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Hard Break-up
Well I'm 16 turning 17 in less than two weeks. I had been dating this guy for almost 4 months, and our anniversary was coming up in less than a week. I had already made plans with him and his family for Thanksgiving and me and him were doing amazingly well. Then about one week and a half before prom he started blowing me off to hang with his friends all the time, and he kept lying to me. I was afraid he might be cheating and because of the immature way he was acting we started fighting alot. Then came prom night. We were dancing, laughing, having a good time, and he kept telling me how much he loved me. Then after prom he told me to go straight home because he was staying at his "friend's" house, whom had a 16 year old slut of a sister, and she kept eyeing my bf at prom, and not paying attention to her date at all. Well I didn't want him to go, because he promised to hang out with me after prom, but I had to go so I did. All that night I cried myself to sleep and when I woke up he finally called me. I came over and he was upstairs on his bed crying. I came over and asked what was wrong and he said he was "just thinking". Finally he spit it out. He said he needed space and wanted to take a break because his schooling was bad, us fighting was stressing him out, and the fact that I wouldn't let go of some of the mistakes he made in the past. I have this awful feeling he cheated and it hurts so bad to think that he would do that. His whole family is pissed at him because of this and I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying because I feel so betrayed and hurt. I'm afraid that if he comes crying back to me that I will take him back. It's so hard to see myself without him and actually feel happy, because we hung out so much, and I got so close to him and his family. He's like no other bf I have ever had, and it hurts so bad to let him go, even though I know I have to and it will be better in the end. Can someone please tell me anyway that I can stay strong, stop crying, and get over this guy, because I cannot take all the pain he has out me through, and I know I deserve better. I feel that he is stringing me along and it hurts so bad to feel like that. Someone help please.
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Hey hun,
I'm so sorry! That's horrible! I think to get over this guy, you need to occupy yourself with some fun things to do. Even though your probably not in the mood to do anything fun, it'll keep your mind off of him. If he was a real guy, he would not have made you cry. You do deserve so0o0o much better than that, and someday you'll find a very sweet guy who won't break your heart. In the meantime just go shopping at the mall, go see movies, hang out with really close friends, read, take walks around the block, go out to eat with your family, paint your nails, go on the internet, and maybe start a new hobby. You should also surround yourself with people who have always been there for you, because they'd be able to make you feel so much better. You could talk to them about this, and you'd feel a whole lot better just by getting all of this out. It's not good to keep it in. I hope I helped you out hun! If not, I'm so sorry. You deserve better than this, you really do. Don't cry over this guy anymore. Forget about him! He's not worth it. Luv ya! If you have anymore questions, just leave them in my inbox. *Any guy who is worth your tears would never make you cry*
<3 KiMmY
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if this guy is hurting you then hes not worth it, and if its meant to be then if will work out in the end. thats the best advice i can give you. me and my bf used to fight all the time, and then we took a break, and when we got back together we were closer then ever, so maybe a break is just what you need. if he really loves you, then hell realize that you what he needs and hopefully understand that he needs to treat you better. as far as taking you mind off of him for now, just spend a lot of time with friends and going out doing stuff you couldn't do when you had a bf. hope this helps! ♥
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First off he had o right to treat you that way and you definitely dont deserve it. You can d better. I know what it is like to like someone so much but not being with makes it hurt so much more. Maybe he just needs time to think. He probably did something and now he regrets it. He may want some space to figuare out how he is going to fix and how he is going to tell you. He is not worth it. You need to find someone who doesnt treat you like that and you can talk to and hang out with. I know that guy for you is out there somewhere and you will be very happy when you find him. Maybe concentrating on school or something you enjoy doing will keep your mind off of him and you will be able to search for another guy. You need to just take one day at a time.
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Hi there - sorry you had to see the 'proof' but so glad that you have the heart and self-esteem to walk away. Too many times women think the rotten guy is the 'only' one and do or say anything to keep them. Keep your head held high because no matter what, no one can say you were a bad person in this ever. If you went back to him he would continue to treat you shamefully and since you walked away from the situation he WILL think of you and that you were always a class act and he shouldn't have treated you that way. hugs to you!
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Hon, I don't know how much I can help u I have never been in the position you are in...but I can tell you one thing.....let your friends be there for you. That is what they are there for ( the ones that count at least) ...sweety i just want to give you a big hug. Don't keep all your feelings all bottled up inside...if you have to scream, scream...if you still need to cry then do that...just make sure that your friends are there they will have a shoulder to lean on when you need it.
i know it isn't much...but i hope it helps a little.... <3 keep your chin up, everything happens for a reason, even if we don't know what that reason is.
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