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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

My eye-lashes are extremly long, the problem is they clump together. To prevent this I wear mascara (I don't really need it, I just use it for the latter purpose). Snce my eyelashes are so long, it takes them a good 5 minutes to dry. I can't go with out blinking for 5 minutes so every time I blink it gets all over my face, which is a pain to get get off and ruins the rest of my makeup. My question is... does clear mascara really work? Or does anybody know some really fast fast fast drying mascara? thanks!!!

I used clear mascarra, when I was learning how to put on mascarra, so it didn't matter if I messed up, because you couldn't see it anyways. I would try it. It works well.

hope that helped, kbye

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my bestfriend lets call her kate she's like so kool.but i don't think i trust her because she's starting to talk to my crush alot and flirting with him and not even knowing she's flirting! and i've talked to her about it and she says that she'll try to back off but she hasn't i told her she could talk to him but just not flirt with him and she's done this to me before and i've dealt with it. she's told me she's liked the same guy i like after i tell her i like him!!!!! it kind of gets mad...no it really gets me mad!! and she acts like good bestfriend and all, but in this case i hate her!!!! pease help me out with this problem....

Well, since hes not your boyfriend, hes not really your 'property.' yano? shes like entiled to him just as much as you are. You have to understand that, no matter what. Now, shes not being the best of friends, if shes like all over your guy. I hate when girls do that, when I like guys. But, what I do, is flirt with him too.. & like okay, I don't like acting like a slut, but I get like all over them. Like touching them [no not in inapproaite places, like there arms & stuff] & you just gotta hope.. he likes you better. & then if she gets mad.. you just say, "he isn't your property" & if you don't get him.. then it wasn't meant to be. Try talking to her though, say its really hurting your feelings. & stuff like that.


I hope that helped, kbyee =)

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So i want to go to the movies on friday with my best friend and a guy friend. i asked my mom and she said to ask my dad and my dad says no because he doesnt want me going with guys. but the problem is, i really, really want to go because my crush might be there. and i really want to spend time with him before schol starts. what do i do to make my parents maybe think it over? thanks =)

13/f

lol, first off.. what parents do trust there kids?
well mine do, now. because this is what i did, when there was a big party, my mom didnt want me making out with anyone.. so im like
"mom please can i go, i promise its not like im going to do anything, & if i do, then you can not let me ever go out with boys, until im like 16 & like you can ground me.. please just trust me, & let me go"
so my mom said yes, now inless.. you plain on like making out with this guy or something, then that isnt goin to work.. inless u dont let anyone find out.
you could also say,
"why cant you just trust me?"
& see what they say.

i hope everything works out =)
kbye

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How can I say this ..... hhmmmm .... ummm how can I run away i want to run away i dont like my family I know were im gona go im going to my boyfriends house if I run away and my parents dont know were he lives so thats good .... but how can i run away without my parents knowing ? Cuz i got caught once so i dont want to get caught again ??...
thanks.
-xoxox Vanessa

DON'T RUN AWAY.
you need to talk to your parents, & tell them how you feel. It goes on like your record, that shows if you ran away, & then it makes you look like some crazy person, just talk to your parents. & get some help. seriously, don't run away, you could get hurt. please don't.

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im 14/f.. would it be wierd if i went into abercrombie kids? because i looked at their stuff on the site and it looked like what teenagers would wear? do any of you guys shop at abercrombie kids? and also if a medium is in abercrombie, what would be the size for abercrombie kids? thanks

i like them both. I'm 14 too. I'm a medium, in A&F because of my chest size. So, I can fit into Abercrombie kids. But, I can't wear there pants. I'm a small, in A&F in pants size, but idno..there sizes run small. They basically, sell the same thing, only like different colors, or like not show as much clevage. i sometimes like abercrombie kids shirts better, there more.. colorish? A&F have like all those darker colors, sometimes. yanoo.. but yeah.


k hope that helped.
i love abercrombieee

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me & my friend.
were 14. we act grown up, more then most girls are age.
we really wanna like makeout, at her party. like, i wanna make out with this guy, that likes me & i like him & my friend wansta makeout with her bf.
but we dont wanna have everyone be like, HELLO SLUT GET A ROOM. yano?

so what can we do/say to them?

