i really have gas problems and im not trying to be funni or anything i kno its gross! but it's knda serious! please if you have any info please rite back... im to embaressed to go to the doctor!
it's normal. not everyone has it as bad as you do but they still have it. so you should go to the doctor. don't be ashamed that's what they get paid for. or go to your mom. it's not serious but you should have it checked out.
hope i helped *~~~shana~~~*
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2 weeks ago (to the day) I got grounded for acting like an idiot. I screwed up big time. I'm in trouble pretty much for saying I was at a friend's house and then leaving her house to hang out with other people. My parents were pissed beceause they couldn't find me for 2 hours. Understandable. But I have nothing. I'm not allowed on the computer (shh dont tell lol) I can't use the phone, go places, have people over, and they took my cell away. I'm going insane not being able to talk to people. They won't even tell me how long I'm grounded for. They keep saying that I'm grounded until they feel that I have proven to them that I can be let off of punishment. What exactly can I do to prove this? I've been cleaning and doing all that shit. I have a job, I'm active in sports, get decent grades. Honestly, most parents want a child like me. I mess up once in awhile, everyone does, but everytime I do they like spazz on me (usually when i mess up tho its pretty bad..) I just want to frikin be able to do something! i feel like i'm in prison except its worse because i have no one to talk to, i cant go outside, and i have no phone privilages. I'm going crazy!
dear no more life,
parents have this jean in them to freak out at their children for acting like children. if you
know what i mean. well they are just overprotective. they think that you can always do better than you are even if you can't. so my mom flipped also like that. i just told her that i can't be bound by her barriers and that im
not a perfect angel like she thought. and that i
mess up too. that didn't take her protectiveness
away but it helped. you should just talk to your
parents and tell them that you mess up just like
any other person. and that you'll do your time
but you need to know when that'll be over. and that you love them very much but you need them to
understand that you aren't a perfect angel. so
good luck hope i helped.
*~~~shana~~~*
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Okay, well I liked this boy from last yr ( i'm over him though), but I was always curious about him. Last year, he was an assshole to me like saying "piss off" on IM but at school, he's all flirty with me, staring at me, gives me looks (good), smirks at me or whatever, what does this mean?
Lilly
dear lilly,
he's just bein a regular guy. he's intimidated by what the guys will think so he's flirty. but without the guys there he doesn't know how to act. guys think that they can have anyone so they
go for them. then they don't realize that everyone doesn't like them. hope i helped
*~~~shana~~~*
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i really am unorganized!!! i dohn't kno wat to do... i have never told anyone this but my last boyfriend of 1yeat left me cuz i was sooo mmessy wat should i do!
dear hell hole,
well first of all you have to sit down and look at your situation. sometimes if you are not organized to get organized. take your easiest room to clean and clean that and start there.
if you haven't used something in a year then you should get rid of it. unless it's some present.
then when you have that room done then go to the next easiest. so on and so forth. but if you have a big house then start with the places that your friends and family will see. when you are cleaning the kitchen use the disenfectant wipes instead of a sponge. when cleaning your bedroom tidy it up and organize it as a reflection of your life. so just tidy up your house the best you can if others don't like it then it suks to be them. hope i helped. *~~~shana~~~*
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what is the right age to have sex and what are some good things to do?
dear help,
there is no rite age to have sex. just when youre both emotionally and physically mature enough. i would prefer you not to until you are older and married but i can't controll you. but think about all of the risks of sex: pregnancy, stds, etc... so just make sure youre ready to handle it. and get your mom to get you some birthcontroll. and always use a condom. if you need anything else or any ideas on the best of the list above(birthcontroll, condoms,etc..) just ask. hope i helped *~~`shana~~~*
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i want to have sex soo bad, but i'm scared that ill bleed everywhere (i'm kinda tight up there) does the bleeding come after? or does it gush out during??????????? HELP
~the virgin~
dear virgin,
first of all are you mature enough physically and mentally? usually if you do bleed during then your cherry popped. but it's just a little bit of blood and guys usually dig it.
