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What age is a girls breasts done growing? (link)
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Anywhere between fifteen and twenty-four. It varies a great deal and there's really no way of knowing.
Sometimes, women will experience further growth following childbirth, but more often than not they go back down again.
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Hi, a girl in another school likes me alot but I'm not sure. I like her as a friend but not romantically.
When she first told me I said I maybe in the future but recently I said I'd think about it.
I really dont want to hurt her but I dont love her back. Is there anyway I can say so gently without hurting her or damaging our friendship??
I am 15 years old and a male.
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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If one must pull a tooth, it is mistaken kindness to pull it slowly.
Don't leave her hanging, or give her false hope. Just tell her this:
"I am truly touched that you see me in this light, but I just can't return those feelings in the way you want me to."
It's as simple as that. And it will hurt her, but there's nothing you can do about that. It will hurt her even more in the long run if you aren't honest and straightforward with her.
What you don't want to say is, "Can we just be friends?" because that's not an honest statement. If you really do want a friendly relationship, then don't diminish it by saying you want to be "just" friends; and if what you really mean is that you don't want ANY relationship, then respect her enough to say that.
You may not be able to salvage a friendship out of this one. Ultimately, it's going to be her call, and she might not be able to get over her feelings for you. This is not your fault; it's just life, and sometimes life sucks.
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I got braces last Thursday, and on Friday I went to the doctors for painkillers for my mouth because I was getting severe migraines, and I found out that I had MONO. I'm not sure exactly who I got it from because my boyfriend has never had mono before, so I'm guessing I got it from one of my friends from school, since I share drinks with a lot of people, (which I know is really bad!)
But, I've been really sick, and my boyfriend has too, he has like constant diaherra, and I went over to his house on Saturday and I cleaned his apartment a little bit to make him feel better, and he did. Everyone was saying what a wonderful girlfriend I was taking care of him, and we must "really be in love if she's taking care of you with a problem like THAT!"
Although I was sick, I felt good doing something for him. [: When we first started dating I said one of my biggest fantasies would be my boyfriend coming over with a movie, soup, & flowers when I'm sick. He told me on Saturday that he would bring me flowers, and he never did because he "ran out of money." Although he's been going out with his friend for dinners and stuff like that.
I've talked to him about this, and he said, "I'm a failure as a boyfriend, I'm the worst person alive." And, yeah, I feel he is. Because we're too completely different people and I feel that I care way too much about him, a lot more then what he cares about me, and I just want him to be at my doorstep, not even with flowers, I just want him to surprise me, and make me feel good. :[
What should I do!?! I'm so confused.. :[ (link)
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What he said:
"I'm a failure as a boyfriend, I'm the worst person alive."
Here's what it means:
"You have a problem with the way I'm acting, and I'm actually inclined to agree with you. However, I don't want to have to do anything about it; it's just not a high enough priority for me. Furthermore, I'm going to put myself down in a major way, which serves two purposes: One, I'm hoping you'll feel sorry for me and shower me with the same affection I won't give you; and two, you'll have a hard time pressing the issue, because it will look like you actually DO think I'm the worst person alive, which of course is a huge over-reaction."
In other words, he's said something incredibly selfish that's carefully worded so that it seems to be precisely the opposite.
You need to nip this in the bud by calling him on it. When he says something like that, just respond with, "so, in other words, you're not actually going to do anything about it?" He will probably try to make it seem like you're asking too much of him, he'll point out the things about himself that are positive, he'll accuse you of being demanding and unreasonable, yada yada - in other words, he will defend himself against the accusation HE made, which is that he's the worst person alive. Don't let him play that game! He WANTS you to agree with him when he says he's the worst person alive and a total failure, because then he can pretend that this isn't his fault, you're just a demanding b*tch who can't be satisfied.
In a nutshell, he seems to be a very self-centered guy. When the chips were down, he wasn't there for you, and he apparently thinks he shouldn't have to be. I'd give him a chance to correct that mistake, but only ONE chance. If he continues to whine like a spoiled child and refuses to acknowledge that he did anything wrong, then find someone else. Your "fantasy" is something that a man in love with you should be pleased and even proud to be able to fulfill.
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Since yesterday morning i have been sneezing. Ive probly sneezed over 120times. Its drving me insane. Its like after i sneeze them inside of my nose starts itching then i sneeze and then all over again. Ive never had allergy problems so i dont understand why im sneezing so much.
