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hi im Tanisha and i need help i like my best friend boy friend i know thats wrong but i liked him first . i really dont want him to know cause i know he might say i dont like you , but i look better then my friend and i know its not always about the looks and stuff like that but i want him for my self and im scared to tell my friend how i feel or tell him . i never did this stuff like this and i know if i tell her that i like her boy friend (kyle) she would start crying so what should i do (link)
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I definitely knoq how that feels, well, sorta. I've had two similar situations. One was when I liked a guy but then he started liking my friend and they went out (still are going out). I said it was okay, but it still crushed me inside. Another time was when I got really close to my best friend and her boyfriend and I started liking him after they were already going out. Point? I know how you feel.
I would tell your friends omething like, "I don't want you to be mad and I don't want this to screw everybody's friendship up, but I liked *inserts name of guy in question* before you started going out so could you please try to refrain frm acting all coupley around me?" Only do this if you know it won't screw it up! Like when I liked my best friend's boyfriend I told her because I knew that if I said "Don't breakup. Don't let this come between us." She wouldn't. Asses your friendship to see if you can stand something like that. Most of all, don't let this guy come between you and your friend. FRIENDS BEFORE GUYS ALWAYS!
Next, try your best to get over him. I know you may think that you would look better with him or whatever, but he's your friend's. Focus on another guy (but don't jump into a relationshp there, either), your friends, school, a hobby, whatever. Tell yourself, every day, that he is not your type. Do whatever it takes to forget about him.
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I have some serious trust issues. Y'all know how most people say "I trust you until you give me a reason not to", right? Yeah well I DON'T trust you until you give me a reason TO. I honestly don't even trust a few of my best friends. How can I get over this? (link)
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Some of my best friends have this probelm, I personally have the opposite problem, but I do have some advice.
Your problem is probably that whatever you have to say, you don't know how to say it to certain people. First of all, think if he have any reason to not trust him or her. Even if it's something like you heard him spreading rumors about somebody else or anything at all. If you don't, just open your mouth. Figure out the first sentence and the rest should flow easily from there. That's what always happens to me when I have to tell someone something that i don't want to.
If you really can't trust anyone, write everything down in a journal. It will help you get your feelings out.
Now I'm not sure if you mean that you don't trust that they won't do something bad to you. In this case, you have to decide to not care. If they are going to hate you, they are going to hate you whether you get close or not. And if they do do something cruel, then they aren't worth it anywayz.
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me and my best friend are ALWAYS fighting or arguing over something. and its always so stupid. we have really strong opinons, so we kind of clash...so basically, why do you think that BEST friends would be fighting so much? over the dumbest things?!
(5's for anything thanks) (link)
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I actually do have an asnwer to the question....because you guys are best friends, you are willingly to fight for each other. You know that you guys can fight over silly things and your friendship will still last. However,y uo ight want to try spenidng less time with her and more time with your other friends.
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so my friend hates her life and her mom and stuff and idk what to do for her. it seems like theres nothing i can do, you know? so what should i do to kinda get her to appreciate her home-life more, and make her feel better about herself. because shes so pretty and shes always like "i dont think im pretty and i cant get guys" and stuff like that...so yeah, 5's for any help? thanks. (link)
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First of all, assess the situation. If she just hates her mom, then take her mind off it. If her mom physically or mentall abuses her, then you need to get her help. Even if she doesn't understand at first, she will apreciate it in the long run. (I have experience, and my friend later told me that my getting her help was one of the nicest things anyone's ever done for her.)
When she says that she isn't pretty or whatever, make her list 10 good things about herself or 10 things she does especially well.
Always make her laugh and let her know how much she means to you. Once, I was having a bad day, and I got an email from my best friend just saying how much I mean to her and it completely turned my day around. Do random acts of kindness like that and they will go along way.
Last of all, get her out of the house. Once my friend and I hung out at the library because we both wanted to go somewhere else so badly.
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I need some good things to write in people's yearbooks. I want funny, sentimental, memorable. I will rate high for good answers.
