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I'm 16 F and I've never had a boyfriend. I know some of you might say, "Don't worry! When the time comes, it comes.." The problem is that I hang out with a bunch of preps..and all my friends have already had boyfriends..:-( I'm the only one out of that group that's never had a close relationship with guys! It's kinda sad..if you ask me! The question is..how can I get guys to notice me..what can i do to make myself look prettier (I'm pretty ugly compared to the other girls)..How can I start convos with guys..it's already hard enough to talk to girls! Thanks
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I think you need more confidence and I bet your not at all ugly, but very pretty. If you want a guy to notice you, you have to be natural. Guys like a girl that's fun to be around and can make them laugh. And you shouldn't compare yourself to others. I know you must hear it a lot, but everyone is beautiful in their own way and you will find a guy that appreciates you and your sense of humor! Wish you luck!
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Everyone here seems to not know how to talk to guys except me so im gonna help you...]]
First.\To get started you should stand in a group with your friends that way if the convo dies down someone will start a new one
Second.\Say funny stuff...guys luv a sense of humor
Third.\keep smiling that way they'll think ur paying attention haha
and last but not least fourth.//Tease-Flirting is the best way to get guys to notice you...dont be mean just joke and keep smiling that way they know its a joke
Hope I helped send feedback cuz I wanna know what happens even if its nothing <333
Dianeeee<3 xoxox
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ask soem of your friends to give you a make over if your that worried about your looks that much. starting conversations is just beign friendly . if your friendly you can stirke a conversation in 3 flat seconds.
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try doing different things with your hair. just let it down, don't put it up in a ponytail or anything. most guys like s' hair down more than when it's up. just let it down and grow it long and brush it and put a lot of conditioner in your hair.that way it looks really smooth and soft. also try putting on some makeup or something. put on lipgloss and blue or black eyeliner with light blue eyeshadow.
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Well this is what you can do, if your already confident about the way you look now, then just stay that way and dont worry. if you dont then go to the store(walgreens,cvs,eckerds,etc) and get a couple magazines, such as cosmogirl, seventeen, elle girl, allure, whatever has the most info about clothes, hair, make up, w/e. then grab a a hair magazine. i forgot the name of it but its ALL about hair styles. go to the salon and ask them to cut, dye w/e your hair the way you want it done. then, go to dillards, and go into m.a.c make-up. ask them to show you how to put on make-up to bring out your eye color, your lips, or any of your favorite features. (believe me, your beautiful, everyone is, all you have to do is to learn how to make your most beautiful features stand out) then go on a shopping spree. pick out whatever makes you look and feel sexy. (it should be comfortable too) then, strut your sexy self into school with your head held high. i heard in a magazine (and experimented) that if you hold your head high, and when you pass by people look them in the eye and smile, they will say hi. people that are insecure will look down as they pass you and mumble hi. (i used to do that) but now i dont and amazingly everybody notices me. you start a conversation with a guy, well i guess by saying hi. i really have no problem talking to guys, its really easy and once you start doing it a lot, you'll be an expert. well thats all the info i can give you. but it should help ya a lot!
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Do whatever you can to build up some confidence. Maybe try a different clothing style, hairstlye, or a different way of doing your makeup. Or, stay exactly as you are, if that's how you're most confident.
Also, get involved in some things. Volunteer, play a sport, pick up a hobby, get a job. When you start going out and doing things, you'll find more and more opportunities to talk with guys, and you'll have something in common with them! Keep up on current events as well. The idea is that if you get an opportunity to talk to a guy that might be intersted, you'll have something to say.
See if your friends can introcude you to someone, like a blind date. I don't recommend internet dating sites until your 18.
I also have trouble starting conversations with guys. Every guy I ever dated, I was either hooked up by a friend, or I met online. I met my husband through a friend.
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I'm going to give you advice I have given to many other people. This is something everyone that wants a boyfriend should hear. Prep or no prep.
You don't have to worry about being lonely for the rest of your life! You are only sixteen. You have plenty of time to find your soul mate. But the first step you need to take is to love yourself and not worry about what people think about you.
My brother is twenty three and he still hasn't found love. I'm not sure if he ever will because he pushes away everything and thinks marriage is stupid. That doesn't mean his life is worthless. You don't have to get married just to be happy. There are many people out there that are not married. Your life doesn't have to revolve around a man. And if you have excellent friends you can live life happily without being tied down to a guy.
So whether you find someone or not, you will be happy, as long as you try to be and work for it.
