Well i'm a 16 year old girl, whose pretty,fun,and popular and I have alot of friends.But there is a problem that most people don't really see as a problem;i'm italian.Not everyone at my school, but a group of people constantly make jokes to me about my heritage.It all started on the first week on school when we had to write a paper about ourselfs (favorites,ethnic background,religion,ect.) so people could get to know us.well i put in there I was italian,and right after the class these girls came up to me and asked if my dad was in the mafia!what the hell is that about?no body has any respect now adays,and i guess it has to do with shows like the gottis and the sopranos(even tho i love them!) who give people the impression ALL italian-americans are like that,and that all italian-americans have dads like tony soprano.what should I do to get rid of this stigma and situation?thanks alot and I'll rate u a 5 if u don't act all bitchy about it!=)
Well chances are that they are'nt really makeing fun of your heritage but of you. They probally cant find anything to make fun of you about, but they are jealous so this is the only thing they can think of. Just learn to be yourself and not let it bother you. Be proud of who you are dear!
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My old bff spread rumors that i was cutting myself and had social problems when i was out of school one week beacause i had mono. Everyone believed them and it about ruined my social life i had no friends for about a month then i met my new bff. The old one apologized and we are friends again but she always tries to start little fights between us like i couldnt talk to her crush or ne other boy cuz i have a bf. Wut should i do? friends or not friends?
I think you should be friends, but you should tell her everything you are telling us. If she treats you bad or w/e after you tell her everything THEN you should break it. BUt at least give her a chance to prove what she's like.
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I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few weeks ago (he lives in a diffrent state). I called him today and we talked for over half an hour. anyway, we where about to hand up and I said "bye" then he said kinda fast "I love you, bye" then he hung up. Then about 10 minutes later he called he back asking me if I was doing anything for Valintines day. I said no (because im not). then he said ok and hung up. Im confused I think he still likes me but I don't know. I don't even know if I still like him like a boyfriend. Please help.
~*~Britt~*~
Yes, he does still like you, and he is probally having a hard time getting over you. No one can tell you if you still like him like that or not, just think, and think about the good times you had with him. Try to think if you still like him as a boyfriend. Itll take a while but when you find out both of you in the END will be a lot happier.
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please help me me best friend is starting to become well i dont know but like wen ever i say something she goes, "that wasnt funny" if im tryin 2 be funny or not and wenever i say something "like honestly i dont want to tell you" she calls me a bitch and she is not on my team in school and she is becoming a totally different person and i miss the old her and im not tryin to sound mean or jealsous or anything i just miss my friend o and she started straightening her hair and since then she has this ridiculous amount of confidence -- way too much please help ill rate 5's if ur not rude to me
A true friend would never do that to you, for w/e her reason you should never let her do that to you ever. its seems like shes all into herself more that other people, and i think you should keep away for a while. it may hurt, but sooner or later you will find a better friend. i hope everything goes ok.
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okay I really dont know what to do..
Heres a little(a lot) about me. Im not gona say alot of details because i know a couple people on here
Okay well im between 13-18 and a guy. I'm in honners classes but doing really bad in them. My parents expect me to be just like my crazy smart sister. My teachers just had a conference with my mom, it went really bad. MY parents are really strict, and they're not the understanding type of parents because they didnt grow up around here. Thats why i can't figure out a way of telling my parents I have ADD everytest I took online (about 25) said that i was ADD positive. Some people think I have it all because of their current job positions and family income. But I really hate my life, n o one knows what it is like to be me. I have 3 or 4 really good friends. But i can practically never hang out with them. I can't have a girlfriend.
I listin to my music all the time, and am forced to study because of my grades. I think of suicide all day, and I am constantly depressed. the other day my room was partially messy(bed not made) and my mom gets really mad( i think she is bipolar) And makes me tear apart my whole room and makes me stay up till 3AM on a sunday cleaning and i had school the next day. My life a always a drag, its basically a set schedual. I can't change anything I have to be what my parents want me to be otherwise I will be looked down upon.
I know I jumped from topic to topic im really sorry. please reply..i need peoples help
everyone sooner or later has hard times id their life. I've been their myslef when i lost one of my parents, but we have to remember that life will get better. Life was made with challenges, and harships but in the end it will become better. it may take years, but you will never know if you end it. keep strong and one day you will be happy. i know its not easy to just say my life will be better, and it happens. but life is bad if you make it, life is only as hard as you make it. remember that.
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i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her.
