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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

what are some meaningful songs [alternative i guess] that are about people in a relationship, and the one has lost interest, but the other still loves the person?

some songs I know of like that are ...

-fall out boy: a little less 16 a little more touch me
-The starting line: Island
-The spill canvas: all hail the heartbreaker
-the spill canvas: all over you

hope i helped! xxo

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18/f. well i've madeout with like 3 guys. i actually find i quite disgusting haha. but i am attracted to guys thats 100% sure, not like im gay or anything but is it weird that i dont like making out? i will kiss a guy, and i like doing other things but not make out. never really had a boyfriend, maybe because everytime a boy tries to kiss or make out i pull away because i dont want to make out and what do i say, uhm i dont like making out? they would probably think i'm crazy. i dont know what to do! :( i feel like i'm the only person who doesnt like making out haha.

haha trust me, you're not the only person on the planet that finds making out kind of gross ... and when you think about it ... you're right, trading spit with another person isn't really intriguing. My friend is like that, she just finds it really gross but is compeltly attracted to guys. she enjoys just kissing, but not with the tongue action and everything. so whenever she thinks a guy wants to make out with her she doesnt open her mouth when they kiss her [and they get the point] but if they ask her what's up, she says ... "im not ready to make out with you yet." or ... "i don't want to make out today." or "sorry, i really don't feel like making out." don't do anything you dont want to do, if you want to be straught up and warn the guy that you don't like making out, then just tell them, whats the worst that can happen? its not like its theirs or your fault or you can avoid kissing all together :] hope i helped and good luck! xxo

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My question is Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months and we rele love each other but when she finally told her ma her mom banned us from talking an we still alked bt very secretly. in the last month but all we ever did waz argue in that month now shes tired of it. and thinks i dont care. What do i have to do to prove that i still love her an that r flame for each other hasnt gone away???

aw man :[ that really sucks, I'm sorry. Okay, here's some tips...

-tell her that you're going to do everything you possibly can to keep both of you together
-talk to her about how you care about her and that if you didn't, you wouldnt be trying to explain yourself to her right now.
-make her a card or letter or poem [something meaningful to make her smile]
-maybe you could even give her a bracelet or necklace engraved with both ur initials or something along those lines.

i hope it all works out for you ! and i hope that i helped ! xxo good luckk :]

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so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do?

i think you just found your closure. you have admitted that you would never want to get back together with him and that he wasn't a good person. Why talk to someone you don't want to? that's not going to give you closure, it's just going to cause drama. what you should do is just keep on having a good relationship with your current boyfriend. enjoy him and know that you are lucky enough to have found someone worth your time. and know that you breaking up with him means that you won and that somethings may remind you of your ex because you were with eachother long-term, but you don't want him. trust me, he sounds liek a jerk, [no offense] so just move on and have fun with your boyfriend. dont dwell on the past when you have the present and hopefully the furture with this great guy your with now.
good luck! hope i helped! xxo :]

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What are some homemade christmas presents that I can make for my mom and dad?
Thanks :)

this year I made my parents a scrapbook out of pictures :] i would suggest phot-copying the pictures so you don't ruin anything, but it's fun, easy, and creative! Its a great keep-sake that I'm sure you'll parents will enjoy to look at !

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so i've been wanting my boobs to grow really badly.
they are a's while my older sister has d's.
she's only two years older than me, i am almost 14, and she is almost 16.
i heard that when your boobs get sore that means they are growing.
normally my boobs aren't sore at all.
but then a couple days ago they got really sore.
but then i got my period yesterday, so that might be why?
i don't know.
i'd just really like to know.
and is there any way you can get your boobs to grow bigger?

join the club. I have a sister and she has bigger boobs than me and i have like .. nothing. i be you're thinking like, "when is it gonna be my turn?!" trust me, I get the feeling. and you get frustrated because it seems liek everyone has boobs, except you, and that guys only notice girls with boobs, but thats soo not true :]
but enough about thaat :] when your boobs are getting sore, it does mean that they are becoming bigger, but just give it some time. you're only 14, they'll grow, trust me. and you can try excersing to make the breast muscle stronger. and even if you have sore boobs when you get your period thats really good because they get bigger after you've had your period. haha i would know :] good luck! and don't worry, everyones built differently, your sister was just an early bloomer :] xxo

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I like a guy who's a grade above me and have for atleast 6 months now. We're friends, but not like best buds. Lately, it kind of seems like he's been flirty, but I can never tell, because he's so hot and cold with me. Some days it will seem like he likes me, but then other days he practically ignores me or talks to me, but not in a flirty way. He's not a player or anything, trust me, so I don't know what's going on. How can I tell what's going on in his mind and if he likes me?

wow. that description matches my ex boyfriend perfectly haha. ohk so that's definetly alot of mized signals being sent your way so here's how you know ...

