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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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Sorry if this was under the wrong catagory, I wasn't sure where to put it =( Anyway, my question is why is it that whenever I wake up in the morning my arms and back and neck hurts? Like it feels sore and achey? It's been hapening alot lately, and my softball throwing arm is being affected by this ... and I would like to know three things:

1) Does anyone know what is causing this?
2) How can I prevent it?
3) How can I help it? like should I use a heat pack to make them stop hurting and being so sore?

I don't know is it helps any, but I am 14 years old and a girl, thanks!

It could be because of how you sleep on night, or the mattress that you're sleeping on. If you sleep on a hard-feeling mattress then it would be better if you went out and bought a softer, more comfortable mattress. Plus, any hard pillows like polyester could be causing it as well. Try using a feather pillow next time since they're softer and more confortable to rest your head on. Hard surfaces can cause soreness of the neck, back, legs, and arms. So try sleeping on some kind of soft surface and lay on your back. Maybe stacking a few feather pillows at night could also help.

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I'm not sure what my condition is, or if I even have one, but it's like this:

Everytime I go to walk around my block, or if I'm in the house alone (and I babysit!), I freak out. I look around frantically, even running from room to room! Is this normal? I don't get it as a severity (sp), but it's not exactly too light either. What can I do to prevent this sort of thing happening to me? Thanks.

You may have anxiety and tension. But it's normal to be wandering around the room freaking out, wondering if someone is in the house, or something bad will happen. Try seeing a Doctor about this. Anxiety can get worse, and if his problem persists you might want to get treated for it. If this is affecting your every-day life then I suggest you see a Doctor. If it's only on occasion, then try taking deep breaths when you feel like you're about to panic. Tell yourself everything is fine and nothing bad will happen.

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Whats a goood wayy to get a little fitter in a week? also all my weight is in my lower body like my hips and thighs and buttttt. how do i fix that?

It's always important to drink plenty of water! You can lose weight so much faster drinking water. Also try to do workouts that work with your thighs and buttox. Doing sit-ups, crunches, some running, and frequent stretching can tone and improve the appearance of your thighs and buttox. It would also be helpful eating a lot of nutritious foods.

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how do I get a WORKING comment box? most don't work. I already tried chasebadkids and createblog.

thanks, I rate high!!

There are two great, effective, and popular websites you can use to make a comment box that actually works! I used the one on this website: http://www.mygen.co.uk. Another one would also be on http://www.eatcrack.com. Funny URL name, but it has helpful advice and html codes to use. I hope this advice helped you.

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im pretty self concious about my hair. lately, it hasnt been looking as good as it should and its frusterating for me. im getting a haircut but that will be in a while. in the mean time, i would like to know if there are any very affective hair products. my hair isnt frizzy but its dry and the ends look bad. is there something that will help my hair look softer and shinier?

Yes. For shiny, moisturized hair, try Pantene Pro V hair shampoo, and conditioner. The shampoo can put the moisture and shine back into your hair while the conditioner actually works into your hair, making the moisturizing, shiny, soft look last longer. Just make sure the bottle says "for dry or damaged hair". That should work.

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Hi there!

I am a 24 year old female who is single. I am currently liking my co-worker/friend who is a year older than me. Can you please help me decipher whether he likes me or not.

I have been with the company that I work for over a year. But towards the end of last year my co-worker started to act weird around me. He tends to hang-out in my cubicle more and takes time to chat with me. He acts extra sweet and nice to me compared before.

When he gave his christmas present which by the way is a purse. While opening the gift, I found a piece of paper with white doves on it. The first thing that came to my mind is that this symbolizes marriage or love. My question is did he intentionally place this or was it just an accident?

And is it normal for him to kiss me on the forehead on special occassions? My friends tell me that it it not normal for friends to kiss. Was it just a friendly kiss or did it have meaning? Please help me!!!

Thank you very much!!!

It sounds like he may some interest in you, but how could you know yet? I believe it's not normal for friends to kiss because it obviously seems like he some kind of interest in you. But try to test him out. Give him hints, like compliment on his clothing, or hairstyle, and see if he'll say anything that friends wouldn't say. Try flirting with him a little bit. Maybe he'll follow along and soon you'll probably get your answer.

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so my puppy just lost 5 teeth while chewing the carpet and i was watching a movie so i didnt realize it but when i went into that room there was blood everywher....how do i get it out?

