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my bf broke up with me and i acctually thought we had a great connection he told his best friend it was his grades but he told everyone else i dont know why i broke up with her. so do any of you know any resons beside of his grades he would have broken up with me. (link)
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Hi there,they are many different factors as to why he broke up with you
It may or may not be his grades,and maybe his parents wanted him to focus on school instead of a girlfriend
Also,depending on what type of friends he hangs out with,it is possible,that they may have influenced him in some way
Last possible thing,is that maybe he got too scared being in a comitted relationship
Be blessed dear one,and also,if you want,think about this,ask him discreetly why he broke up with you
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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No. She will not get pregnant. Unless you actually enter her with your penis, she cannot get pregnant any other way.
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there was a error there her mom n dad keep her in the house 247 like a prisoner she can not leave the house with out her sister my gf Pauline is 20 years old n has been outside 15 times this year which is crazy n not normal too me all she does is stay inside on her phone or study all day. her mom knows that in the past she use too send nudes which is part of the reason she can not leave the house alone with a boy.
but her mom does not know the real reason we had our fight my gf told her mother a lie which was i got mad she was going too hang out with a guy because i could not truest him. the guy was James the one i told you about who i feared might rape her or take advantage of her like he did in the past. the guy james is the real reason shes trap in the house 247 so i did not understand why she wants too be friends with a guy like this who fucked up her life this much. i told her dad before that its not normal too keep her inside 247 n she needs freedom. her dad does not like me.
he does not like me because i don't have a job n am not in school yet told him why n hes not understand about it. my step dad died in my house 3 years before i was all most done with school n it was hard on my family since hes the only guy that treat my mom right n the lasts thing that happen between me n him was a fight n i tried too kill him n told him not too speak too me anymore a week later he died that's my last memory i have of him n i regret it. the next part her dad does not know but shortly after my mom started smoking weed before this she was mom of the year she let her died husband cousin in our house he lived with us for a while he took advantage of my younger sister n start having sex with her in at the time my sister was all ready in pain from our step dads death so i find out what might be going on tried too tell my mom but she just annoyed me n just smoke weed all day i only thought this was going on did not know this for a fact till i see with my own eyes my younger sister in the bed naked with him i started having nightmares about it n could not sleep for a long time n every time i tried too tell my mom she did nothing but smoke all day so i fool myself too thinking my sister loved him even through he was 7 years older then her anyway my older brother find out n forced my mom too kick him out. anyway i had too redo a class in school since i did not have enough test too past the class but my grade was 94 in the class so got done with school at 20 years old o yea forget too tell u i start school late do too other family problem but anyway i was going too join the marines which was my dream since the 2 grade but my mom asks me too think about since i could die so took a year off n changed my mind n said i want too go too school n try getting a job first. so now its 2014 trying too find a job but more family problems my older sister was trying too kill herself over her boyfriend who was living with us at the time she tried too kill herself every time he would try n leave every time my mom would get her boyfriend till stay we hide all the knives from my sister n i feared leaving the house i feared i would lost a sister if i did
anyway my mom kick her boyfriend out months later n my sister step trying too kill herself n turns out my older sister too was taken advantage of by one of my mothers step husbands forget everyone in my family or step brothers n sisters with 4 different dads n forget too tell you my mom has cancer she had it for 2 years n now my younger sister who is 15 has cancer too n that's just have the shit i had too deal with in the last 3 years so tell me would you be in collage dealing with all off this. my gf knows all of this n still is not understand about it as for her dad he knows all of it but the part that my young sister was raped sorry off topic just wanted too tell you why am not in school yet if you want more details i can tell you but i want too find a job first which like i said i go on interview all the time then am taking my drivers test.
anyway back on topic i told my ex gf Pauline i just want too be friend but she does not want too be my friend n we been friends for 5 years before dating n like i said am the only guy too treat her right n no matter how badly she fucked up i all ways would forgiven her the same day since i know everything about her past n how insecure she is n i all ways been there for her n never once took advantage of her or asked for nudes.
i think part of the reason she does stuff like this is shes not use too having a guy treat her right n her mom n dad give her everything she wants but freedom her dad thinks she just a kid which yes shes still young but like you said she can make her own choice.
o and she is seeing a Psychiatrist but that does not help if she keeps telling everyone lies n not the truth i told her i think we should see a Psychiatrist together but like i said she wants nothing to do with me since her family n friends think am controlling from all the lies she told them i told her she needs too tell them the truth that way they can better understand why i said what i said etc. but thanks for your advice i would have never thought about what you said so am going too try n talk too her again.
last thing thought i tell u my mom is a much better mom this year but i never told her what i seen she thinks he just touched her inappropriate not had sex with her i never told her because she does not need another reason too smoke more talk too you later n thanks again. (link)
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Hi there
Oh your hands are full full full
Let's begin with you and your ordeal
Your sister and your mom are suffering very much
Being away from them,is really going to wear them down more if you had joined the Marines.
