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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I'm the person who asked a question (it was a while ago) about my friend's parents getting a divorce, and how my friend hasn't been talking to me. Here's the link to my old question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=391794
I told her that I'd always be here for her and stuff like that on AIM. I also told her that I was worried that we weren't talking, and she said it was because she was always busy with school and sports and stuff. That's the last time I talked to her, and I haven't since. I'm online all the time, and she's online sometimes too. She never tries talking to me, ever. I also checked her myspace and her friends' myspaces, and she seems to be talking to her other friends just fine (I don't have a myspace, if that means anything). I've been thinking that we are growing apart for months, even before I heard the news.
She's been losing weight, too, if that means anything. She's been worrying about what she eats and she won't eat anything that is unhealthy. No, I don't mean just fried foods or chocolate (or other candy), even stuff that has value, like cheese! I don't know if that might have contributed to anything, but it might have. I know I didn't mention that at first, but I think that might have something to do with it all.
My question is, why do you think that she not talking to me at all? Thanks!
I know that wehn i have stress and it is buildin more than i can handle i dont anything. I dont have time to do it. I dont think that she is not talking to you because it is you personally it is just that stress is building up to fast for her. I am am in college an di have barely any time to tie my shoes. The only people i have to time to hang out is the people i work for. Maybe when she has free time you shoulkd go out together you know once in a awile ask her to go to the movies or something nice where you can enjoy yourselves. I know you want her to start the conversation but for some people just because of their stubborness they wont start the conversation. The best thing is to never give up if you do then there was no point in trying. If you continue to try and never give up your work will be payed off to your advantage. When i was in high school i was very busy it is not that i didnt want to talk to my friends or hang out with them it is was i was so busy that i didnt even have time to do anything. i was barely seeing my family and my dad hardly ever saw me because he didnt want to. The point is she is no avoiding you on purpose. Dont ever blame yourself and keep trying you can do it.
Heres my proble im female and im 16 I hope you can help,so to make a long story short i fell for my best guy friend and he lead me on for like 6 months im crazy about him it got to the point where he has become me security blanket. i've been going through a really tough time in my life right now and hes been there for me i'd tell him i loved him and hed say i love too but he wouldnt date me and i asked if him it was okay that im so dependant on him, and he told me yes its fine im here for you etc. and just recently out of the blue he was like you call me too much, I cant be your security balnket anymore plus he met someone and basically he was like here ill give you some space get over me and like now we dont really talk hes ina erlationship with this new girl of his , im so hurt cause he just like left and he promise he'd always be there for me and he promised me alot of things but he did lead me ona nd now hes basically doesnt want anything to do with me and he told me left like he did because he got sick of being my friend and i know that, thats not really the main reason why its because of this new girl and i dont know im still in love with hima nd hes my best guy friend and im so confused and hes said oh im sorry a million times but i just cant forgive him a part of me wants to hate him so much but i jsut cant because i love him and he was the first guy ive ever fallen for and ive cried so much overhim and i just cant let go of him and accpet that he did what he did out of all the people i truey care about he walked out me just like my parents did, How can I get over him i need to so bad all he does is hurt me
I know what it is like to be in your situation. the same thing happened to me with some guy and he was my first love. It was really hard seeing every wed. and every sunday and he acts like nothing ever appened or he never hurt me and i just pretend like he didnt hurt me. The best thing is to find something you love with a passion like when i am angry i like to play my guitar and gets all my anger out. If you find something to kept yourself occupied and to keep your mind off him and your situation. I have learned not to trust anyone and i push everything that comes close and its lonely b/c i push everyone away dont be like me. He is ajerk and you can someone better someone you really care about and have a feeling that you can trust them no matter what and i bet you are going to find that person. I know it is going to take awile for you to get over him but it is one of those things that you have to take one day at a time. He is doing this b/c he knows you care if you show a good attiude in front of him like you dont care now he will regret ever doing that to you. I bet he already does.
What do you think about a guy that you ask over on a date, and he continually disses you?
I invited this guy over that I had liked for a long time.
