Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I am a 15 year old girl. I have had the same boyfriend for 2 years. He is beginning to want to take are relationship farther and by that I mean he wants to have sex. I would like to try it but I am so scared of getting naked. I am a really skinny girl so I am not afraid about that, but I have small breasts and I am afraid he will not love me anymore if he sees me naked. I know this sounds stupid but it is true. (link)
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If this guy has been with you for two years, than relax. If it was an appearence based relationship and the guy hated your small breasts, he would have been gone by now. But obviously he sees something more in you, and really cares about you. So drop the insecurity, he wants you, not a playmate.
And maybe if your insecure about it, you might not be ready to have sex. Dont rush into it because your boyfriend wants you to! You have all your life to have sex, and you only have your first time once. Do it when it feels right.
-Abby
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i don't want to wear high heels since i will be dancing and walking around all night. where can i get nice flats? do you think flats would be ok to wear at prom? (link)
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You can wear heels if you want, actually. Most dances I've been to, we take our shoes off even before we begin serious dancing. There are also gel pads that are made specially to use with heels, and I believe there are a line of heels designed to be comfortable (oprahs a big fan of them)
if you like flats, there fine, but the majority of people will deffinitely be wearing heels.
-Abby
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There is one columnist who draws peple like flies.She rarely lists anyone as a favourite columnist but many people list her as a favourite columnist.She rarely answers questions from the pool but she still gets tonnes of inboxes.Once someone told her not to drink snd she told them to mind their own business.She got an apology and even a rating of five for being rude.When I told someone to mind their own business I was yelled at by her and told not to be so rude.Dale Carnegie who said in his book titled "How to make friends and influnce people that people like people who make them fell important and appear to like them.She contradictcts him.Why do people love her so much?How can I be like her and make people like me?This is her advice column-http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lorelei (link)
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I don't know much about Lorelei, but I imagine she made friends by being friendly, nice, and just being herself. You can't make people like you, it doesn't work like that. If your yourself and having a good time, people will notice you for being a confident person and want to get to know you. But asking a question like this, is not a good way to try to get friends (or attention for that matter).
So stop worrying if people like you. And is it really that important to be liked on a website? No one really knows you anyway and in the end, the friendships only account for a piece of cyberspace.
-Abby
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ive had my period for almost 2 years now and i still cant use tampons. it just won't go in! what do i do? (link)
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The person below me is wrong. Maybe having sex makes it easier, but doesn't determine it.
2 percent of girls physically cannot use tampons. Though its rare, that might be your problem.
Go into the bathroom, relax, and try. If you dont have your period, I reccomend putting some vaseline (not a lot) to make it easier to put in. You can do that when you do have your period as well. It helps me to know exactly where to put it, so use your hand and find the "area" and position the tampon. ease it in, straight but a bit upward, and than once your fingers are touching your vagina, push the applicator. It should go in, and if not all the way, give it an extra push. If you can't get it in, maybe your to tense. Take deep breaths.
Some people cant get it in sitting on the toilet. Try lying down or squatting. Practice makes perfect, so keep trying!
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm 14/f and i go to sleepaway camp all summer. Last summer I became really attached to my best friend at camp whose a guy. We just fit like puzzle pieces ya know? When we left camp of course it was very traumatic and we both agreed that we had really deep feelings for eachother and agreed to try to see eachother over the year and keep in touch. He lives 15-20 minutes away!
Of course nothing ever goes as planned. I talk to him frequently on AIM and he sometimes says he wants to take me out somewhere, but the plans always fall through. He always reminds me that I'm his girl and that nothing can tear us apart. Whatever. He never has his phone on so i quit calling it.
Should i try harder to see him or just wait because theres a little less than 3 months til camp? Its just...I really miss him and i may be crazy but i could swear i love him. (link)
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Talk to him. Make definite plans. Plan them a month ahead if you gotta! If he keeps trying to back out, maybe he's lost interest or maybe has another girl in mind where he lives. But thats jumping to conclusions. Anyway, tell him you want a boyfriend you can be with, and not just talk to. If he really cares, he'll step up and spend some time with you!
