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How to not be so sensitive.
16/f
I'm an extremely sensitive person, but I try to never show my feelings. I don't want to come off as a weak person, but inside I think I am. I get hurt by the smallest things that shouldn't bother me. Usually the things that I get hurt by has to do with my boyfriend. Like, he doesn't say I love you often or he doesn't say things that I need to hear, etc. And this does not help our relationship at all.
I hateee being this way! Does anyone have any tips to becoming emotionally stronger?
Thanks!
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I was the same way. I'm not as bad I was before. This could be your boyfriends cause, then just other things add on. If he treats you like this he isn't a good boyfriend. Try talking to him about your feelings. Tell him how you feel. I know this isn't about your boyfriend but in a way it is.
So the things I did to help me was just sit back and think for awhile and relax. I would try to get myself in control and I tried to make myself have a better image. I was mostly sensitive because I cared about what people think of me. I was afraid like, "what if this shirt is too tight" or something of the sort. Like wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and pretty. Ya know? So you won't care that much of what people say because you know you look nice.
So just work with yourself and understand that things you get upset with that are small. Forget about them. They don't matter so why bother with them? Try to find something else to think about when something goes wrong.
And to get your boyfriend to be more sensitive towards you, you need to talk to him. If he doesn't stop, he's not worth it.
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Well my dear, sorry to tell you this, but it aint love when he's acting so darn selfish! When you really love someone, you go out of your way not to hurt them. When he's not putting himself in your shoes and in all honestly not giving a damn about how his actions hurt you, then you need to find someone who does!
ALSO being overly sensitive can be caused/worsen BECAUSE of boyfriends like him. You get to a point where you think its OK for someone to make you feel like crap about yourself and YOUR to blame for feelings "overly sensitive"
Being overly sensitive leads to low self esteem which makes you put yourself down a lot...which is what your doing. If he was doing all the right things, you wouldn't get hurt so much by small things and then blaming your self. That's not right. That's not a healthy relationship.
I'm on Advicenators to help guide people through their issues. That also includes in some cases people come to me with an issue and I help by trying to guide them to the REAL issue. You are one of those cases. Yes your issue may be "How to not be so sensitive" Then your questions should be "What things make me so sensitive" This is where "growing up" comes in handy. Make the right decision for yourself!
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