Just tell them its your party. If they have a problem with it, they can leave. For all the people saying its immature, I don't know if you got her question like I did, but I get what she means. I don't think you should do it infront of everyone. I think you should like play a game
-7 minutes in heaven
-spin the bottle.
stuff like that.
& then, those other girls can't be all eww slut.

I hope that helped =)
kbye

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alright
Like, a vagina up there and stuff
how is it supposed to feel?
Like smooth and wet
or bumpy and stuff?

curiousness.

Why are you touching yourself?
If you are a girl.
Its suppose to be smooth.
If you're a girl, then thats disturbing, go get a life.


If you're a guy.. then mmk.? weird

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Ok I was wondering what to say to "friend" like if he or she say things such as WHAT'S COOKIN GOOD LOOKIN & things like that. I don`t need advice on love i just want something that rhymes & that is cute just like the rhyme above.

Thanks in advanced! :)

hmm.
lata gata
later playerr
whats shakin.
peace out girl scout.
whats crackin ...? uhh. not really cute, but whatever. lol

haha. i use those, alot.

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I've been hanging out with this boy for about a year and a half now. We onyl recently started hanging out alot. He comes to my window late at night & it seems like he tries to spend as much time with me as he can - even if it means him getting in trouble for being out of his house at like 3:00 in the morning. But when I'm with him, he says really hurtful things sometimes. Like, he'll tell me he loves me, but then a little while later he'll say something horrible about me or the way I do things or look. & he's completely obsessed with sex .. I don't know what to think.

I had something somewhat, like that. This boy, he came to my back door, allll the time. It freaked me out, to the point.. I don't even sleep in my room. I know longer talk to him, well the reason he did come to my house after awhile, was for sex. & i'm only 14 i dont wanna do that, just yet. So, if i were you, id either say mean stuff to him back, tell him to stop, or say you're tired.Plus, if a police officer, catches him at that hour.. he could get in big trouble.

I hope that helped. kbye

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Okay, it's simple. I have liked this guy for a year and a half and considering he likes my best friend, its pretty clear he is never going to like me (we're also going to different high schools). For a while he knew I liked him, but I finally gave up and made him, along with everyone else, think I didn't like him anymore. We are best friends now but I still have really strong feelings for him, although I keep them well hidden. What am I supposed to do? I don't want to say I love him, although I've never felt like this about anyone and I've liked plenty of guys. I just need good, clear advice to help me through this.

Love sucks.
I went through the same thing, & then I realized that this guy, that was tottaly sweet, & nice liked me.. & I never even knew it, because I was just concerned with the one guy. Slowly get over him. All the other hot guys you know, start talking to them. Who knows, i'm sure one likes you & you could end up liking them. You can't really wake up one moring, & not like someone anymore. It tooks me alonggg time. Like 6 months =/ But, now that kid likes me.. but I don't like him anymore, I've moved on. & in time you will too. I can't really give you much other advice, because its how you feel for someone. & you have to decide when your really ready to let go of someone..


Hope that helped.
haha it sounded kindda cheezy, but oh well.

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ok, i was talking with my frineds the other day and they said i should dump my girlfrined, and i asked why and we went into a whole list of shit, ok here it is,
1. when we are together, we don't talk much, i mean we talk alot, but not as much as i and her normly do with other people.
2. when she kiss me, it's more of a peck, and we don't kiss that much anyway.
3. she does not return some of the same feeling as i do, we both love each other very much,
and other little things, like i'm veyr romantci and she's not, i don't know what i should do, my friends mabe right, but i don't want to break up, i'm always question the relatioship, like hsould i stay init, and the problem is that i really don't know if i love her, i do, but the feeling is wirde, it's more of'should i stay in this ti make her happy at the lose of my own happyness' and things like hat, i'm her first boyfriend and she's my 3, my last two hurt my really badly, and i'm not sure if i can every love again, any advice?, if you need more info. just tell me and i will update

hmm. your relationship sounds EXACTLY like my friends. Only she is the one more like you, like shes had 2 other boyfriends, & this is his first. They don't ever hardly talk, inless online.. because hes like painfully shy around her & he is shy around her too. She could be shy.

