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My name is Kate! I'm 19 years old and I'm a freshman at Penn State Univeristy! I play tennis and love to listen to music. I love to write and I'm planning on majoring in Advertising/Public Relations.

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I am 15/male.
Its pretty much exactley what it sounds like. Im sick of disapointing my parents. I fail school. I dress so awkwardley that there embarresed to be seen with me. Im a complete total fuck up. I have anger issues. Im always fighting with my mom. I told her i didnt want to be a part of the family, and the look on her face KILLED me inside. They found out i smoke, and my mom didnt do anything except cry. becuase her mom died at like 30 from cancer. Im always getting in trouble with them. Oh and i like men. and i cant tell them that becuase i cant and i wont deissapoint them more. Im sad to say that the easiest way to get through this, is to kill myself. Im not really looking for advice. Im kind of just venting to anyone who cares. :(
Sincerley,
Me.

Please know that there are people who care about you, people who would miss you if you were gone. I think you should read this, it helped me when I felt like it was the only way out.

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

I'm sure your parents want you to be successful, and I believe you that they may be disapointed sometimes, but they still love you. I've felt exactly like you did, like I couldn't get anything right, like I didnt have a handle on my own life.

I think you should give more thought to coming out to your parents, I don't know them, so I cannot say how they would react, but if you feel they would be disappointed but still accept you, then tell them. They may not approve, but remind them that you are still the same person, still their son.

You said it yourself, "the easiest way to get through this, is to kill myself" well don't take the easy way out. Life is something worth fighting for, don't ever forget that.

I care and I am willing to talk to you online if you would like. I'll listen to you and try to help you out. Either drop a question in my inbox or instant message me on aim. My screen name is wishes count.

Kate

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i wanna go to school to be a journalist when i get outta high school. since you are older than me and really close to going to college, do you know any colleges that are good to major in journalism from?? alott of people are telling me its like really hard to graduate and become successful in journalism but i really don't know. i just know that that's really what i wanna do when i get older. any tips??

The schools on this listing are from The Accrediting Council on Education in Journalism and Mass Communications. I would suggest looking at the ones on the listing first by clicking on the link to the university's website.

http://www2.ku.edu/~acejmc/STUDENT/PROGLIST.SHTML

Keep in mind that at many schools journalism is not shown as a major. At some schools journalism is a specific track of the Communications major. So just because you don't see journalism on the list doesn't mean it isn't offered.

Also you may want to look into public relations, advertising, radio, or broadcasting as well. Find out about each of these fields as well, to help you make a decision.

People will say it is hard to get a degree, but that is mainly because it is a lot of writing. If you don't like writing then you probably shouldn't be a journalist. There are jobs in this field, but remember that you wont start out writing for the New York Times, you have to work your way up to the top. Don't let others discourage you from what you want to do.

If they are available at your high school join the newspaper staff (if you aren't on it already) take a television production class, public speaking, creative writing classes or clubs. All of these will help prepare you for college.

When you visit colleges you are interested in make an appointment to meet with someone from the communications dept. They will be able to give you insight about the school and the journalism program, and you can ask them any questions you have.

Kate

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Where can i get a pair of cute red jeans? I have been trying to find some for years. Thanks.

I just saw a pair yesterday at Kohls. I think they were made by candies.

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My Sweet 16 is coming up in early December.
The DJ told me to pick out one song for each of the following things:
1. My enterance
2. Cake Cutting
3. Last Song of the Night.

I'm thinking I'll have Piece of Me by Britney Spears playing when I enter. But I'll still take suggestions for it! Does anyone had any ideas fot the other ones?

At one sweet sixteen I went to they played the song sixteen candles while the girl lit the candles. It was really cool because for each candle she dedicated it to someone, one was her parents, another was for her best friend, another was for the kids in drama club. After she said who the candle was for the DJ played music as she lit the candle.