Good luck,
Abby
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15/f. how do you know if a guy is trying to make you jealous? because i really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. and sometimes i feel like he's trying to make me jealous because he sometimes talks to me about her. so my question is how can i tell if he is trying to make me jealous or if he just really likes his girlfiend and likes to talk about her a lot. thanks! (link)
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When he talks to you about his girlfriend, he might just be using you as a friend to confide in. Does he talk about his girlfriend like she's a goddess, and even talk about things she is and that your not? That could deffinitely be trying to make you jealous. If he talks genuinely, and looks to you for help or just to talk (some guys do just really love their girls and wanna talk about that, but watch if he acts the same way to the girl) than he probably isnt trying to make you jealous.
-Abby
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well my hair is currently dark brown but underneath it is dark red. and so i wanna dye it blue and or purple. only like tips or streaks havent decided yet. i got this blue stuff at hot topic and it came out. so anyone know of any inexpensive blue and or purple hair dyes that will last a while? and where mite i get these?
also i want to pierce my ears. i already have both ears pierced but i want a second piercing like right above. can i do this myelf with a needle or will that cause an infection? haah my first piercings hurt rite now cuz i shoved a 12 gage into them yesterday. im gonna stretch em out till maybe an 8 gage. so yea. thanx peeps. you rock. ;] (link)
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You might have gotten a temporary color at hot topic, or even washable, so you want permanent. make sure it says that on the box. and the darker your hair is the harder it is for color to kind of set in, so that might have been why as well. So make sure its "permanent"!
Piercing your ears by yourself is a pretty easy way to get an infection. Go the safe way, and invest in a professional. I've heard some really bad and painful stories from people who pierced their own ears (like not getting the center of ur ear, or one girl i know hole just ripped all the way down her)
Good luck!
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its spring break and i want to come back with a make over. im talking like look wise. i dont want to dye my hair or anything because im in love with it. =] haha. but just like... anything look wise. im going to go get my eyebrows waxed and thinking maybe about going to a tanning bed. any other ideas =] ? thankss so much! (link)
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Makeovers! Sounds fun!
Little things can make a big difference.
Try new skin care. Exfoliating (and maybe even waxing) your legs makes a huge difference in how YOU feel. I love feeling "touchable" lol haha. But you feel flirty-er when your extra smooth.
Waxing your eye brows is also a good idea. It can give your face a cleaner and new look.
Get a manicure and pedicure (maybe even tips?)
Try a new outfit or some new springy pieces, colors like pink, light yellow, and lilac.
Tanning sounds like a good idea, but I don't recomend it. It isnt the healthiest thing for your skin. And you have to have time devoted to it, as you have to go tanning a few times before you get a noticable difference in color.
How bout a new hairstyle if you dont want to dye it? Nothing drastic, just fresher.
Get new makeup in softer colors for the new season.
Get lots of confidence! That makes the biggest difference :)
Good luck!
-Abby
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Ok, one of my bff's(Let's pretend her name is Casey) is 15 and...let's just say she doesn't have that much self confidence, and she doesn't believe in herself. She always has a baby voice like "Wait...wait for me." or she'll repeat things over and over, and sometimes when I'm talking to someone else, she'll poke me and say the same thing the other person said to me. She doesn't act mature for her age, because(to me and my other bff(let's pretend her name is Dani) she hasn't had anything happen to make her be more mature, you know?) and both me and Dani agree that she is getting annoying because of that. I told her already that she doesn't have that good of self confidence, and that me and Dani will help her get and I told her I had a book that would help, but I remember when I read them they didn't help me that much. So can anyone help me try to get her confidence up? and to get her to be more outgoing? If this helps, her personality is like shy, doesn't like speaking in class, speaks really quietly, and stuff like that! Thanks for your help in advance!(Sorry if this was long!) (link)
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You cant learn to be more outgoing or confident. Sure, books can help, but you have to be comfortable in your own skin to actually be fully confident. Either she'll grow into it herself, or she'll just always be a shy person. And different people mature at different times in their lives. You cant just make her more mature.
