at least, porn is not a huge deal in the big scheme of things in a relationship, so if she has such a problem with it then i would try moving on. still, try the voicemail/letter thing and see how it works out. just be very sensitive and explain the situation and be understanding of her whatever reasons for being upset by what she found on you computer.
hope this helped. i'd love for you to tell me about any developments. good luck!
~*kitty*~
ok well to start off im 15 & a freshmen & i met this senior from my highschool right around a month ago & we started talkin. well now i really like him & he knows i do cause i finally jus flat out told him & he always brings that up to me. but i asked him if he liked me or not cuz at first he said he did but then when i asked him later on he was like 'well i dunno. so now i asked again recently cause it seemed like he did again, but he wont give me an answer. he calls me almost, if not every, night & we have fun talkin & stuff. & i get really anxious on the phone, & i hate talkin on it & he knows that. and he'd always rag on me about that, just jokingly. but ive kinda gotten over that since ive been talkin to him every night, & tonight he asked me if i still anxious about talkin to him, and when i said no he was like "yes!", like he was all happy. but at the same time hes always tellin me about these other girls who like him & these girls from his work & whatnot. and i dunno, my friends [who have never even met him] think hes jus usin me to get some, but hes never even tried anything w/ me, and weve never even hugged or anything. is that weird for a senior to like a freshmen? were only about 2.5 years apart in age, so it doesnt seem too bad, but at the same time it kinda does. & what can i say to him to finally just get a straight answer from him about stuff like this? cause everything ive tryed hasnt worked. :[
i can't say i've never liked older guys, because i'd be lieing. ^_^ in fact, all of the guys i've liked, with the exception of maybe like two, and all of the guys i've gone out with have been older than me.
when you talk about your age difference in terms of school year, yeah, it probably does seem a little iffy to many people. but two and a half years apart isn't that bad, i don't think.
in my opinion, it doesn't sound like this guy's just trying to get some, although it would be unwise to completely rule that out. still, it sounds like he might like you a bit or at least be internally debating on whether or not to persue something beyond friendship with you. the reasons for his internal conflict are fairly obvious; he probably wouldn't want people to think that he's some creepy older guy seducing and using a little freshman (if you'll pardon the expression).
it's good that you guys talk on the phone a lot, just make sure to also talk a lot in person. being friends with a guy is really helpful if you ever plan on going out with him, and also, guy friends are always good to have, and just friends in general. it's probably nice for you to hear that he's glad you're more comfortable talking on the phone with him. ^_^
since he's not completely sure about if he likes you or whatever is going on with him, you probably don't want to push the issue too much. i know it seems hard but try leaving the matter of whether you two have romantic feelings for each other aside for a bit and concentrate on being really good friends. also, since you're a freshman with a lot of things going on already, just getting into high school and all that, i would suggest waiting a while before discussing to much else with him, but you don't have to forget your feelings or pretend around him that they don't exist. every now and again you can just jokingly ask if he's made up his mind about if he likes you, and again jokingly say something like "ah-ha, you're being shifty, cleverly evading my questioning!" that way you can keep the mood light and at the same time remind him that you do have feelings for him.
hope this helped. i'd love for you to tell me how it turns out or if anything else develops. good luck!
~*kitty*~
My friend told me that I was a natural flirt, meaning that I flirt with almost every guy without knowing it. He said I do this thing with my eyes that gets guys to come over and talk to me and flirt back with me.I don't recall ever doing that, but how can I stop? Because a lot of girls hate me because of it because the guys do flirt back, so what can I do?
like erythisis said, make sure your intentions are clear. but y'know what? as long as you aren't really trying to sell yourself to all these guys, then the rest of the girls just need to get over it.
i know what you mean by the whole "natural flirt" thing, but i'm talking about me i usually describe differently. something like, there's a big difference between being a flirt and having a flirtatious nature, and it's more obvious with me because i'm "flirtatious" with almost everybody i meet (less so than with my friends) and with my friends, both guys and girls, you'd think i was offering to sleep with them. ^_^ but really, it's just my silly flirtatious cute nature.
like me, it sounds like you just have a flirtatious nature. so like i said, as long as you're not going overboard and selling yourself to these guys, you're fine. if the other girls have a problem with the guys flirting back, just take extra care to check yourself and control your natural flirtiness. ^_^
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
Everytime I go on AIM, after like 3 minutes I get kicked off.