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I'm a freshman and I'm on the swim team for my high school.
This past weekend we went to State swim meet that was about 3 hours away.
Friday night we had so much fun. We played a game for like 3 hours with the whole team.
Well, the whole time this guy named Aaron kept flirting with me.
In the game, people have to kill someone and he kept saying, you can't kill my baby! I'll kill you! .. and joking we were the married couple and all.
Then Saturday he was sick all day, but when we got back to the hotel, he felt fine, and we all had to go into these two rooms for 3 hours before we could go back to the meet.
So we were all playing video games and he was playing around my waist and everything, and being a stupid and joking.
So when we got back on the bus, he asked me to Winter Formal.
Which would be amazing, right?
No, because did I mentoin he's a senior? Hah, he is.
He's only 17, but he's a senior.
And why would a senior ask a freshman to Winter Formal?
But I mean, he's the sweetest guy ever.
I went to sleep on the bus last night with nothing, and I woke up with his pillow and blanket, because he said I looked cold.

I just don't know what to do!

Sorry that this is so long!

It is possible that he really does like you, but then again it is possible for him to just be a total jerk and want to use you. I say you should go with him to the winter formal and give him a chance. Just see how it goes, but if he doesn't respect you don't continue to see him. Not all guys are like that, and he may just like dating younger girls because they are more fun and cause less drama. He sounds really sweet, so I think you should give him a chance.

Kate

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ok so at least 5 months ago, i met a guy named kevin. we met at my friend's church. ((i am 15 and im a female.)) and we had only known each other for a week and then he decided that he wanted to ask me out. at first i thought it was a bad idea, but then i fell in love with him after 1 month. and on halloween i was going to make love to him, (i was 14 then). but then he surprised me a week b4 halloween and broke it off because we never got to see eachother. it got me sooo upset! i cried every time anything reminded me of him! from certain scents, to any song or movie! we had agreed to be friends. and i prayed he would want me back somehow. well, on the night of my 15th birthday, he called me and wanted to talk. but i was on the phone with my best friend. and in the past, when i chose to talk to him over her, it got her angry. and i didnt want that to happen. so i never called him back. well that ticked him off because he started to send me hatemail and crap. now he hates my guts and he ignores me. and i cant have that. and so i think it set off something in my brain, and now i think im going crazy. something weird happened this morning: i got out of the shower and i got dressed and sat on my bed. and then suddenly, i was at my friend's church. and it was the exact moment that kevin was asking me out! it was happening all over again! he asked me "do you wanna go out with me?" and i grabbed him to the side and sed "we need to talk. i no wuts going to happen. you say you like me now, but you will end up hating me. i dunno how, but i somehow figured out a way to get here on november 17th, 2007." and he kind of looks at me like "yeah...right." and i go "no! im serious." i started naming off random facts about him to prove that he had told me these things later in our relationship. he finally believed me. and then we fasted forward to at least 7 months later. and everything was ok between us. we were happier than ever. and then i was sitting on my bed again. back in my room. on my bed. with wet hair from getting out of the shower. on the 15th of november. can you please explain to me wut happened right there? because my uncle has this mental illness where he witnesses the same type things and hes in a psychiatric hospital for it.

Well, I'm not a doctor, but that sounds really strange. I'm not sure what happened to you. It could be a type of sleep disorder, where you can't tell the difference between dreams and reality, but again I don't really know. Tell your parents, even if you are worried you will be shipped off to a mental hospital like your uncle, because they may be able to treat you right away, and prevent you from having to go there. I wish I could help you more, but really you need to see a doctor.

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Ok so my boyfriend birthday is the day before christmas so i want to give him one big present so do you have any ides mot too expensive and not cheap i dont want him to think im a bad girlfriend all ideas will be helpful thanx

I think you should consider giving him two smaller gifts, because he probably have gotten just one gift for both christmas and his birthday all his life. At least that is what always happens to my cousin. It might be more meaningful if he got one gift for his birthday and one for christmas. Maybe some video games, CDs, DVDs, or a cool t-shirt.

