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Q: I am 27 yrs old and my mom has never been there for me. I want to completly cut her out of our lives but will i be hurting my children? I have cut her out for anywhere from 2months to almost a year.

Yes you will be hurting your children. I heard this on Peoples Court. Haha. You and your mom have your problems yes, but you shouldent punish your children because of it. Your children need to have a grandma, and it might be hard for you...but your children will be happy in the end. And when you have kids, arent they your number 1 priority?

Q: My friend was around marajuana over the weekend, i'm not sure weather or not she smoked, but she could have. Then she got sick and her mom took her to the doctor, where she had a blood test done to see weather or not she had mono. Should she be worried about the marajuana showing up on the test? do you think that the doctor will notice if it does? Please help!

:)annie

Yes, I think so. Its been so soon that the marajuana will probabaly still be in the blood. See if it was last week or two weeks ago she would have been fine. But theres a risk the doctor may find out! Whether he/she will talk to her or her mom about it..is up to the doctor!

Q: i really like this guy and the problem is i dont know if he likes me. i dont think he does and i need help.

Well start building a friendship with him: Talk to him more, invite him out to the movies or mall with a bunch of friends, get his screen name and talk online, Get to know him better and he'll get to know you better! And after a while, if you seem to click..it'll just happen! I know it might be nerve-racking to talk to him..but thats the ONLY way to get him to like you, get to know you, etc! good luck! tell me how it goes :)

Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for the past 5 months. We go to the same high school, but next year he is going to a public school and leaving me at the private school we both go to now. He has had sex before and i havent. He wants me to but i tell him im not ready and he says he can wait. I love him so much and he tells me he loves me to, i just am nervous to have sex with him and then he will leave. and i dont want the condom to break and im stuck having a kid. Plus the main promblem is what will god think of me? Please Help!!!!!!!!!

You dont want to and your not ready so dont do it. He said he'll wait, so he'll wait. If you dont want to do it at all, then tell him that. Dont lead him on. God says in the bible that your body is a temple for God, and that its not even your body. It's Gods, he created it. He says that you should wait until marraige, and if not...you commit sin. Sins are forgiven yes, but that doesnt give us the right to blow off God and sin! Hope I helped ! And if he doesnt like you anymore because you wont have sex with him...then hes not that good of a guy to go out with!

Q: I recently went to an orthodontist and he said i needed to have braces on my top six teeth for six months to straighten it. Now my aunt takes her kids (my cousins) to this other ortho who does all the private school kids and she thinks that he is the best...she wants me to go to him and have a second opinion on my teeth..my mom disagrees..my mom doesn't think there's enough time to have a second opinion..now i'm stuck in the middle because my mom doesn't want to me to go but my aunt keeps yelling at me because she thinks the ortho that she goes to is soo much better! My mom was planning on getting me braces on april 15..but now that my aunt has gotten in the way, she wants to have the second opinion consultation on may 19! i don't know what to do because i am stuck in the middle!!!

I think you should go with your April 15th appointment. Dentists are dentists and they all know a good amount of teeth-knowledge haha. What if the other dentist tells you the same thing? Dont have your aunt make it complicated..The dentist isint gonna give you braces just for fun...your teeth need to be straight. Your aunt shouldent be yelling at you for a stupid dentist app. Anyway, good luck !

Q: ok, here goes, i have known this guy for 3 yearsnow, we have always had something even tho he has been engaged and i have had a long term bf who is his mate, now we are both single , and have been getting together on the sly, (we cant let too many people know yet as my ex and him ae good fiends) but all our mutual friends know, we are the best of friends and he says he loves me, but the other day he asked me to get a number from a message in his phone , and i saw a message to his ex fiance (who he apparantly hates now) saying he missed her, it was just a random bit at the end of a normal message, do ya think im right to be a bit worried?? sorry this was so long!!!!

Well sure, be worried. But read the date on that message, was it when you two were starting out or was it a recent message? Talk to him about it...he shouldent get mad because he told you to get a number from one of his messages. So yeah...just talk to him and maybe he'll have a good reason ! i hope everything works out for the best!

