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14/f
So, lets start off.. if you even think this kid likes me. Before, I make a total idiot out of myself.
-At this soccer game, he like would sit right next to me & like not talk or anything. Just sit there looking at me.
*which was kinda weird, but okay.
-He constantlyyyy stares at me where we go.
-He smiles at me & looks at me.
-Wherever I go, he like doesn't come up to me.. he like will walk RIGHT past me, to the point where he bumps into me.
Its like weird, he always does stuff like that. & I don't get why. Does he just wanna like come up to me & be friends with me? or does he like me? My friends did go up to him & told him I thought he was cute, which I didn't really want them to.. but whatever.
SO. what do you think is up with this kid?!
& if you do think he likes me or something.. I see him tomorrow, should I go up to him?!
Ahhh. Please help! Thanks in advance.
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He's got a crush, most likely.
Crushes are weird, evil things. They are a perfectly safe form of mild obsession, in that he can admire you from afar without having to worry about things like practicalities. Usually, they're harmless little things, and the best thing to do is to let the "crusher" either get up the guts to make a real move, or pass on to the next crush when the first one no longer fascinates.
However this guy seems to be annoying you (I know it would annoy me to be constantly stared at and bumped into), so he's going to need to be called on it. Exactly HOW you call him on it depends on whether you appreciate his attention, or if you'd rather he go away.
If you like him, then the next time you catch him staring, just smile and say, "Hi, how are you?" and see how he responds. In other words, force the issue. You may even approach him and say something like, "Maybe it's just my own paranoia, but you seem to be looking at me a lot lately, bumping into me from time to time, that kind of thing... am I imagining things?" This way, you can laugh it off as a simple misunderstanding if he denies it, and no one is embarrassed. Speaking of which, try not to call him out publicly, or he WILL be embarrassed and will probably deny the whole thing even if it's true. The greatest fear of a "crusher" is public humiliation; that's why they keep their feelings secret.
If, on the other hand, his attention is irritating you, then I'd return his stares with glares, and his bumps with indignation. Say, "Excuse me, but could you try to walk a few feet to the left so you're not constantly ramming me with your shoulder? It gets pretty annoying, you know." Don't let him deny it - he knows perfectly well what he's doing if it's happened more than twice. In this case, feel free to ream him in public, because the embarassment will help the lesson stick with him.
There is a chance, a very small one, that he's actually not all there mentally. This is unlikely, but it is something to keep in the back of your mind should you choose to confront him. If you try to talk to him and he pulls away but then continues his behavior, or if you tell him he's being harrassing and he keeps it up, then get a third party involved - an adult or a group of friends who can help you put on a display of strength. He's almost certainly a perfectly normal guy with a crush, but there's that one in a million chance that he's a teenage psychopath, and so don't make yourself too vulnerable.
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:D awh, i had something kinda like this happen to me before, and you know what? i bet he thinks you're cute, maybe he wants to get your numba, and all dat stuff, so since you see him around so much, i think you deffinently should go up to him and talk to him, just be like "hey, i've seen you around :)"
hope i helpeddd!
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