I have a small but clean and nicely decorated appartment. Well he would say mean things about it, like when his tea got cold I told him I could zap it in my microwave and he said sarcastically "oh you have one of those"? Then when I asked him if he wanted to watch one of my movies he said "oh, it's the movie queen,". But the way he said it wasn't complimentary. Then he started asking me questions about my finaces! I kept trying to enagage him in conversation by showing him pictures but he looked completely bored. I felt very uncomfortable. I thought if I guy was into you he would say things to make you like him better. But the way he was acting it's like he was purposely trying to make me not like him.
Why do you think he was acting like this? He's still trying to be my friend. What should I do?
I think that is not the right guy for you. The perfect guy would always comliment you even if you didnt look your best. You need someone you feelcomforable with and doesnt do that to you. You dont deserve to have someone like that. And i think you sound like a really nice person who deserves much better. I think that he is jealous of what you have so he makes fun of it. When someone is jealous they do act like that. I am certain you will be able to find someone that respects you and your belongings no matter what they are and i hope that you find him soon.
Ok, i work at this supermarket im 17 female and there is this guy who works me, i catch him looking at me sometimes and he talks to me sometimes too, but he talks to almost all of the girls. He does weird things like one night we were talking in the employee room and it was just the two of us but he wouldn't look at me, he would look foward out the window while talking to me. And he will talk to me sometimes but while walking by me he won't even look at me, almost like ignoring me. He always (relives) takes me off my cash for my break when hes not told to by the customer service, and when he looks at me, he looks straight into my eyes very deeply. He also has given me a smile i have never seen him give anybody else, one that lit up his whole face. We work almost the same days (the guy who schedules us is his buddy). Now i don't know if he has a g/f but ( i know this is mean, but hes a little geeky, i love geeky guys though) i don't know if he likes me or not, are these signs nothing or are these signs hinting towards something, and if they are what should i do?
I think these are the signs of him liking you and the best thing is to ask him if he likes you or if you dont want to have one of your friends to do it for you. I think that if really like this guy you shouldnt let him get away if you doyou will regret and wonder what would have happened if we would have been together.
Alright
my "downthre" is just really raw and red and burns.
what is this?
What can I do to make it go away?
You are right you have a yweats infection the best way to get rid of it is to go to the nearest rite aid and they have some products that will help get rid of it.
How do i break up with my boyfriend with our hurting him. I like him but not in a boyfriend way. there is no connection anymore. I still want to be his friend. Also he has no clue its coming.well that is what i think
thanks for the help
5's for good advice
The best way is to talk to him in person. You dont want to be with someone if you are not happy or feel comfortable around him. Finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is the key. Ask him to come to your house and take him in a room where it is empty. Tell him how you feel. A relationship is not a good relationship if you are not honest. Just tell him that you want to be friends and that you dont feel the same way about him as he does you. You wish you did but you dont. the sooner you tell him he better you will feel.
me and my boyfriend were going out for about 14 months...everything was really great at first but then just a little while ago it started to go down hill, we started fighting a lot and everything. well i went to my friends yesterday and i met this kid Brandon, he was really nice and good looking. we flirted a little. But then today i went down to my friends house and he was there and me and him started talking and we connected really good, we made each other laugh we were kind all over each other but not alot. but me and him barly talked to anyone else that was there. It hard to explain we just hit it off really good...but anyway i was going to go home and he was going to walk me home but we got by my house and i asked him if he wanted to take a walk so we did and we ended up in the woods. so we sat and we talked and then we started kissing, and kissing lend into fingering then we had sex... i feel real bad tho and i know i have to tell my boyfriend but i'm not sure how to, i mean i don't want him to break up with me but i believe he will because i cheated on him, how is he supose to trust me....i need advice bad...
I also feel like a slut to and i feel really bad, like i let my self down and i did something that i know was wrong..like i just slept with a guy i just met..am i going to feel like this forever? how do i make it stop?...
Thanks in advance...
sorry its long to!
I think that if you dont tell it will be worse. Would you rather him hear it from you or some random stranger that you may have told or seen you b/c they did the same thing in the woods. If you tell him he will take it better than if you sit there and lie to him. You will get alot off your chest if you just tell him. You are not a slut. It is hard to control those things especially if you are attracted to someone. You will be doing yourself a favor if you just tell. Tell him in person though. You will feel so much better when you tell. The only way we will learn from our mistakes is if we make some to learn from.
