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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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Okay i need the answer to this riddle please!!

You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?

It really got me thinking and i can't seem to find out the answer. If i think you got it right then i`ll give you a 5. but if you try i`ll give you a 5 also!! =D thank you

look in the mirror you saw what you saw then you take the saw and cut the table in half two halves make a whole, adnd then you crwl through the hole. This puzzle is hard i heard from a friend and it was driving me crazy b/c i didnt know the answer.

Well I'm 16 turning 17 in less than two weeks. I had been dating this guy for almost 4 months, and our anniversary was coming up in less than a week. I had already made plans with him and his family for Thanksgiving and me and him were doing amazingly well. Then about one week and a half before prom he started blowing me off to hang with his friends all the time, and he kept lying to me. I was afraid he might be cheating and because of the immature way he was acting we started fighting alot. Then came prom night. We were dancing, laughing, having a good time, and he kept telling me how much he loved me. Then after prom he told me to go straight home because he was staying at his "friend's" house, whom had a 16 year old slut of a sister, and she kept eyeing my bf at prom, and not paying attention to her date at all. Well I didn't want him to go, because he promised to hang out with me after prom, but I had to go so I did. All that night I cried myself to sleep and when I woke up he finally called me. I came over and he was upstairs on his bed crying. I came over and asked what was wrong and he said he was "just thinking". Finally he spit it out. He said he needed space and wanted to take a break because his schooling was bad, us fighting was stressing him out, and the fact that I wouldn't let go of some of the mistakes he made in the past. I have this awful feeling he cheated and it hurts so bad to think that he would do that. His whole family is pissed at him because of this and I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying because I feel so betrayed and hurt. I'm afraid that if he comes crying back to me that I will take him back. It's so hard to see myself without him and actually feel happy, because we hung out so much, and I got so close to him and his family. He's like no other bf I have ever had, and it hurts so bad to let him go, even though I know I have to and it will be better in the end. Can someone please tell me anyway that I can stay strong, stop crying, and get over this guy, because I cannot take all the pain he has out me through, and I know I deserve better. I feel that he is stringing me along and it hurts so bad to feel like that. Someone help please.

First off he had o right to treat you that way and you definitely dont deserve it. You can d better. I know what it is like to like someone so much but not being with makes it hurt so much more. Maybe he just needs time to think. He probably did something and now he regrets it. He may want some space to figuare out how he is going to fix and how he is going to tell you. He is not worth it. You need to find someone who doesnt treat you like that and you can talk to and hang out with. I know that guy for you is out there somewhere and you will be very happy when you find him. Maybe concentrating on school or something you enjoy doing will keep your mind off of him and you will be able to search for another guy. You need to just take one day at a time.

I am trying to get my picture in my advice column but all i have is a box with an X what do i need to do?

right click and then click show picture as and it should show up.

ok im in a lot of trouble...here it goes, me, one of my best friends staci and her cousin nick got drunk at a party at her house(were all 13 and this is our first time getting drunk)...her aunt let us drink...so me and nick had like 5,6 straight shots and staci only had like 2. so me and nick were smashed and staci was a lil drunk...we went on stacis trampoline and we finally fell and were just laying there...i dont know i was being weird and was saying shit like"i love you guys, your the best, im glad we did this together." and i looked over at nick and we started hooking up he had his hand on my ass and i didnt mind, i had my hands all over him(not on his dick or anything) and we were making out for a while, my other best friend jessica likes him alot. but i was so drunk to even remeber that. staci finally relized what was going on and pull us off of each other and we were like what are you doing stop..and then she started freaking out and was like i need to call jessica i need to call jessica..and nick was trying to talk to her and i was like nick i love you and he was like yea i love you to..and he looked over and gave me a lil kiss. well jessica came over to stacis house and put me to bed and i fell alseep

this is wat nick said to staci about wat happened
-he said i was ontop of him and he would of stopped but he couldnt(while we were hooking up he kept saying i love u to me and he could of said stop, so that was a lie)
-staic said someone was holding her hands down he said he wasnt(like i said my hands were all over him so his one hand that wasnt on my ass must of been holding her hands down)

so now staci and jessica hate me and they believe what nick says and he was lying and they wont believe me..i cant even look at them any more and i tried to tell them when you get drunk you dont really relize whats going on..and jessica said she asked her sister and her sister said that u do relize whats going on when your drunk im soo mad and upset at the same time..i dont know wat i can say to jessica and staci so they know im sorry and that i was drunk and it wasnt really my fault

