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me and my ex gf plz i need advice just read this
first off let me say my handing writing sucks so my bad been out of school for two years now but here goes
long story short me n my ex girlfriend had a big fight ever some things she was doing like keeping things from me she started talking too guys she use too send nudes too again n i was fine with it at first and i was not mad at her since she came clean about it.
but after they went from giving her small comments too saying inappropriate things too her like i wanna do this n that too you etc i was not OK with it n i felt like it was disrespectful if they know we are dating so asked her too block them n she would not do it so i ask her too tell them too stop and she would not do that she just said am keeping my distance i don't want them too be mad at me and i like hear guys comment me. shes very insecure so n all she has his is online people n collage since her mom and dad never let her leave the house with her sister n shes 20 years old so i let it go and said OK just don't tell me about it then but for some reason she kept telling me all most everyday what they said and i kept on saying the same thing too her why do you keep telling me if you well not removed them when you know all they want is sex from you and don't just want too be friends.
so the next day she wanted too hang out alone with a old friend she use too send naked too i was OK with it till she told me his name James who was a old friend who took advantage of her and used her as a rebound and all most ended up pretty much close too raping her when she was there for him as a friend when his girlfriend broke up with him trying too make him feel better then he starting things with out asking her first i wont bore you with details but she some how push him away.so told her was not OK with it n wanted too talk too him first before she hangs out with him alone i said i don't mind if you have a friend with you but i don't trust him since he flirts with you 247 and i was worried he might try it again this happened before we dated the thing with James but any way we had a small fight about it n she defend what he did too her like it was OK since hes was 18 at the time i was very upset about it posted it online people said she was cheating on me etc and a guy said something happen with his girlfriend and she got raped and i told my ex this. look i was raise too all ways asked a girl before put a finger on her the first month of dating my girlfriend i would not even kiss her with out asking first or making sure its OK let alone do other things so you all ready know how i felt about this guy sorry off topic lets MOVE on.
so the next day she started a fight over nothing n stated blaming me for not being able too go on dates since i did not have a JOB which i go on interviews all the time but i missed the first 8 do too family problems n which ill tell you why in next message but lets keep this on topic i got upset and told her for the 2nd time ever go *#%! yourself she has told me too *#%! my self lots of times of times i got sick of her making me out too be the bad guy all the time so i told her i would break up with her if she did not see me by the end of 48 hours and that i wanted her too prove something too me i know am a ass for saying that could have thought of something better but anyway mom forced us too break up changed her number the next day so we ended up talking on Facebook till her mom forced her too block me so had too made 4 new Facebook too talk with her since her mom kept making her block me and yes her mom is that controlling no lie so felt like i was being a ill but of a creep by doing that but i explain too her i only made new ones since her mom forced her and if she wanted me too stop talking too her i would she said no its OK had 1 small fight since she did something *#%! up too get back at me for watching porn for 4 month while we dated which i told her which was the only thing i was keeping from her since she gets insecure easy but i told her about it the day we had the fight which is part of the reason she was mad at me n the thing she did that made me flap again was let some guy jack off too her on cam she was not naked or anything then had phone sex with him and told me about it just too hurt me so i was hurt said mean things she SHOWED her mom later and i said sorry since i over did it n said we are more then even now anyway we started talking again for the third time n said we were dating again but did not feel it since it was not on Facebook i was pushing her a ill too put it on Facebook so she would not do shady things n we planed too talk with her family together but she was afraid her friends would be upset with her n her family she did not know if she want too date me since her family did not like me which is her felt here what she told all her friends n family.
he was mad i was going too hang out with James and could not truest him that's why me and him had a fight no details or nothing just that and not all the other *#%! up things since her mom and sister n brother would kill her if she told them what i told you.
anyway talk too her dad once told him everything n he does not care at all n still thinks am wrong n they were hiding the fact from him that she use too send nudes online and do things online.
so want too talk too her in person SHOWED up too her house a month later ring the door bell 3 times no one come too the dad so i left there was a town party going on so thought she was there i went home come back 1 hour n half later ring the door bell 3 times again no one come too the door so said i try again in a week started walking home her dad pulls off in a car next too me starts yelling at me saying am harming his family n they called him from work which most likely his wife did again shes very controlling am like how am i harming then did i keep ring the door bell
did i stand outside for houses was i outside for hours did someone ask me too go home when i ring the door bell no this is my 2nd time ever coming too your house since the fight i told him my girlfriend has been telling me u guys are forced her too do this and that and i have message as prove i left my phone at him and i can go get it n SHOW you all the saved message so you don't think am lying too you he start yelling again for 15 min she does not want you i said shes been telling me other wise sir n if that's the case i need too hear it from her not you why would i believe you when you never like me and would lie too my face a lot so i was about too say when she tells me this in person she wants nothing too do with me then ill leave her alone for good i will not talk too her ever again before i could say more he yells at me some more then threatens me cops calls pass by hes like ill call the cops i did not run away i stay right there mind you he threaten me before that i was respectful too him never once disrespected him even when he apply s my sister was a slut once for being able too leave the house alone so this is what i told him if you have a problem with me we both are men and can deal with this like me right now he pulled off in his car i went home.