HOW DO I GET SKINNY??????
im 200 pounds..
please help!
dont say exersize...
please just help
i need to loose 100 pounds fast!
DONT SAY EXERSIZE I CANT DO IT.
PLEASE!!
help!! fast!
i want to be pretty..
If you cut fatty foods and only eat 5 small mels a day you will lose weight fast and it wont gain back. If you dont eat it makes you get bigger i just learned this. Another way is to eat 3 times a day. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner and do not snack in between you should lose weight in no time. I have lost 20 pounds by doing this in about 2 weeks and i hate exercising
Hey Advicenators! (;
I usually hate giving advice to questions like these, but I really need to know if what I'm doing is right. Basically, I have a boyfriend, and we've been dating for a month and a couple days. I really really like him a lot. He's been my best friend since I've moved here to Texas, and we just thought we should start being boyfriend / girlfriend. His name is Kevin.
Back in Pennsylvania, I had this best friend called Charles. We had been best friends since 2nd grade. But, we became REALLY close before I left PA because we knew that it'd be super heartbreaking for the both of us, since we wouldn't be together anymore.
I was completely sad because I knew that Charles didn't believe in long distance relationships. I knew I'd have to wait for him.
But then he found a girlfriend like a month after I left. I don't know her but I know that he has a girl. I was so pissed off about this because I thought he was "in love" with me. But obviously not. Then I met Kevin, like 2 months after I moved here.
Somehow he found out that I'm making Kevin a gift for Xmas, "100 reasons why I like you.." lol i'm pretty sure everyone knows about that. Then tonight, Charles IMed me and said, "Tell me 100 reasons why you love me.." & I'm like I'm not going to do that because it's unfair to Kevin, even if he never finds out about this conversation, I still think it's unfair to talk about US behind his back. He shouldn't even feel that way anyways because he has a girlfriend, right? Now he said he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. And he's never said that to me before.
I'm not going to be upset about this, because it isn't my fault, right? I just need other peoples' perspectives on this.
Thanks for any help.
NaImEE ♥
I dont think it is your fault. Long distance relationships are hard. They only really work if you are completely dedicated to make it work. You did the right thing by not telling 100 reasons why you love him b/c even though it would be a secret could you really go on knowing you said that and stillbe with kevin without acting weird knowing you did something that could hurt him. You made the right choice and Charles has a g/f so what does he care. I think if charles was really your friend he wouldnt have said that. I think you have a great thing with Kevin and you shouldnt let it go if you truly want to keep it.
A guy that I'm quite good friends with was telling me stories from when he was in highschool. I was curious when all this happened to him so I innocently asked him what year he graduated from grade 12. Well it turned out that it was the same year that I was born!! I started giggling and then told him I was born the year he graduated.
Well this was his reaction: His eyes got huge(like a deer in the headlights) and his face went 50 shades of red. He also couldnt look me in the eye for the rest of the evening.
I felt bad for embarrasing him and never mentioned it again. But I thought it was a strange reaction for just a friend?
Do you think he may be attracted to me? Why else would he get so embarrassed?
He was attracted to you. I think maybe he thought you were a little older so he started to flirt with him. To me age doesnt matter and if you like him you should go out with him. MAybe telling him there is nothing to be embarrassed about. My mom and dad were 10 years abpart when they got married. My step dad and my mom are 7 tyears apart so it not that age matters. If you like him more than a friend maybe you should try and make it happen. He may not be there if you waitto long. Only if you want to and if you just want to be friends than just tell he shouldnt be embarrassed.
hello.there is this guy i like and i think he likes me too cause i can see the way he looks at me. should i get his number and initiate some conversation with him?
I think that he does like you and if you really like him you shouldnt let him get away. Maybe he is just shy. Most guys like a woman if they look at you and they are shy if they dont say anything. You should take the risk and show him there is nothing to be shy about. I think that if you start to talk to him you guys will get closer and start becoming more then friends and it will work out to your advantage.
I consider myself to be an independant woman, but my bf disagrees.
Well I am 27 and have my own appartment that I rent. I don't have any student loan dept, or credit card dept. I pay my bills on time and have been living in the same appartment on my own without any help from family or roomates for the last 4 years.