Try cold water and soap. The faster you soak it in cold water and soap, the more effective this technique is. But in case it's been there for a long period of time, try soaking it in warm water and bleach (if it's not colored), or soak it for an hour in warm water and detergent. Also getting fabric cleaners from a local store can help as well.

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Recently during a game, I think i pulled a muscle in my thigh area or something because it hurts! It's kind of hard to walk on my left leg and when i press against my upper thigh, it really hurts. I'm not even sure if i pulled something or if it's something else. But anyway, I have a really important game coming up this work, so i'm wondering if anyone has any ideas how to lessen the pain or make it better or anything.

thanks, i rate high for helpful advice!

This has happened to me before. When I pulled a muscle in my ankle, the nurse told me to put ice on it a few times a day. So still keep exercising; no matter how much it hurts. Because if you have a pulled muscle and you do not exercise, your muscle tightens, causing easier breakage the next time you exercise. But frequent exercising can help loosen the muscle, plus putting ice on it can ease the muscle as well. Do this for about a week, whether the pain goes away or not, because you may still have a pulled muscle and not know it. So keep up with the ice and a lot of exercising and it should get better soon. Also, taking pain relievers like Ibuprofen can also temporarily relieve the pain!

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Everithing was ok before this winter... a had no many spots on my face, there were just few.. however now it turned to worse... 2 months ago my face was covered by them and i was suggested to try Benzoil Peroxid.. I bought "PanOxyl wash 10".
mt spots went away, but red marks appeared. I had never had them before... they are still there, and they even did not reduce their size ((( ... It is a big trouble for me coz i'm in 11 grade and next year I wonna enter the university... 1

The red marks may either be signs of an allergic reaction or blemishes. If you have an acne problem, benzol peroxide does treat pimples but is not very effective. Try buying over-the-counter acne medications containing Salicylic Acid. This can also help acne, and blemishes. If it is an allergic reaction, try washing your face with just plain water and soap for 15 minutes. If the redness still persists or worsens after a few days, go see a Doctor.

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k im really freaking out because i have exams in one hour and though I am exceedingly prepared, I am really really nervous. I kindof get panic attacks and when I'm nervous I get really nauseated. WHAT SHOULD I DO???

The next test or exam, trying eating a nutritious breakfast. Drink plenty of cold water before and/or during the test. And before you pick up your pencil, just take a few deep breaths and not think; just write down what comes to mind. And give yourself confidence. Also, try answering the easier questions first. This can help you convince yourself you'll do just fine. Answering easy questions first builds confidence.

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ok, i have a stye on my eye, and it hurts really badly. I can't blink without feeling pain. What can I do to make it go away? What are the causes of styes? Also, I have an eye doctor appointment tomorrow (4/24). Is the stye going to affect it? Will my doctor still be able to do all the tests he needs to do (its just a regular check up).

13/f if that helps.

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Stye eye just means you got an infection in your eye. It's common and I had it before. What usually works is just put a clean, warm-hot wet towel or rag on the eye several times a day and it usually goes away within a day or two. Commonly the stye eye won't effect you afterwards; it's just a little infection caused from getting soap in your eye, from eye makeup staying near your eyes for a long period of time, or rubbing it too much. It's like getting pink eye. But you don't need to worry much about it unless it persists or worsens after a few days. Then seeing a Doctor would help as well.

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On myspace does anyone know how to make a DIV layering layout? like the one that you cover your myspace up and start from scratch to make your own myspace and stuff, ugh you know what i mean. idk how to do ittttt. >:| www.myspace.com/xocrazicrackaox .
my myspace.

There are some DIV layouts available if you go to this website: www.mygen.co.uk. They offer a variety of Myspace layouts, plus an option to customize your own. Did this advice help you? If not, please contact me so I can help you better.

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i want to make my comments and friends on myspace so that no one except me can see them.. how can i do that? thanks

You can go to this link: http://www.eatcrack.com/index.php?page=html&code=hide. This gives you the guide on hiding your friends, comments, or even both. You may also get a comment box, so people can still leave you comments (but of course only you can see them) by going here: http://www.eatcrack.com/index.php?page=generators&gen=cbox. Did this advice help you?

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how do you make fancy myspace layouts like on createblog.com. i know how to make the boring easy ones like this () but they arent anything compared to the nice ones on createblog.com

There's this awesome website called http://www.mygen.co.uk. They offer pre-made, and customized Myspace layouts. The pre-made ones go in a variety of catagories, and the customized one takes you step-by-step on making your own layout without doing it all from scratch.