My point is, everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend at different times. Even though it may feel like you're the only person "lonely and single", believe me, lots of other people are too.
So the solution is to stop wanting a boyfriend. We make ourselves suffer only because we want things and because we are selfish. If we put those selfish wants aside, they will come to us when they come and you don't need to mope around all day waiting for it.
Nobody "needs" a boyfriend. Heck, we could go through life without one. Don't be a dependant person. Enjoy life single while you can. A girl doesn't need a man just to be happy. If you kept yourself happy and surrounded yourself with awesome friends, you wouldn't worry about getting a man all day long. There are many things in life we can achieve and they don't require having a man by your side.
Being desperate for a boyfriend is not a good thing. You know why? Because it makes your judgement cloudy. You'll probably say yes to any old guy that asks you out. That's bad because you want someone special. Which is exactly why you should just let life take its course and wait for the perfect guy to roll along.
And if he never comes, so what? The truth is, not everyone finds love. But that doesn't mean your life is worthless. Your life is what you make it. So make life great.
It's hard not having a boyfriend when everyone else has a guy kissing them or hugging them. But you have to realize it'll happen to you someday. When you see your friends with their boyfriends, just think about how you might be like that some day with YOUR boyfriend. And when they talk to you about how great things are, just think to yourself it might be like that when you have a boyfriend.
As for making yourself "prettier" I will not give you fashion tips or whatever. A pretty girl is a girl that is confident and happy. That makes her radient. Not tons of eye shadow to cover your face or whatever. You can get more guys to notice you just by talking to them. Be a good friend. That's the easiest way. Conversations are hard to start sometimes, but just say whatever you think. The weather is odd, my math teacher sucks, my most embarrassing moment, my family does blah blah, every weekend blah blah, did you see that movie, what are your thoughts on this, etc etc. Many things to talk about, you just gotta pull them out of your brain.
Just be yourself and be happy.
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Alright well the first step is CONFIDENCE!!! Which is something you already lack, i can tell by reading your question. Guys love a girl who has confidence!! If you think you're ugly (which im sure ur not!) then change what you dont like about yourself! Now about talking to them ... just go up to a guy you like and ask him how his day is going, what hes been up to, etc. Stuff that you would say to anyone! If he is kind of standoff-ish then move on to the next guy!!! If one guy rejects you dont let it bring ya down!!
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Hey hun, okay you're 16 and you've never had a boyfriend. That's how my life is bound to turn out too! SO if you think you're alone you're not. I'm not 16 though I'm 13. Maybe it's not your physcial appearence. Maybe it's your height. That's why no one likes me! I'm 5'8 and going into 8th grade. And I know it's not because I'm not pretty, it's because of my height. I know you think I'm too young to understand all this. But trust me I get it! Having all your friends have boyfriends. Going to movies and then their boyfriend putting their arm around your friend and you have to watch. Then they tell you everything about it and you just wish you could have it. Well my advice, is to be yourself. Flirt more, and go for the guys that are cute. Wear eyeliner and Mascara on your top lashes. If you have cute eyes, they will deffiantly show! Wear cute clothes and curl/straighten your hair so it looks adorable! And who knows, maybe you'll have a guy in no time. But like everyone tells me, wait. You don't want to waiste your first boyfriend on a dork, unless you love him! It'll be romantic and you'll be glad you waited. By the way, don't listen to that LuckyCHarms person. He needs to stop giving advice if you ask me.
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Lol dont worry your not alone well if your hanging out with preps im sure u look fine but if you wan to stand out thats what im here to tell you to do. Ok make-up is a huge part you need to wear mascara eye showdow lip gloss eye line that helps the face stand out and now the rest of your body your cloths should only come from Abercombie Gap ect.. those type of stores hope i helped !
Sarah
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Well.. you can try different hairstyles or maybe some cute makeup.. i think purple eyeliner iwth pink eyeshadown is extremly cute! it depends on what kind of guys you want to notice you... try flirting ... give them cute looks everyonce and a while and kidd around with them.. just be sweet... be YOURSELF.. you don't want to try and be some one your not because then they won't like you.. they like nautral girls! you can start anything with them... (conversation wise) like talk about most embarissing moment.. or even crazy things you did... they should spark a good conversation! best of luck sweetie!!!
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be yourself, everyone is pretty, it takes me a long time to realize that an i still dont, even though my friends tell me that im pretty (haha) and well the truth is just be yourself he will come or meet new people and get new chances
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