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One of my bff's needs some help...but I don't know what to d
Ok, one of my bff's(Let's pretend her name is Casey) is 15 and...let's just say she doesn't have that much self confidence, and she doesn't believe in herself. She always has a baby voice like "Wait...wait for me." or she'll repeat things over and over, and sometimes when I'm talking to someone else, she'll poke me and say the same thing the other person said to me. She doesn't act mature for her age, because(to me and my other bff(let's pretend her name is Dani) she hasn't had anything happen to make her be more mature, you know?) and both me and Dani agree that she is getting annoying because of that. I told her already that she doesn't have that good of self confidence, and that me and Dani will help her get and I told her I had a book that would help, but I remember when I read them they didn't help me that much. So can anyone help me try to get her confidence up? and to get her to be more outgoing? If this helps, her personality is like shy, doesn't like speaking in class, speaks really quietly, and stuff like that! Thanks for your help in advance!(Sorry if this was long!)
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You cant learn to be more outgoing or confident. Sure, books can help, but you have to be comfortable in your own skin to actually be fully confident. Either she'll grow into it herself, or she'll just always be a shy person. And different people mature at different times in their lives. You cant just make her more mature.
This is your friend's issue, and if she wants to be more confident, let her handle it. Until than be a supportive friend and try to make her feel comfortable.
I highly suggest NOT doing what tina said, a boyfriend would be a diaster. When your too shy for normal friendships, how do you think a boyfriend would work out? Spare her the pain of that.
-Abby
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What you are asking us is to change her. I mean the way she could be acting might not have anything to do with her self confidence. Everyone matures and grows at different paces and people should accept that. Anybryars--take her to a party. Get friend get together type things and have her participate. Have her join a team like debate team or forensics team [forensics team helped me a lot]. Erm, just have her do something that requires a lot of talking. Take her to parties, hang with friends, join teams, etc.
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You can't make anyone be more outgoing, but maybe she'd be a little more mature if she had a boyfriend. Try to set her up with someone. It'd boost her confidence a ton, and teach her to be mature.
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