If you still want to just get him one really big gift, try to think of something he really likes, for example my boyfriend really likes spiderman, so for Christmas I made him a fleece spiderman blanket and a spiderman pillow. He really liked it and he uses it all the time.

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15/f: i've only had one boyfriend in my life, and that was during the middle/end of 8th grade for 5 months, and since then, i've been single. i don't mind it, but i feel like no guys have even noticed me since i began high school. it doesn't help that my hs is 70% girls. plus, i'm not the most outgoing girl in the world. i'm trying to be less shy this year, but i still feel like i'm doomed to never have another boyfriend; it's been nearly two years! i guess i just miss the feeling of having someone special. i wish i didn't care so much about this but it bothers me everyday. what can i do?

I'm sure you are not doomed to be alone forever. I never had a serious boyfriend until I was in tenth grade, and I'm still with him now. All of my friends always had boyfriends and I was sooo jealous, I wanted someone too! I spent so much time chasing this one guy, that I ruined a friendship. But wouldn't you know it the second I stopped worrying about it and focused on doing things that I liked, I found someone.

I met my boyfriend during the our school's production of The Sound of Music. I wasn't flirting with every guy there, I was busy learning lines and choreography. But my boyfriend says he noticed me right away, when he saw me on stage one day during practice.

So my advice to you is to try to focus on something you really enjoy doing, writing, drawing, painting, sports, anything! It can be a little hard at first, but it gets easier and easier everyday. Also keep an open mind, don't be too quick to judge guys, after all you wouldn't want them to judge you that way.

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ok im getting the fear of death now, is this just a phase im going through? my sister had this in like 3rd grade but it went away..

I think it is normal to be afraid of death. It is something unknown, and as humans it is our instinct to fear what we don't know or understand. But if you are afraid of dying and it constantly interrupts your life then I would talk to someone about it.

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does anyone know when the writers strike will end and what will happen to the shows when it does end

because my fav show is heroes and because of the strike there is only 3 episodes left and this season only started in september

The writers strike probably won't end until they come to terms with networks. Right now most shows have about 4-6 episodes left, but after that they will go into reruns. I did hear that most of the networks have tons of reality TV and game shows planned in case the strike goes on longer.

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16/f

So I never really had a problem with dry lips until now. Winter is coming, and my lips are becoming insanely chapped. So I want to use chapstick, except that stuff tastes sooo bad...and I'd like something that my boyfriend can also enjoy ;). Something minty...or fruity...either way, as long as its moisturizing and isn't sticky! Help?? Links please!

I absolutely love Bert's Bees. It is minty and all tingly, and my boyfriend likes how it makes his lips tingle.

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15/f

ive been goig out with this guy for almost 4 months (this is the 2nd time we went out) and hes great, hes alwasy there for me when i need him which i do alot. we've always been great friends before and after we went out and hes great. its just, i dont love him and he doesnt love me.. we just like each other. and i dont find him very sexual.. like i am not wanting to jump ontop of him all the time and stuff. i feel bad becasue i mean, if we keep going out and it gets to a certian point then we'll stil only be making out because i just don't feel that way for him. and i can't say that im not ready because ive already had sex/done alot before and he knows that. i really don't know what to do, i like him and his family, friends, everything that comes with him is amazing too, but i just worry. any help is appericated

It sounds like you see him as more of a friend since you say that you are not physically attracted to him. Which is perfectly fine, I think you should just be friends, not dating. If you are as good friends as you feel that you are, you should be able to maintain the friendship without being in a relationship. By staying in a relationship where you do not feel physically attracted to the other person you are only hurting yourself in the long one, and you may be missing your chances with other guys. I'm just trying to say that if you both feel that there is no physical attraction, then you should probably just be friends.

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I already asked this but it got put on like page 3, sooo if anyone has any ideas i could use to frequently incoporate stock footage in a video, pleaseee let me know. thanks

I'm not really sure what you are asking.