If anything were to ever happen to you,imagine where that would put them? You would have finances yes,but you being gone,makes all the changes in the world
I am unsure about your sister,one of them,how old she is.If any of your sister's have been taken advantage of,whether they are 18 or not should have filed a police report. If something like that is going on,or this is fairly recent,please ask them if they want to submit a report.
One of your sister's has cancer,and your mom as well,my condolences to you. If they havent seen a doctor for treatment,they are many state programs that help with medical bills,and their living situation
Consider getting in some kind of state program for health care
Start first by getting a driver's license,you will be more able to help your family,and yourself if you have freedom to drive.
Next,find a job where you know you can do what they ask,or a job where you would learn quick near home.
If you have a high school diploma,it should be no problem at all! You may suprised what kind of jobs you can get without a college degree.
If you havent finished school,but would like too,consider night school,and or if possible,see if the classes you were taken can be completed online
Your family deserves much better dear one,and you guys actually would benefit from a family therapist or psychologists.I know it may not seem like the best solution and you may not wanna.I assure you,your family will start healing.Alot has been done,and all you have is each other
Regarding Pauline. She is lying,and that is hard,because it made you the liar instead of her.Obviously you didnt intend for that to happen.But it did.How about the two of you talk to her parents.Let her parents know,that as a friend,you care about her and just want whats best for her. Her parents may see some light in that and respect that.
Also,if your mom is smoking weed,if she can,switch to Cannabis,as that will cure her cancer and your sisters!
Be blessed!
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okay so i and my bf are about to complete 2yrs. he doesnt have time for me. he is with his friends. he is not romantic and mostly he is very immature. and i expect a lot from him. i want him to spend some time with me, talk to me,go out with me. but thats not the case. we stay far away. he does take a day out for me in a month. but otherwise we get only 7 hrs together and in that 7 hours also we get only 1 hr to be together. he does feel insecure when i tok to some other guy. i just sometimes feel that its me only putting all the efforts in this relationship. and its no use tokn to him. bcz it wont change anything. he just has so many important things in his life than me. (link)
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Hi there!
Sounds like long distance! Boo!!
Anyways,I'm sorry for what you are going through
Its very hard and when everything is coming apart at the seams,it seems your whole world will collapse
What could be more important?
Friends?
Let me tell you,friends come and go,but a special relationship can last forever.
How do you feel about him? Is he on the same page you are in many things?
How does he feel about you?
You need to ask him
Set up a time to see each other and talk about where this is going
Be upfront and tell him how you feel
From there decide mutually whether to end it or keep on going
Be blessed
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Female, 18. I have a few friends here and there. One of the guy friends I have is always pestering me about how I never have time to hang out with him and such. It feels bad, thinking like this, we're in college though and I would expect him to be more mature about these type of things. He makes up rules about friendship, saying how I never text him first and how he thinks sometimes we aren't even friends. I have too much stuff to do, and my own problems, but I don't want to be mean to my friends either. He's one of the few of my friends that has given me a hard time - I know I'm not the most attached person ever, but I have my reasons. I've been called naive, gullible and trusting, which has not gone well for me, so I tend to distance myself from people sometimes. I know its not necessarily right to do, but I dont do it that much. Just... what the heck is his problem? Because I'm THIS close to just telling him: Fuck yourself and leave me alone. Sorry about the language, my temper is usually very low but like I said, lots of things going on, makes the water in the glass spill over, if you know what I mean. (link)
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Hi there!
Where is the respect your friend has for you?
Methinks he left it at home with his pop-tarts!
Anyways,it's not nice of him what he is doing.It sounds like he has a controlling demeanor about him.That can be very scary,he should not in any way shape or form be calling the shots on your life.
Who is he to do so?
You my dear,should be the only one to have control over your life and body,and noone else.
He needs to start being nice,and you let him know,that his rules and habits are pushing you away,and that he needs to be more respectful to you,especially because you are a young lady.
