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huge age difference
I met this guy at a party about two weeks ago. There was drinking and we started dancing. He seemed pretty into me. We we talking and i was sitting on his lap. Before i left we exchanged numbers and we kissed. It was such an innocent kiss though.
He called me the week after. and we've been talking since. He invited me to a concert but i didnt go. Now he invited me to his house to hang out and watch a movie this weekend. I want to go but i'm unsure.
He's 19 and i'm 14. He knows it but he doesnt really care. His last girlfriend was 15. Im pretty sure he likes me...i Guess i dont really have a specific question...i just want to know some of your opinions.
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You should definitely go.
You'll always think in the back of your mind what would've happened if you don't go, and that'll just bug the hell out of you.
If you really think it's a bad idea and he may take advantage of you, then you shouldn't go, or maybe take a friend and have him bring a friend as well?
Just be careful, and if you feel something bad will happen then you need to leave. [:
But age IS just a number, it's more about maturity.
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He is definately too old for you right now. He could go to jail for statutory rape even if you consented to sex. It is NOT NORMAL for a nineteen year old guy to go out with a fourteen year old girl. He WILL end up pressuring you for sex, I guarentee it. Do not go to his house. If you want to date him in a few years that will be different. Every year difference is much more dramatic the younger you are. Five years won't be a big deal when you are BOTH adults. Right now you are still a minor child and he is legally an adult. He should not be pursuing you, and he could even be lying about his age and be older! That happens all the time! Stick with guys around your own age by a year or two at most, and you will most likely have more positive dating experiences. You will have a billion chances to date older men in the future, but now is your time to date guys your own age and at your own pace.
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I think he's too old for you. There is a much larger difference between 19 and 14 than there is between, say, 26 and 21.
Maybe his intentions are strictly honorable, but is it worth taking the chance? Be honest with yourself: does it seem normal to you that a nineteen-year-old man would seek out a fourteen-year-old girl for a date? He is a legal adult, and you're in junior high. Would you consider such a relationship if your positions were reversed?
If you do want to see him, do it only in public for the time being, and don't be dependent on him for your ride home or anything like that. Avoid putting yourself in a vulnerable position (incidentally, that includes drinking at parties).
One of the other responders mentioned that girls mature faster than boys. While that may be true in most cases, it's also true that girls get raped a lot more often than boys. A little paranoia is a good thing.
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age is just a number.if you are into this guy,then go ahead.just dont get yourself into a mess and get pressured into doing things you dont want to.good luck.=D
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Shoot if you like him go for it!..
besides girls mature faster than boys haha
:)
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