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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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I'm 15 and need personal references for job applications. Everyone tells me to use my teachers, but I'm already out of school and I was never that close to any of my teachers (they all liked me, but I just wasn't close to them). I haven't done any volunteer work or anything like that, and I don't play sports, so no coaches. I don't know any of my neighbors very well, except for the ones who are my friends' families. I have no idea who I could put down. Help?
I put down:
My best friend's mom
My mom's friends...the ones I'm close to
Do you babysit? Put the parents of whoever you babysit down
basically;
- i get lightheaded easily
- i zone out a lot
- i get madddd headaches out of no where
- i get really moody
- i feel queasy often
- i get really lazy and unmotivated
- i have trouble fallin/stayin asleep
what could this be ??? im sick of it ! thanks :/
Maybe your hyperglycemic.
You have to get blood work to find out ORRR if you know anyone that's diabetic, ask them if you could test your blood sugar with their machine.
But I'd go to a doctor :)
Message back if you have any questions. I wrote this assuming you know about diabetes and such :)
I really really like this guy and ive never liked someone as much as i like him. Hes really sweet to me but much more experienced. He tells me all the time thats its cool that im a virgin that i should keep it and that hes not going to try to have sex with me. When we are kissing and he thinks it might go to far he just stops for awhile to cool off. He even checks to make sure im ok when doing just the little things. But im very confused one of my best guy friends hates him and tells me all the time that hes just going to use me for sex and then leave. The other night i was talking to one of my friends and one of his best friends and then he tells me that he thinks hes going to use me for sex because hes been having sex with girls and then just moving on. I asked him if he said anything if he had flat out said he was going to use me for sex but his friend said he has said nothing at all. So what do i do? is he using me for sex? I really really like him and i really trust him but its very hard when people are constantly telling me bad things about him. When we are together hes so sweet and honest he never pressures so how do i believe these awful things people are saying? do i talk to him? if so what should i say?
Most guys who "use girls for sex" tend to be sweet and nice.
That's not your issue. Your a virgin. You should save something SO special like that for someone who deserves it. Someone who has proven to you they love you and proving something like that takes a long time. I can tell by reading your post, your not ready for sex and having sex with that guy would be a wrong choice.
Long story short, I went to my boyfriend's yesterday afternoon. His apt is infested with bed bugs, and didn't know until I sat down and saw one crawl out of a pillow. Freaked out, left, and inspected myself.
I went home a nervous wreck thinking I have bed bugs now. I looked clean when I inspected my clothes and purse. I have no worry about my car because it sits in 100+ degrees heat anyway. My mom helped me clean my room, my bed, including the mattress, the sheets, she and I did my laundry, did everything! Dusted walls too. I kept inspecting for bed bugs several times yesterday, but found nothing. I found one small blood spot on my sheets afterwards, and I don't know if was me (because I have a skin infection, I sometimes bleed at night) or an actual bed bug. No evidence of fecal matter either.
Well this morning, I woke up with light red, small bumps on my hand. Freaking out, I again inspected my bed. Nothing again. Did research to try compare mosquito bites with bed bug bites. Only thing I got was bed bug bites have a white center, and mosquito bites usually don't. And bb bites last for a weeks; however mosquito bites last a day or two.
That being said, they were small, light red, and itchy. I applied calamine lotion, and relieved it. Well it's been approximately 7 hours, and the redness and itching already went down. My take is it was a mosquito bite, but never thought they bite multiple times..
I just need second opinions on this. Please, don't call me super paranoid, or insane. I already have staph on my skin, I don't need any more skin problems right now. It'll just make it worse.
Thanks.
WOAH! Reading your passage I could totally feel the intense paranoia you got there. Even if you didn't want to hear "Your too paranoid", TOO BAD. You also asked for 2nd opinions :)
So, let me get this straight. Your freaking out because you have skin issues. It's probably one of those things that's ALWAYS on your mind. So, your real paranoid about anything ruining your skin more than it already is?
You've inspected your house...cleaned everything...even walls...YOUR FINE.
Calamine lotions good. Take a hot bath, too.
