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How to make friends when everyone already has their clique? (this is a litt
Hello I am a female 14 yr old,
So basically I just started high school from home schooling and I don't really know anyone. There was this girl who I was sitting next to at lunch( she is also in my homeroom) and I was slowly trying to get her to open up but today I saw her with an other girl and I have a feeling she is not coming back. I guess I took it to slow. I am kinda shy when it comes to new people so it was weird I had to make all the moves. (it wasn't just me though she was like that with everybody I saw try to talk to her).Any way Basically every freshmen still has their friends from middle school. There were a few people like me who didn't go to the two main middle schools but they have already made friend and this is only the second week in school! I know I usually come off as stuck up and or mean. (sometimes stand-offish) but I always thought that once they get to know me that they will see I'm not like that, but the thing I now know people won't try to get to know you if you seem any of those three things. First impression are a one chance thing. I have never really had the opportunity to make friends before so I never bothered trying to change how I come off to people. I can't do any of the "traditional" ways to make friends. Try to sit at someone elses lunch table without an invitation. No no. Try to start a conversation without a real reason. Such as hello I'm---------- what's your name? Doesn't work any more. You'd come off creepy. (at least in my school.) of course I can't talk in class. And because I have so many responsibilities at home joining a club isn't for me right now. Also again when it comes to new people I am kinda shy. Like once I get to know some one I am not shy but when we are first meeting I'm kinda shy. I always figured that if you search for some types of things in life that you will find it but not a good one. Like if you search for friends you will find them but they won't be good friends. Search for a boy friend/girl friend find one but they won't treat you right. I always thought it was better to let some things in life come to you.but maybe I'm wrong when it comes to friends. Help?.P.S. I don't like being around loud, non controlled, immature- acting people. Especially troublemakers. An other to take into consideration. I'm picky. Really.Thanks again for help.
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Hello dear one!
You said a great line there ''First impression are a one chance thing''
They sure are,and in a high school,everyone has a clique of all kinds,in many ways,it does suck,because people of many different diversities can really have a chance to get to know one another rather than hanging with their ''own kind'
Now then,you've been home-schooled! Yay! I was home-schooled too! And when I needed to make friends,I signed up for things!
I did figure skating,and joined a skating club,and it was so weird,because I had never really been ''out there'' I was nerdy geeky kid and all the girls just seem to click and know each other
I bravely went up to them and bluntly said''Hey I'm_____'' They all stared with crazy faces
But I politely told them that I was new and that I was excited to join their group.
Soon as we started to mingle more,I did make a few friends,and those girls were nice.
Maybe,you could join an extra curricular activity at school,or join a cooking class!! Art class,something that is fun,and not too serious,because if it is,people will be serious and they will no fun to hang out with! Boooo!
Anyways,just think about that.
If you do find yourself stuck,you may throw in a compliment or two to your classmates like ''Hey,I love those earings,where can I get those?'' If they respond,keep the ball rolling,with ''Oh hey,I'm going to Claire's next friday,wanna come?'' Sometimes extending an invite to someone for something fun like the mall,and girl stuff will peak their intrest and soon friendships may form!
I wish you the best in your school year and many blessings!
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