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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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hey umm the boy i really like just moved and i sont know what to do what should i do?

do what you want to do... do you want to still like him? if he dind't move that far away maybe you could still see eachother.. do you think you should get over him... it depends on how much you like him.. if you really like him im sure you would be doing everything in your power to make sure that your relationship works... you know? if you like him a lot im sure you can manage.. just make sure you keep in touch with him... but if you are not sure what to do still make a list of pro's and con's about him and how your relationship would work and if the pro's succeeds what you have for the con's then you should deff. stick with him... hope i helped and good luck

xox.....

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I'm 14 years old and I would really love a summer job. The only thing is people don't really hire you untill your about 16 years old. Does anyone know of any way I could get some sort of a job at my age? Besides babysitting of course.

well try and look in places like kennels, less known places because those are the ones that will hire at 14 i am 14 actually and i got a job at this pretzel place in a local mall.. i got it because i know a girl who works there... so if you know anyone that works in like a pretzel place and any food place they could prob. get there boss to hire you.. that is if they now that you are a responcible teenager so yes my answer is

- look in less known places like kennels, animal places, maybe even florialist shops.

hope i helped.. and good luck with finding a job--- but remember your working papers only allow you to work so many hours a week.. so it would only be about 2 days a week :-(

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How exactly is being anorexic bad for you? People has said that if you're anorexic your body loses all these nutrients but what are the actual like 'symptoms' you get if you're anorexic. Besides dizzyness and fatigue.
Thanks I'll rate 5 for any decent answers!

okay anorexia is bad for you, the reason is yes it makes you loose all the nutrients but not all that... you have no energy.. your body needs engery to work off of and when you don't eat your body can't get any energy so therefore your body can not perform and dies quickly... you start passing out etc. because you will have NO energy...

hope i helped...

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Ok how do u get music on a xanga site please try to b discriptive thanx

okay there are lots of sites that have xanga music.. (they give out the codes... once you get one ( to get one try and go into xanga blogrings and type in music providers and then click on one of them... ) OKAY, now in your xanga there should be a place in your "look and feel" section and there will be a section towards the end that says "music" so when you get the code put it in there...

TO GET THE CODE:
- find the website
- rightclick the song you want
- click on properties
- look at the URL and copy it
- paste it into the "music" section in the look and feel section

hope i helped

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15/f
i get so attached to guys, like its insane. ive been dumped after like one day and i get sooo upset n im like cry everynight for a long time. i almost always have a bf n as soon as i stop crying over the one who dumped me I go for the next guy I like. I have a problem with getting attached to guys, but why do they dump me after one day,or a week or 2! i mean im not obbsessive or annoying ( i dont try to hang out with them every 5 minuts) but we still c eatchother. why am i so attached n what should i do to get less attached

being attached isn't a really bad thing actually... as long as they dont' get annoyed... but you are attached because you can be yourself around them and be comfortable plus, you are prob. lonely... and boys fill in your need for a fulfilled heart etc. TO BECOME LESS ATTACHED: try and push yourself away... hang out with your GIRLfriends more... if you hang out with your girlfriends you will be more focused in what you are discussing with them then to try and even think about boys...! so try and also not go out with him.. try and stay single for a while... just be like " i would love to, but im trying to see what the single life is all about" explore! hope i helped

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My boyfriend can be so immature sometimes & it really bothers me. He's always fooling around & playing pranks of people. I know he's a guy so he's entitled to have fun with his friends but sometimes, it gets out of hand. What do I do?

x`laur

theres gotta be some things you like about him!.. but tell him about it!... tell him he gets a little out of hand! tell him that he needs to calm down because it makes you mad! if you don't tell him it may get even worst so stop it before it elevates!.. hope i helped and good luck!

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15-f what are a few signs that you can pick up when a GUY is about to ask you out??

well here are some but you can never be so sure!

- stares are you!
- flirts a lot..
- talk to you sweetly..

theres not many ways.. unless he just does but there are a few!...

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Yeh i asked, if a doctor could kno that you were "playing with ur self" But..what if they make u pee in a cup?

NO! of course not! playing with yourself does not involve your pee.. lol it is nothing that they could figure out.. soo don't worry! your doctor won't find out and if he does.. he can't tell anyone anyway!(doctor's law!) hope i helped!

