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Bored or no more feelings left??? :(
20/f
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and this is my longest relationship and it has become serious. We have discussed marriage (im not sure if this is what is pulling me away or not cause i am scared of commitment) I care so much for him and he is head over heels for me. He is such a great guy and would do anythihng for me, but I dont feel that pull on my heart or butterflies in my stomach anymore like i did at the beginning of the relationship. Im not sure if im just getting bored with him or if i dont have as strong of feelings for him anymore. Does/has anyone else whos been in a long term/serious relationship feel this way? Will it change? and what can i do to fix it so im not feeling so bored and can get that spark back?
Thanks so much for your help!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Butterflies and such definitely happen alot less often the further you get into a relationship.
When you start out dating someone, you're in the honeymoon phase. Everything is perfect and exciting and champagne and strawberries. After a while, that "new" wears off a bit. You see their flaws, you start to fight, you feel distant.
This is where the deciding comes in. Its where you need to know if you love this person, and want to work on it, or if you need to leave.
Relationships take work. Staying in love takes work, communication, cooperation. There are days where my girlfriend and I can't stand each other. It happens with anyone who spends time around each other.
But under that, the love is still strong. We always come back to each other to work it out. We reconnect, we talk, we fix things.
Will it change? If you want it to. If you want to make this work, and you want to talk to him. Its not that hard to get that feeling back when love is there.
As to if you love him? Only you can figure that part out.
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A year? You've probably been through a lot together.
Sounds to me like you love him. Your just bored with the relationship. Spice things up!
BUT communication is key. I think you better tell him how your feeling. If your over there working on trying to spice things up between you two by yourself without him even knowing there needs to be a little spice, well, things just aren't going to work out as plan.
A key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION. Its not just your relationship, its both. You need to talk about it.
Look up some fun activities online you two could do together.
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