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Me: 16/F.
My sister: 14/F
Last year, my sister attempted suicide and a couple months ago, she was planning another attempt, but it failed. She's on medication and we're trying to get her involved in more things to keep her busy, since before she did nothing, but sit around and complain. Recently, she's come across this boy at our school, we'll just call him J. Well, J is a senior in high school and he's one of those guys who works out constantly because he seems to have a low self-esteem. He's pretty friendly, but he doesn't trust people right away. So, my sister started to message him on facebook to start being friends with him and he seemed eager to meet her at first, but she started acting weird. By this, she always asked him what he was up to and if he one-worded her, she'd get snippy and demand why he didn't want to talk to her and when they met at school, she refused to talk to him because she's so shy, no matter how much he tried to get her to talk.
So he kind of gave up trying to be friends with her, but my sister didn't. She kept pushing and messaging him and then he ended up going out with another girl and my sister was furious. She started insulting him and getting nasty with him and when I told her to stop, he wasn't going to like her if she did that, she told me to shut up and that she wasn't doing anything wrong. So I did, but I also sent an apology message to J about all the drama she's stirring up with him. This happened about a month ago or so and now she's literally stalking him, she watches him all the time at school and she's always demanding that I check his facebook, since she deleted him from her friends list out of anger. And this is really aggravating me because this poor guy isn't getting a break and now my sister has gotten her friend in on this obsession, so it's all I hear about. This is extremely unhealthy, it has to be. And not to mention, really creepy. Her therapist probably doesn't even know about it and my mom doesn't do a thing about it, just shrugs it off. I really want my sister to stop this crazy obsession. Is there anything I can do, or try to do? Any other help I can get for her? (link)
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So call the therapist and tell her.
I fear, though, that at some point this will become a legal matter. Your mom is delusional as to the extent of her mental illness. I feel for your family and the guy who she has her crosshairs on. This is not going to be a fun ride.
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I know that this is going to lead to responces like "use a condom" and all that but let's give it a shot...
Basically, I spent the weekend with my boyfriend, this is the second time we have had proper sex, and yes I did ask him to wear a condom and he does but we spend a bit of time without it so he can enjoy it more. This weekend we did it a lot, and there was a gap between each time where he cleaned up and we cuddled and went out for a walk or whatever, but I'm suddenly aware that pre-cum can make you pregnant?!
I just want to know how likely this is? given that he didn't actually cum inside me on any occasion and there was a gap between each time we did it and on a few occasions he didn't finish. I also have no birth control as I was a virgin until this point really and I don't have a clue how to start or where to get them... please don't say I'm stupid or whatever.
I just would like to know how likely it is to be pregnant in this situation and if anyone has any advice on how to get contraception pills without letting my mother know would also be appreciated (link)
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If he has had the head of his penis inside you at anytime, even for just a minute or two you can get pregnant. Young guys secrete a lot of precum when they get excited and it has sperm in it.
Yeah, condoms suck, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Have him use a condom and then, after you've climaxed, have him pull out and then use your mouth or hand on him without the condom. He will be thrilled with that. By the way, if you don't like the taste of his cum, just let it drip out of your mouth, which is totally hot. Don't spit it out. That's rude.
If you just gotta explore the birth control pill issue, call Planned Parenthood and see if they might be able to do anything for you.
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Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers. (link)
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Typical teenage thing. He definitely likes you but perhaps has put you on a pedestal and doesn't want to totally alienate you by saying something dorky. Just walk up to him one day and say, "so you like what you've been staring at all this time?" That should break the ice. And then tease him about not talking to you. If he doesn't get the hint then he is uber dense. Touch him a lot, playfully push him, smile a lot, etc.
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My boyfriend tells me that i am a SHY KISSER ... i should know what he means s i didnt ask him lol. so now im asking you what does it mean and why in the world would somebody tell another person that?! :) thanks (link)
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The only thing that I can add to the other comments is to live in the moment and don't overthink things. If you want to kiss him passionately then go ahead. It will have no effect on your reputation and it feels good.
By the same token, though, there is nothing saying that you have to do anything more than just hot lip locking if you don't want to. Go as far as you want and then stop where you want. It's your call.
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I was seeing a guy for a year and a half. We made it official for a little while but then ended up taking the titles off but we were still exclusive, or so he told me... Some shady stuff happened. I dumped him, but he wants to just give it a break and stay friends because he says he sees a great future for us a little bit down the road and he wants to get serious with me in the future but not right now. I asked him if he plans to mess with other girls during that time and he says he can't make any promises. That pissed me off, hut I understood that because be recently moved two hours away I won't be physically available anymore and well sad to say but men have needs. but I offered that we can still mess around if he doesn't mess with anyone else, to which he said he wil lthink about but he can't make any promises (and I was willing to drive up there twice a month for the weekend).
