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Q: okay im 17/f and (after the holidays lol) im going to be trying to lose 7 pounds! im only going to be eating organic/natural foods but at school for lunch our school only serves unhealthy greasy fried foods usually. i need to bring my own lunch but im not sure what i should bring? whats a healthy lunch i can bring everyday for lunch? (no bread)

Bring fruits and vegetables as a snack.
There isnt really anything that you can fix without bread, such as sandwiches.
Maybe you can fix some pasta or spaghetti the night before, and heat it in the morning, and maybe ask your teacher before lunch if you can reheat it.
You dont have to just eat healthy, you can eat whatever you want, as long as you only eat a portion. Other words, dont eat until your foundered, eat until your satisfied.
Hope I helped.
Happy Holidays.

Q: you know how your curling iron has different heat settings (tempearature), whats the difference it makes to your hair?

like if its really hot , then how is the curl gonna turn out
if its not tthhhat hot, how is the curl gonna turn out..

those kinda stuff

The hotter the iron, the less time its going to take to curl and the more damage its going to do to your hair.
My suggestion, dont put the iron on extremely hot, but not too low either. When you have your hair in the iron, or however you want to say it, spray the hair with hairspray, it doesnt take much, and the curl will hold much better, and turn out so much prettier.

As for different curls, that requires different irons.
A small thin iron, will cause really tight, kinky curls.
A thick, big iron, will cause loose big curls.
Both are georgous.

Q: Okay, so I really like this Junior at my school & I'm a freshman. He says hi to me whenever he passes me in the hallways & I say hi back. Also, we constantly talk over facebook & we have a thousand inside jokes. He also told me that I'm hot & I THINK he told me that he likes me (he said it in a really confusing way). Also, our brothers know each other and both like to play bball so him & I planned to get together with our younger bro's so that they can play bball while we hang out. So like, does he like me? & why doesn't he ask me out?

It sounds like he likes you. If he's making plans to hang out with you, maybe he'll ask you then, or maybe he really wants to get to know you, for who you are. Or, maybe he's shy.
I hope you all work out. Have fun!

Q: 14/f

I'm not fat or chubby or anything. I just have stomach I want to get rid of. I know exercising would help but I don't know what to do. Running? I think sit ups would work right? But how many? And eating healthy. Is there anything else? I weigh about 103, that's normal right? ha, I have a lot of questions as you can see. The other thing is that I don't want to exercise in front of anyone, like family kinda of thing. Its kinda weird unless I want to play basketball or something with my brother. And how do you tone your arms and legs? Thanks so much and sorry for all these questions.

You shouldn't be wanting to lose weight. You weigh like 100 pounds. If you run, you will lose your boobs. Try crunches & sit ups. If you have love handles, try standing straight up, reach up with your arms, and hold a broom horizontally, lean from side to side, not bending over, or your sides. It stretches the love handles, and works the muscles to get rid of them.
As for eating healthy, you can eat what you want, as long as it isnt junk. Just eat, not until you cant eat anymore, just eat enough until your full.
I really dont think you should try to lose weight, especially where you should be hitting your growth spurt pretty soon.
Hope I helped.

Q: Okay so my boyfriend wants to buy me like lingerie..not like bra's and underwear but like those sexy babydoll stuff or the teddy's or whatever..but all the websites we go to only have like huge sizes. I'm small so does anyone know of a good website or store that has small sizes but still have sexy stuff?

www.victoriassecret.com
www.foreplaycatalog.com
www.seductiveinstincts.com
www.3wishes.com

Hope I helped.

Q: Well...If you hadn't read my other questions, this is a short summary.
I am a senior (high school) and I like this guy..We have been really good friends since like august (even though we knew each other before..offically started talking august) I thought he liked me..but i was wrong.

This past sunday we went out to eat and he told me he just got a girlfriend..since 3 days...and hes known her since july...I smile and acted all happy for him even though i was crying on the inside. I swear i have never felt this way..I didn't even start crying until i woke up the next morning. I knew i wasn't ever gunna tell him how i felt cuz it always ruins the friendship..and thats all guys ever see me as...is a friend...so i guess that's all we are..and that's better than nothing...but i wanted something more.

I don't know how to feel..I don't know what to think...and my crying is different...all i have are tears out of my eyes...no sound at all..i must be really hurt.

What should I do?

Well you have two options.
One, you can be friends with this guy. If you cant be his girlfriend, and you cant not talk to him, then atleast your able to be in his presence.
Or.
Two, you can tell him how you feel, unless he's told you that he doesn't like you, then you really cant judge how he feels. You can always give it that chance, and even if he does tell you he doesnt feel the same, tell him you don't want nothing to happen to your friendship.
Sure you'll act weird at first, but time heals everything.

I hope I've helped.
I really don't want to tell you what to do in this situation, mainly because, I don't want to be the reason for your mistake.
I just want to give you your options.