Q: Okay this is my friends question.. She wanted to drink just for the experience but then when she did everyone was bitching at her because she wanted to be like them.. Like she was a poser or some gay shit like that.. Well she just wanted to know why everyone thinks she wants to be like everyone else???

Because people are gay and retarded. Thats all. See I wanted to experement too [ and i hated it ] but that doesnt make me a poser. Your just trying knew things! Just forget about them and tell her to do what she wants!

Q: I find myself easily stressed out and being that I'm only 15 this must not be a good thing. I feel like I have no time to do all the things I need to do, with my life, with school work, a job, home with babysitting and I find myself unable to relax. I don't know what to do to relax. Any suggestions. Thank You.

Maybe you should quit your job. I know you need $ but its not good for your health, especially at 15. If your really stressed out now imgine how it would be when your older. You cant quit school, and I guess you cant quit babysitting at your home..so your best bet is to quit your job.

Q: is there a way to delete a aim screen name because i have so many that i cant make any new ones

You cant delete them forever but if you want to delete them so there not on your aim sign on screen do this.

1.Exit out aim
2. Go to your "Start" menu, and click "Run..."
3. In the box put "RegEdit" and press OK
4. Now you will see weird stuff but look for "HKEY_CLASSES_USER" Click that twice to open it up.
5. In that file look for something that says "Software" Click that twice to open it up.
6. Then look for something that says "America Online" click that twice. Then click AOL Instant Messenger.
7. Next you will see something that says "Current Vision" Click it twice.
8. Look for something that says "Users" and click that.
9. Now you should be able to see all the screen names, delete what you dont want in the big box (MAKE SURE YOUR SIGNED OUT OF AIM) and delete the same ones under "User"
10. X Out and wait a few minutes, then open your aim again to see them all gone!

If it didnt work, it should have...tell me if it didnt though

Q: Ok...im 14 and i have been made fun of since 4th grade....everyday i get called gay and it just makes me feel terrible...and i dont know why they do it ...i make good grades and im a good person... i jsut would like to know what to do...

People are cruel. Thats all there is to it. No matter how much you changed or whatever, people would still be cruel. This world wants perfection and its not even possible, so they make fun of you. They also make fun of you to hide their own feelings because their probably made fun of to. Dont feel terrible, just smile and tell them to f*off. Pretty soon they'll see you wont care that your talking crap and they'll stop. Your better than them, no matter what anyone says or you say. I totally understand how you feel though...if you wanna talk leave one in my inbox or aim me at ilinerobsession !

Q: is it important to you [personally] to save youself until marriage.. why or why not? to me i think its something to due with mental health and stuff.. but.. just answer i'll rate good

Yes its very important. True love waits..and thats simple as that. Not only am I saving myself because Jesus has said so, even if I was not a believer I would save myself. I'm only 15 and I'm not going to give it up to anyone. A lot of girls/boys give it up as young as 12 and that is so horrible. Sex is something thats supposed to be beautiful, between two people that love eachother. Not for people just to have a fun time.

Q: is it normal for your breasts to hurt during your period?

Yes, its very normal. They also hurt a few days before your period which is a sign thats its coming. So dont worry!

Q: I'm really scared. My grandma (on my dad's side) has Alzemiers...it's where you forget your past and aren't really aware of your surrondings...My mom's brother has something like that, so the disease is on both sides of the family. It scares me thinking that I might get it. I get sidetracked really easily and I just know Alzemiers is in my genes. I'm 13...Do you think they will have a cure for it by the time I'm gorwn up?

We wouldent know but stop worrying so much..you are 13 and have your whole life ahead of you. Just be healthy and safe and everything will be okay! Go live life to the fullest..your 13..dont spend so much time worrying about diseases when your older.

Q: i am pregnet like 2 months along, and as we know your not supposed to have sex, well my boyfriend really want it, but i cant give it to him, and i dont want him cheating on me, i was wondering if you can have anal sex while being pregnet?

You can have sex when your pregnant, thats okay. But not when your around 7,8, and 9 months. But now would be fine!