Im being serious so dont take me as one of those stupid that ask stupid questions..
thank you (link)
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Just because you've never had allergies, it doesn't mean you might not have them now. Allergies can hit at any time, and something you never had a reaction to before can suddenly become an issue.
Take a look around you and see if there's anything new in your life that could be causing a new allergy. Are you using a new laundry soap or fabric softener? Did your significant other change to a new perfume/cologne? Did you put one of those plug-in air fresheners in your house?
Try taking a Benadryl. If it helps, you've probably got some kind of allergy. Then it's just a matter of identifying it.
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My name is Ashley. I am 18 years old. I am 5'3 and I weigh 114 pounds. I am wanting to lose 5 to 10 pounds because I have gained 6 pounds in the past 6 months and I just want to get my weight back down. Do you think 6 pounds is too much weight to gain in 6 months? I have grown in height I was 5'2 and a half and now I am 5'3. How many minutes should I walk on my treadmill a day? I do have The Ab Lounge. How many sit ups should I do on The Ab Lounge a day? I am taking the Coconut Oil Diet. Can taking Coconut Oil help me lose weight and has it worked for any of you? (link)
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Don't use weight to measure your state of health. Muscle mass is much denser than fat, and so it weighs more - since exercising adds muscle, your weight may not go down as you exercise more, but you will get slimmer and healthier as the weight moves to better places. My wife is also 5'3", and she weighs about 130, and she looks terrific.
I'm not an expert, but I've heard that one should get a minimum of 20 minutes of aerobic exercise per day. Walking on your treadmill would certainly qualify. As for situps, three sets of ten would be a good place to begin (or, if you're more like me, three sets of five) and you can add more when that starts becoming easy.
Trendy diets don't usually work well. If they did, there wouldn't be so many of them.
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I met this guy at a party about two weeks ago. There was drinking and we started dancing. He seemed pretty into me. We we talking and i was sitting on his lap. Before i left we exchanged numbers and we kissed. It was such an innocent kiss though.
He called me the week after. and we've been talking since. He invited me to a concert but i didnt go. Now he invited me to his house to hang out and watch a movie this weekend. I want to go but i'm unsure.
He's 19 and i'm 14. He knows it but he doesnt really care. His last girlfriend was 15. Im pretty sure he likes me...i Guess i dont really have a specific question...i just want to know some of your opinions. (link)
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I think he's too old for you. There is a much larger difference between 19 and 14 than there is between, say, 26 and 21.
Maybe his intentions are strictly honorable, but is it worth taking the chance? Be honest with yourself: does it seem normal to you that a nineteen-year-old man would seek out a fourteen-year-old girl for a date? He is a legal adult, and you're in junior high. Would you consider such a relationship if your positions were reversed?
If you do want to see him, do it only in public for the time being, and don't be dependent on him for your ride home or anything like that. Avoid putting yourself in a vulnerable position (incidentally, that includes drinking at parties).
One of the other responders mentioned that girls mature faster than boys. While that may be true in most cases, it's also true that girls get raped a lot more often than boys. A little paranoia is a good thing.
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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not? (link)
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It depends on whether it's worth risking the friendship. Usually it is, but if said guy has made it clear that he thinks of you as no more than a friend, it's probably best for all concerned to get over any other feelings. Otherwise, I'd say go for it - the best kinds of romantic relationships are also friendly ones.
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I never tried weed before should I try it? (link)
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I'm not going to advise you to break the law, and right now, smoking weed is illegal (even though I personally don't think it should be). However, I will tell you the following:
Trying it once is not likely to do any harm.
Make sure you're aware of the "purity" of it. Sometimes there can be other drugs mixed in with the stuff, and that can be very harmful indeed.
Be in a safe place when you do it, not twenty miles from home at a party where you don't know anyone.
Don't make it a habit. Over the long term, it can be harmful, especially if you start young. Up until the age of 20 or so your brain is still growing and forming new connections; you don't want those connections to be formed under the influence of drugs.
Finally, remember: marijuana CAN be "tried" and used only once with no problem. Other drugs, such as PCP, Crystal Meth, or Crack CANNOT be safely "tried"; one dose can be addictive, or lethal. Don't go down that road.
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Is it normal to have tiny bumps on your balls?
For guys. (link)
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My doctor never said anything about mine.
Of course, it all depends on what kind of bumps you're talking about here. Mine look like little goose pimples and I believe that's essentially what they are. If yours are different, like if they are red or itchy or something, then have it checked out. It may be something as simple as an allergy to your laundry soap.