It is ao annoying I can't take it anymore.
It may be my internet connection but I highly doubt it because the web browser itself has no problems working.
Does any one have any ideas on what I can do because I need AIM and it's just very annoying getting kicked off after 1-3 minutes.
check all of your connections, renew and repair them, etc.
trying going into the preferences, connections, and changing the port number to 25.
a good alternative would be to use meebo. you won't get all of the fancy shmancy features with the regular program, but you should be able to get on, unless you administrator/parents are blocking you.
just go to meebo.com and you can take it from there.
hope this helped. good luck.
~*kitty*~
I need your help. I have been going out with this guy for five months now. He is a very nice person, he treats me well, and we have fun together.
The main problem is recently he lied to me. We were supposed to meet, but he did not appear. He claimed he was carjacked. He has keys to my house, so he went and took money and pretended the carjackers did it.
I want to forgive him but I'm not sure what to do. He asked for forgiveness and promised that this incident will never be repeated. Can I trust him again?
but i raelly luv him and i dont know what to do :(:(
it is possible to trust him again, i think. but you should probably be fairly wary and cautious for a while. i'm not trying to get him in trouble, but do you know that hasn't done anything like this before?
ask him why he took the money, tell him to tell you the truth, even if it's "i needed gas money" or something like that. this could be rather serious, because if you weren't dating him, both the law man and the holy man would burn his ass. ^_^
he should have told you the truth. i know it's not exactly the kind of thing you want to say to your girlfriend, "so, yeah, i went into your house and took money from you, so i was late to meet you", but still, he'd be sitting better with you if he hadn't lied about it.
have you ever seen "pulp fiction"? vincent says "did you ever hear the philosophy that once a man admits that he is wrong, he is immediately forgiven for all wrongdoing?". if your boyfriend can look you in the face and admit what he did and sincerely want your forgiveness, then you should definitely forgive him. as for trusting him, you've got to make it clear that not only did he take advantage of your trust (you letting him keys to your house) but then he lied about it as well, so it's going to take a bit of time and a lot of work for him to regain your trust.
all that being said, don't be too hard on him, at least not more than he deserves, for to error is human, and i'm guessing that he is human. what shows that he is an honourable person is that he learns from his mistakes and makes amends (not as in buying you flowers and saying he's really really really really sorry, but as in realising what he did was wrong, not wallowing in self-pity and self-loathing, and taking extra care to tell you everything, etc.). and make sure you reciprocate all those things to him as well.
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
ok so i have posted stuff about my realtionship and my breakup before but for those who read this and dont know, we dated for 2 years and been broke up for a little over a month. i am 19 he is 23. ok so my latest problem is kinda complicated. ok here goes i had to meet him today to give him his stuff well our little meeting turned into a 2 hour long meeting, and here is what he had to say i am sorry i never meant for this to happen i do love you i just dont know what i want. i told him he acts like he doesnt care. he said that he stays up sometimes wondering if what he is doing is right. i told him i thought we are making a mistake he said you are probably right but i guess i will find out the hard way. what does that mean? ok so tell me what he meant by all this i dont understand, why he would say all this and still not want to be back together and it is killing me. what do you all think i dont know anymore. please let me know something. i just cant stand being apart from him. i have to meet him again on sat becuase i forgot some stuff and so did he what should i say hoe should i act. god i dont know what to do anymore i am going crazy i really do love him and want to be with him but i dont know how long i should wait on him. i never doubted that he would be back but i just dont want to wait should i give him a aultimatum or just give him time.
wow, you've been through a lot with this guy. i'm sorry to hear that you're so torn up about it.
now i've never actually listened to this guy so i can't be totally sure of his intentions. but it sounds like although he's the older one, he's not being very mature. it almost seems like he's being passive-agressive because he doesn't say what he'll do but he'll just have to "find out the hard way". again, i don't know his past and ways and tendencies and such, so i say that there is always the possibility that he is sorry about how things turned out and that maybe he is willing to try again and be determined to make things work. the possibility is always there, but don't let yourself assume or expect certain things too much.