Q: Hey.. does anyone know if it is possible to transfer pix from my phone to my computer? It's a Samsung SCH-a670. Also.. how much would that cost (if it is possible)?

Thanks a bunch.. I rate 5's

Yeah when you take pictures on your phone, click "Save" or whatever and you can send it to an email. Just send it to your email, and it'll show up on your computer and you can save it to your computer when you open up your email. Usually it cost 10 cents per email-sending but it depends on the service you have..

Q: I'm 13, female, about 5'4" and about 140 lbs. I've tried dieting, since i'm too young i can't use diet pills, and i've run out of solutions. I can't even get dressed without crying because i can't stand the way i look. i have absolutely no idea what to do. any suggestions are greatly appreciated. thank you guys so much

You can start low carbing. Lose 8-13 lbs in the first week or two and 2-4 lbs a week after that. its pretty fast results and you lose belly weight first and you dont even need to exercise (but its helpful but not required). For more info..just ask me!

Q: I havent been eating lately, not because im anorexic, im just depressed. My parents think i am anorexic and their really worried. i try to tell them im not but, they dont believe me. What should i do?

When your in front of them, eat! And eat some more...its a great excuse to indulge in chocolate candy whatever! =D

Q: ok this might sound weird so brace yourself! lol anyways... ok so whenever i shave my legs (like the half below the knee) when i'm done i have like these dots all over them. My legs will be smooth but they still have these dots. I think they get more notice-able when i put lotion on afterwards too. Its nothing like razor burn tho... i dont know what it is! its like the hair underneath my skin?? but its still silky smooth!
what should i do to get rid of it?

That always happens, thats why your supposed to ut lotion on them after you shave. gets rid of the dots sorta and takes away the dryness you got from shaving!

Q: Hey me and my girlfriend broke up and i still liked her and i told her that then on my profile it said I LOVE YOU ****** and she e-mailed me tellin me to take it off and about how her and her friend were lookin at it and stuff like that and then she was like From Your Best Friend lol and that made me mad what should i do?

*****I RATE HIGH*****

Well that sounds to me that she doesn't like you anymore and shes trying to move on. I think you should back off for a little and if she doesnt try to talk to you..that means shes over you. But if she does try to talk to you and stuff, there might be a chance. So yeah, wait it out...see what happens! Sorry if I didnt help much..

Q: I'm 16, i get told i'm pretty, 5'3, 120lbs, brown hair and eyes, sophmore, friendly, funny, and i love just about everyone... ok well thats the 411 on me but theres a huge problem with it: I'm sick of being single! Ive been single for waaaayyyy too long now. I want a real relationship that lasts! I used to like this one guy who just got out of a really long relationship, so that obviously didnt work out so well... then i started liking this other guy who goes to another school (i still kinda like him now too but things are confusing) and i THINK he likes me too. He's let me drive his car w/o my permit, he's taken me to this romantic park that i really wanted to go to so i metioned it to him and he surprized me, he didnt smoke for a week because i dont like it, he's spontaneously stopped by my house to pick me up, he takes pics of me on his camera and he left a message on my phone last week saying that he was looking through them and seeing me made him happy so he thought he'd call me... basically hes done adorable things like that! but the problem his he has a gf that he got after i started having a thing for him... i heard about it before he talked to me about it and he said "do you think i was sober when i asked her out?? no.." and "youre better than her, thats why i'm more worried about you being mad right now than even being with her" but yet like 3 weeks later he's STILL going out with her. I have a feeling he likes me, but since i'm not a skank i wont do all the things that his "gf" will do with him (i wont do them especially because he has the gf now). I think that he's falling for me and my personality but he's still with her because he wants some.. but i dont want that at all! I want a boyfriend who will love me for me.. i dont want to get played!!! what should I do?? PLEASE

If you dont want to get played, your best bet is to wait until your out of high school. High school guys have one thing on their mind: sex. You will find a guy that is not like that (there are guys out there) and will love you for you. You just have to be patient..and I know it sucks to wait..but its better than being crushed and broken hearted because a boy you liked cheated on you, played you, used you, whatever. But you will find that special guy and your relationship will last long and you'll be so happy together!