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hey i used to b a cutter too, i saw your advice on another girls advicenator and i thought it would help if we could talk because... well i have started cuttin again.. pls help... what made u stop? (link)
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well a lot of things actually. i felt so weird trying to hide the cuts and stuff from friends and i was always upset. i started realizing that cutting myself is just the worst thing to do. it doesnt just effect yourself, it effects the pple you care about too. and i felt like i was being selfish. i am really creative now, i express myself in many other ways. like i said to the other person, drawing or writing poetry. the words i write down cut deeper then any knives or razors. and make such a bigger effect on people. you can draw or sketch or find something that brings out the creative side in you. my b/f got in a huge fight with his father (his parents are divorced nd he lives w/ his dad) nd he went into his room and was slicing at his wrists uncontrollably. he ended up being sent to the hospital bcuz he lost so much blood. thank god he is still alive, but, what would happen if you went and cut yourself. not trying to kill yourself but you cut the vein and bled? who would have to find your dead body? who would have to pick you up and clean up your blood? thats the things you need to ask yourself. my friend said that to me, and i thought about it. what would you feel if you went into a friends or siblings room and found them dead? how would you feel or react? after that i felt so selfish for doing those things to myself. one day your gonna look back on it, and you will feel like the best decision you have made, was to stop hurting yourself. really, there is so much more you can do with your life, dont waste it on being miserable and upset. you only live once, so screw up and just have fun!
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I'm 16 F and I've never had a boyfriend. I know some of you might say, "Don't worry! When the time comes, it comes.." The problem is that I hang out with a bunch of preps..and all my friends have already had boyfriends..:-( I'm the only one out of that group that's never had a close relationship with guys! It's kinda sad..if you ask me! The question is..how can I get guys to notice me..what can i do to make myself look prettier (I'm pretty ugly compared to the other girls)..How can I start convos with guys..it's already hard enough to talk to girls! Thanks (link)
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Well this is what you can do, if your already confident about the way you look now, then just stay that way and dont worry. if you dont then go to the store(walgreens,cvs,eckerds,etc) and get a couple magazines, such as cosmogirl, seventeen, elle girl, allure, whatever has the most info about clothes, hair, make up, w/e. then grab a a hair magazine. i forgot the name of it but its ALL about hair styles. go to the salon and ask them to cut, dye w/e your hair the way you want it done. then, go to dillards, and go into m.a.c make-up. ask them to show you how to put on make-up to bring out your eye color, your lips, or any of your favorite features. (believe me, your beautiful, everyone is, all you have to do is to learn how to make your most beautiful features stand out) then go on a shopping spree. pick out whatever makes you look and feel sexy. (it should be comfortable too) then, strut your sexy self into school with your head held high. i heard in a magazine (and experimented) that if you hold your head high, and when you pass by people look them in the eye and smile, they will say hi. people that are insecure will look down as they pass you and mumble hi. (i used to do that) but now i dont and amazingly everybody notices me. you start a conversation with a guy, well i guess by saying hi. i really have no problem talking to guys, its really easy and once you start doing it a lot, you'll be an expert. well thats all the info i can give you. but it should help ya a lot!
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please help, there is this girl in my class who i like alot but some stupid sixth graders who for some reason hate 7th graders are threatining to tell. this would be ok with this exept that my friend likes her and is her boyfriend. i dont want this to spread out because my friend will never talk to me again. But i really like her and i think she sorta likes me.(i catch her staring at me alot and shes losing interest in her boyfriend) please help
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Ok, you probably should talk to your friend because you dont want to get into a fight with him. (friends are forever, girl/boys are whatever) remember that! because you should ALWAYS choose friends over girls. who cares about the stupid 6th graders ok. they are little and stupid and one day they will realize how retarded they were. so if the rumor gets out that you like her, you should have already talked to your friend and if not you should do it. maybe he is losing interest too, and just doesnt know how to end it. you should talk to the girl too. just do it in person, not in a note. thats the worst thing you could do.
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ohk so im sick of people in school calling me a whore + hoe. i mean im 13 im 7th and still a virgin. yeah i've gone out with some people but that is no reason for people talkin shit about me! ohk well everyone in school (the ghetto ppl whi used to all be my "friends") want to beat me up because im a "whore". the preppy's say that im one of the prettiest girls in school and that i can get any guy i want, so thats why they call me a whore because there jelous of me and they see me as competition. when a guy grabs my ass i turn arround and slap them or kick them and tell them off and to respect me! well they wrote stuff about me in my locker "______" sux ass and in the bathroom they wrote "_____" is a bitch and slut ... this gets me so upset especially the people who say that act all big and bad but they cant say it to my face ... and i get so upest i dont eat at all, and i've been cutting lately and i know its not worth it! so what can i do ?? please help me (link)
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These people are just extremely jealous of you and have no life of their own. Listen, this may sound so stupid, but just ignore them! if you react to what they say, they will be happy that what they are saying and doing is effecting you and basically ruining your life. Thats their goal! so just tell the stupid bitches off for one last time, and walk away and ignore everything they say. (p.s.-- girls will call you a whore not only bcuz u've had sex and lots of b/fs but bcuz of what you wear...i'm not saying you dress like a whore, just letting you no)
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i think i need help because like i have cut myself before and i had stopped for a while too.. and then something happend today that just like makes me want to do it again becuase me and this kid got into a huge fight.. how can i not do it anymore what are some other good ways to take anger out... (link)
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I used to cut myself too, and i know that its hard to stop once you start. But the thing you need to understand is that when you cut yourself, your mad at somebody else, not you. and it makes absolutly no sense to hurt your body. it doesnt affect the other person, so why do it?? something that helps me is i write poems. that may sound dorky, but when your REALLY mad, you can write down some deep words. i wrote a poem one time, that i love, and my friends read it and all cried because it was so emotional. another thing you can do it start boxing, that way you can take your anger out physically. I started sketching and drawing. my drawings are very...well...i guess you could say depressing. (if a phycologist every read my poems or saw my drawings they would probably throw me in the phyco house) but i express the stuff that goes on in my head, through my drawings and poems. i think that you should really try something like this, it would probably help a lot.
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