Q: For homecoming I'm designing my own dress but can't figure out what is a good top half that will flatter my boobs.... I know ruffles do the trick (thank you Ouran High School Host Club) but I want something else because I can have the bottom and top be ruffly. Any other ideas?? :(( I need to know soon because if I go home I have a TON of Seventeen magazines that I know have good ideas. Too bad I need to know by today or tomorrow or the next day at least before the 25th.
Thanks please help

First, maybe you could buy one of the miracle bras. They come in handy, I wear a 36 B and they make my boobs look atleast a size bigger.

This may not be your taste at all, but I was thinking maybe a top like one of these.

http://www.edressme.com/46956cor.html

http://www.simplydresses.com/promdresses-by-price/detail.cfm?key=268928&v=PD&cat=promdresses-under-100 (This is really flattering of the boobs)

My opinion, when you design the dress, make sure its tight on your chest area, so it can push the boobs up.

Hope I helped.

Q: ok sooo i just want to know like what are the chances of the world ending in 2012.
thats the year i graduate high school and if like i want to see both sides of the story whhy it will and why it wont end cause if its going to end im jsut going to live it up for the next four years but i dont wanna mess my life up when the world doesnt end. andd does anyone think that world war three is going to happen within the next ehhh fifty years or so?

We as humans will not know when the worlds going to end. Its not up to us, if you believe in God, then you believe whats in the Bible.
I have this problem too, I worry soo much that I'm not going to be able to live my life. I want to get married, have kids, and die a happy old woman. We never know whats going to happen, theres no prediction, the world very well may end tomorrow.
All I'm saying, live like theres no tomorrow, because there may not be, but when it does end, we wont know about it until we end up in heaven or hell.
I hope I got rid of some of your worry.
Stay safe, and dont do anything too drastic.

Q: i love my mum but we tend to get mad at each other a lot..like for simple thing like...she not liking what im wearing.but mabey i might be rude sometimes? and sometimes she would shout at me even if i didnt do much wrong.so i need your help.help me to be able to talk to her so we dont break out into argument.HELP?

Just, talk to her about it.
If she gets angry, just listen to her.
I know you may think that she has no reason to get mad, but if you stop and listen to her, then maybe she has a reason, or maybe she is having problems at work, or maybe she's having relationship problems.
My boyfriend has this problem, him and his mom fight constantly.
I just tell him to roll it off of his shoulder and not argue with her, it helps him. And if you don't say anything back, maybe they'll think that your finally realizing, and theyll just leave you alone.
Or, listen to yourself when you talk to your mom, make sure your not being hateful.
I hope I helped.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been having sex for awhile now. And I want to try some new things. Like just about anything. Different things to do. Anyone have ideas?

New things as in?
- Things to do before sex?
- Ways to arouse him?

-If your wanting ways to arouse him, tease the hell out of him. I climb on top of my boyfriend, with his boxers off of course. I wont let him touch himself to even try to "stick it in" I grind on him, and get him super horny, letting his penis rub my clit area. This drives him WILD!

- Things to do before sex, well, if your having sex, your probably doing everything else such as blowjobs and such. Try new positions. Doggy Style, Cowgirl, just about anything that you haven't tried already. I prefer taking a shower with my boyfriend, especially if no ones gonna be home soon. Then, I hit the bed!

-Buy you some lube. Or if you dont want to, let someone you know, that knows you have sex to buy some.

Hope I helped.

Q: ok so when me and my boyfriend like start rubbing against each other with our underwear on...either im on top or he is. orr when he fingers me...ohhhh....or licks me. i want to moan and just ohhh....like sooooo badd... but i kinda cant cuz his parents are usually right downstairs. what to do? ohh and can i get pregnant by this?

Well, I disagree about the loud music if his parents already think that you all are sexually active. If you put on loud music they may walk in to tell you to turn it down, or be more suspicious about whats going on.
My suggestion is, moan quietly. Or, put a pillow over your head. You can moan, trust me, it doesnt have to be loud.
The pregnancy deal. I'm not sure you can get pregnant with just the juice going in you, if sperm got in though, like the little sticky stuff, then theres a chance. But you dont have anything to worry about, unless he gets off while you all are grinding.
Hope I've helped!

Q: There is a scene at the end of the film where Bella is "dying" or thinks she is. Her and Edward are laying in a field with snow, i cannot find the song that is playing i have listen to the soundtrack and the "score" cd. Does anyone know what it is?

thanks

http://www.metrolyrics.com/let-me-sign-lyrics-rob-pattinson.html

its called let me sign
but its not a full song

Q: I have been interested in this boy for a 2 months or so. He is 17, and i am a year older. I'll call him Donny. So Donny is friends with my brother, that's how we met. About three weeks ago, my brother, Donny, a few of their friends and I went to the movies. After that, Donny came over to my house and we ended up having sex. He was a virgin. Since then, we have talked just about every day. Sometimes he comes over after school just to hang out. I am stuck on why he won't do anything sexual (except for that one night). My parents are never home when he is here. One weekend they went out of town and he came over, i was drunk with some of my friends and still nothing happened. Most guys would not pass up anything with a girl under the influence. Then a few nights ago he was in my room again and still nothing. Is he scared to do anything again or what?