(don't know why tho). i know even tho i am still a virgin also. but you also have to think about pregnancy. guys will say anything so they don't have to wear a condom. but you better make him. also if you are gonna have sex then make sure you talk to your mom and have her get you some birthcontroll pills. im pretty sure that she would be happier to get you pills than to get you baby blankets. so just be careful.
hope i helped!! *~~~shana~~~*
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i kinda know what masturbating is but i really dont know how. Sry if it sounds silly i just have no idea.
dear how,
masturbating is when you pleasure yourself. some good ways are dildos or even a vibrating shower head. it works wonders.lol. even fingering yourself would work. try to stimulate your cliterus. if you need any more help just ask me. good luck. *~~~shana~~~*
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I wanna know the best way to pleasure my self without using dildo's or vibrators. I mean yeah i know figer yourself but that does nothing for me. I AM soo horny right now and i wanna know the best way to get a really awesome orgasm.......PLEASE HELP QUICKLY!!!
try using a vibrating shower head.
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okay, im a bit confused at the moment. see there's this girl that i am in love with, i swear it was "love at first site" no joke, b/c i didnt even know her name and i fell in love. IDK i just got the right kind of vibe from her.Immediatly i was attracted, but see Im the shy kind of type, and like i go speechless and my heart pumps so hard when she is near me or says hi...i cant say anything back. Im so freakin in love with her but she doesnt know.
PS:Im a girl too, she's straight, and idk what i am, b/c shes the only girl i actually feel this way about, if i think about any other girl im totally grossed out...im just confused.
dear love,
well if you love this girl i think that that's great. you never know how someone will feel until you ask them. i think you two should become friends first. hang out and stuff. then sit down and talk to her about your feelings. you can't help how you feel so good luck!
if you want anything else just ask!
*~~~shana~~~*
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okay so goin into middle school ppl warn you not to fall in with the wrong croud well in the 6th grade i met my bff we'll call her angie and we were both very innocent and sweet. well goin into 7th grade things started to change she wouldn't talk to me as much and we started gettin bfs and like choosing them over our friendship and we were kinda falling apart but everytime we would get into a fight or w/e i would always just give up and let her b right b/c i knew that she was my closest friend and i needed her. we promised eachother we would tell eachother everything well opne day i got to school and my other friend confronts me saysing that angie was smoking pot and that she had sex and tellin me all this stuff that i didn't wanna hear! well so i asked angie about it and she told me that it was all tru but she was gonna quit smokin and that she regreted everything about having sex and so then you knoe we were friends again but ive noticed that ever since ive been hangin out wit her this year shes been lying to me and i think that she is starting to rub off on me. like guys r offering me sex and im actually thinkg about it! i mean the old me would have totally said YEA RIGHT NEVER!
i think that she is turning into everything my parents warned me about! but i don't wanna lose her cuz she is my bff and if shes isn't there for me then i don't knoe whose sholder to cry on and who to tell all my secrets to and i have no one to go to parties with and to shop with! so please help me soon!
dear bff is turnin,
my best friend is the same way. everyone says that she's no good for me and that im changin. but she's my best friend and everything and that i couldn't make it without her. well i hang around her group of friends and they are the druggies. or whatever. i just am not like them. i do stuff my own way. so wat you need to do is you can still hang with her but you need to tell her that you are not going to be her. that you are your own person and that you aren't going to have sex. and stuff like that.
but just remember that you have to live with the consequences of sex not the guy. if you know what i mean. so if you are considering sex, talk to your mom or a trusted adult and get some birthcontrol. condoms don't erase the chance it just helps reduce the chance of pregnancy. so just be careful!!! *~~~shana~~~*
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my boyfriend hasnt called me n like over 1 month n he has done it b4 n i dont kno 2 do
should i break up with him or stay!!
well he's a jerk. mine went without callin me for 3 months. so you have to think about how much you like him. and my oppinion is take a break from him. show him how it feels.
