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first time - sex
okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. we've tried to have sex a couple of times but we can never seem to get it in. i end up getting frustrated only show it and give up. i really want to share this experience with him - is there a way to get his penis inside of me easier? we've already tried fingering.
he claims it was in before when i was on top - but i didn't feel anything. is it supposed to hurt?
thanks!
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Fingering with 2-3 fingers should do it.
Lots of lube with a lubricated condom will help.
Relax and wait, he needs to push it in harder. Usually the head isn't easy to get in at first, but once that's past.. it shouldn't be a problem.
It didn't hurt for me but I definitely felt it, so maybe just the tip of his head got in.
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I'm going to give you a personal story, but first I have to say DO NOT USE SOAP AS A LUBE! That could cause your vagina to get irritated!!!
So, I have yet to hear a story from people saying their first time DIDN'T hurt. So I was really surprised when my first time I didn't feel a thing. Well, I shouldn't say that. It felt good ;) lol
So, yes it is possible that it went in and it didn't hurt.
2nd personal experiences: I too was in your situation where it just wouldn't go in!
Solutions: Get fingered by 2 fingers. If he can fit 2, work on that. If one is all you can take then don't try sex until you can get 2.
Another solution: LUBE! KY brand. They sell it at Walmart and Walgreens
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if you can, try having sex in the shower/bath. your muscles will be much more relaxed, making it easier. the first time will always hurt, but if you can use soap as a lubricant, it will make it go in easier, which will make it not hurt as bad. hope this helps. :)
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ahh, the ultimate frustration, the tight trainwreck. you need to relax, its your muscles contracting. thats the usual cause of your problem. just try to have some fun, and see what happens. my tanker buddy dan had the same problem with his german girlfriend a few years back, they figured it out with a language barrier, so you guys shouldn't have as much trouble. just don't expect it to be amazing when you finally do. its a bit of a letdown.
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