Maybe, he isn't just a regular guy.
He's a possible gentleman, one of the very few the society has left.
Ask him about it, tell him how you feel, and that your not just interested in sex, your in it for a relationship, and you don't regret what happened between you two, but you'd like to take it slow.
Hope I helped.

Q: Oksy, so I am not in need of a lecture on how I nned to be protected from oregnancy and STD's. I have take the proper precautions; I have been taking BC pills for almost 3 months now and I have condoms on hand. I am planning on doing with someone I trust and care for very much. No need to worry too much, I know the consequences and what-not.

My question is more of what would be the least painful way to lose virgnity. I have never been fingered but am willing to if it helps. Also, I am a rather tiny person so I don't know if that makes a difference. Is the top or bottom better for pain? If it hurts can we stop or is it one of those things that's going to hurt as much on the way out as it did on the way in? Does masterbation make it easier for later? (random detail: i know i get wet rather easily, as in turned on, would this benefit me or make it woerd?)

I am 18/f and he is 22/m if this makes a difference. In Canada that's legal right? As in, the legal consent age is 18 right, not 19?

It is best to be fingered first, starting with one finger, then two, then three.
It helps to loosen you up so it wont hurt as bad.

Then, it may help if your ontop so you'll know how you want to have sex, and how hard and fast.

Some like it better on bottom their first time because the feeling that they're doing it wrong.

If your on bottom hold the guy by his waist so you can control how fast or slow he goes.

Q: ... Uh, 'get off' I suppose you could say. Me and my boyfirend have been together two years and he was also my first, so he's really been the only thing I've known to do with sexual experiences and vice versa, because he never touched a girl before me either.

Sex with him is fantastic. He's developed this 'I - get - the - most - pleasure - from - giving - you - pleasure' thing. And whilst that makes me feel guilty sometimes, it's fantastic and he really always seem eager and less eager when I suggest a position where he would probably get more from, but last alot less time.

As it is he only lasts around ten minutes, but it's so darn good I couldn't care less. While I have a high sex drive, I get tired very easily by all this anyway, so it seems like the perfect match.

But I've never really 'got off' - (I am right, that means to orgasm? - if it's not, I'm talking about the big O here guys :)) - and I know theres not any specific way how apart from everything he's supposed to touch. I'm not comfortable with masturbation so even though we've explored together what feels good, any tips and tricks that do it for YOU would be great help to me.

I'll try anything, so fire away with ideas - boys and girls.

Try different things.
Slow & deep.
Or slow & shallow.
Get on top of him, shift yourself & figure out what you like.

Q: Can anyone tell me some famous groups of 4? Me and 3 of my friends have to dress up like that for Halloween.
(other than the beatles) (and other than sex and th city...we loveeeed that idea...but it was already taken)

THANKS!

All 4 Charmed Sisters.
You could be the Spice Girls, but theres 5.
Disney Princess's.
The Wizard of Oz Characters.
Looney Tunes Characters.
Mickey Mouse & Friends.
Rugrats.
Spongebob.
Wiggles.
Winnie the Pooh & Friends.
Teletubbies.
Deck of Cards.
=]

Q: what is best way to commit sucide

The best way to commit suicide is to NOT do it.
Just think, your family, & friends, they'll all miss you terribly.
Talk to a teacher about it, or someone you can trust.
Don't take your life over something/someone ignorant.
You may feel rejected, humiliated, but don't commit suicide.

Q: I need names for head characters in the book i'm attempting to write...one male and one female.

I want unique names, but nothing too out of this world. Any ideas? All will be considered =)

Thanks in advance!!

Girls:
Ariel, Selena, Kylie, Chante, Isabelle, Hoku, Keeley, Shakara [Shuh Kar uh], Trinity...

Boys:
Aiden, Wyatt, Ryder...

Q: ok i fingered my girl friend..... problem is i might have had semon or pre cum on my fingers.... is there a chance she could be pregnant because she is a week and a half late starting her period.

Well, theres always a chance that she could be pregnant.
I've always heard that cum dies when it hits air, but like the others, I don't believe thats true.
If she's not on Birth Control, maybe she just misplaced her period, I use to do that alot.
Stress can also cause a missed period.
Go to the local drug store, or doctor, and take a pregnancy test.
& if you don't feel comfortable going and getting one, ask a TRUE & TRUSTABLE older friend to get you one.
Hope I helped.

Q: does anyone know of the best vitamin\mineral for, mental health?...

like protein is good, but what else is good?

thanks.

I read the other day in our health book, the best vitamins to use would be Vitamin A & C.

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Whats to say? I'm not so anonymous!
I'm a fifteen year old girl, that lives in the middle of no where, seriously! My parents are the best ever! They are the ones I go to for advise. I have an older sister, by three years, and a younger adopted brother, by 6 years.
I enjoy riding horses, swimming, camping, fishing, tanning, shopping, and hunting! So, I'm not your average girl. I HATE pink!
I have a best friend, of 6 years. She's beyond crazy! She inspires me in so many ways.
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