-he looks you in the eye when speaking to you
-he focuses on only you, or mostly you, when you're with eachother or talking together [alone or with a group of people]
-he touches your arm or makes physical contact with you somehow. [not in a perverted sense] haha
-you catch him looking at you
-he tries to make you laugh or smile
-he playfully teases you

any one of those could possibly mean he is intrested in being more than just friends with you. but you should ask him whats going on and if he lieks anyone .. if he doesn't really want to tell you, that might be a sign that he doesn't want to say that it might be you ! hope i helped :] xxo good luck

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i know this is thinking like wayy ahead but ive never had a boyfriend on valentines day before and i was just wondering what girls do....we say i love you and stuff so like maybe bake a cake and write i love you on it? what do girls usually do? i will be dating my boyfriend for 6 months by then.

im 16/f hes 16/m btw

awww that's cute [the whole baking the cake thing] but usually girls bake stuff for their guy or get him something meaningful [whatever means something to the both of you] you also could get eachother a card and what i did one year was get a photoframe that said forever with a heart and i put a picture of us in it [i put a letter behind the photo so he found it afterwards it was cute]. you can also give him just a regular gift like maybe a shirt or a wallet even a mixed CD. you can do almost anything. let your imagination run wild :]
hope i helped ! good luckk ! xxo

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this isn't really and advice question. well it kind of is...
basically if you've ever been in love, id like to hear about how you met the right person, y you fell in love, and basically a quick summary of what happened and how/if it ended...i need a few stories, and please they have to be true! if you leave your story it'll be worth your time =) thank you!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, I fell in love with my best guy friend. He was sweet charming, funny, musical, athletic, smart, and really well-rounded. We had known eachother a few years before getting together and making it official. We always hung out and he would give me his guitar pics. One day I was over his house and he made me close my eyes, then he put a necklace around my neck. it had a guitar pic on the silver chain, i looked on the back and it had both our initials and then a heart around it. he looked at me, kissed me, then asked me to be his girlfriend. we were together for a while. it was nice and sooo fun, but he went to camp and cheated on me with another girl. we broke up and he said it was a mistake but i couldnt handle it, I was heart broken. but yeah, that's my story for yaa. :] [i gave him back his necklace with an ex going through our initials and the heart]

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Hey. im 14/f and im freshhh. so theres this guy whos 15 and he likes me and i love talking to him, but like i dont have a physical attrction to him, and i dont think i ever will....and then theres this other guy who i think is really hot and his personality is great and sweet and hes nice and funny, and i like him. so i didnt know that guy 1 liked me, and as a joke im alwasy like YES ILY and OMG LETS GO MAKEOUT but never actually did so people who knew he liekd me thought i was leading him on, but i wasnt. i would never have done that if i knew he liked me. and then guy 2 i really like him but i know he doesnt like me. and also one of my best friends likes him too, but i just found that out. and also i dont want to sound mean but i know he doesnt like her like that at all and he kinda likes me. what do i doo? bc i really want to be with guy 2 but i dont wanna hurt my best friend or guy 1!

I've been there before and am currently going through that right now. If you're not physically attracted to guy number 1 then just let it be. and your friends shouldn't be saying that when you're only joking around, but lets face it, sometimes guys are gullible and not smart enough to know that a girl doesnt like them, so the slightest bit of playful teasing will get their hpes up. If i were you, I'd gradually stop the playful friendly teasing for a while, so he gets the point and focus more on guy number 2. But don't stop talking to guy number 1 if you guys are friends, because I'm sure he would be very confused as to why you stopped talking to him.
also: if you're brave enough, you should bring up the "who do you like" conversation with your guy friend number 1 and if he says you, or doesnt say you, tell him who you like or think you like, OR tell him that you guys are just friends in the nicest way possible. like ... "im so glad we're friends." or "dont you love our friendship."
hope i helped and good luck!