He may also have attatchment problems and may not be thinking clearly. That is very unkind.
Let him know first hand and pull him aside,and say hey,look,please respect my feelings
You must give respect and earn it also
Be blessed dear one!
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first off let me say my handing writing sucks so my bad been out of school for two years now but here goes
long story short me n my ex girlfriend had a big fight ever some things she was doing like keeping things from me she started talking too guys she use too send nudes too again n i was fine with it at first and i was not mad at her since she came clean about it.
but after they went from giving her small comments too saying inappropriate things too her like i wanna do this n that too you etc i was not OK with it n i felt like it was disrespectful if they know we are dating so asked her too block them n she would not do it so i ask her too tell them too stop and she would not do that she just said am keeping my distance i don't want them too be mad at me and i like hear guys comment me. shes very insecure so n all she has his is online people n collage since her mom and dad never let her leave the house with her sister n shes 20 years old so i let it go and said OK just don't tell me about it then but for some reason she kept telling me all most everyday what they said and i kept on saying the same thing too her why do you keep telling me if you well not removed them when you know all they want is sex from you and don't just want too be friends.
so the next day she wanted too hang out alone with a old friend she use too send naked too i was OK with it till she told me his name James who was a old friend who took advantage of her and used her as a rebound and all most ended up pretty much close too raping her when she was there for him as a friend when his girlfriend broke up with him trying too make him feel better then he starting things with out asking her first i wont bore you with details but she some how push him away.so told her was not OK with it n wanted too talk too him first before she hangs out with him alone i said i don't mind if you have a friend with you but i don't trust him since he flirts with you 247 and i was worried he might try it again this happened before we dated the thing with James but any way we had a small fight about it n she defend what he did too her like it was OK since hes was 18 at the time i was very upset about it posted it online people said she was cheating on me etc and a guy said something happen with his girlfriend and she got raped and i told my ex this. look i was raise too all ways asked a girl before put a finger on her the first month of dating my girlfriend i would not even kiss her with out asking first or making sure its OK let alone do other things so you all ready know how i felt about this guy sorry off topic lets MOVE on.
so the next day she started a fight over nothing n stated blaming me for not being able too go on dates since i did not have a JOB which i go on interviews all the time but i missed the first 8 do too family problems n which ill tell you why in next message but lets keep this on topic i got upset and told her for the 2nd time ever go *#%! yourself she has told me too *#%! my self lots of times of times i got sick of her making me out too be the bad guy all the time so i told her i would break up with her if she did not see me by the end of 48 hours and that i wanted her too prove something too me i know am a ass for saying that could have thought of something better but anyway mom forced us too break up changed her number the next day so we ended up talking on Facebook till her mom forced her too block me so had too made 4 new Facebook too talk with her since her mom kept making her block me and yes her mom is that controlling no lie so felt like i was being a ill but of a creep by doing that but i explain too her i only made new ones since her mom forced her and if she wanted me too stop talking too her i would she said no its OK had 1 small fight since she did something *#%! up too get back at me for watching porn for 4 month while we dated which i told her which was the only thing i was keeping from her since she gets insecure easy but i told her about it the day we had the fight which is part of the reason she was mad at me n the thing she did that made me flap again was let some guy jack off too her on cam she was not naked or anything then had phone sex with him and told me about it just too hurt me so i was hurt said mean things she SHOWED her mom later and i said sorry since i over did it n said we are more then even now anyway we started talking again for the third time n said we were dating again but did not feel it since it was not on Facebook i was pushing her a ill too put it on Facebook so she would not do shady things n we planed too talk with her family together but she was afraid her friends would be upset with her n her family she did not know if she want too date me since her family did not like me which is her felt here what she told all her friends n family.
he was mad i was going too hang out with James and could not truest him that's why me and him had a fight no details or nothing just that and not all the other *#%! up things since her mom and sister n brother would kill her if she told them what i told you.
anyway talk too her dad once told him everything n he does not care at all n still thinks am wrong n they were hiding the fact from him that she use too send nudes online and do things online.