since you two were together for 2 years, it's understandable that you still feel an attachment to him and that you dislike being apart from him. heck, if i'm completely honest, i dislike being apart from my boyfriend of a year'n'4 months and i'm still dating the guy! right, so putting aside my sappy girlishness for the moment, while you shouldn't totally ignore your feelings, you shouldn't let them override your common sense. while you were dating, did he do a lot of things that made him out to be unreliable, dishonest, selfish, etc.?
an important thing to remember is that a relationship takes more than one person making an effort for it to work. if he can't or won't put in a little effort, then you should definitely think hard about moving on from this chapter of your life, and of course, learning from it for the future.
although i don't usually recommend giving an ultimatum, in this case it might come to that. i wouldn't give it straight, just see how things go between you two the next time you meet. if he starts dodging questions or acting shifty, you might consider bringing out the ultimatum. watch the way moves and sits, listen to how he says what he says, watch his body language. if you'd like, you can relay those findings to me and i can analyse him for you (although i might have to go to some of my guy friends for help on this, i don't want to lead you in the completely opposite direction of where he is in this).
hope this help. good luck! if you'd like to rant/gush to me, i'd love to listen and talk. my email addy and my chat SNs are on my profile.
~*kitty*~
ok...i have a big problem my best friend since seventh grade is working right now in mississippi, but shes planning on comming back home soon, when she gets here shes expecting me to go out with her to tha club and go on some trips to texas and germany but my fiance (of three years) who i love verry much doesn't like my friend because when we go out she likes to look for guys and trys to get me to also, I really dont want to hurt either person...and he will never trust her because of the things that have happend before...also i really dont know if i can trust her either because we are really good friends but she stayed the night at our house one night and when i went to bed my fiance was in the living room and she got out of bed and went to the living room in her t-shirt and panties and im like ok what should i do i mean i know all the things shes done and i still for some reason dont want to hurt her but then again i dont want to hurt my fiance we are getting along really good right now but when she comes around we will end up fighting im sure what should i do?
ps.I'm a 21 year old f
ok, about the coming out t-shirt and panties thing, is she the type of person who is really laid back and doesn't think half-nude flesh is a big deal? i myself will run around in a big t-shirt and boxer shorts, even around my guy friends, and they don't mind because they know i'm not trying to seduce them, i'm just a random bouncy ADD poster child. ^_^
however, it was probably a little inappropriate for her to go waltzing around in her smalls in your house when your fiance was there. to be fair to her, maybe she didn't know he was there.
what has she done that's given you a reason to distrust her or suspect she has ulterior motives or dihonourable intentions?
now, usually when people are friends for that long, they know each other pretty well and love each other to death. but the amount of time you've been friends might not necessarily coinside with how good a friend she's been. has she done anything that seems like she was using you to get something for herself, or has she not been there for you but still expects you to be there for her?
talk to her about what the ground rules would be if she did come to your house again, and what the limitations on your trips would be, should you decide to take them. let her know that you're concerned about your relationship.
hope this helped. good luck! and happy early honey-moon. ^_^
~*kitty*~
Hello My Name Is Rachel. I'm 13. Im dating this kid name Bret. Hes amazing and exstremly cute!!! But I'm worriedd.... cause sooo many girls like him and i'm worried that he'll go to one of them instead of me... I mean i do get jealous really easily but still. Because it just seems like everyone thinks hes cute and they all like him but i dont want to loose him... and i also get really jealous when other girls talk to him and I just dont want to loose him and i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASEE!
what exactly do you mean by "dating"? if you're 13, you're in 7th or 8th grade, right? what does the whole relationship entail? watching movies at each other's houses, holding hands in the lunch line, passing notes in class, etc.?
don't think i'm being uppity because i'm older and whatnot, i'm just trying to give you an outsiders perspective. i was head-over-heels for this boy ryan when i was junior high, and i mean totally nutso, so much that i shudder with self-disgust every time i think about it. i danced with him a bunch at our 8th grade graduation dance and even got to kiss him before we left (i asked if i could give him a kiss and he said sure :P ). after another month or so, this infatuation suddenly disappeared. ooh-hoo-hoo, the memories of junior high... ^_^
my advice is to not overthink the situation. as long as you're not overly controlling, in his business all the time, checking up on him, constantly asking him if he still likes you, and other things like that, you two should be fine. but even more than that, just make sure that you two stay friends (trust me, having guy friends is great, they give you advice from a guy's perspective, and there more laid back and low-maintenance than most girls so they're easy to hang out with ^_^), because at this point, you guys are pretty young to get too serious about things, so make sure you can hang out together comfortably and that you can laugh together about random stupid stuff.