Well if she's your friend i think you should be able to tell her, yet you can't expect her to break up with him or anything. If she really likes him, than you just wern't meant for him at the time. And you have to look at her from her side, if he asked you out woulnt you say yes? just try to realise you shouldnt take anything to far over a guy. hope i helped!
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hey! this guy that i like likes me back and he was talking to my friend andhe might ask me out! i would say yes but i have never had a boyfriend and i am in 7th grade... i am the kind of person who thinks we are to young to date... i dont think i want a boyfriend but how do i say no without hurting his feelings, because i still like him?? please help me
For one thing i think you are very bright for realising you dont need a bf. But i think you shoudl tell him the truth.Tell him you're not ready for a real relationship, but that you still like him. If he really likes you he will understand. Dont worry it will all work out fine. Just tell him that maybe later on you will be ready. There is no point of dateing him now if you are not 100% sure its what you want. Because it will be better telling him the truth now then hurting him later.
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What i wonder is why.....i do everything i am asked to do, if i do one thing remotely wrong, im bitched at for several days. Why does she single me out....It cant be because im the oldest, my brother doesn't do anything and he is such a little pecker....So what the hell did i do to piss her off....NOTHING. But i still get bitched at, why do you think this is....its really pissing me off
Yeah some parents are pretty screwd up, but it wont last forever. just like your pissed off she is, and even if shes bitching at you all day there is always a next. everyone has problems and even if it seems it will last forever itll get better. your parents act the same as we do when we get angry, and we have to remember that. i hope you mom treats you better.
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Right I have a christian friend who is like really serious about it, and I some times feel like she is constantly trying to convert me when I've told her that I'm not like her i'm not like a church go-er and it's just i've been bruoght up in a different way to her. I don't want to offend her but can any one suggest ways of making it clear that i don't believe half of what she's saying. (Thanks alot, i rate high!)
Dont try to tell your friend off it could rip you apart, instead why dont you try to talk to her. instead of saying "no im not like that" why dont you talk about YOUR beliefs and talk to her heart to heart. why dont you say "i have my own beliefs and i dont exactly agree with everything you say" and tell her why. try to talk in a adult manner and try not to be rude and so forth. it could even bring you closer talking about something that means so much to the both of you.
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my sisters are so pretty i just feel like im not and i hate that...then i always feel fat to because there are girls in my class who are like size zeros and im like not a size zero im tall and i weigh a bit but what is the average weight of a 14 yr old who is like 5'3 and how could i spruce up my look ill rate if this really helps me thnx
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p.s. is this low self-esteem and how could i have good self esteem
it will be hard but you have got to stop comparing yourself. I did once and then i had a eating disorder. it took me weeks to realise that this is the way i was made, and everyone is beautiful not matter what. If people wear a 0 or a 10 its fine, thats the way you were created. Of course you could always do things to inhance your looks like makeup or hair, but overall you are beautiful no matter what.
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How do i tell my parents i have an eating disorder? i promised my best friend i would do something about it after her reading my journal and finding out. im miserable and depressed and cant stop. how do i tell them?
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Your beautiful no matter what. I have been through the same thing you have. You should tel your parents but if you are to scared to, try to have your best friend watch over you. Your parents might go to far but your best friend will understand. Think about the good things and I hope you get better.
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I give up. I dont deserve gods love. I am not worthy enough for it. He gives me a gift and i dont use it. I fail one class, i am a porn addict. I give up i dont deserve god anymore. I dont even deserve to live, i, i really dont care. i am not good enough. I am not as loyal to him as i should be. i dont deserve him at all. im done. Please give advice or a way to end it all
God makes everything happen for a reason. I know its hard to belive I have felt the same way you have, but your to young to lose your life. God will be the one person who will be there for you no matter what, no matter what you do he will ALWAYS love you. "If god will bring you to it, he will bring you through it" remember that. Please remember there is always tomorrow. Pleasr if you need help agian ask me a question and i will do my best to help you.
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Lately I've been getting headaches and when I close my eyes trying to get them to go away, I see things. Like there's some kind of movie playing on my eyelids. I saw my friend failing her history test and it actually happened word for word. I tried to talk to my friend about it and she thought I was joking around. I'm really scared. I don't want to be a freak. The headaches keep coming and I keep seeing things and I want it to stop.
What should I do and does this happen to anybody else?
Freaked out Psychic?