so want too talk too her in person SHOWED up too her house a month later ring the door bell 3 times no one come too the dad so i left there was a town party going on so thought she was there i went home come back 1 hour n half later ring the door bell 3 times again no one come too the door so said i try again in a week started walking home her dad pulls off in a car next too me starts yelling at me saying am harming his family n they called him from work which most likely his wife did again shes very controlling am like how am i harming then did i keep ring the door bell
did i stand outside for houses was i outside for hours did someone ask me too go home when i ring the door bell no this is my 2nd time ever coming too your house since the fight i told him my girlfriend has been telling me u guys are forced her too do this and that and i have message as prove i left my phone at him and i can go get it n SHOW you all the saved message so you don't think am lying too you he start yelling again for 15 min she does not want you i said shes been telling me other wise sir n if that's the case i need too hear it from her not you why would i believe you when you never like me and would lie too my face a lot so i was about too say when she tells me this in person she wants nothing too do with me then ill leave her alone for good i will not talk too her ever again before i could say more he yells at me some more then threatens me cops calls pass by hes like ill call the cops i did not run away i stay right there mind you he threaten me before that i was respectful too him never once disrespected him even when he apply s my sister was a slut once for being able too leave the house alone so this is what i told him if you have a problem with me we both are men and can deal with this like me right now he pulled off in his car i went home.
i stop talking too my ex for a month and all most a half till she told a friend too tell me not too go too the same collage as her which i was going too go there before said said shes going there that was just a BONUS so sent her a message on my brother Facebook saying am going too that collage for myself not too follow you then block her got a message told from her and she said she wants nothing too do with me at all no being friends i stop talking too her too give her spaced n too fix my life first then try too talk too her in person at school since i wanted too still be friend i have been there for her as a friend for 5 years never once took advantage of her or asked for nudes i was there every time for her why she was crying over some guy who break her heart blowing up my Facebook with message for hours when all her other friends did not give a *#%! i don't want too give up on her till she tells me this in person i know her all most better then her own father and most of her family when shes upset n mad she push's everyone away so yea my story is it really that wrong that i need too talk too her in person too move on ?what ever happens shes wealth the risk too me so advice need advice
this is why am not giving up on all this message is in her words from Facebook she much better at spelling then so don't worry.
Oh baby bear . Honestly, you make me so happy. I read what you wrote and I couldn't stop smiling this morning. I really love you too my husband. Yes, I want to make you happy because that's what also couples making their significant other please themselves . Yeah that's true . Aw . I'll never forget you too my husband, life partner and my soul mate. I love you so much. I'm happy being with you for 5 months. Although, we have our ups and downs. You were always there for me through thick and thin. You were also there for me from my darkest moments. Thank you for being there for me no matter what . Yes, when we get intimate you will see my sexy naked body ;D Aw I can't wait to marry you too. I want my first marriage to be my only marriage . I love you baby bear ^^
I love you because you make me so happy. Every time I think about you I start to smile. Every time I'm with you, I love your kisses. Those moments of Intimacy that we have (not heavy touching) but when we're on the table having a personal conversation. I like about you the most is when you treat me right. You're not like those guys in the past that treated me like shit. You were there all along. You were there, especially my darkest moments. You were there when no one gave a fuck.
so not giving up reply back with what you think about it n ill tell you why am not in school which is crazy thinks for reading this n reply back with advice and sorry again for spelling errors (link)
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Hello there dear one!
First off,let me say your hands are full!!
I would like to start out disecting this as best of my ability.
I want to start speaking of this young lady you are with
You mentioned her parents let her leave with her sister till she is 20 and she can have only online friends.
She seems to be running into the same type of men,I do not include you in this manner.
The pattern here,is that she is finding men who ''Want or desire her'' Alot of this my dear,is probably just psychological.She may not have recieved love from her dad growing up,and is trying find love and comfort.She may,from it what you have written here,is going through emotional trauma,and emotional heaviness.In a way she is abusing herself.And I believe she needs help and counseling.I don't mean this in a sad,or mean way or mean it as an insult.
She has gotten herself in very serious trouble,and it will get worse of she doesnt get out of it now.She needs too.
Im sure that her parents have no knowledge of this,but you may want to ask.You may want to ask her if her parents know any of what is going on
its not right for guys to be using her for their own pleasure and circumstances.
Your special girl,is a human being,not meat or piece of property. Shes a special girl who just needs the right type of love.These guys that she is around with wont give her that,and her heart I sense is already very broken.Being used,is such a horrible feeling,Im sure that being with them,does not make her feel good.
The solution is for her to get psychological help.Find a Psychiatrist in the Yellow Pages or the phone book and make sure her parents know this.She is an adult and she is capable of making desicions on her own.