This is your friend's issue, and if she wants to be more confident, let her handle it. Until than be a supportive friend and try to make her feel comfortable.
I highly suggest NOT doing what tina said, a boyfriend would be a diaster. When your too shy for normal friendships, how do you think a boyfriend would work out? Spare her the pain of that.
-Abby
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I know it's hard to have one without the other, so that's why I'm aiming for both. I have high-self-esteem. I never try to blend or anything like that because what makes me feel so great about myself is knowing I'm not typical. I do lack confidence in some areas. I'm afraid that people will think I'm a snob or not sincere, so I'm very humble, but I'm convinced that people are taking that as a sign that I don't value myself. To have confidence in myself: what would you suggest? (link)
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Be confident, but not over confident. Show people you aren't a snob by being
-Friendly
-Helpful
-Kind
to everyone. Take credit when it is deserved, but be modest. And dont be afraid to show your insecurities. Always be sincere. No one will think your a snob if you don't act like it.
-Abby
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I want to pierce my own lip and belly button.
And I can't go and get it done professioally.
So, can you tell me what to do [in general]?
So it won't get infected? (link)
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I highly reccomend NOT doing that. Why do you think people have to train to be certified to give piercings? There is a large chance you could become infected, or even just screw up the piercing. Invest the money and go somewhere thats legit. Trust me, you'll be glad your in safe hands.
-Abby
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If I want to make it look like I have a fake lip piercing or a fake nose ring, or even earring, where can I get those?? (link)
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Claires, Hot Topic, Spencers, and any ear piercing places will probably have them.
-Abby
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ok so.. i recently just got back with my boyfriend. and i went to his myspace and his friend posted something to him it said "so what happened on friday with the girl" so i went to his friends myspace to see what he wrote because i was curious. and i went and my boyfriend wrote the thing on friday didnt happen because me and her are in a mess right now so nothing happened. whats that suppose to mean? is he playing me? and how do i confront him about this i cant tell him that i stolked his myspace. what do i tell him? what do i do? i really like him but i dont know whats going to happen now help please
thaks in advance. (link)
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He's your boyfriend, you have a right to read his myspace. If it was on there for the public, you can talk to him about it. I bet its just a misunderstanding, so just ask.
Good luck!
-Abby
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my little sister {like a sister} is 11 and said she wants to have sex with a guy who is sixteen and is willing to pay her i told her no but she did anyway she is no pregnet and still is having sex she is always been very pretty and a sweet girl but then she started doing drugs like oxy cotten, midol{doesn't need it yet}coke, weed ect. when is enough enough (link)
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11? Enough is DEFFINITELY enough! This little girl needs help, and now! And this guy, he needs to be arrested. Talk to her mother as soon as possible. She is steadily ruining her life from an extremely young age, and it's going to be very hard to overcome. If her parents wont do anything, than you might even have to step it up and call law enforcement. This is no joking matter.
Good luck and god bless,
-Abby
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can someone show me different cool hairstyles for braids i can get? im black, and i get extensions put in my regular hair. umm i want the hair to be long, not too long, and not too short, but i guess more on the long side. my hair is like dark brown and i'd like the style to kinda match with it.. meaning that it wont be blonde. basically show me different styles i can choose because im gonna get the mesh soon and i'll tell my mom what type of hair i want too (or show her the picture). im not really into cornrolls, its more like.. just braids, but if you find some that look really good, then im for it. and it has to be a type of hair that has extensions braided with the normal hair, or i cant have it done. please put multiple examples and dont tell me to like "google" it.
thanks! (link)
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I dont have any pictures, but one of my friends had really pretty hair. She had it in rolls to the top of her head, than rubber bands with rhinestones, and the rest of her hair was down and in loose curls. She did that for a dance, but kept it in for a long time after and just took off the rhinestones on the bands. She had highlights in her extentions so the curls really showed that off.
Good luck!