Anyway, even though he wants to stay friends, he puts no effort into keeping in touch. I finally came to the conclusion that the past year or so has been a lie and that I was being led on. I really do see a great future for us, but only if he goes back to being the person he was in the beginning of our relationship.
I am conflicted on what to do. He tells me that this is the wrong time for him to be in a relationship, that he wants to get his degree first which will be this summer, and I'll be done with college in the fall. Also that it would too hard because we live far apart now (I am moving to where he is in a few months though, and while we were together we talked about living together).
I don't know what to do? Are his reasons valid, or is this just a load of crap he's giving me to string me along? While we were officially together, he never strayed, but I could tell he wasn't happy because I kind of forced him to be in a relationship and he agreed because he didn't want to lose me. If we start things up in the future, I'm worried that faithfulness will be an issue. I'm considering these options at the moment:
A) permanently removing him from my life
B) keeping in touch but only that, and seeing other people
C) Staying good friends but nothing physical
D) Making no effort to keep in touch with him to see if he is just using me or if he's willing to make the effort to make things right.
What should I do? I'm not sure if I have feelings for him anymore, because I am very hurt and I have a lot of anger towards him. I was always honest and upfront with him and he wasn't always the same with me. He says he doesn't know if he has feelings for me anymore either, and I can understand that because I haven't been an angel either, I have said some pretty mean things to him, which is what I do in retaliation to being hurt, which I know is pretty immature.
Thanks for anyone who answers. I am 20 and he is 25. And as a sidenote I am moving to where he lives because it's a big city, not because he lives there, but because it's a beautiful place with many job opportunities.
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"Some shady stuff happened. I dumped him, but he wants to just give it a break and stay friends because he says he sees a great future for us a little bit down the road and he wants to get serious with me in the future...."
This reminds me of a girl I dumped. She used to phone me up occasionally long after we broke up and tell me that we would probably end up getting married one day. "Uh, no chance of that," I told her and she later married another guy, which got her out of my hair for good.
Right now, you are feeling used because, well, he is indeed using you. You are insecure enough, though, to not cut the cord completely, which means he can feel he can have you warming up in the bullpen when he is desperate for some poon somewhere down the line.
So what you need to do is to take control of your life, boot this user out of it and move on. If you don't you will have only yourself to blame.
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Well I have my GED and I wanna go to college. Something easy which I know nothing is easy but I wanna do something that I will make more than ten dollars an hour on and I don't wanna be in college very long. Not a year not two years nothing long. And I really don't care what it Is as long as it's not got math in it. I didn't graduate high school because they said of I couldn't pass algebra 2 then they wouldn't let me graduate at all so that's why I got my GED. Anyone have any suggestions?? (link)
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Some of those math requirements are totally ridiculous. The imposition of higher math standards was due solely to political grandstanding. I did math all the way up to trig in college because it was required and then forgot it all a year later and never needed to it at my job anyway. Total waste of a lot of students' time and money.
You can go to a junior college and take a certificate program for stuff like auto mechanics. I know people who have done that and they weren't exactly math geniuses. You can also become a plumber, who earn good money.
I definitely don't recommend you waste your money on what are, in my humble opinion, scam schools like ITT Tech, the University of Phoenix or DeVry. Many major companies won't hire you with a certificate from those places anyway. So it's pretty much a state college for you or nothing.
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I dont know if your still up and running but I wanted to know if I have a very small frame about weigh in at 130, will squats really work, to make my butt bigger? (link)
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The size of your butt is genetically determined, unless you get implants. However, you're worrying about nothing. As long as you look good generally the size of your butt doesn't matter. Nobody I know ever said, "no way I'm going out with her! Her butt's too small!"
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I earned about 320 dollars from coaching a little league sports team during their whole season. I'm 18 and currently unemployed. I applied for another job but haven't gotten a response back. I don't really know what to do with my money. I can either blow it all and buy clothes (I REALLY need to update my wardrobe.. i haven't gotten a new outfit for probably a year and half. I just really need some new clothes haha I'm sick of wearing the same stuff) Or I can put it in my savings, earn more money, and then spend all of that later in the summer (considering i only have 2 weeks left of school).
so should I spend it now? or save it and wait until I have more money to buy clothes?
Also- if you say I should spend it now- do you recommend any places or ideas on how I can get a bunch of clothes for a cheap price? I was thinking Platos Closet since there are name brand clothes (so they are still cute) but cheaper. I don't really care if they are already worn. I just really need some new clothes haha. Thank you so much! (link)
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You're going to college, right? Use that money toward tuition and books.
