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Does he like me?
I'm a 14 year old girl and I have the WORST self esteem and social anxiety so when I think that someone likes me I always tell myself that I'm just being shallow amc that I'm overreacting, so I'll tell you why I think he likes me and you tell me if you think so too, thanks in advance!
He's always trying making me laugh and I do the same to him, (I hope that he's not like that to all girls.....), today after History he waited for me to get all of my stuff so we could walk together (Maybe he was just being friendly?), and he laughs when my jokes aren't very funny (just being polite?). My main concern is that even if he likes me he won't ask me out because he's a very, very skinny runner and I'm chubby. Do you think that he likes me?
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Yes, i believe he likes you. Mind that he doesnt know you well at all yet beyond surface level attraction, but thats where it starts with attraction to someone. So I'd rather say he is attracted to you and you to him. After you become friends and begin hanging out together and start dating, then you will get to know him much better, to be able to decide if you are still interested in him based on who he is inside, his characteristics, and what you have in common.
The typical ways people show interest is body language by smiling, laughing, finding excuses to be near the person they are interested in and when sitting or standing, leaning toward the person when talking to them, and we also tend to subconsciously copy the others body motions, its called mirroring. For instance, if he crossed his legs while sitting, soon after you do the same without really being aware of it. Watch to see if he duplicates your moves, such as tucking back hair, and he responds by scratching his head, a close mirror, of hand going to hair.
Lets look at your excuses for him. He waited for you after class just because he is friendly? Then ask yourself why he is directing his friendliness at you instead of any other students. A person can have a friendly personality and be a people person but they won't have enough time in their day to spend time one on one with everyone. How many kids in class? 28 or so? That would mean if he is generally friendly towards all people and it means nothing when he singles you out once... then he'd have to wait to catch each class member after History to walk to gether with them. Kinda extreme, huh? Unrealistic. What makes more sense is that he is genuinely interested in you. Males do not go after girls or pay any special extra attention like he's doing if they dont find the girls looks and personality attractive. Some guys dont go for the media's representation of what beauty is and realize that females come in all shapes and sizes and looks. Some guys have a preferance for petite, some for short, some for tall and some for chubby and some have no preferance at all. Young boys usually don't know what they want or are attracted to, or just following what media portrays.
Its a sure bet if he is coming after you, seeking you out to walk with and laugh with, that he has no problem at all with your looks. I have seem many couples who looked odd but worked out, this as adults. One where the lady was tall 5'10 and husband short 5'3. Another where he was a tall skinny bean pole and she was overweight. when two people get along as best friends and the attraction and romance is there, all that matters is that both are happy with each other, it doesn't matter what other people think or say.
Do you know the difference between a real laugh and a fake laugh. Try laughing in your room, about nothing, forcing it. Does it sound like a real laugh? A person's whole body gets into a laugh, and their eyes do too. A genuine laugh can't be faked just to be polite. I would guess you have the same sense of humor. And you probably will have the same ease in conversation, never being awkward, the words always flowing.
Do you spend time seeking out other girls and boys to hang near them even if you're not interested in them, just to be polite? And do you force a fake laugh just to be nice?
Probably not. He's interested. At your age, this is a good time to cultivate a friendship. Easy to do, just tell him you enjoy him at school and want to spend more time with him. Would he like to come hang out at your house (with parents home and their knowledge that you have a male friend from school you want to invite over) also trade numbers and keep in touch that way too. But on cell, texting or on screen is one dimensional. You will lack hearing his laugh for example and LOL on screen is just not the same as hearing his chuckles in person. Hope all goes well for you. Good luck!
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Hi doll!
I have the worst anxiety EVER! Ahhhh! I even take medication to help curb it!
Let me tell you quick comment about love and like
When someone likes you,they aren;t just looking at the outside of you,they feel things about the other person,like he makes YOU laugh! He waits for you.Things are of endearment. Relationships should never be about looks,rather,they are about it makes you feel and the respect that you are given and that your treated nicely and respectfully!
Yes,I think he is showing in his own way that he likes you and enjoys spending time with you!
Be blessed doll!!
Be blessed!
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