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Mixed emotions
First off,my boyfriend is gone in the army. and i thought he was comeing home so i got all my hopes up and now there shot down because hes not comeing home. and i cryed over that. Then my sister is like obsessed with my boyfriend i f* hate it.And then im afraid when my boyfriend comes home everything is going to be the same thing as before when he was always makeing me cry but he said he has changed. and then i get off the phone with him and i feel bad because i always get an attitude on the phone. and then i have all this school work to do and all this homework. And i just dont know what to do. im so overwhelmed and just feel like dieing. advice?
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Exactly why is this guy your boyfriend? You haven't said one single positive thing about him, and apparently he used to make you cry all the time.
This is a tough call, but I'd actually advise you to distance yourself emotionally from him. I'm assuming that, as he's in the army and his tour of duty has been extended, he's in a war zone somewhere like Iraq or Afghanistan. It really sucks to break up with someone who's in that kind of situation, but honestly that may be what you need to do. It might help to take some of the sting out of it if you put it like this:
He says he's changed. Tell him that if that's the case, he's going to have to prove it upon his return. Furthermore, he has his obligations right now and you have yours, and it seems like your relationship is making things harder for both of you, not easier.
As a practical matter, suggest that you try exchanging letters instead of phone calls for a while. It might help if your communication was less immediate, and if you had more time to think about what you're saying.
In any relationship, it's important to think about what's in it for you. If you're not happy with a guy, why stay with him? If he makes you upset all the time, why are you sticking around?
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