Im sorry the tweo of you had an arguement and I applaud you for caring so much! That is very sweet,and Im sure she will reconize that soon,if she has not already.
Now,let's start with you.You willingness to help is also mixed in with your feelings you have for her.2 different things.
Your feelings have been hurt by this tunnel of craziness you have been in.Im sorry for that
Your feelings are just as involved as hers,and they also count and matter as well!!
I suggest you both take the time to spend an afternoon together.Tell her that you sense she is maybe unhappy and try to sort things out.Let her know how this is affecting you emotionally and you care very much about her.And the choices that she is making will make her life worse.
It sounds like she may or may not want a committment.So leave out for now,lets be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Tell her you are willing to help her,and would like to take it a step at a time.Let her know,she doesnt deserve to be mistreated or dis respected in any way and also that you love her
Be blessed! And feel free to contact me on my advice column!
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I sold a beautiful home with 10 acres and a pond after dating a man for four years. I moved in with him and we got married. We talked about life insurance, what if situations if one of us died, ect. I recently verified from an attorney that by this states guidelines that I would get 1/3 of the real estate and his son from a previous marriage would get 2/3. This is not what we agreed to years ago. The son is an addict incarcerated for several years remaining on his sentence. This is in no way fair to me. I gave up a beautiful home, paid the majority of the bills because he was forced into an early retirement. (Layoff). It makes me feel like he does not care about me. I'm thinking of leaving. I don't want to pay his bills and do for him for years only to be forced out of this house if something happens to my husband. Does anyone think I am being unreasonable? We are in our 50s and 60s. I have to think about my future. (link)
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Hi sweetie,
I do sense your anger and Im truely sorry to hear about this!
You are not being unreasonable at all! Pff!
You said you spoke to an attorney and this is what state guidelines say
Let's sort a few things out:
How long has his son been incarcerated?
How old is he?
And how many years have you been married?
Alot of this can,depending on what state you live in,rely on how many years you have been legally married
Next,try again,to speak with your husband regarding a wil,and see if you in turn can get 2/3 of his estate and the rest to his son,and also state in writing that the money left to his son is for recovering his addiction,and is not to be spent on any drugs etc.And if any is found that he has spent his share of the money on drugs,that he gives away his right to the money
I hope that made sense
See,if you can,this is a very very extreme case,get a court order,or get a power of attorney on your husband's will or life situation
Having a power of a attorney will give you much better of a place and security as to how to handle finances and the estate,etc.
Please state to your husband that you are very concerned for your well being and your intentions are not selfish,but you want to make sure you are well taken care of and getting a job at your age would be a bit difficult
Be blessed!
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I'm a 20 year old girl and about a month ago I met this 26 year old guy. He's roommates with my best friend so I see him quite a bit and we've hung out alone a few times. He's the sweetest guy ever - always paying for dinner, buying flowers randomly, and just the little things he does. He told me he loves me and it freaked me out. I like him but we barely know each other. And we've had intercourse once and he's just too gentle for my liking. And to be honest his age kind of intimidates me but I've never met someone as sweet as him and my friend keep telling me that if I should be with someone it should be him. I dont know if I should give this a chance. (link)
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Hi there!
He seems like a nice guy!
Let's take this step by step
Let's start with age,women mature much faster than men do,so age the age difference here is actually quite perfect for you,when you are at such a young age,dating a man who no less than 7 years older than you is quite acceptable.
It's something to have been thought of at first before you started dating
Nonetheless,his behavior seems to be very gentle and kind,and that must be admired
You said you barely know him,and yet you both have slept together
From what I have read you both took things too fast
That's not a problem,and it can be worked at
Ask yourself a few things,do you feel happy or safe,or secure when you are with him? Is he respectful to you? I sure hope so!
Make sure you both communicate with each other so you both have an understanding of what you both want
Please sit and talk with him
But make sure you do some thinking before making a decision either way
It kind of sounds like you've already stepped forward and given him a chance
You have no idea whether he is ''The One'' or not
You are at such a young age,so please see if this is really want you want,being serious
Be blessed my dear! May your heart decide what is best for your life and spirit
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I feel scared to ask my parents for a snapchat facebook Kris even an instagram because of how over protective they are what should I do (link)
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Be honest with your parents. If you go behind their back they will not be able to trust you with anything. Ask them if you can speak to this young and if so ask them to be nearby so they can see your conversation. I say this so that your parents will feel better and they will give you trust. Then you will be able to have private time with your friend. I know it stinks kinda. But they are your parents. Be blessed!