GOOD LUCK!! *~~~shana~~~*
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im 11 and i way 110 puonds. its really hard for me to keep up a normal body wait especially in the summer. all my friends are skinny and ive been really self concious lately. is there any way that i can loose10 or 15 pounds by september??
thanx
dear feelin,
first of all, who cares what your friends think.
if youre gonna lose weight you'll have to do it
for yourself not anyone else. the quickess way is to eat fruits and vegetables. cut your snackage down a little. get some of those flavored rice cakes.(they aren't that bad). then
you have to exercise reguarlly. but don't over do it. start out at 5 reps of leg lifts 3x's a day, 10 reps of 10 situps 3x's a day. and then go up. also ride your bike and walk alot. but i can't stress enough on not to go overboard. it's better to have a little extra and be healthy and happy than to have a little less and be sick and unhappy. so if you need anything else just ask. hope i helped.
*~~~shana~~~*
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I'm having some troubles getting guys to come up to me and start a conversation. How do I get them to start talking to me more?
Signed,
Guy Troubles
dear guy troubles,
it seems like guys are shy around you. that's good that gives you an edge. lol. you just have to make the first move. be assertive! just go up and start chattin. they will come around.
GOOD LUCK *~~~shana~~~*
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i have been talkin to this gurl on aim and everything was goin great until she sent me her pic and my dads friend said she was hott. he told me to tell her so i did n she got mad at me bc he said that! now she cant stand me and i didnt do anything to her for her to hate me! what should i do?
dear somethin,
first of all she shouldn't get mad bc it wasn't you who said that she was hott. you should just ask her what her malfunction is. don't let her treat you like that.
GOOD LUCK *~~~shana~~~*
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whats the best way to get a babysitting job?
the best way is to put up some "fun flyers". every two weeks or so put new ones up. put and add in the paper and on the radio. never settle for less than your best. good luck if you need any help with that just ask. *~~~shana~~~*
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whats the quickest...easiest way to lose a few pounds? i am only 14...so i cant go to the gym or any thing...plz help!
dear help,
just eat fruits and vegtables. and flavored rice cakes(they aren't that bad) and exercise regularly. like ride your bike as far as you can. walk instead of going in a car
(unless it's far). good luck
*~~~shana~~~*
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i had sex but im not preagnant i feel horrible
i am sorry that you feel horrible. and if you were tryin to get pregnant then if it's meant to happen then it will. but just be careful. you never know what might happen.
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ya i would like some of those excercises thanks. just send it to my inbox
ok first of all, you clasp your hands in front of your chest. palm to palm. with your hands together you push your palms together realatively hard or hard enough until you feel it pull. do this whenever you can everyday. and you will see improvement.
HOPE I HELPED YOU *~~~shana~~~*
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Ok well in the past year things have gotten really really bad for me! Me and my parents are constantly fighting ans when ever were suppose to have "quality" time we ALWAYS get into an argument!So ive been starting to cut myself! everytime i start to cry i bring myself to cut my arms up! how can i stop doing this to my self?
first of all breath. in and out in and out...
when you feel like cuttin urself just do something that calms you down. listen to music or pray or summtin. or the best thing is to go out in public where youre with your freinds. my friend used to cut herself until i talked to her about it. so if you need anything else hun just ask. *~~~shana~~~*
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i cut myself..badly..the underside of my left arm is alomst completley scard and my left upper thigh is wicked bad..my mom knows i did* it but she thinks i stopped i promised my ex-best friend i would stop but shes dumb ne way..my boyfriend hates it but he said he cant stop me..ive already been to therapy..they THOUGHT it helped..yea rite..but i found a new friend..lets call her Babee C..well she cuts..worse then me..she carves like long poems into her..all my friends arent talking to me because of it besides her..and the truth is i miss them all..i used to be wicked happy untill my dad got lung cancer..i loved him..and i was his baby..i really want to stop but everytime i see blood ne where..it makes me want to..i think i should just keep my head up and rmember my dad how he was before..but its gonna be hard..if ne one has any ideas of what else i can do to stop please help me..i cant keep livin this way..thanx xX mandie Xx
dear almost all gone,
it is gonna be hard. i can't imagine what you are goin thro but my best friend cut until i sat down and talked to her about it. she said that she had a sucky life and she was goin to hell and stuff. well i can't stop you but remember your dad how he used to be. when you get sad pray(if you believe in god)or listen to music or whatever calms you down. just do something other that cutting. hope i helped
*~~~shana~~~*
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