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so i was wondering. i masturbate every once in a while. i'm a grl by the way. and i notice that i really get turned on by female porn pictures. does that mean i'm bisexual? or is this normal? (link)
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Why label yourself?
I've heard that many women are turned on by pornographic images of other women, and it's not because they want to have sex with them - it's generally because they kind of "imagine" themselves in that woman's place, and generally women in porn pictures are at least pretending to be really excited.
Of course, some of them DO get turned on because they want to have sex with the woman in the picture. That may mean they're bisexual, but it doesn't mean they're not normal; it's not a one-or-the-other situation.
Whatever turns you on, turns you on. As long as it's not something that would drive you to commit morally criminal acts, like pedophilia or something, there's nothing wrong with it.
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17/f with a 19/m - Canada
I used to have a boyfriend who treated me great, like he really truly cared about me, but then i found out he was living with another girl, and i didn't even know it. we broke up and now i'm with my new boyfriend. I like him alot, like more than anybody and i want to trust him, but i just don't think i can because of what this other guy did. he prefers if i call his cell phone because he lives with his parents, and when i was supposed to go over to his house, he said his sister was studying and so we shouldn't be there. also, he never drives anywhere, or gets picked up. He always takes a cab. Also, i drove him home one night, and later that week, he tells me that that wasn't his house, it was his aunt's house....
i don't know if it's just me being paranoid because of what that other jerk did to me, but i just don't know if i can trust any gu ever now....what do y'all think? (link)
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All of your boyfriend's statements could be perfectly true. Maybe his sister gets easily irritated when she's studying; maybe he takes a cab because he can't afford the payments, insurance, and maintennance on a car. Check for a few red flags, though:
(1) Have you EVER met his parents? If not, there's probably a reason. That reason might be that he's embarassed about his dad's teddy bear collection, or it might be that they've already met his other girlfriend and you would be hard to explain.
(2) Do you ever hang out with his friends? If not, that's an even bigger red flag, because he would have no reason to be ashamed of them.
(3) Are there evenings when you're "forbidden" to call him? It may be because he's out with someone else.
Of course, like I said before, he may simply be telling the truth about everything and there is no cause for alarm. But considering how your last relationship ended, I can't blame you for being a little paranoid - and more to the point, neither should he. I suggest you tell him exactly what happened to you last time, and then say, "I can't face that kind of heartbreak again. You deserve to be trusted, but please understand that I can't trust as blindly as I once did. I need to SEE that I'm your only girl."
Again, the best kind of proof he can offer is to introduce you as his girlfriend to his family and friends. Odds are, they're not all in on some kind of conspiracy to deceive you. If he can do that, or if he HAS done that, then I think you can trust him.
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I'm 15, 5'1 and I weigh 85 pounds.
No, I never had an eating disorder.
I really want to gain 15 pounds.. Because I can't fit in a size 0 or 1 in jeans. I would like my hipbones not to stick out.. or my shoulder blades..
I want some fat on me. But I dont know what foods to eat. I know fatty foods, but list some meals. I'm going to do a milkshake a day. Or close to every day. (Is that healthty?)
I have a very high metabolism.. I heard, you should eat at night or before bed because you won't burn off the fat or something ?
If people think losing weight is hard.. gaining weight is even harder.
I've been struggling with it for 2 years.
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You need to see a doctor, I think. You may not have an eating disorder, but there's something going on that ain't right. You may have a physical problem with your digestive system that's preventing you from absorbing certain nutrients, and this could lead to serious health problems - for instance, if you aren't absorbing sufficient calcium, you could end up with early-onset osteoperosis. My wife has that (she's 33) and it ain't a good thing.
Oh, and there's probably nothing wrong with a milkshake every day, as long as you brush your teeth.
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female.
the short version: i toldGod i wouldnt masturbate for 3 monthes if he would watch over one of my close friends while she wasnt in a good spot, and of course shes fine now, but now i feel like i shouldnt have done that because i should've trusted God in thef irst place, so i dont know if i should do it to show that i do trust him, but one of the seven sins is lust anyway so i dont know which one would be worse: to do it, or not to. and i know it sounds really stupid the only reason why i said it in the first place was because im trying to do it less and less, but im saving myself for marriage and i kinda need something up until then you know.....
gah i feel silly. any advice would be good. thanks. (link)
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If you make a promise to God, you should keep it. Not because you'll burn in hell for breaking it, or because God won't understand, or anything like that; it's because the promise is as much to yourself as it is to Him, and if you can't be honest with yourself, what have you got?