Getting drunk is bad. But when you are drunk you cannot control what you do. You may remember what you are doing ut you cant contrl yourself. If you just let things go like dont drink. Then the others will and he will try it on someone else. If they didnt believe you then they shouldnt be your friends. If you wait then they will find out the truth. Or talk to the guy and record and get him to admit the truth then show your friends what a sum bag he really is.

Hey guys..i am 15 and i am about to get my permit..so my first car is going to be a 2005 Chevrolet Colorado Z71 with leather, big tires, and a system..is that bad like for a first car?

No it is not a bad car for your age but every person has gotten in a wreck with their first car or truck or what ever they have. So i hope you dont. But it is a nice car and you want that especially if you are going to drive it in public lol.

my friend said that my other guy friend had a boner... and i didnt really no what it ment....what is it and how can u tell?

A boner is when a guys penis is sticking up . It kind of looks like they have a stick in their pants that is sticking out. A way that would trigger tha is if he thought you were so hott he couldnt control that.

Alright i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for a week.. and I thought i loved him so much and now i dont even know! he is the first guy that has treated me ok! but i feel like hes goin to fast and Now i just dont know if i love him or if i even wana be with him! I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG! when Im with him i feel good but i feel weird! and like i feel like he is moving to fast and now I am thinkin should i break up with him? but then he wont talk to me! and he doesnt live in my city he lives like 30 mins away.. and now im noticing how many guys in my city i could get! that are real sweathearts! but i wont cheat on anyone cause im not like that! The thing is i made my boyfriend promises that i wouldnt break up with him cause i thought i loved him! and now i dont even know if i wana be with him right now! I promised him I wouldnt ever break up with him. and he said well other girls that said that broke up with me the next week. I mean i totaly like him alot but i am so confused! and he likes me so so much i dont wana hurt him! HE IS GREAT!

what do i dooooo!?

If he is going faster than you want then you should tell him. You can find someone that doesnt do that. If you are uncomfortable then you should tell him b/c if you dont then he will keep doing it. Maybe you like him as a person but him oving faster than you want makes you uncomfortable. Maybe if you go the pace you want you will feel much better.

I was going out with this guy for awhile and I lost my virginity to him. He swore to me he was a virgin too and that he loved me. Once school started he told me his parents found out about us having sex and he had to break up with me. It was all bull shit.(fyi hes "popular" and i have friends from every group) Later I found out that hes had sex with atleast 4 people before me... and I also found out that him and one of his shit head friends are having a bet to see how many girls they can get laid by the time school ends.. and also my friends are telling me that hes been talking shit about me. He has a new girlfriend now but he asked me to hang out every weekend until i told him to stay the fuck away from me... I'm still beyond pissed and I NEED to do something... any ideas? I'm a junior.

Show him you dont need him. He thiks that just b/c you have sex before you can do it. Show him that you do what you want when you want and how you want. Or you could tell some friends something thats gross about him so the wont have sex with him.

Okay, so. I have a huge problem that I need serious help with. Okay. So me and my boyfriend are crazy about eachother. Like, for the first time in my life I could honestly say that I am IN love with him. And I know that may sound like shit because I'm not older or anything but I don't think age means a thing. (I'm 14. He's about to turn 16.) So anyways. His mom totally like, hates me or something. But that's beside the point. So he got grounded for getting a horrible grade in Trigonometry. But it wasn't exactly his fault because I mean c'mon it's Trigonometry and he's only 15 and he had come in half-way during the semester and had to make up all that stuff he missed. So anyways, he got a 37 in that class. And he got grounded. At first it was only until progress reports so I didn't think it was all that bad. But I just found out last night that he's grounded until January 12th. Meaning he can talk to me on the phone all he wants, but he can't see me. At all. So. I'm gonna go absolutely insane until then. But by January 12th he'll have his car and he'll be able to see me a lot. So is it worth it to wait? Keep in mind, I truely am head over heels in love with him.