i stop talking too my ex for a month and all most a half till she told a friend too tell me not too go too the same collage as her which i was going too go there before said said shes going there that was just a BONUS so sent her a message on my brother Facebook saying am going too that collage for myself not too follow you then block her got a message told from her and she said she wants nothing too do with me at all no being friends i stop talking too her too give her spaced n too fix my life first then try too talk too her in person at school since i wanted too still be friend i have been there for her as a friend for 5 years never once took advantage of her or asked for nudes i was there every time for her why she was crying over some guy who break her heart blowing up my Facebook with message for hours when all her other friends did not give a *#%! i don't want too give up on her till she tells me this in person i know her all most better then her own father and most of her family when shes upset n mad she push's everyone away so yea my story is it really that wrong that i need too talk too her in person too move on ?what ever happens shes wealth the risk too me so advice need advice
this is why am not giving up on all this message is in her words from Facebook she much better at spelling then so don't worry.
Oh baby bear . Honestly, you make me so happy. I read what you wrote and I couldn't stop smiling this morning. I really love you too my husband. Yes, I want to make you happy because that's what also couples making their significant other please themselves . Yeah that's true . Aw . I'll never forget you too my husband, life partner and my soul mate. I love you so much. I'm happy being with you for 5 months. Although, we have our ups and downs. You were always there for me through thick and thin. You were also there for me from my darkest moments. Thank you for being there for me no matter what . Yes, when we get intimate you will see my sexy naked body ;D Aw I can't wait to marry you too. I want my first marriage to be my only marriage . I love you baby bear ^^
I love you because you make me so happy. Every time I think about you I start to smile. Every time I'm with you, I love your kisses. Those moments of Intimacy that we have (not heavy touching) but when we're on the table having a personal conversation. I like about you the most is when you treat me right. You're not like those guys in the past that treated me like shit. You were there all along. You were there, especially my darkest moments. You were there when no one gave a fuck.
so not giving up reply back with what you think about it n ill tell you why am not in school which is crazy thinks for reading this n reply back with advice and sorry again for spelling errors
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Hello there dear one!
First off,let me say your hands are full!!
I would like to start out disecting this as best of my ability.
I want to start speaking of this young lady you are with
You mentioned her parents let her leave with her sister till she is 20 and she can have only online friends.
She seems to be running into the same type of men,I do not include you in this manner.
The pattern here,is that she is finding men who ''Want or desire her'' Alot of this my dear,is probably just psychological.She may not have recieved love from her dad growing up,and is trying find love and comfort.She may,from it what you have written here,is going through emotional trauma,and emotional heaviness.In a way she is abusing herself.And I believe she needs help and counseling.I don't mean this in a sad,or mean way or mean it as an insult.
She has gotten herself in very serious trouble,and it will get worse of she doesnt get out of it now.She needs too.
Im sure that her parents have no knowledge of this,but you may want to ask.You may want to ask her if her parents know any of what is going on
its not right for guys to be using her for their own pleasure and circumstances.
Your special girl,is a human being,not meat or piece of property. Shes a special girl who just needs the right type of love.These guys that she is around with wont give her that,and her heart I sense is already very broken.Being used,is such a horrible feeling,Im sure that being with them,does not make her feel good.
The solution is for her to get psychological help.Find a Psychiatrist in the Yellow Pages or the phone book and make sure her parents know this.She is an adult and she is capable of making desicions on her own.
Im sorry the tweo of you had an arguement and I applaud you for caring so much! That is very sweet,and Im sure she will reconize that soon,if she has not already.
Now,let's start with you.You willingness to help is also mixed in with your feelings you have for her.2 different things.
Your feelings have been hurt by this tunnel of craziness you have been in.Im sorry for that
Your feelings are just as involved as hers,and they also count and matter as well!!
I suggest you both take the time to spend an afternoon together.Tell her that you sense she is maybe unhappy and try to sort things out.Let her know how this is affecting you emotionally and you care very much about her.And the choices that she is making will make her life worse.
It sounds like she may or may not want a committment.So leave out for now,lets be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Tell her you are willing to help her,and would like to take it a step at a time.Let her know,she doesnt deserve to be mistreated or dis respected in any way and also that you love her
Be blessed! And feel free to contact me on my advice column!
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