I have a car that is paid for that I maintain in excellent condition. I just replaced the tires and always make sure it is serviced regularily.
I work part time at a store that is UNION. Before I got that job I had been collecting a small disabllity pension for having a mental illness. Everyone has said how well I have done for myself considering I have this condition. They (my family and friends) are all very happy for me that I got the job.
My bf, however, is being a total jerk. Well before I got the job, even though I was managing to live on my own and be responible on my disability pension would say the meanest things, like that I was living off the system and how broke I was.
Now that I have the job, he is saying things like "so I guess it's working out for you,", in a negative tone.
Well he has no right to do this to me. We arent living together and I NEVER ask him for any money. I could understand him being mad if we were living together and I wasnt working and spent all his money, but I live ON MY OWN and can look after myself. I think considering everything I've been through he should give me a little more credit.
Why do you think he is treating me like this?
I think maybe he life wasnt so great and he is taking it out on you. Sometimes when we see someone doing so well we wish we were like that. He maybe jealous that he isnt as successful as you. Alos something else might have happened to him and he doesnt want to talk about it so he treats everyone around him to show how he feels without saying how he feels. The best thing is to really ask what his problem is. I think that it is great that you are doing so well and being independent helps you understand what the real world is like. You have shown that you can take care of yourself without help and most people are just heealous b/c they cant do as well as you have made yourself to be. I would just talk to him and if he is a jerk you shouldnt be with you should be with someone that supports you no matter what decision you make.
Ok... here is the problem ok... Well I love this boy and like, Him and I got into a fight because I kicked him and now he is all mad at me and like he really likes me and cares about me SOO much, more than anything in the world.. him and I have been friends since 4th grade... but like he wants to be my friend so bad again but he swears at me he ditches me he kicks me and he also pulled my hair out and slapped me.. I don't know if I should be his friend again if he cares about me that much and if I should, Should I be his friend again?
~*+*Dri*+*~
Someone who is truly your friend wouldnt hurt you. If he was your friend he wouldnt torture you like he is. The best thing to do si find someone that you can have a good time with and can talk to about anything and doesnt make you upset. If he truly cares about you he would respect your decisions no matter what they are and give you some space. Take some time and think things through.
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year nnow, i love him so much. but my problem is i have had dreams that ive been making out[and more] with guys (that i know like me) and in my dreams i feel happy when i cheat, but when i wake up i feel horribl. anyone know what is going on?
15/f
You are afraid of losing him. You are afraidf that if you do something that you will regret you will lose him forever. Sometimes when you think about other guys it means that you wish that the relationship was like it used to be. The best thing is to take a break and calm down. If you take your mid off of it for awile you will be able to get back on track. I think that these relationships in your dreams make you happy b/c it was the relationship you had in the beginning with him but when you wake up you fgeel awful because you think of it as just cheating.
K so I hung out with this kid today.. and we amidiatly hit it off (that I know of) and we hung out all day. and he held me and we kissed and everything.. But he always teases me by looking at me but not kissing me and just looking away in a teasing way. Well Im not sure if he likes me if he is playing me or what. I have really bad trust isues because I have been hurt by so many guys. I would really like to think he really likes me, because If so id like to go out with him maybe! What should I do? Im going to be seeing him tomorrow also!
I think that he does like you. A way to find out is to spend more time together and let fate run its course. If you guys are meant to be together it will happen but having patience is the key. Teasing you is another way of saying i like you he is just fooliung around for laughs. I bet that it will work out to your advantage
I've got some questions on how to do a back walk-over. You start with the back bend, but I haven't been able to bring my legs up and over. Does anyone have any tips of exercises or anything that can just help me to do it?
Love Ya!
blue_bunny
It helps alot for people to do it for you that way you get used to doing it. When you thin k you can do it you should do the back bend and then kind of try and get your legs and arms closer and then with all of you strength try pushing up. Another way is to get your legs stronger and arms by lifting weights.
please dont judge me for this iam looking 4 help not to be yelled at. i am 15 and a smoke. i want to knoe how can i quit?