Pleasseee give me some advice. Please. I'm desperate

I think it is worth the wait. Your right trig. is very hard especially if you are that young. I took the easy way and avoided that class at all costs. I think that if you really care about him then you should wait. I know it is hard and you are going insane but Jan. 12 isnt that far away if you think about it. Maybe if he got a tutor or something and showed that he can do better in the class he will get ungrounded or something.

ok we have b-ball tyr outs on the 14 the problem is that we have to have atleats a 3.00 to play.i used to have that but now it went lower. my problem is that when it comes to math test i suck at them. i get fustrated and in the end i get an F. i am places in a class with people that really dont give a fuck if they pass.. except this isnt a retake class. i dont know what to do. i mean i get the stuff we do but when it gets down to it i get an F on test.. can someone help me out. soemthin that i always do is study and i still cant seem to pass the test. i have the 4th highest grade in the class. (right now it is a C)

Ok if you have one c in a class you can still pull 3.0 or higher if you can do excellent in the other classes. Another suggestion is to get a tutor. I think that you understand the material in class but when you see the test you freeze. Before the test go back and practice the problems so you can feel confident about the tests. Before you get the test just relax and believe that you can get a grade better than what you have been doing and if you have problems with your homework or something i can help you.

i am involved with a married man i dont love. i am with him because i have no other financial assistance. he is very controlling, obsessive and he threatens me , even locks me up in the house and demands to know my every move. i can live with my mother but i am scared through past experiences that they might disown me again and i have a 6yr old son. what should i do? i am 26yrs old, female.

If you dont love him then you shoouldnt be with him. They wont disown i dont think b/c you are their daughter and they wouldnt put you throug that and if you tell them what is going on then they will understand and try and help you. If you are not happy your kid isnt going to be either. you want him to be in the best environment

when i wake up in the morning i have my mind set on school and bringing my grades up but when i getto school i began to skip what is the problem dio i have skipping problem.;

You know that you have to do better but when it comes time to do it you dont want to do. The thing is to go to class. and if you find yourself not going stop yourself. You have to make yourself motivated. Have a friend escort you to class so you are not tempted to skip.

I've heard that when you're trying to lose weight that it's important to eat several small, healthy meals a day instead of only one or two large meals. What's a decent number of small meals a day to start with? Do you increase or decrease as time goes on?

I wen ton a diet where i ate every two and half hours and i lost 20 punds in 3 weeks. I ate every morning for breakfast a banana, oatmeal and a hardboiled egg. You could eat other things. I would eat breakfast,lunch, and dinner and then i would eat in between those meals.

okay well i have a bf and we have nothing at all in commin i mean we barly talk and now hes gone 4 2 weeks on a cruse and theres a dance coming up this weekend. adn theres this kid ((boy w/e)) that i kinda in a way just met and he told me he liked me and well he was flirting w/ me at the last dance and i just think hes cute i mean i dont think i like him. but hes a grade unger than me and i dont realli think age matters but i do have a bf and idk what to do i mean wen im single i barrley like anyone but now i have a bf i think i like alot of people ((well no everyone)) but i tend to flirt more or notice that i do. srry its so long. im just so confused about this hole thing.

Well if you have bf you should go to the dance with him but if you are not happy then you shouldnt be with him. If you dont think you have anything in common and you dont talk very much then you should find someone that has something in common and talks to you more. Like the guy who was flirting with you and ask him to the dance.

Someone help me please! I want to sleep and never wake up. I just talked to my friend about it a few minutes ago. He's the reason that I feel this way. But he said lets move on. He says he'll always be here for me. Please someone help me, I don't want to be depressed anymore!

If you show that you you can live and be happy without him thats the first step. The best thing is to find something you love and your very good at it. This will help you get your anger out and help you get through this. Never feel sad b/c you know what you will never be alone. I dont know if you are the religious person but praying will help you. He will always be with you. You shouldnt feel upset he is the one that should. You sound like a really nice person who doesnt deserve this.