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I just got asked out by one of the most popular kids in my grade. You could tell he really wanted to go out with me. I don't like him, but practically all of the girls do. They keep telling me that I should of said "yes" to him. They also say, "You were so dumb for not saying yes! Any girl would want to be asked out by him!!!!"
BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!! Should I go back and say "yes"? Or say "no" and be real? I'm only 11! Help! (link)
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As you go through life, remember this one thing:
You are the only one who can live your life. Thus it's totally counterproductive to allow others to dictate what you should do with it. So if you don't like him then that's it, game over, you pass him by and find someone who you think would make you happier.
When you stand up for yourself and take control of your life you will be much happier in the long run. And now is a good time to start.
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Hi. i have a friend who's gay and in our circle of friends, he's particularly close with me. however lately i noticed that he loves hugging too much and i'm quite uncomfortable with it. i enjoy hugs but this friend of mine hugs on an extreme level, like once he hugs me it's hard to get away from him. and he clings around me a lot. so now i'm keeping a cold distance away from him and i am aware that he notices it because he no longer hugs me. but i feel quite sad, i don't want him to misunderstand that i hate him or anything. should i tell him or not? will it clear up the tension? (link)
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Dude, the only thing you can do is sit down and talk it out. First, though, you will have to decide on what basis you will put your friendship and then tell your friend where you stand. This should be totally easy to iron out.
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i love this girl so much,i have been with her for a year and 5 months.i ended it today because she it does'nt seem to be working out with us.Yes she love me alot and i do too but she seems to want more and it seems like i cant do more so she wants us to be with over people to see how we feel and then if we want we can go back, i never wanted to end it with her cause i'm in love with hero be together for a , i really want us to be together for a long time but its over.i think she may find someone that she may fall so in love with and i will not and she will move on and i will hurt even more, i really want this to work out but i ended it so she can make up her mind on what she wants. i want her to come back to me but how can i do this? and if she moves on how will i move on when i am inlove with her?
i am a girl and yes i have a girl friend. (link)
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Dude, I like to lead as drama free a life as possible. When my relationship begins to be informed by too much drama I hit the eject button on her. I suggest you do the same.
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me and my bestfriend are planning on hanging out on monday, and we have no idea what to do! we're limited on money, and he wants to do something different besides chill at his house cause thats what we normally do every other time. any suggestions? x (link)
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Animal shelters need volunteer dog walkers. Or just volunteers to do other things around the shelter. So you might consider that.
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I dated this guy when I was 15 and got pregnant. I broke up with him when I was 4 months pregnant because he was very controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive, intimidating...etc. He never hit me but he has left bruises on me because he grabbed my arms too hard. He got married, and I knew his wife before they started dating. He came to see the baby for 3 months, dipped for 8 months, came back, and now he hasnt seen her in a month or 2 'because of work'. He doesnt pay child support but I dont want to pursue it because I dont want him to get any kjnd of custody.
This week, he was arrested and I found out that he has been physically violent towards his wife the whole time. She sent me a picture of her black eye. She got a restraining order on him and she suggested I do the same. Now im terrified of him because he has anger towards me and I now know what hes capable of. I have a few questions:
-i really dont want him apart of my or my childs life because hes unstable and dangerous. Hes not on the birth certificate either. Is it wrong for me to cut off all contact from him and not let him see the baby?
-hes from peru and was not a citizen, but his wife is. Did that automatically make him a citizen? Or did he still have to apply? Because she wants to try to get him deported. (he already has a pretty large record)
Any other advice is welcome, thank you !
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You first need to see a family law attorney. It might be that the domestic violence rap would be enough to give you sole custody and enable you to collect back child support (good luck with that, though since this guy is a major loser). But only an attorney familiar with the laws in your state can tell you for sure.
Taking out the restraining order would probably be advisable. At the very least, if he does anything to you the police will know who to go after first and it would be something you could use against him in any custody battle. I find it unlikely, too, that he will claim any custody anyway and the further you keep your child away from a guy who is modeling abusiveness the better.
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i want to move out with my boyfriend will i be able to and im 17? (link)
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You can't even sign a rental contract at 17. Wait until you have graduated high school and have turned 18 and have s steady job.
Keep this in mind, though: your brain will keep developing until you are about 25. That means that the way you view everything, what you want out of life and your general sensibility is going to be rather different from where it is now. That will impact your relationships bigtime. Your boyfriend and you will be completely different people by 25.
Furthermore, everyone needs to have that exploratory part of their life. When they haven't had it they always regret and sometimes mightily. You are definitely too young to be tied down. Go to college, date different kinds of men (or women if that is your thing), live overseas for a while and then when you get into your late 20's/early 30's then you can think about settling down.