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I tried reaching her, but she ain't replying! Maybe I'll drop by her place tom! The thing is I feel I didn't do anything wrong and I'm wondering if I actually deserve this? I would certainly give up the thought of dating this guy.. Cause it's way too complicated before it even started! And yes do you think I'm letting my desires and needs take a back seat and focusing on pleasing others? Does this make me a weak person?: ( (link)
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Hi doll!! If you prefer to drop her a note instead,and you can drop it off,that would be okay too! If that it easier!
You are not weak person,you are human being with feelings like the rest of us!!
Just be sure that she may not want to speak to you.If she doesn't let her go.Because right now she is pouting and acting out.
You have feelings dear,as does she.
Just remeber,that next time you have personal feelings about someone,tell them yourself,because the person who tells another what you feel,can twist it around and do something vile.
Be blessed!!
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Hi boogeylady,I think you know the background of my problem! He texted me and said that things with him and my Best friend are really bad and she doesn't consider us to be her friends anymore and we are just illusions! I dunno what we did that is so wrong and we are not going to date. It's so complicated right now.! Now what should I do?
Should I get in touch with my best friend?
She would seem very detached!I am not sure if liking someone can be s bad thing! It's always been so cruel for me :( (link)
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Hi sweetie. I'm very sorry to hear of this!!
Your friend is angry and is acting out and sadly is leaving you to choose sides. Her or him. Either choice won't be easy. And you shouldn't jahave to feel to choose. Your friend may be angry because it is a possibility that she is jealous and may like this guy as well.
The guy you like may be unfaised at the root of what is really going on. You didn't mean for any of this happen. And your intentions were honest. Your friend is hurt. So please consider her feelings first. It was best if you had told this man you liked him and that it came straight from you. You have no idea how or what your friend said to him.
Try to talk to talk to your friend. Remember her feelings are first. Let her know first that you are very sorry and didn't mean for this to happen. If possible. Say it in person and buy her something like a hot chocolate or a chocolate bar. Let her know that as friend you love her and take her feelings to heart. But let her know gently that you like this man. Try to take it step by step.
Make sure that your guy is in the clear that you two are serious or starting something. You'd hate for this to happen and the two of you not work out. Best of blessings!!
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But now I feel really awkward my self to ask my friend about him! I know she doesn't want to talk about it as she was not too keen about us dating!
I really want him to text me and talk to me! It's been a week and I can't stop thinking about this!: (
Would your best friend be unhappy if you started dating their friend who always wanted us to talk to get to know each other and when it's finally happening, this is what happens! Should I let it go??: ( (link)
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Hi doll!!
Yes it would feel awkward!
And your friend doesn't seem to be helping.
If you have this guys number. Maybe ask if you'd like to meet for coffee and talk it. Assure him that you understand that he must feel awkward and you want to clear the air. If you are unable for him to hear you give yourself time and space aand space to clear your head.
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Does anyone know any easy to make home made cocktails with vodka ?? Please help im having a girls night tomorrow ! (link)
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Hi there!
I hope I'm not too late is your response!
Try these recipes!
Have a good party!
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Check here for recipes!
http://mybestcocktails.com/cocktails-with-9-Vodka.html
Be blessed!
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I want to start eating healthy to hopefully get rid of that unnecessary fat from when I was younger (I'm 14). But I also just want to start living a healthy lifestyle, because I do admit I like junk food. So I want opinions on my diet from others.
First off, I count my calories everyday to make sure I don't go over 1200 calories.
For breakfast, I usually eat a whole grain bagel with low fat cream cheese. Or just a banana. I may have a snack before lunch, like fruit or something. For lunch, I usually eat microwaveable vegitarian chicken nuggets (Has about 10% sodium..) with ketchup. Then I may have a snack before dinner. Then for dinner it really depends. I like eating a baked potato with vegetables.
Is my diet okay? Is this considered a healthy diet? And what are some options for me? I'm a vegitarian, so I do not eat chicken or anything. Also if I want chips, I make sure I eat BAKED ones, because they aren't fried. I also only eat chocolate every now and then but still count my calories everyday.
I also do light exercise. I barely ever go out, so I don't do outdoor exercises. I do like 200 jumping jacks, 120 lunges, etc. (link)
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Yum! Veggies and fruit are excellent for you and should be eaten every day!