By the way, you should know that I am an Atheist, and I don't actually believe God exists at all. I just think you should keep such a promise as a matter of principle, because otherwise you're betraying something very important to yourself and compromising your core values. That's never a good thing.
Oh, and another thing - there's nothing in the Bible about female masturbation being sinful, only male. This is partly because the authors of the Bible didn't think women had orgasms. And there's no mention of the Seven Deadly Sins in the Bible, either; they were invented hundreds of years later by the Catholic Church so that people would have a clearer idea of what they should be confessing about.
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First off,my boyfriend is gone in the army. and i thought he was comeing home so i got all my hopes up and now there shot down because hes not comeing home. and i cryed over that. Then my sister is like obsessed with my boyfriend i f* hate it.And then im afraid when my boyfriend comes home everything is going to be the same thing as before when he was always makeing me cry but he said he has changed. and then i get off the phone with him and i feel bad because i always get an attitude on the phone. and then i have all this school work to do and all this homework. And i just dont know what to do. im so overwhelmed and just feel like dieing. advice? (link)
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Exactly why is this guy your boyfriend? You haven't said one single positive thing about him, and apparently he used to make you cry all the time.
This is a tough call, but I'd actually advise you to distance yourself emotionally from him. I'm assuming that, as he's in the army and his tour of duty has been extended, he's in a war zone somewhere like Iraq or Afghanistan. It really sucks to break up with someone who's in that kind of situation, but honestly that may be what you need to do. It might help to take some of the sting out of it if you put it like this:
He says he's changed. Tell him that if that's the case, he's going to have to prove it upon his return. Furthermore, he has his obligations right now and you have yours, and it seems like your relationship is making things harder for both of you, not easier.
As a practical matter, suggest that you try exchanging letters instead of phone calls for a while. It might help if your communication was less immediate, and if you had more time to think about what you're saying.
In any relationship, it's important to think about what's in it for you. If you're not happy with a guy, why stay with him? If he makes you upset all the time, why are you sticking around?
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i dont know waht fish i like beter. salmon or trout. waht do you suggest? (link)
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After much careful consideration, I would strongly advise you to like salmon better. It's higher in Omega-3 fatty acids (which is essential to the health of the brain) and it's usually slightly cheaper than trout. So by all means, you should alter your personal preferences such that you find the taste of salmon superior to that of trout.
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alrite so i want this jacket really badly
http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&parentCategoryId=12103&childCatgroupId=12103&categoryId=12172&productId=2&langId=-1
but my mom said we just dont have the money this year. she said i could get a job to earn money for it. i can babysit my neighbors but if i ask i dont want to be like "i need a new jacket so can i babysit ur kids" cuz then they would feel they had to go out like EVERY weekend. i need help SOON (link)
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Your mom's right on target - if you want the jacket, you must work to earn it. As it happens, that's exactly why I got my first "real" job; I wanted a leather jacket, I worked for it, I earned it, and wore it proudly for the next ten years.
Don't worry about making your neighbors feel like they have to do something. Your desire for a jacket is seriously not enough motivation for them to change their lives. They're not going to start going out more just to finance your wardrobe. It's good of you to consider their feelings, but in this case I don't think you have to worry about it.
You don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing not old enough to go out and get hired somewhere. This pretty much leaves "odd jobs for the neighbors" as your sole source of income, and the list doesn't stop at babysitting. There's house-sitting as well; if you hear that a neighbor is going out of town, offer to take care of watering their plants, feeding the dog, and picking up the mail; $5 to $10 per day, depending on how much you have to do, would be a fair amount to ask (if they have six dogs and a greenhouse, it wouldn't be out of line to ask for more). Don't be too proud to do yardwork either - 'tis the season to rake leaves!
Regrettably, there really is no quick and easy way to make a couple hundred bucks. If there were, I probably wouldn't share that information - I'd just be doing it as often as possible!
By the way, what's the rush? I would imagine the jacket will be available at least until Christmas. You have time.
(Oh, and one more thing - please don't post big long links like that, as it makes it so one has to scroll to the right to read everything on the page.)
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Well I wrote on the fabric bookover and it leaked through I guess and got on my book. It was in sharpie. Is there anything that could get it out? (link)
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No. A sharpie is specifically designed to write on anything and stay there forever.
Your only hope is bleach, but that will probably make a bad situation worse.