For one thing I have the same sort of thing. Maybe not as strong as a movie but ill see little clips in my mind of something that will happen thats out of the ordinary. Such as one time my school had a small fire and I had seen that the day before, and it has happend many more times than that. Anyway try to see this as a gift than a curse, and if you want to talk more just say something in my "feedback" hope i helped some
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ok strange stuff has been happening to me I see like some thing happen in my head then they actually come true and soem times I will cry for know reason and then some thing later that day or week some thing really really sad happend weather its on tv or at home and then I told my friend that my cat might die becuz she was really sick and I promise 5 minutes later the vet called to tell us she died I think I am becomeing a freak
Something like this happens to me a lot to. At random moments I will say or think that something will happend, and to my suprise it does.Like certain things that are totally random will pop in my head and the next day or something it will happen. So theres nothing wrong with you, these things could be coinsidence, or you may have a gift to be able to sence things that happen. Just remeber that no one is a freak and "labels" like that are not worth listening to. Anyway if you want to talk about this more you can messege me. I hope I helped some.
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I don't have any guts when it comes to dumping a guy. Well.. OK I must admit this is my first time and we never went out on a date. I just don't want to be in a relationship right now. So, do you think it is ok to write a note to the guy I want to dump and say I don't want to be in a relationship? Or, does anyone know another way where I don't have to talk to him face-to-face. Or, do I have to talk to him like that! PLease help!
I think you should do it on the phone, or if you really dont want email or something. you may be able to get more out that way. and an easier way to do it is to tell him the truth. say you really like him but the realationship is to much for you at the time. tell him it was hard for you to do this but you dont want to hurt him more by pretending that everything is ok.
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my ex boyfriend and i have fights and don't get along very well, and he can be quit of an asshole. But the problem is- were still deeply in love with eachother (sounds weird.. but its really true) We have had problems in the past but we are so in love its like crazy. I lost my virginity to him and we were so close. But we've been broken up for a while and somtimes we fight. I just don't know if i have to move on because he's not 'right' for me?.. [even tho i love him :( ]or i should still talk to him more. Its so hard and i can't get it off my mind ..help
It seems like you two ware meant to be at this time. Dont let your mind get in head of your heart try to go out with him agian. It just seems like neither one of you cant stop thinking of the other, and if you guys get in fights it may be beacause you just miss each other. give it another shot at true love
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Okay how long should u wait for a guy who says he isn't ready for a relationship because he's busy? he says he likes me!
Any guy that says that isnt worth your time, if he loves you he would do anything for you, or even if he likes you he would put you first, for right now keep looking at wait to see what comes for you, if this guy comes to you soon then hes right, and if he doesnt then he isnt
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alright so im trying to get a flat stomach.. well trying to get some fat off my stomach.. can any one try to give me tips like any exercises that i can do and tell me what to do.. like how much i do, how many each day, and how long it will take to get to a flatter stomach ..im aiming to get a flat stomach in like a couple of weeks, but if it will take longer, thats fine thanks a bunch
To get a flater stomach you already know what everyone will tell you, eat less, eat better, excersise. but there is a lot more to that. First of all never eat less, the best thing to do is just eat healther, like salad with lowfat dressing, water, and an apple and thats it for lunch. And when it comes to excersisng try to excersise about 2 hours and a half, try something you like to do. it is also a good thing to try and not to slow yourself down, just keep trying to keep at the same pace, beacause if you take breaks you are more likely to give up. also besides doing something you like (dance, workout etc whatever) try to do push up and crunches for at least a half hour every two days, then work yourself from there
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im in love with this guy. weve been going out for almost 9 months. its real love, not just your average 14 year old junk. anyway.. i just totally dont feel like i deserve him. hes way too good for me. he loves me and he wants to be with me, but i just want the best for him. last night i broke up with him because i think he can do so much better. i want him to be with someone that does deserve him. i cant stop crying and i stole his cape (dont ask) and im attached to it. i miss him so much. but weve broken up and gotten back together so many times, it wouldnt be fair if i got back with him now. what should i do? please help me!
Ok i think your having to little self-esteem, if he choose you and loves you for yourself it wouldnt matter if people think you arnt good enoguh for him. Ask him what he wants to do, and rember not to let your head get in front of your heart.
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me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate
He does love you, but guys are diffrent from girls rite now. it seems like you to respect each other and love each other which i know every girl would do anything to have, your a lucky girl. yet if he is doing something you dont like allow him till your breaking point, but dont let him get to far or you will lose your respect and he mite think he could do anything. put maybe you should bend a little to, not to much but enough to show him " i love you so much i will do this for you" but rember if its to far DONT DO IT no matter what, the last thing you want to do is make a mistake that will keep with you for a while, be independent and stand for yourself
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