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Hi, i am a 17 year-old guy. And i am 5'7, a little higher than that actually, like five foot seven and a half. Am i short? I havent been called it lately, but i just feel like i am short since alot of people are taller than me. Should i be worried about this? Again, i am a 17 year-old guy. (link)
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You're shorter than the average full grown man which is what, about 5'10"?
The problem is that the reference points as to the prospect of your future height are mixed.
Look at your parents. How tall is your dad? If he's short then you might be too, though I have to say that both my brother and I are taller than my dad. You can still grow. My brother went through a growth spurt when he was in his early 20's and is now taller than I am.
So it is really hard to say where you will ultimately end up. Don't worry about it, though. You are still going to be at least 3-4 inches taller than the average American woman.
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I'm a 15 year old girl and my best friend is 16 year old boy. He was in love with my for three years and I didn't know. He doesn't like me like that now but I think that I do...I haven't told any of my friends but they are always telling me that he still likes me. I don't know what to do. help! (link)
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Go up to him and ask him out. Might as well just lay it on the line like guys have to to. If you get a no, you will at least understand how guys feel when they get rejected.
He got tired of waiting for something concrete to develop between you two and he has decided to move on. That doesn't mean he wouldn't like to ultimately get together with you. So might as well take the risk.
The thing is that you can't make people like you. If you ask him out and he rebuffs you the thing you learn is that you don't allow opportunities to get stale.
And just so that you know for future reference, if a guy is spending lots of time with you he is interested in having a relationship with you. Guys don't talk to girls for hours on end just for fun. Guys are target oriented and are looking for a way to get with you when they do that. There are too many nice guys now who just don't have the balls to ask for what they want.
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Okay, so I'm 15.
I've been in a relationship with my boy friend for a year and 5 months. I love my boyfriend, and I admire him. He's caring,smart (even though he doesn't think so),talented and he is an amazing friend.
We've had SO many issues though, with him falling for his best friend, and him developing feelings for someone he use to like in the past. When he has done something wrong, he will admit to it, but I'm so paranoid about things.
Just recently him and I broke up twice, over stupid arguing. Were back together things were going great until one of his friends Joanna was talking to my friend saying my boy friend "loves her" My friend deleted her for all of it.
My boy friend was trying to help her with a break up, and she said she didn't need help and stopped talking to him, he hasn't talked to her for months? Now she's saying this stuff. I told my boy friend he has to be careful, people can take advantage. Sometimes I wish he wasn't such a good friend.
I hate being paranoid, but I just am. I love my boy friend but I don't know what to do. Please help? (link)
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You're too young to be tied down. Your chances of marrying your current boyfriend sometime in the future are just about nil because between now and the time your brain stops developing (around age 25), your sensibility is going to evolve and change a lot. With all this drama going on you are putting a lot of stress on yourself that only compounds other stresses you are feeling as you grow up.
So I recommend that you end the relationship and date around and just generally explore life.
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whats the rapture coming? i dont get it (link)
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The rapture is unscriptural and, much like how the legend of Columbus sailing to prove the earth was round was a fictional story (by Washington Irving, in fact) that somehow made it into children's history books, the whole rapture concept also arose out of a work of fiction.
Religion is all a bunch of fairy tales anyway. So ain't no rapture coming, just death.
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About 2 years ago I was really stupid and put a dark cherry hair dye over my brunette hair. I thought it was cool to have a dark auburn brown hair. basically a dark brown with a tint of red. It kinda looked good. I kept it for 2 years. Then recently I decided to go back to my natural color- which is a very light brown. I went to Aveda and it cost me about 250 dollars. Yeah i know what you're thinking.. why would you ever spend that much on hair?! But it was worth it because I love my natural color now. The only problem is that the hairdresser said my hair will still have some warm tones in it because of the red hair dye (which is very hard to get out of) She did the best she could. It is now a light brown with orangy/warm tones in it. It doesn't look bad.. but its not exactly my natural color either. My question is.. how do I get rid of the warm tones in it? so its just light brown. My hairdresser told me to come in a few times to get it toned down. I got it toned 2 times within the past month and half. Toning it really helps :) but the only problem is that it fades within 2 weeks and I really dont want to go back all the time to get it toned. Does anyone know how to get rid of the warm tones without having to go get it toned all the time??
Please dont say bleach because my hair is damaged enough and it doesn't need to get lighter.. it just needs the warm tones gone. Thank you! (link)
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The hairdresser just wants to keep selling you treatments. The best thing to do is to just let it grow out naturally. You could try doing the Sinead O'Connor thing and cut all your hair off and just start from scratch.
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how do i erase my history on mozilla firefox (link)
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Options-Privacy-Show Cookies-Remove All Cookies-OK
After you do that, I then recommend that you download CCleaner, which will deep clean any other extraneous files on your computer and it will also fix registry errors and generally help things run smoother. http://download.cnet.com/ccleaner/
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