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im so mad that school yr is over and ima miss all my friends especially this one boy i liked all yr. i didnt get his number i think i got a way to find it out. but im so scared though. i really love this guy and ima be thinking about him this whole summer and i think it might be love. i dont want to use the "l" word but i cant help it. i mean i see things in him that i dont see in most guys. even though he does act like guys act--you know how they are--but i really feel connected to this guy. what should i do? just stare at his picture for the rest of the summer or do something about. becuz im not the bravest person in the world, and i am so scared. can somebody help me becuz my friends don't understand and nobody does. but i dont know if he feels the same way. i guess you can tell by the look in his eyes, but all i see in him is something different. he probably wont break my heart. but im not sure. i cant look into his eyes because i wont see him and its just so crazy. can somebody just help me.

Go for it! .. even if your not so brave maybe he feels the same way!... you need to talk to him about it because if you do'tn tell him he's never goign to find out and you may end up just staring at his picture all the time when you could be doing much more! so what i want you to do is talk with him.. (online, phone) and get one of your friends to be on the phone(if you use it) with you and him so you feel confortable! if you don't feel comfortable your going to be studdering and like "umm.. well ... umm.. i like you" or worst you won't even have enough courage to tell him!... i hope i helped and i hope everything works out!

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Me=14/f Him=14/m
I really like this guy and I think he really likes me too but I think he is too shy to talk to me. But I have tried almost everything at first I sent him a valentine gram and told him I thought he was cute and signed my name then I had my friend give him a note that still didn't work so finally two of my friends try to talk to him but he wouldn't talk to them. But he keeps making eye contact with me,he keeps staring at me too we keep eye contact for awhile but then either he turns or I but then we both look again to see if the other one is still looking and he makes sure he is always where I usually am(he knows my schedule and we have classes kind of close to each other but none together)All my friends are telling me to talk to him and just ask him straight out"Do you like me?" But I need to know should I waste my time at all? Is it possible he just stares at me but doesen't really like me?

Yes! you should make the first move.. i know right girls have to always make the first move!! lol but yes you should talk to him and ask him YOURSELF if he likes you.. he might be like "uhh.. uhhh " because if will most likely shock him that you are asking him straight to his face... so talk to him a little and then come out and just be like "i really need to know something... do you like me or not? " so i hope i helped!! and good luck!

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I like this guy, he's a senior, I'm a freshman. We don't share any usual friends or anything, and we really only talk at school unless i see him at his job or something, and he's usually busy there. There may be some attraction there, but I would like to take our relationship to the next level, by that I mean, get to know him better, perhaps a relationship somewhere down the line. How do I talk to him more and get to know him better considering the circumstances. We're really really different. Please Help!

Signed,
Hopeful

Hunny... ask him on a date!!!... the longer you wait.. the less and less the chances are... the end of the year is comming fast! so try and tell him how you feel and ask him... if you ask him he will most likely say yes! go to like dinner or something (because in movies you can't really talk) because dinner is always a good way to strike up a conversation... like "what is your fav. food" etc. hope i helped! and good luck!

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i think i need help because like i have cut myself before and i had stopped for a while too.. and then something happend today that just like makes me want to do it again becuase me and this kid got into a huge fight.. how can i not do it anymore what are some other good ways to take anger out...

here are some:
- scream into a pillom
- punch your pillow
- listen to music and sing really loud!
- take a nap.. (when you wake up everything hsould be not as bad!
- take a shower.. (usually relieves stress)

i am happy that you are trying to find other things to do but to cut yourself!! good job!! good luck hope at least one of these work!!

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i live in pennsylvania and my cousin lives in arizona. she introduced me to her friend online and we have been talking to each other for a half a year now and he asked me out 4 months ago and we talk online everyday and on the phone once a week. things are getting pretty serious...but i have never seen him in person! he is really hott and has a six pack and stuff...why would he want me who he never sees instead of all these other girls who he can? all these girls IM me all the time calling me names and saying to dump him cause our relationship is stupid and that they deserve him because they see him everyday. what should i do? do you think he is being true?