-Abby
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I'm 14/f
I have a really small chest and I wear the bras that like don't have bra cups and I wan't to know what the smallest size cup bra you can get. Because i think i'm growing out of the ones i have now but i'm not sure if the cup bras will be to big on me. (link)
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The smallest bra size are the training bras, which either dont have a specific size (small, medium, large) and than there is double a (AA) and the band size. Than it just goes to normal A's.
-Abby
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Alright, well- to say the least, my legs are absolutely hideous. They're white as a ghost, I have spider veins, stretch marks, scars, little black dots where my hair comes out, and HUGEEE thighs. I just hate it.
So, here's the thing. With summer coming, I don't want to be in Bermuda shorts the whole time-that's what I did last year & I felt like a total fool. But, when I did wear shorts or skirts or ANYTHING that revealed the upper thigh, I was totally embarrassed. I want to wear short skirts/shorts and look hot.
Please don't tell me to be happy with the way I am & not to feel like a fool ...
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All of your problems are fixable.
For your white legs, I feel your pain. I have very fair skin. But, you can easily make them darker. You can go tanning (spray tan or tanning in a booth) or you can buy tanner in spray, wipe, or lotion form. None are expensive, and you can buy some of the stuff at a drug store. Avon tanner works well for me. Tanner will cover some of those spider veins too.
For the little black dots, try waxing or depilatory instead of shaving. It gets the hair completely out, so there wont be any black dots. You can get waxed at a nail salon, or buy waxing stuff/depilatory (like nair) at a drugstore. Thats not very expensive either. If your thighs are huge, work out! Running, swimming, exercising like squats and lunges will really work your thighs.
And stop worrying so much! Most people wont be focusing on your legs, your just insecure. People are probably thinking about how they look bad in what their wearing! So relax :)
-Abby
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One of my really good friends got in a humongous fight with me today and we took sides with our friends. I got so mad. She starting insulting me and using these really good comebacks. Do you know any good come backs I could get back at her for?? Shes like the Queen of Come backs. HELP!
I feel like a loser. (link)
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Some people are just good at arguing. I find myself spitting out really harsh insults and great comebacks and have no idea where it comes from.
Think about the facts, and things she did so you can use them against her. But try to make up before aruging more, because I'd rather have a good friend than a good argument.
-Abby
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im 15 years old, and my friend is too. so today we went to the mall and since we were there for a LONG time we decided to go to target. we went to the Condoms area, just cause (lol) and we took decided to take them in the fitting rooms and look at them. the fitting lady was there too, but she didnt seem to notice. she was really rude too. we were just there, but my friend decided to take one. we left the rest of them underneath a clothing and left.
as we were about to leave Target, one of the people stopped us. as we turned around the fitting room lady was holding the condoms at us and started yelling. she was like "yall stole it. I KNOW YALL DID. its ALL on CAMERA"
we freaked outt
she took us to the police that was in target. and we were like begging not to tell our parents. the Police was like "you know yall could end up in jail if this was more major.why did yall steal this"
but he finally let us go.
everyone in target was staring at us and it was So embarrasing.
Our faces weer on the camera but they never asked for our names or anything.
I just dont want my parents or ANYONE at my school to know about this. it was funny, but still.
Do you think Anything Bad will Happen??
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No ones gonna find out, but I wouldn't suggest going back into that store.
-Abby
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Hi I am 14. I am in a professional soccer youth academy. I am wondering if girls saw my kick ass body (I have an 8-pack) then they would think I was hot and consider going out with me. (link)
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As a girl, I'll tell you right now, having a kick-ass body is deffinitely a good factor. No matter how superficial it sounds, we are looking, and if your hot, we'll notice. But, if you have a sucky personality, forget it. Seriously, I'd rather go out with a guy who was smart, funny, sweet, nice, etc who wasnt the best looking than an amazingly hot guy who was cocky and a jerk. So don't let your killer body go to your head, because so many girls are turned off by cocky guys.
Its kinda funny, I just went to a soccer game tonight with my guy friend (lol he walked in with three girls on his arm)and yeah, we were looking at guys. None great though *sigggggggh*
-Abby
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