if you guys grow up and stay together and get married, wow, good for you, i give you major props for stickin' together so long. but more likely than not, you'll eventually stop "dating" at one point or another, and that's fine. that's even good! because you'll find that there are other guys in the world, and you'll learn to control your flares of jealousy and how to keep your confidence.
hope this helped. good luck! remember: don't be over-protective/controlling/smothering and stay good buds!!
~*kitty*~
is there a way that i can delete everything off my computer. i want to be as fast as it used to be when i first got it. can someone tell me a good way and is there a way where i can my written documents on a cd (not a floppy disk because i have one in my computer)? thanks. i will rate
one of the best ways to store files, i think, is on a usb flash drive (or if you wanna spend a little more and you have a lot of videos and music you want to save, you could get an external hard drive, i recommend getting it at compusa, it's cheaper). visually speaking, it's easier to drag and drop (or cut and paste) your files between a folder in one window and the usb flash drive in another window, than worrying about burning a bunch of discs.
if there are a bunch of programs that you want to have again after you've deleted everything, make a list of them in word or notepad. you can also use that document to keep track of the files you need to save/back up.
do you want to completely wipe out everything and totally start over with a clean slate? if you do, and you're running windows as your os, then email me and i can tell you how to do it step-by-step.
hope this helped.
~*kitty*~
ok i've been trying to load some pictures from my digital camera onto my computer and it keeps saying error: the parameter is incorrect. what does this mean and what can i do about it? thanks!
what kind of camera and computer (and in turn, what operating system, ex. windows xp, 2000, 98, etc.) do you have? if you're plugging in the usb cord to transfer the pictures, check and see if a bubble pops up saying that the computer detects to device.
maybe there is something amiss with the camera settings. try finding a "reset all settings" or "reset all to default" action in the menus.
if you need any more help, you can email me with more info about your camera and computer.
~*kitty*~
hey!can a girl with my problem answer this and a guy who actually knows what he's talking about?? i'm 14 and am a DD, i have a huge ass, and just so i can get the best advice- i happen to think i'm really pretty! (so not conceited) but i feel like guys only like me for that and i don't do anything with guys so i don't have a rep or anything but i'm completely embarresed about my boobs and i hate wearing....shirts in getneral. even through my sweatshirts you can see them!!! don't tell me to be happy with what i've got because its notpossible. i've tried every kind of bra, nothing makes me look smaller than a D or a C. what can i do?!?!?!?! THEIR HUUUUGEEEEE!!!!!! can a girl with my problem answer this and a guy who actually knows what he's talking about??
well unless you're gonna get reduction surgery (and i don't advise this), you should learn to live with your natural bustiness.
to be fair to the guys, big boobs and a big ass/hips are attractive to them instinctively because that means you're good for child bearin'! ^_^ also, to cite a rather crude though mildly amusing phrase, with fleshy thighs and ass, there's "more cushion for the pushin'" when having sex. :P these words come straight from the mouths of my guy friends and boyfriend (i've got a lot of guy friends that treat me like a guy friend--who just happens to be a girl--, so they tell me a lot of good stuff that i probably wouldn't know otherwise ^_^).
clothing-wise, reducing bras that fully cover most of your breasts are probably the way to go. for shirts, don't wear anything too thin or tight or low-cut, and cotton is probably better than stretchy stuff; for shirt styles, button-up, medium to big pin stripes, long-sleeved, moderate square necklines. for pants, stay away from ones that are really tight around the waist because you don't want your hips sticking out over the waistband (don't think i'm saying you're big or anything, i just hate when even stick-like girls wear jeans so tight they look like they have rolls of fat spilling over the sides), try and find pants that aren't low-rise and don't have sides that are sewn streamlined (completely straight).