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Write "Remember when..."s that you had with the specific person. These will be the most lasting and when you guys are old and gray and still best friends (haha), you'll look back at your year book and have great memories that might have otherwise been lost.
For example, I might write to my best friend, "Remember when we got our shoes stuck in the basketball hoop and went to the movie store each with one of my old sneakers tied around our ankles. Love you always, *inserts my name*"
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Does anyone know why every time a guy and a girl are friends, one always ends up falling for the other ..but they dont like them back?! That happened to me twice and i just want to go out with my best friend soo bad and he dosent like me like that..Soo yeah why does this always happen? (link)
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That happens to me ALL THE TIME! 3 of my major crushes have been on my 3 best guy friends. I'm pretty sure it's because you guys become really close and you already like them as a best friend so you subconciuosly just decide to go for it. I mean, you know he's not a jerk if he's your best friend!
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i have a really hard time meeting people. and when i do meet someone, i don't leave a good impression. they either forget who i am or they don't like me. is there any way to make better first impressions? (link)
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Another thing you can do is ask them questions about themselves. This will show that you care about them and what they think and feel and that you want to get to know them better. Also, crack a joke, be funny, and smile!
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What's the difference between Ben Folds and Ben Folds Five? I know that Ben Folds is the frontman and of Ben Folds Five and "Ben Folds" is the name he goes by as a solo artist but, musically, what's the difference between the two? (link)
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The music is pretty similiar I believe, same style, etc. I guess the only thing that is musically different is Ben Folds is a solo artist as compared to Ben Folds Five, his band.
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I'm 14 years old and I want to find a summer job. Any suggestions? (link)
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Some camps start hiring CITS around age 14. That;s what my friend is doing this summer and she gets paid well. Also, what are your hobbies? Love softball? Ask for umpiring or coaching oppurtunities. I'm thinking about getting a job at my barn. There's always babysitting!
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Okay..So one of my best friend got a new bf. They were completely obsessed with each other, and I was getting blown off. I confronted her and it didn't go that well. Now we barely talk, and she treats me like I'm not even there. I can't really explain the way I feel when she treats me, its just a "I'm basically not good enough to talk to her" kinda feeling. I just want to be a more civil state or starting to be friends again kind of state. Any ideas? (link)
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I am here to tell you that there is hope! Right now, she's wrapped up with him. Trust me, I've been in that situation. However, one day he's not going to be there for her for one reason or another and she will come crawling back to you. When she does, let her in. Forgive her. That's what I did and I'm glad to say that I have my best friend back.
In the mean time, tell her how you feel. If she chooses to ignore it, make new friends and get closer to the ones you already have.
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well at my school there's going to be a dance. i have a dress already but not shoes. but anywayz i'm not sure if i should go. i mean like, i'm afraid it's going to be wack. and i KNOW no one is going to ask me, but should i go?
note- a semiformal i'm 13yrs.old and in eight grade (link)
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With the whole shoes thing, make sure the shoes are comfortable. My sister's friend/friend's sister just wears ballet slippers or jazz shoes to dances because she knows her feet will hurt if she doesn't. (Hmm...this is the girl that twisted her ankle because of her like 5 inch heel...anywayz)
And you should definitely go, with or without a guy. Your 8th grade dance is only going to roll around once and you don't want to miss it. I promise that if you go, you will have fun with friends. Also, if you see a cute shy guy standing alone by the wall, why don't you just go and ask him for a dance?
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well my bf is reli down n depressed for no reason and hes on msn and im dont now how to cheer him up anyone hav ideas? (link)
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It really depends on your boyfriend. For some people, they just need to hear that they are loved. Tell him you love him and list things he's good at, people that care about him, etc. Better yet, have him list it. I've heard from friends to list 10 things you are especialy good at (from telling jokes to shooting free throws), 10 people who really care about you (from your horse to your grandma to your best friend), and then 10 people you really care about.
