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im confused
ok well to start off im 15 & a freshmen & i met this senior from my highschool right around a month ago & we started talkin. well now i really like him & he knows i do cause i finally jus flat out told him & he always brings that up to me. but i asked him if he liked me or not cuz at first he said he did but then when i asked him later on he was like 'well i dunno. so now i asked again recently cause it seemed like he did again, but he wont give me an answer. he calls me almost, if not every, night & we have fun talkin & stuff. & i get really anxious on the phone, & i hate talkin on it & he knows that. and he'd always rag on me about that, just jokingly. but ive kinda gotten over that since ive been talkin to him every night, & tonight he asked me if i still anxious about talkin to him, and when i said no he was like "yes!", like he was all happy. but at the same time hes always tellin me about these other girls who like him & these girls from his work & whatnot. and i dunno, my friends [who have never even met him] think hes jus usin me to get some, but hes never even tried anything w/ me, and weve never even hugged or anything. is that weird for a senior to like a freshmen? were only about 2.5 years apart in age, so it doesnt seem too bad, but at the same time it kinda does. & what can i say to him to finally just get a straight answer from him about stuff like this? cause everything ive tryed hasnt worked. :[
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Your friends could be right. He's not using you for sex obviously, but he could be using you to make himself feel good about himself emotionally. He knows that you like him and he likes that. Think of it this way. There's a guy that's 3 grades apart from you. You know who he is, but you don't really know anything about him because of the age difference. You find out that he likes you. Suddenly you have this huge interest in him. It's natural. You don't necessarily like him, you're just very flattered and curious and it feels good to know that you are liked so you talk to him a lot. I've been used before in this way. If you throw yourself at a guy he's not going to say no. He's going to enjoy it the best he can. Sure he likes you and all, but don't expect a relationship. He's being a tease. I'm not saying a relationship can't happen, but if you expect it to you're going to be very hurt when it doesn't happen or he suddenly tells you that he's dating someone else. My guess is that he doesn't want to date you because he knows the relationship will be very hard in a few months when he's out of school and you're still in school. High school sweethearts very rarely end up staying together and he probably knows that. Just be careful and don't get too caught up with him. It would probably be best to stop talking to him so much. It'll save you at least some of the heartache. Good luck!
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i can't say i've never liked older guys, because i'd be lieing. ^_^ in fact, all of the guys i've liked, with the exception of maybe like two, and all of the guys i've gone out with have been older than me.
when you talk about your age difference in terms of school year, yeah, it probably does seem a little iffy to many people. but two and a half years apart isn't that bad, i don't think.
in my opinion, it doesn't sound like this guy's just trying to get some, although it would be unwise to completely rule that out. still, it sounds like he might like you a bit or at least be internally debating on whether or not to persue something beyond friendship with you. the reasons for his internal conflict are fairly obvious; he probably wouldn't want people to think that he's some creepy older guy seducing and using a little freshman (if you'll pardon the expression).
it's good that you guys talk on the phone a lot, just make sure to also talk a lot in person. being friends with a guy is really helpful if you ever plan on going out with him, and also, guy friends are always good to have, and just friends in general. it's probably nice for you to hear that he's glad you're more comfortable talking on the phone with him. ^_^
since he's not completely sure about if he likes you or whatever is going on with him, you probably don't want to push the issue too much. i know it seems hard but try leaving the matter of whether you two have romantic feelings for each other aside for a bit and concentrate on being really good friends. also, since you're a freshman with a lot of things going on already, just getting into high school and all that, i would suggest waiting a while before discussing to much else with him, but you don't have to forget your feelings or pretend around him that they don't exist. every now and again you can just jokingly ask if he's made up his mind about if he likes you, and again jokingly say something like "ah-ha, you're being shifty, cleverly evading my questioning!" that way you can keep the mood light and at the same time remind him that you do have feelings for him.
hope this helped. i'd love for you to tell me how it turns out or if anything else develops. good luck!
~*kitty*~
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