Why don't you ask her bout it?
Everyones questions there relationships, when they are worried. Don't break up with her. Just talk to her about it. She may not know, that she has to be a certain way, because shes never had a boyfriend.

All you can do is, ask.
I hope that helped. kbye

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ok..my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and five months..almost 6...and we have only been able to talk on the phone because my parents are way too strict!! weve only gone to a few places and i still love him and he still loves me but i really want to go places with him...do you know how i can talk to my parents without making them mad?
cuticlesistas!!

.. you could lie.
.. sneak out.
thats stuff, i would do. if my parents were like that.. but thank god there not.

or, you could tell them ..
that they need to trust you.

tell them that, & if they still say no, ask them why they cant trust you.

hope that helped. kbye

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My birth details r
name: charu
tob: 13:42 pm(wednesday)afternoon
place: jhansi,india
dob: 1st january 1975

ALL MY QUESTIONS R RELATED TO PREGNANCY AND HEALTH

question: when will i get pregnant i mean the exact year and month of my conception?

how many kids will i have and their sexes?

will my diseases of endometriosis and cysts and fibroids be cured?

will i die before my husband?
regards
charu

Well, maybe since you did live in india, you didn't take like health class, growing up? I don't know.

But, no one can tell you, that stuff. Along time ago, like in 1700s or 1800s, I forget which one.. but everyone used to think, that if your parents have brown eyes, you'll have brown eyes. & like stuff like that. Thats not true at all. & thanks to this one guy, & him figuring out the 'punnett square' [[or whatever]] it is shown, that you can't say that stuff. People can make guesses. About the color of their eyes, & the color of the hair.. using that. But, its only a 50/50 chance. & thats all that you can do. When you are pregant though, they can tell you if its a boy or girl =)

I hope that cleared some things up for you.
kbye

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Hey! So I am having a birthday in October and I wanted to do something outside of my house. turning 14/cali/f. If anyone can think of anything to do for birthdays in hollywood, that would be perfect but anything else besides things like bowling, or movies would help. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

hmm. is your birthday during halloween?

I have a big hugee halloween party, every year.
I don't live in cali.. which, thats not fair that you do but.. moving on. We bought this land & its all woods. So, we make the woods haunted. & then like my older cousins come & like scare everyone & stuff. I don't know. That only works, depending where you live.

My birthday is in the summer, so like what I did..is I had a theme. Like a hawiish theme. You can go crazy with that stuff. & I have a beachhouse or whatever you wannna call it. So, I had it up there this year, & I have an inground pool up there too. So, it was basically the best.

I hope that you're like rich or something. Or all of that was kinda pointless. Whatever you do.. I'm sure it will be fun.! hope i helped. kbye

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hi... i have had the same AIM screen name for a really long time and im sick of it. i have been wanting to change it for a while now except i dont have any good ideas. i want something i can keep for a while maybe somehting with my name. which is katie or my nickname which everyone calls me KP. thanks

hmmm. i got a few.

xx KP
its kp duhh
KP LiiKE WOAHH
kp xx duh
KPs typing
uhkpp
KAYPEEE x
kpbabiee
KATiiEbabiee orr KaTiIeBaBiEe
xo kmiddlenamehere lastname here xo
ex: xo vmd xo
katie412

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whats the best way to get rid of poison ivy? i have like this big bump on my finger and its like filled with fluid or something.. should i pop it? and now its starting to grow on my other fingers and my arm.. what should i do? would this keep on spreading?? HELP