Okay...21f, he's 23m. I'm just looking for some insight, here.
I just graduated college. My studies led me to realize that my real career lies in counseling. So, I'm planning to go back to my school and do a post-bacc in psychology and sociology, then do a counseling M.A.
My boyfriend has recently decided that he wants to do the same. Except he can postpone his graduation and do a minor...and his parents will pay for it, provided there's an "-ology" at the end of his degree, and he actually will be able to say he has a minor in psychology. I won't.
My parents can't help me pay for my classes, and I can't get a job that will, either, yet...but I'm working on it.
So here's the problem:
I'm jealous of my boyfriend. I should be HAPPY that he's showing interest in something I love, that we're going to be able to study for the same classes at the same time (if I can find a way to pay for them by Fall semester, and can get in). I should be excited that we found something so big in common, and maybe even learn to understand each other better by doing this. I don't understand why I'm upset that he's following my lead.
The only problem I see coming from this is that he and I are both ridiculously competitive, and I'm better at psychology than he is. He's taken more lecture classes than I have and he tends to do better on tests than I do, but I have more of a passion for it. I foresee him maybe being a little intimidated. But I'm also a better singer than he is and he has no problem admitting that - he even asked me for coaching.
My dad, when I asked him (he's a psychiatrist), said maybe I'm feeling upset because psychology was kind of my "thing", my identity, and maybe I feel like he's infringing on it...but I'm not so sure if that's the case. My guy IS part of my identity, and I love sharing everything with him. We took an English class together before - he got a 4.0, I got a 3.9 because I had some medical problems - and it was fun. We studied together, we laughed about class, I memorized Dante's Inferno just so I could get a better exam grade than he did...it was great.
I don't know why I'm so upset about this. I'm normally very logically-minded, and I can't figure this out because it's all unfounded emotion, not logic. I'm hoping an objective third party will be able to.
Anyone?
My boyfriend and I are competitive to the EXTREME too. But we both know this and laugh about it. I always win ;) We've been together since the 7th grade and we're both going into our senior year of high school. I too want to become a Psychologist where as he wants to be a math teacher. I must admit, if I was in the situation you were in and he decided to switch over to my passion, I would feel a little insecure about it, too. I take that back. Extremely insecure about it AND guilty that I feel that way.
Basically, your dad is right. But I think its more like this, in my opinion:
You really are happy he's showing an interest in something you love. But the fact that the money and everything is there for him to pursue YOUR passion, it's not for you right now. Maybe your worried that you might not be able to accomplish your goal, whereas, he will because money is not an issue.
Is this a joke, or is it real?
A friend told me that a graduating senior at bonny eagle high school had his diploma taken away because he blew a kiss to his mom in the audience. Can tis really be for real? Is bonny eagle high school the most retarded place of earth or something? Someone tell me that no school would take away someone's diploma and not let them graduate over this?
This can't be real, can it?
http://www.wmtw.com/education/19763059/detail.html
By the way, this is an ADVICE column.
I have had recent issues with my monitor and don't know how to fix. While watching movies on Netflix during the movie my monitor blacks out until i move the mouse. What can be the problem? Please help.
haha what an easy fix. Ever hear of a SCREEN SAVER?!
Right click on your desk top (which means you have no windows up while you click) and click properties--->screen saver--->and set it to NONE
:)
16/f
I'm an extremely sensitive person, but I try to never show my feelings. I don't want to come off as a weak person, but inside I think I am. I get hurt by the smallest things that shouldn't bother me. Usually the things that I get hurt by has to do with my boyfriend. Like, he doesn't say I love you often or he doesn't say things that I need to hear, etc. And this does not help our relationship at all.
I hateee being this way! Does anyone have any tips to becoming emotionally stronger?
Thanks!
Well my dear, sorry to tell you this, but it aint love when he's acting so darn selfish! When you really love someone, you go out of your way not to hurt them. When he's not putting himself in your shoes and in all honestly not giving a damn about how his actions hurt you, then you need to find someone who does!