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Well, my friend and I make videos a lot to put on youtube and stuff, so I thought it would be really cool to use a green screen. Here are a few questions:

1- Could you just use a green cloth for it? Or does it actually have to be ordered?

2- What kind of program would you use with it? Any suggestions? Preferably(sp?) free?

3- This isn't a question, but something like this would be really cool:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QSvwmdnG-A

thanks!!!

check out this site [it helped my friends and I when we were doing our own videos]
http://www.mediacollege.com/video/special-effects/green-screen/material.html

The programs my friend uses are ...
- Studio Plus Version 9
-Pinnacle Studio 9

I found a site about those for you to check out, if it helps any. It has really good reviews and explains everything really well. I hope that's what you were looking for! If not, im sorry :] blame my friend haha. just kidding.

http://www.videomaker.com/article/11267/

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Does anyone know any good websites like www.dressupchallenge.com?
If you don't know wh this website is, i'll tell you. First you have to make an account, and then you have to do makeovers and enter the challenges the site holds every day. You can also have friends and comment each others pages and there is a chat room place (but it's not that good cos you have to keep refeshing the age)
Oh and if you like th sond of this website and join, please add me. My username "mack_shell"
Please help!

I heard from a friend that there is a site like that and it is called .. i-dressup.com or cartoondollemporium.com
but the i-dressup is most like the website you already enjoy.
hope i helped !

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how come when some ppl sleep their eyelids dont fully close down.. like you can see a sliver of the white of their eyeballs? are their eyes too big? lol

No, they're eyes aren't too big. My cousin has this problem, some people just naturally do it but there is a syndrom called ... Duane's Syndrome. It can be a possible symptom for this occuring. but other thank that, it can be harmless and it's just how your eyes work. hope i helped !

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14/f
okay so my teeth are kinda straight like only a few teeth are overlapping. but i sucked my thumb till i was 12 or 13. and so they kinda stick out but not that much. and i have a lisp and an overbite.
is there anyway i can get retainers instead of braces?!?!?

Braces aren't that bad, but I can understand why you wouldn't want them. So here's the deal ... you can visit this site: www.invisalign.com
[it explains everything and why it can be better than wired retainers] its alot like a retainer and it helps a TON. and of course you can get a retainer without having braces, but to get the reatiner you'd have to speak with an orthadontist and order it so it can fit your mouth correctly and be adjusted after a few months. having a retainer will take more time to get your teeth in a more normal state, but it is possible. But seriously consider the invisalign, it works so well !
hope i helped!

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i feel like i'm always competing with my boyfriend. we both really love each other but like he always tells me how im "good at everything" and then he tries to do something im okay at but not too great at and be better than me...is this normal? i honestly don't think im good at everything...can anyone give me advice?

16/f and hes 16/m

I agree with the answer above me, but I'd also like to add that some guys have an e-go and want to feel superior [or very confident] It's not necessarily a bad thing, but he probably wants to be better than you at some things because it makes him feel like more of a man, if that makes sense. And he might be feeling a little self concious around you because you can be naturally good at the things he isn't. It's pretty normal, it happens alot with couples. :] don't worry.

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15/f
i want to start wearing tampons, but i heard its not good to wear it when you dont have your period? because mine usually last arond 5 days and it kind of comes and goes, and i want to wear one without worrying if it's gonna come that day or not beucase im not sure.

thank you!
any advice if helpful!

If you don't have your period, the tampon might hurt when you take it out, because it is dry. If you don't know if you're going to get your period, you should just wear a light days pad [its very small and feels like nothing] but also carry around a tampon just in case you go to the bathroom and notice that you're bleeding.
hope I helped !

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okay, so ive nevert had a boyfriend, and ima 16/f.
sooo lately ive been wanting to be more than friends with alot of my guy friends, but i knowi dont really like them.
i just feel this way because i really want a bf.
does that make sense? so i get "hurt" alot, but its all my fault because i trick myself into liking them. i know it sounds like im a freak, but how can i get over this?

I've totally been there. But you have to be levelheaded and try to think about the guy too. Not only are you hurting someone other than yourself, but you're also hurting a friend. Everyon wants to ahve that boyfriend-girlfriend bond and to feel needed, but you should only be with the person who you want to be with and who wants to be with you in the same way. If you want to get over this, then just let fate be fate and tell yourself that you're going to wait for the perfect guy, and you're not a freak, you just want to feel needed :] and who doesn't? haha

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