i'm not sayin' you have to dress like a nun, just try and keep your dress code slightly more modest than what a&f and american eagle would have you keep it (sorry, small a&f/americaneagle bashing moment ^_^). if wearing sweatshirts doesn't seem to work, you could try loose long sweaters or sweatercoats, or knit ponchos (not the wimpy ones that are made with less string than on a spool of thread), or shawls (i have a bunch of old knit "granny" ones that i adore ^_^).
i know that this worked for me (although it was my natural habit to do so anyway...), it was easy for me because i actually like things like "kill bill" and video games and warhammer and talking about the most efficient way to kill someone with a pen (erm, yeah, don't ask...^_^), and i'm more laid back and i much more low-maintenance than most girls. if you think the guys are still concentrating more on the more prominent parts of you rather than on what you're talking about, talk about them (sports they play, video games they like). this isn't for all girls, but try and be like "one of the guys", hang out with them as if you possess the y chromosome. ^_^
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I?
ok, now this is something that i have personal experience with. ^_^ i have a boyfriend whom i've dating for a year and 4 months, and i love him very very much (really, i do, we both disgust me sometimes ^_^), although i do consider myself bisexual. i am attracted to 2 or 3 girls right now, and that in no way conflicts with the love and attraction i feel for my bf.
it's actually pretty normal and more common for women to more aroused by reading about or seeing two girls having sex than when reading about or seeing a straight couple have sex. for me personally, it just depends on my mood. ^_^ i think it has something to do with girls being more comfortable with bodies and parts that they themselves are familiar with. also, in my personal opinion, two girls making out can be a lot more sensual and fun to watch than a guy and girl.
also, have you said anything to your boyfriend? my guess is that he wouldn't be too put out about you maybe being bi (and when i say "wouldn't be too put out" i mean he'll probably be freaking out and bragging to all his friends ^_^). my boyfriend knows i'm bi, and he's even given me permission to play around a little with girls (as long as i give him some info, still love him best, and have a story or two for him every now and again ^_^).
just stay open-minded about it; don't knock it till you try it, i always say. and be sure to be conscious and sensitive to how your boyfriend feels about it, and be sure to stay honest with him. finally, don't try and overanalyse your possible bi-ness (pardon my not-so-technical jargon :P ), because whether you are or you aren't, don't let completely define who you are and what you do, because there's a whole lot more to you than who you make out with. ^_^
hope this helped and maybe made you think. good luck, luv!
~*kitty*~
heya i have this like rash thing on my cheek my mum says its prob clap cheek. what do you think?
its really hot to touch and feels hot!
its a pinky colour not like in your face that u have to notice it!
its a bit itchy sometimes but i cant scratch it if i can help it!
it started both sides nearer my ear and over the last 24 hours its come all over my cheek!
thank you for any suggestions! x
greenday's got an idea, it could be eczema, or it's possible that it could be psoriasis. you can find more information about it here:
http://www.psoriasis.org/home/
don't try putting a bunch of creams and stuff on it, that will irritate it and make it worse.
there's a good website for home remedies for lots of things, including exzema and psoriasis. do some research there:
http://www.otan.us/webfarm/emailproject/rem.htm
other than that, don't touch your cheek if you help it, especially with dirty hands. if you wash your face at night (which you probably usually should), only use room temperature water and a maybe a light non-abrasive cleanser, but i recommend maybe getting cleanser with tea (probably green) or oatmeal as the main ingredient. or if you're feeling up to it, make some plain oatmeal and put a thin layer on your face (wash it off after no more than 5 minutes), or get some green tea bags and soak them with lukewarm water and lay them on your face for about 5 minutes.
hope this helped. remember, we're not doctors here, so if gets redder or more painful go see an actual doctor. good luck!
~*kitty*~
all of a sudden i have been haveing trouble downloading. Like when i right like on the thinbg i want to download i normaly click save target as and then it works fine. But now when i right click save target as.. doesnt let me click on it it is like fadded, does anyone no how to fix this?
even techie kitty needs some more info! ^_^
what computer is this on? your home desktop or personal laptop, or a work computer, or a computer/laptop that's on a public network?
if it's on a public network that you're not an administrator of, downloading from the net could be disabled.
what kind of files are you trying to download? pictures, music, programs, installers, etc.?
also, what sites are you trying to download stuff from? it's possible that the site's administrator could have disabled the download option on certain things.
hope this helped. good luck.
