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me and my boyfriend were going out for about 14 months...everything was really great at first but then just a little while ago it started to go down hill, we started fighting a lot and everything. well i went to my friends yesterday and i met this kid Brandon, he was really nice and good looking. we flirted a little. But then today i went down to my friends house and he was there and me and him started talking and we connected really good, we made each other laugh we were kind all over each other but not alot. but me and him barly talked to anyone else that was there. It hard to explain we just hit it off really good...but anyway i was going to go home and he was going to walk me home but we got by my house and i asked him if he wanted to take a walk so we did and we ended up in the woods. so we sat and we talked and then we started kissing, and kissing lend into fingering then we had sex... i feel real bad tho and i know i have to tell my boyfriend but i'm not sure how to, i mean i don't want him to break up with me but i believe he will because i cheated on him, how is he supose to trust me....i need advice bad...
I also feel like a slut to and i feel really bad, like i let my self down and i did something that i know was wrong..like i just slept with a guy i just met..am i going to feel like this forever? how do i make it stop?...
Thanks in advance...
sorry its long to!
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You may always regret it, but think of it as a learning experience. You'll remember how awful you felt afterwards & never do the same thing again. But you're not a slut. You just had a momentary lapse in judgement.
It's great that you want to be honest with your boyfriend & that you feel bad about it. It shows that despite the problems in your relationship, you still care for him. Your honesty may save your relationship.
Tell him in person, & let him know that you regret it. Tell him that it wasn't something you did to purposely hurt him, & that you want to remain a couple & work through things together. But also tell him that you'll understand if he needs space & time & that you know you'll need to earn his trust back & that it won't be easy, but you're willing to work at saving your relationship if he'll have you.
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You made a mistake. But, you have to tell your boyfriend. He will find out eventually. Even if he does break up with you, you said yourself, your relationship was going downhill anyway. That could be why you did it. You can apologize and tell him you made a mistake. He probably won't trust you for a very long time, but he might forgive you.
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I think that if you dont tell it will be worse. Would you rather him hear it from you or some random stranger that you may have told or seen you b/c they did the same thing in the woods. If you tell him he will take it better than if you sit there and lie to him. You will get alot off your chest if you just tell him. You are not a slut. It is hard to control those things especially if you are attracted to someone. You will be doing yourself a favor if you just tell. Tell him in person though. You will feel so much better when you tell. The only way we will learn from our mistakes is if we make some to learn from.
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Well you need to call your boyfriend, don't do that stupid AIM talk you need to either tell him in person or on the phone so he knows your not kidding or something like that. Please don't take this the wrong way but he may break up with you. I know how it feels like wow I think you connected with the other guy very well because your looking for attention((said by my one friend)) because you and YOUR boyfriend are fighting constantly you just feel left out and insecure about everything your confused and feel hopeless. I get that but if you really love your boyfriend then I'd suggest you get your act straight if your boyfriend wants time apart give him the time don't bother him don't talk to him unless he starts talking to you first. If you have any other advice needed to be answer please.. Ask me.
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