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me and my ex gf who use too be good friends before dating
there was a error there her mom n dad keep her in the house 247 like a prisoner she can not leave the house with out her sister my gf Pauline is 20 years old n has been outside 15 times this year which is crazy n not normal too me all she does is stay inside on her phone or study all day. her mom knows that in the past she use too send nudes which is part of the reason she can not leave the house alone with a boy.
but her mom does not know the real reason we had our fight my gf told her mother a lie which was i got mad she was going too hang out with a guy because i could not truest him. the guy was James the one i told you about who i feared might rape her or take advantage of her like he did in the past. the guy james is the real reason shes trap in the house 247 so i did not understand why she wants too be friends with a guy like this who fucked up her life this much. i told her dad before that its not normal too keep her inside 247 n she needs freedom. her dad does not like me.
he does not like me because i don't have a job n am not in school yet told him why n hes not understand about it. my step dad died in my house 3 years before i was all most done with school n it was hard on my family since hes the only guy that treat my mom right n the lasts thing that happen between me n him was a fight n i tried too kill him n told him not too speak too me anymore a week later he died that's my last memory i have of him n i regret it. the next part her dad does not know but shortly after my mom started smoking weed before this she was mom of the year she let her died husband cousin in our house he lived with us for a while he took advantage of my younger sister n start having sex with her in at the time my sister was all ready in pain from our step dads death so i find out what might be going on tried too tell my mom but she just annoyed me n just smoke weed all day i only thought this was going on did not know this for a fact till i see with my own eyes my younger sister in the bed naked with him i started having nightmares about it n could not sleep for a long time n every time i tried too tell my mom she did nothing but smoke all day so i fool myself too thinking my sister loved him even through he was 7 years older then her anyway my older brother find out n forced my mom too kick him out. anyway i had too redo a class in school since i did not have enough test too past the class but my grade was 94 in the class so got done with school at 20 years old o yea forget too tell u i start school late do too other family problem but anyway i was going too join the marines which was my dream since the 2 grade but my mom asks me too think about since i could die so took a year off n changed my mind n said i want too go too school n try getting a job first. so now its 2014 trying too find a job but more family problems my older sister was trying too kill herself over her boyfriend who was living with us at the time she tried too kill herself every time he would try n leave every time my mom would get her boyfriend till stay we hide all the knives from my sister n i feared leaving the house i feared i would lost a sister if i did
anyway my mom kick her boyfriend out months later n my sister step trying too kill herself n turns out my older sister too was taken advantage of by one of my mothers step husbands forget everyone in my family or step brothers n sisters with 4 different dads n forget too tell you my mom has cancer she had it for 2 years n now my younger sister who is 15 has cancer too n that's just have the shit i had too deal with in the last 3 years so tell me would you be in collage dealing with all off this. my gf knows all of this n still is not understand about it as for her dad he knows all of it but the part that my young sister was raped sorry off topic just wanted too tell you why am not in school yet if you want more details i can tell you but i want too find a job first which like i said i go on interview all the time then am taking my drivers test.
anyway back on topic i told my ex gf Pauline i just want too be friend but she does not want too be my friend n we been friends for 5 years before dating n like i said am the only guy too treat her right n no matter how badly she fucked up i all ways would forgiven her the same day since i know everything about her past n how insecure she is n i all ways been there for her n never once took advantage of her or asked for nudes.
i think part of the reason she does stuff like this is shes not use too having a guy treat her right n her mom n dad give her everything she wants but freedom her dad thinks she just a kid which yes shes still young but like you said she can make her own choice.
o and she is seeing a Psychiatrist but that does not help if she keeps telling everyone lies n not the truth i told her i think we should see a Psychiatrist together but like i said she wants nothing to do with me since her family n friends think am controlling from all the lies she told them i told her she needs too tell them the truth that way they can better understand why i said what i said etc. but thanks for your advice i would have never thought about what you said so am going too try n talk too her again.
last thing thought i tell u my mom is a much better mom this year but i never told her what i seen she thinks he just touched her inappropriate not had sex with her i never told her because she does not need another reason too smoke more talk too you later n thanks again.
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Hi there
Oh your hands are full full full
Let's begin with you and your ordeal
Your sister and your mom are suffering very much
Being away from them,is really going to wear them down more if you had joined the Marines.
If anything were to ever happen to you,imagine where that would put them? You would have finances yes,but you being gone,makes all the changes in the world
I am unsure about your sister,one of them,how old she is.If any of your sister's have been taken advantage of,whether they are 18 or not should have filed a police report. If something like that is going on,or this is fairly recent,please ask them if they want to submit a report.
One of your sister's has cancer,and your mom as well,my condolences to you. If they havent seen a doctor for treatment,they are many state programs that help with medical bills,and their living situation
Consider getting in some kind of state program for health care
Start first by getting a driver's license,you will be more able to help your family,and yourself if you have freedom to drive.
Next,find a job where you know you can do what they ask,or a job where you would learn quick near home.
If you have a high school diploma,it should be no problem at all! You may suprised what kind of jobs you can get without a college degree.
If you havent finished school,but would like too,consider night school,and or if possible,see if the classes you were taken can be completed online
Your family deserves much better dear one,and you guys actually would benefit from a family therapist or psychologists.I know it may not seem like the best solution and you may not wanna.I assure you,your family will start healing.Alot has been done,and all you have is each other
Regarding Pauline. She is lying,and that is hard,because it made you the liar instead of her.Obviously you didnt intend for that to happen.But it did.How about the two of you talk to her parents.Let her parents know,that as a friend,you care about her and just want whats best for her. Her parents may see some light in that and respect that.
Also,if your mom is smoking weed,if she can,switch to Cannabis,as that will cure her cancer and your sisters!
Be blessed!
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