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14/f
So, lets start off.. if you even think this kid likes me. Before, I make a total idiot out of myself.
-At this soccer game, he like would sit right next to me & like not talk or anything. Just sit there looking at me.
*which was kinda weird, but okay.
-He constantlyyyy stares at me where we go.
-He smiles at me & looks at me.
-Wherever I go, he like doesn't come up to me.. he like will walk RIGHT past me, to the point where he bumps into me.
Its like weird, he always does stuff like that. & I don't get why. Does he just wanna like come up to me & be friends with me? or does he like me? My friends did go up to him & told him I thought he was cute, which I didn't really want them to.. but whatever.
SO. what do you think is up with this kid?!
& if you do think he likes me or something.. I see him tomorrow, should I go up to him?!
Ahhh. Please help! Thanks in advance. (link)
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He's got a crush, most likely.
Crushes are weird, evil things. They are a perfectly safe form of mild obsession, in that he can admire you from afar without having to worry about things like practicalities. Usually, they're harmless little things, and the best thing to do is to let the "crusher" either get up the guts to make a real move, or pass on to the next crush when the first one no longer fascinates.
However this guy seems to be annoying you (I know it would annoy me to be constantly stared at and bumped into), so he's going to need to be called on it. Exactly HOW you call him on it depends on whether you appreciate his attention, or if you'd rather he go away.
If you like him, then the next time you catch him staring, just smile and say, "Hi, how are you?" and see how he responds. In other words, force the issue. You may even approach him and say something like, "Maybe it's just my own paranoia, but you seem to be looking at me a lot lately, bumping into me from time to time, that kind of thing... am I imagining things?" This way, you can laugh it off as a simple misunderstanding if he denies it, and no one is embarrassed. Speaking of which, try not to call him out publicly, or he WILL be embarrassed and will probably deny the whole thing even if it's true. The greatest fear of a "crusher" is public humiliation; that's why they keep their feelings secret.
If, on the other hand, his attention is irritating you, then I'd return his stares with glares, and his bumps with indignation. Say, "Excuse me, but could you try to walk a few feet to the left so you're not constantly ramming me with your shoulder? It gets pretty annoying, you know." Don't let him deny it - he knows perfectly well what he's doing if it's happened more than twice. In this case, feel free to ream him in public, because the embarassment will help the lesson stick with him.
There is a chance, a very small one, that he's actually not all there mentally. This is unlikely, but it is something to keep in the back of your mind should you choose to confront him. If you try to talk to him and he pulls away but then continues his behavior, or if you tell him he's being harrassing and he keeps it up, then get a third party involved - an adult or a group of friends who can help you put on a display of strength. He's almost certainly a perfectly normal guy with a crush, but there's that one in a million chance that he's a teenage psychopath, and so don't make yourself too vulnerable.
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Okay I"m 13year old female and i go witha 16 year old guy.. He's experienced and is ready so am i but what if we do it an i get pregnant what then?? I know use condoms... My cousin used protection an got pregnant... I really am ready... i know Birth control but how do i get to the place to get the pills...Or should i dump him and wait for a guy who isn't experienced??????? (link)
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Here's what happens if you get pregnant:
Option one: you become a 14-year-old mother, your baby starts life at a serious disadvantage, your own life takes a nosedive, kiss your future goodbye, and your boyfriend gets arrested for statutory rape.
Option two: you terminate the pregnancy, for which you'll probably need parental consent, they'll go ballistic, your life takes a nosedive, emotional fallout torments you for the rest of your life, and your boyfriend gets arrested.
Why not go with option three: THIRTEEN IS TOO DAMN YOUNG. DON'T DO IT.
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I see I've been given a 1 rating. And so we have yet another case of a child who is too young to deal with the potential consequences of sex, but by golly, she's old enough and mature enough to do it!
Sorry, but it ain't gonna fly. Not when one of those potential consequences is a human being who deserves better.
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ok, this is very random but i was watching a movie about a murder and i was wondering, if someone is arrested under murder charges and someone bails them out, later they go to trial and are found innocent, do they get that bail money back? (link)
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Bail money is returned, minus a fee that varies according to the offense and the locality. It's not a fine, it's more of an incentive for the accused to come back after having been released.
Generally, bail is not set for a murder charge or other capital crime, because many people would gladly part with any amount of money to avoid even the chance of being found guilty. Bail is also not offered when there is a flight risk - for instance, if there is reason to think that the accused might fly off to South America and never return.
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