I don't believe however,counting calories is extremely neccesary unless your doctor says its okay
Calories give us energy too,so if you are too low on them,your energy level can sink
If possible,avoid using your microwave,because the microwave cooks so fast,it takes all the nutrients out of the food you are intaking
If eating chocolate,I suggest dark chocolate,it tastes a little bitter,but its health benefits are superb! Much better for you than milk chocolate plus you can eat more of dark chocolate,even get some with almonds,as almonds give you great energy!
Almonds can give you wonderful energy,as well as cashews and peanuts!
I suggest,while you are on this diet to take a multi-vitamin to get all the nutrients your body needs to stay healthy,and absorb vitamins from the foods you are eating
Also,its okay to have cheat days or meals,like a yummy pizza,or a meal from Wendy's as a little treat!
I suggest visiting Seventeen.com and go to their exercise and health area,as they can give you good tips on eating and different exercises you can do that really fun and simple and give awesome results!
To your health my dear!
Be blessed!
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I'm a 14 year old girl and I have the WORST self esteem and social anxiety so when I think that someone likes me I always tell myself that I'm just being shallow amc that I'm overreacting, so I'll tell you why I think he likes me and you tell me if you think so too, thanks in advance!
He's always trying making me laugh and I do the same to him, (I hope that he's not like that to all girls.....), today after History he waited for me to get all of my stuff so we could walk together (Maybe he was just being friendly?), and he laughs when my jokes aren't very funny (just being polite?). My main concern is that even if he likes me he won't ask me out because he's a very, very skinny runner and I'm chubby. Do you think that he likes me? (link)
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Hi doll!
I have the worst anxiety EVER! Ahhhh! I even take medication to help curb it!
Let me tell you quick comment about love and like
When someone likes you,they aren;t just looking at the outside of you,they feel things about the other person,like he makes YOU laugh! He waits for you.Things are of endearment. Relationships should never be about looks,rather,they are about it makes you feel and the respect that you are given and that your treated nicely and respectfully!
Yes,I think he is showing in his own way that he likes you and enjoys spending time with you!
Be blessed doll!!
Be blessed!
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I am 22 years old.I like my best friend's (A) good friend (B).we both connect really well. He always hinted that he likes me. I never told him how I feel. On talking to A, she realized that I like him too! She said we should date but things would never new the same between them and she would keep her distance! I do not want to give up on A cause of love! A and B share a brother-sister bond. A told me she would tell B how I feel about him! Since that night, he hasn't contacted me! We spoke on a regular basis and now he hasn't contacted me! I'm miserable :( (link)
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Hi there dear one
Hmm,isn't it sometimes a bit tricky and awkward when these things come to us
You say you like him
But your best friend told your feelings about how you feel about this guy,instead of you
You werent there when your friend told the guy you liked what you were feeling
Please try to talk to her,to see what she said,because this may be very awkward for her
Talk with her first,and if you can,talk to the guy
You have no idea what he's feeling,and guys handle and take things in emotions differently than women do!
Please don't be misreable,try to talk to both of them,but seperately!
Be blessed and hope all goes well
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My friend is gorgeous, she looks just like Kate Winslet when she was young. But you'd never know it from her facebook photos and selfies! From just about every angle, her face appears doughy and gross with flat hair. Her delicate features just don't seem to register through a camera. (link)
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Well,what kind of camera does she have? It can definately depend the camera,if you,or have any other friends that have a nice camera,take good headshots of her,it could make a difference,maybe offer a nice photoshoot,with her wearing a little makeup and cute butterfly clips in her hair!!
Good luck dear one!
And remember,beauty is only skin deep!!