Don't listen to them hunny! they are just jealous because you have him and they want him.. therefore.. they are trying to get you too to break up so they can have him for themselves! but be careful.. long distant relationships are hard!! dont' worry you beable to see him soon!

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i just play basketball((in 7 grade ther is athletics))but in off season i get really lazy and gain weight. but this year i dont want to. is there anything i can do in off season((summmer )) i can do like sports wise. what should i do

softball or even summer basketball! have you ever thought of joining up for a summer basketball team? you would prob. like that! it is relaly fun and very fulfilling! hope i helped!

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I wrote in about a month ago, asking for advice about a friend of mine that treated me badly (called me names, made me look stupid in front of others, etc). I finally confronted her about it, so now we don't talk anymore. I'm so much happier; but now I have a few more problems...
1) She always stares at me! And when I walk down the hallway (and she's in a classroom), she is always by the door (like she's waiting for me), but she never talks, she just stares. Is that normal, because it sort of freaks me out.
2) I REALLY want to go to a camp, but she might be going too, and I really don't want to run into her (because then she'd beg for forgiveness, and I don't think that she would change, which is why I didn't give her a second chance in the first place). Should I go or not, and why?
Thanks in advance! Sorry it's long, but I will rate!

You need to go to camp... if she goes... and she says she is sorry you should forgive her and tell her that you will give her another chance and that if she breaks it that is it!!... you need to forgive and forget.. or else god will not forgive you!... if she stares at you just stare at her back like you don't care and say Hey! like all nice... she prob. just does that because she knows that it gets on your nerves!... so you need to show her who's boss!! and show her that you dont' care anymore!! :-D hope i helped! and good luck!

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I'm 16 F and I've never had a boyfriend. I know some of you might say, "Don't worry! When the time comes, it comes.." The problem is that I hang out with a bunch of preps..and all my friends have already had boyfriends..:-( I'm the only one out of that group that's never had a close relationship with guys! It's kinda sad..if you ask me! The question is..how can I get guys to notice me..what can i do to make myself look prettier (I'm pretty ugly compared to the other girls)..How can I start convos with guys..it's already hard enough to talk to girls! Thanks

Well.. you can try different hairstyles or maybe some cute makeup.. i think purple eyeliner iwth pink eyeshadown is extremly cute! it depends on what kind of guys you want to notice you... try flirting ... give them cute looks everyonce and a while and kidd around with them.. just be sweet... be YOURSELF.. you don't want to try and be some one your not because then they won't like you.. they like nautral girls! you can start anything with them... (conversation wise) like talk about most embarissing moment.. or even crazy things you did... they should spark a good conversation! best of luck sweetie!!!

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What should i do, i like a person but i don't know if they like me back?

You need to tell him.. if he feels the same way about you then you two are perfect together and everything works out.. that is the only true reason how you can get to know how he feels too!... so have your friends tell him... or you can by phone... computer .. or even to his face!!! hope i helped and good luck hun!

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OK.. well usually my period is.. well i dont really know how to put it.. thinck i guess. and dark. But this month it seems a lot thinner and lighter. Is this normal? Or should I see a doctor or something?

No! of course not well all the dark blood is usually when you first get it like about 1 year or so or even actually longer! once you get all the ugly nasty stuff out .. out comes nicer... lighter colored blood! so it is actually very normal... so dont' worry! everything will be okay! Hope i helped!!

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I love denim skirts and flouncy skirts from abercrombie! ..the problem is..They are too expensive! Do you guys know anywhere I can get a bargain skirt?..don't say ebay! Thanks!

The Deb!! or maybe even aeropostile when they are on sale... plus bon-ton and boscov's will have them and .... THEY ALWAYS HAVE SALES!!... hope i helped

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i like this guy i like him a lot but so does everybody else.he says he doesnt want a girlfriend b/c of all the sports he is doing((basketball,baseball,football))
but when he is ready he might not pick me i know its stupid but im realy confused also is there any way to get his attention

just act as sweet as you can!!! guys like when your really nice... flirt with him...! you have to like talk to him though to actually get his attention...! so just talk to him.. make sure that he knows that you like him! because most likely he will go after some one that actually likes him and he knows! Go For It Girl!!! lol hope i helped!

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