ALSO being overly sensitive can be caused/worsen BECAUSE of boyfriends like him. You get to a point where you think its OK for someone to make you feel like crap about yourself and YOUR to blame for feelings "overly sensitive"
Being overly sensitive leads to low self esteem which makes you put yourself down a lot...which is what your doing. If he was doing all the right things, you wouldn't get hurt so much by small things and then blaming your self. That's not right. That's not a healthy relationship.
I'm on Advicenators to help guide people through their issues. That also includes in some cases people come to me with an issue and I help by trying to guide them to the REAL issue. You are one of those cases. Yes your issue may be "How to not be so sensitive" Then your questions should be "What things make me so sensitive" This is where "growing up" comes in handy. Make the right decision for yourself!
im looking for one of those sites that has all of those couples graphics
like the ones with close ups of hands holding and stuff like that
if anyone could send me some sites itd be appreciated!
Just go to photobucket.com and type in whatever your looking for in the search bar.
I typed in "Holding hands" and got a couple of cute pictures on the first page! :)
well we were havinq problems with our jet ski , so we sent them into the shop. it ' s been weeks since. they told us to come in &_ pick up our jet ski. when we qet there they had our jet ski taken apart &_ not fixed what so ever. my question is ;is this even leqal ? can they make us pay for all these parts &_ not even fix it ?
I'm sure there is some kind of way you can sue them. Just tell them look dudes, you either fix our jet skis or we're going to sue and run your asses out of business because we've already contacts our lawyer and he said give you 10 days (or however many days you want lol) to fix this mess, or YOUR going to be in an even BIGGER mess.
Trust me, scaring them works :)
INFACT! I'd even make up some legal paper on the computer ;) ohhhh ya
i got a wireless router..none of my pc's have internet except the desktop! can u help plz?
Wireless routers are used for laptops...
As far as I know, and I'm not for certain, but if your trying to get internet on more than one DESKTOP in the house, not laptops, then you have to contact your service provider (ex: Verizon, AOL, ComCast, ext.) and they will send out a usb flash key thing which pretty much acts as a router.
BUT if your talking about getting internet on LAPTOPS, not desktops, then I can help there. Just message back and remember, even if you message someone back on here, its still annoyomus.
just turned 19- female.
not feeling pretty isnt really something ive had a problem with UNTIL now. my brother whose 22 always says i look like cindy lou who from the grinch and everyone always agrees, i think its because of my nose (which ive always been insecure about) and then last night this guy was like you kinda look like a chimpmunk. and i was like ooooh thaaanks? now i am so embarassed and feel like when someone looks at me their going to think i either look like cindy lou who or a chimpmunk or something like that. its not a good feeling. thanks to them my self esteem is very low now. what do i do?
lol aww
Chimpmonks are cute! So is Lindy Lou!
I have a weird nose, too. Everyone comments about it. Onetime this lady said "You have a nose just like my grand daughter! He nose stick up in the air just like yours!" Whadda hoe! lol
So with that in mind, everyone has something their insecure about.
Quote: "Wear confidence like its make up"
And that ^^^ is their secret. Everyone you see how some kind of insecurity that is definitely noticeable, but when you see someone with confidence, you truly don't see anything else. Think about it. Tis true! :) So just do a little bit of soul thinkin and work on your confidence.
I like this person and he is all about just having me as a friend with bennifet.. I had sex with him once and he said it was ok. I dont think he is going to come around again. I really do like him but I dont think I am his type because he is into the skinny weman. I am thick.. I would want some type of a relactionship with him. Is there something I can do to get his attenction?? I know by writting this it is very stupid of me to like something like this but I know I would be good for him but he doesnt see it.
OH OH! Low self esteem alert! STOP RIGHT THERE!
This is where society is messed up sometimes. See, the way the whole dating thing SHOULD work is the man does everything he can to please US ladies. They try to win OUR hearts over.
NOT the other way around. That boy sounds like a punk! Telling you the sex was ok and all he wants is sex with bennifets? What a jerk!
