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If i should have sex with my boyfriend???
Okay I"m 13year old female and i go witha 16 year old guy.. He's experienced and is ready so am i but what if we do it an i get pregnant what then?? I know use condoms... My cousin used protection an got pregnant... I really am ready... i know Birth control but how do i get to the place to get the pills...Or should i dump him and wait for a guy who isn't experienced???????
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Here's what happens if you get pregnant:
Option one: you become a 14-year-old mother, your baby starts life at a serious disadvantage, your own life takes a nosedive, kiss your future goodbye, and your boyfriend gets arrested for statutory rape.
Option two: you terminate the pregnancy, for which you'll probably need parental consent, they'll go ballistic, your life takes a nosedive, emotional fallout torments you for the rest of your life, and your boyfriend gets arrested.
Why not go with option three: THIRTEEN IS TOO DAMN YOUNG. DON'T DO IT.
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I see I've been given a 1 rating. And so we have yet another case of a child who is too young to deal with the potential consequences of sex, but by golly, she's old enough and mature enough to do it!
Sorry, but it ain't gonna fly. Not when one of those potential consequences is a human being who deserves better.
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If you're not ready to deal with the possible consequences of sex, then you're not ready. If you can't deal with pregnancy, which you definitely can't at 13, then you should wait until you're older, just for safety reasons. Nothing is worth ruining your whole life at a young age just for a little fun.
You should be able to get the Pill from the doctor. You may also want to consider Depo Provera, the injection, which is what I am on. It's 99% effective, just like the Pill, but there's less risk of error in taking it, because you only get it once every three months. There are health risks involved though.
You should research any contraceptives you're going to go on to make sure that it's the right choice for you.
Also, you don't have to dump him if you don't want to have sex with him. Just don't have sex! If he's worth having sex with, then he'll wait until you're ready.
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Dont`t dump this guy because he`s experienced.Talk to your parents about birthcontrol, and if you`re worried that your parents will object,tell them that yoor period is bad and that you get bad cramps from it.And that you heard birthcontrol can settle it down.If you can`t do that,you could always go to a place like PlannedParenthood.Im 99% sure that no examination is required [or parents].Good Luck,but make sure you`re safe!
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You may think you are ready, but 13 is still very young. I agree with the other Advicenator in that the guy probably just wants to take your virginity and will do a runner the minute anything goes wrong.
Your parents will most definitely find out (they always do) and they could call the police and have your guy arrested for underage sex.
If your guy is serious about you he will want to wait until you can legally have sex (normally 16). Why not ask him to respect you and wait. Chances are he will not want to hang around.
If nothing you are told convinces you to wait, then make sure you use double protection in the form of condoms and the pill. This should protect you against HIV, STDs etc., and pregnancy.
Please think long and hard about the decisions you should make. Once you have lost your virginity you cannot get it back. Whatever way you turn, I wish you all the best.
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well unless you guys have really strong feelings... i'd dump him for someone who's at your experience level. because more than likley that kids just using you because you're a virgin... guys LOVE to take virgins "v-card" as they put it. and i know you don't want to hear this part (because I never did) but seriously, you are a little too young for that. I mean seriously, if you got pregnant... do you honestly think he'd stay with you? or do you think he'd run? most guys run. espeicially at your ages. and if your mom and dad don't approve of it (which they probably won't) and you DO get pregnant.. how are you gonna tell them that you are having sex AND that you are pregnant?
Sorry if this made you uncomfortable or mad... if you want to talk, i'm here. Just messege me k?
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