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I'm making a website.. but I don't know what I should make it about.. any body got any ideas? thanks in advance

If it's a website with multiple webpages, try using the index (main page) as main ideas like describe yourself, your favorites, your hobbies, etc, and your other pages with quotes, poems, stories, random facts. If it's just one webpage, then try making it more general. Like some facts about yourself, some pictures of you, your family, or pets.

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is there any way i can get a song on my cd to become my myspace song? if so, how?

Yes, you can try ripping the songs from your CD, unto your computer. You can do this with Microsoft Media Player, by selecting "rip songs". Make sure you use the songs for archive purposes only, since piracy and music downloading is illegal. After you rip the songs from the Media Player, find the folder it's located in. You'll need to know the location to rip it again. Go to http://www.ripway.com. They offer free trial and Premium - whichever bests suits you, make an account, and rip the songs from that website. They offer you music player codes, and background music codes. I hope this advice helped you.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months, friends for 4 years, and I recently tried to end the relationship. I don't see our futures working together, he has no personal ambition, and numerous other things. I thought the break up was going relatively well considering the circumstances, but then he lost it and started crying. That was the last thing I expected as he is NOT the kind of person to EVER cry. I felt so terrible for inflicting this kind of grief on someone I care so much about that I agreed to stay in the relationship. (He isn't/wasn't trying to cry in orderfor me to stay)
Now I don't know what to do but I need to get out of this. He's gone back to his normal self and has seemingly forgotten about our whole deliemma. He wont acknowledge my unhappiness and instead chooses to credit my cheerlessness to any other problem.

Please don't respond with "Just leave him" or other short answers with no reason.

I've been through this kind of situation before. Have you ever asked him about what he would like to do with his life? Or if he has, ever encouraged him to what he likes to do in the future? Try talking to him if you haven't; tell him how he needs ambition and to become successful in life. Try negotiating on what you both want to do for the rest of your life. Like maybe one day he wants to become a Doctor; encourage him to do it. But if he does not agree to do something with his life, then it's not worth being with him. You probably want someone to become successful, so if he refuses to become successful in life, then your relationsip is not going to work out. But like I said, just try talking to him some more, encourage him to become successful. Tell him he needs ambition in life if he wants to go anywhere. So don't give up just yet - he may just need a little persuasion and encouragement.

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im 14/f and i was asked to prom by my boyfriend of a few months (2-3). he goes to a different school and they only have a junior prom so what im asking is do you people think 14 is too young for prom. i have to say im a mature 14 and my bf thinks so and thats why he likes me besides numerous other reasons.we wouldnt have sex or go to parties afterward so is just prom too young for a 14year old????? my parents know and are ok with me going but i still dont know..
thanx a bunch

I honestly think 14 is not too young for prom. There is not a big age difference between a 14-year old (freshman?) and a junior. As long as you don't do any sexual activity. I've seen 12-year olds go to prom so it is not a big deal if a 14-year old attends Prom.

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Me and mi b/f were always so happy. But this past month we have been always fighting, we barely talk, and its all just a wreck. I still love him with all mi heart and he still loves me. we will always love each other, but it seems no matter what we do, we can't get out of this awful mess. I don't know what to do, should we stay together? Is there any advice to make our relationship better that you can give me? Maybe some idea's of things we could do together.

Thank you,
Lost Soul

P.S. I would love it if you could help me.

A relationship can be so easy and interesting at first, but when things get in the way, argues and complications occur. I think you and your bf need to work things out more and try thinking to yourself what caused this. I think you and your b/f should spend a little more time together and talk things out a little. If that doesn't work out, you can contact me for more suggestions. I'm always here for you!

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the other day i was decorating my house purple...when i realized that it wasn't purple paint, it was fucking guts and shit and piss mixed into a small tight nit nea-fucking-to package! :(. what should i do? eat the soup, or throw it in aunt josaphines face? wait..what does that have do with the question....oh well, i think i should drive the car, see ya.

Okay, first of all, if you didn't like the paint you purchased, then send it back. You should also eat your soup, and don't throw it in someone's face. And as you're driving, please be cautious on the road, and no drinking and driving. Don't eat the soup in the car, because that can distract you. Don't paint your car with that"guts and shit and piss", because that's just not right.

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