I will not, no one will actually, sit here and try to give you advice on how to get a creep's attention. Its obvious your a sweet girl and care a lot about others and their feelings. Give all your lovable energy to someone who deserves it because he doesn't.
Wanna work on that self esteem, I can help. Message me, its still annoymus ya know.
19/female.
so last night was my cousins grad party. it started to get a little boring so me my brother, his fiance and my brothers friend and my friend started drinking. i took 6 shots, and i was gone. welll then my good friend joe came over with his family and i guess i jumped on top of him and then i rememeber talking to him and he was kind of mad at me for getting like that because he doesnt like when people do that. i was like your going to take care of me right? and he was like no, and i was like what you're my best friend you suppose to watch out for me. and he was like you shouldnt of done it then. and then my brothers fiance comes and is like come outside and do some more and joe was like.....no, no more. he ended up leaving to go to another grad party and didnt come back because he ended up hanging out with his girlfriend (BLAH) well then i felt really bad because people were like he's really mad that you did that and so i texted him last night and was like love you jj, dont be mad at your best friend like everyone was telling me you were. and he never said anything back! i dont know what to do. i get drunk maybe ONCE a year, he knows im not like that and its kind of a tradtion to have fun and all that at graduations. PLUS i have a little crush on him, even though he has a girlfriend but obviously i dont want him to be mad. i dont know what to do :\
I bet 10 bucks he has a crush on you, too. Otherwise, he probably wouldn't care like he did that you got drunk.
Tell him your embarrassed at the way you acted and your really sorry you offended him like that. You know he's only acting like that because he cares. Your 19, do you knowwwww what your doing to your body with all that alcohol? He doesn't want to see you make those stupid decisions. And um, don't forget what the word "sorry" means.
I'm a guy with a playboy bunny tattoo on my arm. I was stupid and got it on a whim and wish I had never done it now. I'm not a player, and was never into playboy mag. Removal is not an option ($$$).
Anyway, when I meet somebody and we go on our first, 2nd or 3rd date, at some point I need to reveal my tattoo, since she'll see it a somepoint and I'd rather not surprise her.
When I go out wearing a tank or even a short sleeve shirt, I've never had any success meeting girls, as they tend to be repulsed by my bunny because of first impressions.
It's awkward and embarassing, so what would be the best way to tell her on a date, or respond on a bad first impression when my bunny is showing ?
http://i481.photobucket.com/albums/rr176/cmorton57/Playboy%20bunny/img3.jpg
lol aww
Well, Mr. Hue Hefner girls love guys who can make them laugh. Think of the story as to WHY you even got that tattoo and try to make it humerus. Laugh it off.
Way to bring it up? Try to get into one of those conversations where you say "I'll tell you a secret if you tell me one"
Then say "Alright, promise you won't laugh? *Tell your story* tell her you definitely plan on getting in removed, and then show her"
I mean, any girl who would totally turn her face because of a tattoo is way to materialistic and stuck up as far as I'm concerned.
20/f
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and this is my longest relationship and it has become serious. We have discussed marriage (im not sure if this is what is pulling me away or not cause i am scared of commitment) I care so much for him and he is head over heels for me. He is such a great guy and would do anythihng for me, but I dont feel that pull on my heart or butterflies in my stomach anymore like i did at the beginning of the relationship. Im not sure if im just getting bored with him or if i dont have as strong of feelings for him anymore. Does/has anyone else whos been in a long term/serious relationship feel this way? Will it change? and what can i do to fix it so im not feeling so bored and can get that spark back?
Thanks so much for your help!
A year? You've probably been through a lot together.
Sounds to me like you love him. Your just bored with the relationship. Spice things up!
BUT communication is key. I think you better tell him how your feeling. If your over there working on trying to spice things up between you two by yourself without him even knowing there needs to be a little spice, well, things just aren't going to work out as plan.
A key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION. Its not just your relationship, its both. You need to talk about it.
Look up some fun activities online you two could do together.
okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. we've tried to have sex a couple of times but we can never seem to get it in. i end up getting frustrated only show it and give up. i really want to share this experience with him - is there a way to get his penis inside of me easier? we've already tried fingering.
he claims it was in before when i was on top - but i didn't feel anything. is it supposed to hurt?
thanks!