Okay me and my boyfriend were together for about three years, he is 20 and im 18. We were friends for two years before we dated anyways. we broke up because we had respect issues and didnt agree on certain things in the future. he tried getting me back many times...but about three weeks ago he finally gave up. a week ago i saw he had made a myspace...and is now talking to so many girls and gettin their numbers and meeting them up. its really heartbreaking for me because we've only been broken up for about three months max and hes already moved on and talking to all these girls...and im constantly sad now.
how can i move on...not miss him...not be hurt? and i cant stop myself from not going on his myspace cause i get curious of who hes talkin to...help me! i wanna get over him! and plz dont suggest..sleeping with someone else for now cause im not like that.

Maybe you should meet new guys by doing the same thing. Or you could find something you are really good that occupies your time so you wont think about him. It is hard to get over someone especially if you care about them. Its one of those things that takes one day at a time. It wont go away over night and i understand what you are going through. If you show that you have a positive attitude then it will get better.

I know one of my friends is stealing things from my locker because I saw all of my stuff in her backpack. I don't want to tell. What should I do?

The best thing to do is to put a sticker or something on one of your belongings and initial the item. If she takes it and you look at and you find your initials then she stole it. Or bring something valuable to school and ask her if this is hers and pretend like you dont know who it belongs to. If she says its hers then you say no it is not its mine. And you can prove that she steals form you and demand that you want everything that is yours back.

im 13 female

Im turning Vegetarian for 3 reasons.

1. i really dont like eating meat

2. i am against experimentation on animals, so why eat them when im against what people do to them

3. no one thinks i can do it..

do you know anything that is meat less ( food ) that is good that i can make

thanks
i rate 5's

Grilled cheese, macroni and cheese, any fruit or vegetable, salad, French fries, Ponderosa has alot of food that doesnt have meat it but its expensive, hot pockets the three cheese is good, chocolate, Peanut butter and jelly sandwhich, toast, oatmeal, coca wheat, or cream-a-wheat,bagels, ice cream, mashed potatoes and gravy, rice,

I have a '05 mustang GT and I wont let anyone drive it. I don't even let my best friend who I've known since we were 3 drive it. But, apparently, my bf thinks he should be an acceptation.

We were supposed to go to a concert last night. Well, he called me up and told me that we can't take his car because he didn't have any gas and we were running late. I told him that I didn't want to take my car because the concert was in a different city and I didn't know how to get there. He gets very irritated when he has to tell someone where to go when they are driving. So, me driving was not an option.

He then suggested that he drives my car. I said no. He asked why not and I told him what I always tell him, no one drives my car.

I said that I'd even pay for the gas and that I didn't care if we were a few min. late.

He didn't pay attention to that and got all upset because I wouldn't let him drive. We ended up in an argument and didn't go to the concert.

I have my reasons for not letting my friends drive my car. Most of which is because most of them are not responsible drivers. So I don't see why my bf feels that he should be an acceptation. I'm not going to let him drive it and I'm not going to apologize. Should I just wait until he comes around?

I know i dont want people driving my car. You are right and he should be an exception. What would you have done if he had gotten in a wreck. I know they say they will be careful but you dont know. You definitely shouldnt hae to apologize b/c it isnt your fault and you had good reason for not letting him drive the car. Just not say anything and if he gets mad b/c you didnt aopolgize then he is not even worth going out. A good guy respects women and respects when they so no and never asks again.

Ok here goes :). I have feeling for my Ex boyfriend who broke up with me. He said he liked someone else. But he keeps on flirting with me i think anyway. Like everytime we see each other he smiles at me and stares and he will come and stand biside me when we have breaks in between classes and he walks me to my bus EVERYDAY. He even gets kinda mad when other guys are flirting with me. So Does he. I am kinda confused! Thanks!

I think that he really cares for you. So much that it hurts. Maybe he broke up with you so that he could clean his head. Some guys dont know what they want so they do the first thing that comes to mind. He may not want to get to serious right now so he told you he liked someone else. He wants to be apart but he doesnt want you to be happy so he gets jealous. The best thing to do is not to say anything b/c chances are he will say something to you first or maybe you should just ask he might be able to solve your confusion. Write him a note or just call him or talk to him face to face.

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