The best thing is to get a patch or even dont buy them but chew gum and i guess my grandpa said the only way he could quit is if he chewed gum or did something to get his mind off of it like helping around the house or try avoiding areas where there is the smoke smell. If you smell it the addiction will come back and make you want to have a smoke.
i had a debit card, keyword had. i gat it because i would lose my wallet often, and my money, i though that debit cards didnt allow you to go over your limit. that is evidently not true, i racked up $218 dollars in debt, without a single transaction being more that 10 dollars, i was then charged $60 for every overdraft, but the card was still accepted. is that supposed to happen?
When you use a debit card it takes out money from your account. Each time you use it and you dont have enough in your account when it goes through your account it will bounce. When it bounces you have pay 60 dollars for each one. When you use you debit card say in the dollar store sometimes it doesnt go through you account until the next day. So some things in your checkbook that you didnt check off still havent gone through and that means that you have to subtract this from your available and thats what you have to spare. Call you account and see whats come through or not. Its always good to write the tings down that you spend as soon as you are done. I just learn that because two things bounced in my account because i went shop crazy and forgot to write it down and so i thought i had more money but i really didnt
im 16.. im in love with a guy that is 15. we went out for 4 months. but ive known him for almost 3 years now. i lost my virginity to him. one day we did it and everything was normal. the next day he calls me and says, "lets take a break, then when i think we are ready to make this a serious thing ill ask you back out." i was just like um okay? well then a couple days later i hear hes going out with some chick from his school. so hes "taking a break with me" to go out with some other chick. that really hurt me. because im in love with him. well i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he kept like 10 feet away from me. and i was pissed off about the whole situation. then the next day i call him to talk about everything going on and he called me a b**** and i was like why are you calling me that? and he was like i heard what you said to people last night about me. i was like what did you hear? hes like you just trash-talked about me the whole night to my friends and family. and he hung up on me. so i call him back and left him a message, because he didnt answer, and i was crying and i said "the only thing i said to anyone was that i was in love with you". and that is the first time i told him how i felt about him. ive never told him i was in love with him before. and i havent heard from him since. what should i do about this whole situation and the next time i see him? and i see him quite often because my mom works for his dad. i dont know what to do PLEASE help. this may turn into suicide. he was the only thing i had.
This is not your fault and committing sucide is definitely not the answer. You will die and be up in heaven or whereever watching be with every girl in town and sometimes to me that would be real torture. I think some of his friends were mad because he was hanging out with you and not them more so they told him some stuff that wasnt true to break you guys up so they could hang out more. Another reason is that one of them may like you and couldnt have you until you were free. I think he might have gotten a little scared when he heard you say i love you. Its not that he doesnt feel that way but maybe he doesnt want things to get as serious as it seems to be.
I think the reason why he went for that other girl is because she doesnt love him and thats a way for people to get away. The point is he is afraid of committments and eventually he will come back but until then you should find someone else. If you show that you dont care that will bother him and make you feel stronger and better about yourself.
This guy that I'm friends with invited me and another girl over to his house to watch a hockey game. Well I had already made plans with my father to go to the show, so I couldnt go. Well my the other girl (who has a severe crush) on this guy didnt have a problem with going alone without me to his house.
Well anyways I found out the next day that he was choked at me because he had to give my friend money for a cab ride home, since she doesnt have a car. I have a car but couldnt give her a ride there and back because I had already made plans with my dad. This guy is acting really cold towards me now.
Well I have two theories about why this happened. Either A: he's jealous I have a good relationship with my father, or B. He likes me as more than a friend and was upset that I didnt go to his house? And maybe he just invited the other girl cause he's shy and would be more comfortable with her and me there?
Either way, I think he was being a jerk. The other thing I thought was maybe something happened between my friend who has the crush on him that night. Like maybe she made a pass at him, or was telling him nasties about me.
What do you think is going on?
I think this guy is more comfortable with a crowd than one person. I would be kind of upset that i would have to pay for some elses cab ride but i wouldnt make you look like the bad guy. Its true that when you see people with good relationships with their fathers you get jealous if you dont have one. I dont have a very good one with my dad and i get upset when i see dads and their kids hanging out and having a good time because i would wish that i would have the same thing as them. The best thing is to talk to him face to face and ask him what is going on. The only way you will get an exact answer is if you do and if you dont you will just wonder about it.