UHHH.
most deff. dont keep touching it.
its going to spread. the fluid, i believe thats puss, love. you're probaly infecting it, also causing it to spread. If its hot & red. then its most deff. infected.
uhh, you should go to a doctor? it needs cream. that the doctor will prescribe.


yeahhh. hope that helped, bye

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im 13 and i like my friends brothers friend named eric. hes like what 16 is he to old he for me. cause i really like him. i live in tn. and he lives in ky. i go to ky to visit my bff (kaitlyn). this summer i went up there for a three day camping trip wit my bff family. eric was there. we didnt talk at all but he looked at me alot. i dont know what to do. ive never had a boyfriend and not even my first kiss. its easy to give advice. but i can never fall through with my own. i get scared. so help me please

Hmm.
I think hes a little too old for you.
When you're older, like in your 20s. Thats no big deal, at this age, yes. I would feel like I'd be dating my brother, if I date someone that much older then me right now. He also lives in a different state then you or whatever. That will never work out. Long distance relationships, end up bad. If hes looking at you a whole lot, then hey he may like you. I think thats kinda weird, that hes getting feelings for someone your age. But whatever. If you've never had a boyfriend or your first kiss.. you're not ready to date a 16 year old. Espically, when hes going to want to go a little father then a kiss.

hope i helped.
mk bye

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Should I be worried if I am 39 weeks pregnant and it feels like something is tearing in my side?

Instead of asking someone on here, who is most likely not a doctor. Call up like that place.. you know when you don't feel good, they tell you if you should make a doctors oppointment or not. Kaiser has one. Because my mom works there. Call them, tell them your symptons, & they'll tell you what you have right away.

hope that helped =) good luckk
is it a boy or a girl =)

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Me and my friends are hanging out tommorow since we havent seen eachother in a while. We want to go to the mall and buy a couple of things (not like 10 outfits because I just bought tons of clothes last week.) I will mostly just buy 1 cheap shirt & a few bracelets and accessories like that. And then we are eating at the mall probably at Subway. Then we are seeing a movie which is $10 and I might want to buy a popcorn or a drink. I don't know how much money to bring with me. If I bring too much money, I end up spending the extra money on junk that I don't need and if I bring too little, then it screws everything up. About how much money should I bring tomorrow?

hmmm. lets see..
T-shirt? .. bring 20 dollars for that.
4 bracelets - thatd be like a total of..16 dollars.
other accesories? hand bands, at claires & stuff cost like 5 dollars.. bring 10 dollars.
10 dollars for the movie
subway? ehh bring like 5 for that.
popcorn? drink? ... hmm.. 5 dollars for that.

so your total is like 66 dollars.
bring 70.
shabam. =)


kbye

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1)okay so this girl first asks for my email add then my phone number,then one day i waved at her in school and she was absolutely shy and looked down the whole time.Now we are talking on msn.so does she like me?or is she just naturally shy and wants to be just friends?

2)But what i don't get about girls is that you know how some girls are outgoing and super friendly?So she may talk to you a lot and like you or maybe just talk to you cause she is just being friendly to you as she is to the other guys.So is their a way to know?I mean,if a girl talks to a guy a lot,does that mean that she's interested in him?cause it doesn't really make any sense for a girl to talk a lot to a guy since girls mostly mix with girls and vice versa, plus girls mostly talk about girls stuff which guys know nothing of,unless he's gay.

Well, when I like someone, I smile shyly, & look down. Is she shy all the time, or no? If shes not, she deffently does. Most likely. If shes asking for your email, phone number & such.. she obviously wants to talk to you. See how I am.. is I talk to every guy, except the one I like. I can be funnny & silly around all of them.. except for that one, because I don't want to embrass myself. I bet thats how she is. Just ask her, if she likes you. Girls are usually more open, when you ask. Just ask her.. be like "would you ever consider going out with me" or whateverr.. something like that, you get it. & see what she says.

Hope that helped! bye

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