If you are asking how you can create videos using stock footage, you can use Windows Movie Maker, which might already be installed on your computer (it is on mine) or any other type of editing software.

If you need a place to find Stock photos I would recommend Gettyimages.com


If you are looking for ideas... you could try putting pictures to songs or poems, or recreate stories.

I hope that helped =/

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What are some interesting and fun ways to kiss your significant other? any unique tricks or tips you know of? share 'em

I've heard other people talk about kissing underwater, but I would only recommend doing that in a swimming pool, not a lake or pond because you tend to get a little water in your mouth.

One time my boyfriend and I kissed with a Hershey kiss. It got a little messy but it is totally worth it if you like chocolate.

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i want uggs, really badly. but there like 120 dollars, and my mom thinks there ugly, and doesnt want to get them for me. she said if they were cheaper she would.

so either a. i need to talk her into it somehow, any suggestions?

or b. does anyone know where i can get them cheap? or like a really good knockoff of them?

If you know what size you need, I would try Ebay. you can sometimes find really expensive stuff for cheap there.

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okay well hmm ihave this friend who is 16 she has sex with her boyfriend sometimes without a condom she missed her period and well it's now 6 days late she thinks she is pregnant she is scared and worried about it she can't be pregnant and so she was wondering if she overdosed on birth control will it kill the sperm egg that happens to maybe inside her? pleaze give me advice for my friend she is worried and i'm worried for her

No taking large amounts of birth control will only make her sick. The best thing she can do is to take a test. There is no use worrying about it if she isn't, she should take the test and go from there.

If she is pregnant you need to support her in whatever decision she may make. Let her know that you will be there for her. She will need to tell her parents and see a doctor.

If she isn't than she needs to practice safer sex, and consider this scare a lesson learned.

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For school i have to survey about 50 different people( doesnt matter if i know them or not) I have to find out if they disagree or agree with a school policy and why( tardies,absences,grafiti,lockers,ect.)

This year at my school we are not allowed to have backpacks. They have to be in our lockers. They say it is a safety issue.

I don't agree because:

1. Most students have lockers that are very far away from their classes.

2. We have 5 minutes to get to classes, which may seem like enough time but there are over 2,000 students in the hallways at once

3.It is difficult to hold a lot of stuff all at once.

4. If someone really wants to bring a weapon to school, they are going to find a way to do it, back pack or not

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okay. well me and my boyfriend have been goign out for 6 months. well this weekend he went inside me withotu a condom on. i take birth control every day at the same time. he never came and it wasnt for long. my period should come friday. i'm still a little nervous. im pretty sure im fine. im just nervous about the issue of preganacy. do you think im okay?

As long as you remembered to take your pill everyday you will be fine. I wouldn't be worried about it at all.

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18 Male

Hey what are some clothes I could wear that girls would really notice. In a good way I mean. Also I like popular athletic girls so if you can bend the style to fit what they like I would really appreciate it. Thanks.

Well, I like when guys look put together. I hate when guys look like they just rolled out of bed and put some rumpled clothes on that they found on the floor. That doesn't mean you have to spend 3 hours doing your hair, and you can just wear jeans and a t-shirt.

I like when guys wear shirts that show off their personality, like a shirt from a concert, or sporting event. I tend to like bright colored polo shirts and plaid shorts, even though everyone seems to be wearing that now.

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Hey, im a freshman in high school and already, i have people that do not excatly like me, though they dont even know me! How can i not care about what people think of me? What did you do to accomplish this? Any stories or advice would help greatly. Thank you =D

(14/f)

No matter what you do, you cannot make everyone like you. I went through the same thing, people may not like you because you are smart, or loud, or quiet, or white, or black, or WHATEVER. The point is that everyone automatically judges everyone they meet. It is tough but eventually you will only need to worry about yourself and the people who really do like you. But don't waste time trying to be something your not, and don't waste time on people who don't care about you.

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