~*kitty*~
I'm 17/F
I have had a boyfriend for 2 steady months
and I used to like this guy and he saw me kissing
my boyfriend. He gave me a rather hurt look. Does he finally like me? I'm so confused what should i do?
well since you currently have a steady boyfriend (i'll call him seth), your previous crush (whom i'll give the fabulous alias of jojo) is going to have to deal with it. maybe the reason he gave you a hurt look was because he used to having you like him and now you're with seth and your attentions are focused on him; not to stereotype the male gender, but his hurt look could be the sign of a slightly bruised ego.
from a personal standpoint, when i started dating my boyfriend, one of my best friends (who happens to be a guy) started to get a little, not jealous, but starved for my attention. he and i are really close and we joke around a lot and sometimes act/talk like we're lovers (i.e., he grabs my boobs and goes "honk", i smack him on the butt when he says something rude to me, we jump around in the backseat of his car to confuse his friends, etc. ^_^), and when i started spending more time with my bf, he kept asking every time we saw each other (which became less often) if i was still dating him, and "whine" at me when i said yes. but now the two of us are fine, because we've kinda talked about it and we know that we're still best friends.
now, i don't know how close you are to jojo (previous crush, remember?), but if you're really concerned about where you two stand with each other, then i'd go talk to him about it. don't go crazy and ask if he likes you, or do something like break up with seth and run to jojo.
biggest, most general advice i can give: don't overanalyse things. make sure you know the facts. if he has a problem with you dating/kissing seth, then jojo should talk to you about it.
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
Okay so i've got a BIGGG habit of biting my nails! what can i do to stop? and don't tell me to put my hand in dog poo or anything like that because thats gross lol!
thankyou sweeties xo
if you don't want anything bad-tasting on your nails (i think sally hansen makes something called nail biter with has an utterly awful bitter taste, but it didn't work for my brother ^_^), then you can carry around something to nibble on like a granola bar whenever you get that nail-bitin' urge.
do your nails tear and peel a lot? that was usually why i used to bit my nails. i'd see one little tear on the edge of a nail and just pick and chew at it all day. if your nails are a little weak, sally hansen also makes a bunch of polishes and lotions too i think that help strengthen nails.
something you can do to encourage yourself is to check out your hands at the end of the day when you haven't bitten on your nails or only some of them. wash 'em, clean up the edges, paint them if the mood should strike you. take a good look and see how good your nails look when they haven't been chewed and nipped at. this is a big thing that helped me stop.
in the end, it really comes down to either distracting yourself and summoning up the willpower to check yourself and just stop every time you feel your hand going to your mouth.
hope this helped. good luck with fightin' the nail
~*kitty*~
Can anyone give me the link for paint shop pro where i can download the free trial?
I know the sites corel something or other but i cant find it =[
there's always download.com
http://www.download.com/Paint-Shop-Pro/3000-2192_4-10434071.html?tag=lst-0-1
or the jasc website, but i think you need to register an account with them to download there.
http://www.corel.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=Corel3/Trials/Login&pid=1047025487586&cid=1047025490241
have fun with psp, it's awesome software. i use it for all of my photo editing, and i use it in conjunction with adobe photoshop, jasc animation shop, and plain ole ms paint. i adore it. ^_^
I got a friend that copies me and now i think she likes the boy i like.
-Amber
What should i do about the copying and then boy liking? I'm not flattered about it either i shouldn't be.
how does she copy you? does she wear the same clothes, listen to the same music, say the same phrases that you say? i can't say for sure without more information on this situation, but it's possible that she has a poor image of herself and instead finds you to be the epitome of "cool", so she tries to be just like you so she can have the same seemingly wonderful life and personality as you.
as to what to do, try exploring some new things for yourself (music, hobbies, clothing styles, etc.) and try and get her to do the same thing. if she can find something that she herself is incredibly passionate about (like me with computers, video games, and singing ^_^), then she'll most likely discover on her own that she is a unique individual.
hope this helped. go to my column if you'd like any more advice on this, you can email me or chat with me.
~*kitty*~