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Hello I am a female 14 yr old,
So basically I just started high school from home schooling and I don't really know anyone. There was this girl who I was sitting next to at lunch( she is also in my homeroom) and I was slowly trying to get her to open up but today I saw her with an other girl and I have a feeling she is not coming back. I guess I took it to slow. I am kinda shy when it comes to new people so it was weird I had to make all the moves. (it wasn't just me though she was like that with everybody I saw try to talk to her).Any way Basically every freshmen still has their friends from middle school. There were a few people like me who didn't go to the two main middle schools but they have already made friend and this is only the second week in school! I know I usually come off as stuck up and or mean. (sometimes stand-offish) but I always thought that once they get to know me that they will see I'm not like that, but the thing I now know people won't try to get to know you if you seem any of those three things. First impression are a one chance thing. I have never really had the opportunity to make friends before so I never bothered trying to change how I come off to people. I can't do any of the "traditional" ways to make friends. Try to sit at someone elses lunch table without an invitation. No no. Try to start a conversation without a real reason. Such as hello I'm---------- what's your name? Doesn't work any more. You'd come off creepy. (at least in my school.) of course I can't talk in class. And because I have so many responsibilities at home joining a club isn't for me right now. Also again when it comes to new people I am kinda shy. Like once I get to know some one I am not shy but when we are first meeting I'm kinda shy. I always figured that if you search for some types of things in life that you will find it but not a good one. Like if you search for friends you will find them but they won't be good friends. Search for a boy friend/girl friend find one but they won't treat you right. I always thought it was better to let some things in life come to you.but maybe I'm wrong when it comes to friends. Help?.P.S. I don't like being around loud, non controlled, immature- acting people. Especially troublemakers. An other to take into consideration. I'm picky. Really.Thanks again for help. (link)
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Hello dear one!
You said a great line there ''First impression are a one chance thing''
They sure are,and in a high school,everyone has a clique of all kinds,in many ways,it does suck,because people of many different diversities can really have a chance to get to know one another rather than hanging with their ''own kind'
Now then,you've been home-schooled! Yay! I was home-schooled too! And when I needed to make friends,I signed up for things!
I did figure skating,and joined a skating club,and it was so weird,because I had never really been ''out there'' I was nerdy geeky kid and all the girls just seem to click and know each other
I bravely went up to them and bluntly said''Hey I'm_____'' They all stared with crazy faces
But I politely told them that I was new and that I was excited to join their group.
Soon as we started to mingle more,I did make a few friends,and those girls were nice.
Maybe,you could join an extra curricular activity at school,or join a cooking class!! Art class,something that is fun,and not too serious,because if it is,people will be serious and they will no fun to hang out with! Boooo!
Anyways,just think about that.
If you do find yourself stuck,you may throw in a compliment or two to your classmates like ''Hey,I love those earings,where can I get those?'' If they respond,keep the ball rolling,with ''Oh hey,I'm going to Claire's next friday,wanna come?'' Sometimes extending an invite to someone for something fun like the mall,and girl stuff will peak their intrest and soon friendships may form!
I wish you the best in your school year and many blessings!
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My friends and I were eating lunch at school yesterday and we were playfully teasing each other like friends do, bit I guess one of my comments crossed the line a little bit so she retaliated by saying "Your watermelon loons like tumor." I stopped eating it immediately and threw it out and now I'm so disgusted. I don't even know how food could look like a tumor but I'm just so grossed out and I can't eat watermelon anymore bit it's not like I can avoid it because there's watermelon in my lunch everyday because my mom has a watermelon garden so we have a million watermelons. And it's starting to bother me when I eat other foods too! I'm so disgusted, how do I get over it?
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Oh honey! Im sorry! What a bummer!
Please do not let this overtake you!
Sometimes,people,when they are hurt,or rather they are at the heat of the moment they snap at a come-back or at an insult they don't mean
Please,if you havent said sorry,just tell your friend it wall a mis-understanding and you didnt mean what you said and hope everything will be fine.Getting this cleared up may actually make you feel better.
It seems to really have affected you
I wish you well and be blessed!
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hey am 18 now am a kind of person
that crys over silly things and who
doesn't cry on important times i
can't figure out whats wrong with
me, all my family crys when they
say goodbye, they cry when they
see a tragic show, but i don't.... i
am not a bad person but this thing
is bothering me so bad, because it
has happened many times, when
every body crys i don't , but when
someone yells at me i cry ,when am
angry i cry, when am alone i cry so
what should i call this behaviour,
please help am so worried!!!! (link)
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Hi sweetie!
Don't worry yourself so much
In fact I don't really cry about anything,even when someone near me dies,imagine! It doesn't mean that I'm heartless,or I don;t care,or have no feelings,it's just how I deal with things differently
When something tragic does happen,I deal with it differently than people do
I usually deal with things by keeping a journal,and writing things down,or even clean,yes clean,something to get my mind off things
I usually sometimes excuse myself from a situation and let myself grieve privately
When I am angry,or hurt,or go through a break-up,I cry,I really do,and seclude myself.Im the same as you!
Its not uncommon sweetie,and that is who and what you are
What should you call it? Well,no need to give it a name!
Don't be worried dear one,just be who you are,we all as human being handle things differently in life!
Be blessed dear one!
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