However, some people just get more depressed if you talk about it. Ask him if he wants to talk about it and if he doesn't, take him out or say something like "Remember when you said something that was so hillarious I almost wet my pants?"
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Does anyone know a really good song for a wedding song from the bride to a father figure??
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You Raise Me Up by Josh Groban
http://www.lyricsdomain.com/10/josh_groban/you_raise_me_up.html
Somebody's Hero by Jamie O'Neal (I know the pronoun is "she" but you can probably get it edited)
http://www.cowboylyrics.com/lyrics/jamie-o-neal/somebodys-hero-15251.html
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See, I'm falling for my best guy friend. And I don't know what to do. Seriously. I know it's so cliche but stfu. If you don't like it, don't read it. I've known him since the 5th grade, we've gone to school together ever since then and we're still at the same school. Things have always been great between him and I, but lately I've been having these feelings towards him that I shouldn't be feeling. Usually among my friends I'm always the one to give advice, but now it's the other way around. Let's say his name is Bret, okay? okay. Brett and I have even been compared to as an old married couple. Because we argue and argue for about an hour, and then five minutes later everything is back to the way it was before. I just don't know what to think, a couple of my friends think he cares about me more than I know. I sort of agree but he cares about me in the way a best friend should, not something more. My friends say maybe he does like you but he's too scared because it might ruin our friendship. But the thing is I can never be mad at him, it's not possible. I try my hardest but it never works. He always wins me back with his stupid boy charms. But I'm just the friend right? And is that all I'll ever be?
Sincerely,
A Girl With A Confused Heart. (link)
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One not serious question: Are you me?
No seriously, I'm like in the same boat ALWAYS. I always fall for my guy friends and the reason why we don't go out is it will ruin our friendship. Also, all of my friends call the other couples "old married couples" and the only unofficial couple that we call it is me and my crush.
First think about what you would rather have...an awesome guy friend or a boyfriend.
Then talk to him about your decision.
You would think I would have a better answer after being me but I honestly think this is one of life's unanswered questions.
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my bestfriends parents are mean to her..they dont hit her but they call her names and stuff..she called me crying hard and i know she cant take it! and i need to know how to help her..any ideas??
5S FOR ANYTHING SINCE THIS IS URGENT!! (link)
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I, too, have been through this with my best friend. What I did was told my science teacher (last year) and we practicaly dragged her down to guidance. She said she'd only go if I was there with her the entire time. Well, we talked to the guidance counselors and the nurse. The nurse called DSS who sent one of their counselors to inspect the home and talk with the family (her, her mom, and her dad). Luckily, her parents realized what they were doing and put their act together.
While her case did invovle physical abuse, you could apply the method to your best friend's case. Talk to somebody!
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Ren, Howl, and I had been best friends since third grade, which is more like forever (But now I've moved to other school, we're kinda far apart) Howl had been crushing on me since fourth grade and Ren since sixth grade. And the problem is, I can't decide which one of them I should go out with. (I kinda liked Howl in fifth grade and Ren in sixth grade)Ren is this popular one with all ladies by his side, and Howl is the quite one, never wants to talk to anyone except for me, and Ren (but Ren is always busy)Ren always comes to me when he has problems, and Howl always waits for me to come and talk to him when he's sad (they're so different. Ren is confident and Howl is so shy) And I can never hurt one of them, I mean, we're like best friends forever! I think I care about Howl more, but Ren is now asking me out. I don't know what to say or what to do. And Howl is still waiting for me too. I really can't think of anything else! What can I do? Which one do you think I should go out with? (link)
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If it was me, I wouldn't choose either of them. They sound like great friends but things could get ugly if you make one or the other more than friends. There will be other guys to go out with, but you may only have these two best friends in your life.
Hope I helped!
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Life sucks! Serioulsy sucks! There is not one good thing in my life right now! I have lost two of my best friends these past two weeks and it's all because they are extreme liars and and loosing another best friend right now..it's in motion! :'(
Then all of my friends are fighting with eachother and I am torn in the middle! I don't know what to do!!