I'm going to give you a personal story, but first I have to say DO NOT USE SOAP AS A LUBE! That could cause your vagina to get irritated!!!
So, I have yet to hear a story from people saying their first time DIDN'T hurt. So I was really surprised when my first time I didn't feel a thing. Well, I shouldn't say that. It felt good ;) lol
So, yes it is possible that it went in and it didn't hurt.
2nd personal experiences: I too was in your situation where it just wouldn't go in!
Solutions: Get fingered by 2 fingers. If he can fit 2, work on that. If one is all you can take then don't try sex until you can get 2.
Another solution: LUBE! KY brand. They sell it at Walmart and Walgreens
I work with a hot guy at work and i want to be more than friends . the only problem is that he has a girlfriend he says there not serious but i want him.
Sounds to me like you came here not for advice, but for someone to tell you what you WANT to hear, which is "to go get 'em!"
Well, I'm not here to tell people what they want to hear. I'm here to tell people what they NEED to hear.
First thing: Why would you want someone who's talking like that about his girlfriend? "Ah us? We're not that serious. I mean, I'm only in a relationship with her." You know who uses that line? Jerks. That's the line guys use when they have a girl on the line, want others, but are too afraid to let the first one go. That other girl has no idea he's saying things like that about their relationship. Because hunny, he's definitely going back to her and telling her something completely different. If you got with him, I guarantee he'd do the same thing to you. And don't think "Oh no, he wouldn't do that to me, this is different." Its not. If it was, he would of already broke up with that other chick and went with you.
Think about it ;)
Wasn't to sure what folder to put this in, so I hope this is the right one!!
Since I was about 14 I've wanted to have a baby so much, and to make it worse 8 of My close friends have recently had babies (It isn't one of them "well If My friends have one I want one" moments) none of which where planned.
However Me and my Boyfriend both want a child, sooner rather than later we have spoke about where we would live, about income and how we would support our child.
In all honesty I know I'm ready to be a Mum.
I am currently going into My last year at collage where I am studying 4 academic subjects and planning to go to university in the future.
I know people will say wait till I am older and have more to offer My child but I want someone to give Me honest oppinons and let Me know about maybe any experiences they have had.
The Last part of My problem is if I was to ave a child, I know My family would not be best please, they would support Me, but I know that I would have let them down!!
Whenever I see somebody else with a beautiful baby girl or boy, I can just imagine myself in that position giving a baby un conditional love and anything which they need.
Please give Me your honest advice as I would very much appreciate it.
!Thanks!
Female - 17 -
"Whenever I see somebody else with a beautiful baby girl or boy, I can just imagine myself in that position giving a baby un conditional love and anything which they need."
YOU CAN'T OFFER ANYTHING WHICH THEY NEED RIGHT NOW!!!
Becoming the best mother you could possibly be is a goal just like any other goal. Not every woman has it, but some do. Your one of those! Don't look at it as something you want now, look at it as something you could have once your READY and CAN do that. You picturing the perfect house, the perfect family, never haven't to worry about money and such. SOMEDAY you CAN have that. Not now. Work towards your "goal". K?
I know this sounds random but I have been thinking about sleeping with My boyfriend and he would be My first.
The thing is he has told Me he is also a virgin, but for some reason I can't quite believe him, I trust him about everything else but I just can't get My head around that he is a virgin, because he isn't the type of boy who appears to be and his mates are always going on about who they have recently slept with.
I really don't know what to believe.
Secondly if I was to sleep with him and he was a virgin, would he know what he was doing because I personally don't have a clue, I'm shy and easily embarrassed. I've been in a relationship with him for a while but still don't feel I know him that well.
Female - 17
Sounds like your not ready to have sex. ESPECIALLY with him. Sex should be something you share with someone who you absolutely love. ESPECIALLY for your first time.
Seems like you already picked up on the whole "This dude will say anything to get in my pants..." trick and believe me, guys knows their better off telling us their virgins than not.
So wait.