Then my family are like omg!! I hate to be at home! My sister just moved in with her boyfriend and so them and my parents are always talking about "couple-stuff" and Couple trips and couple couple couple!! AHH! I can't take it anymore! I'm the fith wheel!!They are always like, "Oh yeah, you are coming to..But can't you stay home with the dog. This is more of a couple/grown up thing. (IT WAS THE CINEMA FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!)
I'm teeling you, I don't like being at home, I'm like fighting with all of my friends! And those I'm not fighting with are like having so many problems right now they don't have time to hang out =/
I'm the fith wheel, I don't like being at home, I'm loosing my best friends, my other friends don't have time for me, I'm failing in school! I don't know where to go or do!! I am totaly lost!!
Is there No hope in the world?!?!?
:'(
thanks for taking your time to read this... (link)
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There is hope. Once you've hit rock bottom, you can only go up, right? Trust me, things will improve sooner or later. And anywayz, it's just life right? That sounds insensitive or silly or something but everybody lives and they die. Everyone encounters problems on the way and there is hope and help. What I would try to do is either invovle yourself thoroughly in your afterschool activity. If you don't have one, pick one up! You will be away from home more, busy, and will make new friends. Also, try setting weekly/daily/monthly goals for yourself. Once you start accomplishing them, you will feel better about yourself and realize your life is about YOU.
Hope things improve soon!
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I have a box inside of me...It's like a place where I put away all of my feelings. When ever I'm sad, mad, depressed of simply angry I put them away, swollow them. I say I put them in my "box" I have inside of me. And then I bring out the fake smile. My friends are always sying how amazing I am for always being happy and smilingbut the truth is that I am so depressed I don't know what to do. I cry my self to slepp. I put other peoples happiness infront of mine. When ever I'm alone I either cry or listen to angry or sad music. But when ever someone is in my presence I swollow my sorrow and smile and say everything is okay.
You know like when a friend asks you "hey, what's up, how are ya?" I always reply with my standard answer "I'm fine, all good, you?" But when I actually want to start crying and screaming. Here is my confession, I have never screamed at anyoby before. And I have been hurt SO many times. I let people stomp all over me. And I stil talk to them the next day. I can't scream, I can't get mad even thogh I'm screaming for help and sorrow inside of me!
What can I do in a situation like this?? Is there anything to do?
People don't like sad people. My friends like me when I'm happy and if I would show how I really feel....dear god! I would be one of the most depressing people they will ever know! There is soo much I haven't told them on what I have been trough...I don't want to to it either...I don't want to make them sad. As I said, I put my happiness infront of mine.
HELP!!! (link)
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I, too, used to be like that. My advice is probably going to be really short, but trust me, it works.
What I did was talk to my best friend 2 (don't ask about the 2) and told her everything that was wrong. I mean she really helped me/helps me get through everything, and I, in return, do the same for her. However, I suggest talking when you two are alone but then when you are with your other friends, still be the happy go lucky person. Life's just more fun that way!
Oh but also, if somebody did something to hurt you, talk to that person. If you don't, it will never get resolved and you will just be walking around full of open wounds.
Hope I helped!
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Let me start by saying that I am a huge music fan, I like most types of music and I think you can express yourself through music. I am in a situation where I need songs that are about missing someone that you love but is far away from you. Does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
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Already There by Lonestar.
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/l/lonestar/im+already+there_20084873.html
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Okay, so one of my best friends (well, really, my best friends boyfriend, but him and i are really close as well) got home from the hospital last week after being there for almost a month. Now, I'm wicked happy that he was home and I was like so hyper today because his seat at out lunch table was finally filled (he came for just half of the day for the first part of the week). So what's tha problem? I don't know what to say to him/how to act/etc. For some reason it's not a problem on the phone (we just had a wicked funny conversation), but in person I don't know...its like I'm afriad of one of my best friends. Any advice at all? (link)
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By the way, I do not like him in that way. Trust me, I've already been there and so I know how it feels when I like him. I won't STOP talking to him. We are just wicked good friends.
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