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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
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Hey,
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 18 months now, and before recently all we had done was making out. I'm 15 (16 in 2 months) and he has just turned 16.
However, he's started fingering me and I've been giving him hand jobs and stuff. I'm really happy about this, I'm ready and everything, and he waited until I was completely sure, so all is good.
But what is your opinion about doing these things and at what age? How young is too young? What age do you think is okay for these kind of actions?
Thanks :)
18 months is a long time. As long as the two of you are comfortable with the whole situation and are RESPONSIBLE about it, there's nothing wrong with it. It would be different it you were dating a week and starting fooling around. I personally don't have anything against teenage sexuality as long as the two are smart about it and take the necessary precautions.
I just finished reading Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld. When I go to the library I never seem to be able to find a book that actually looks interesting to me. Like all the books are about 26 year old single women that work for a magazine in New York City. Does anybody know of any books kind of like Prep, more for teenage girls .. that are good? Titles and authors would be great.
Sara Dessen novels are absolutely amazing. They are written just for teenage girls. Try reading "Lullaby."
I don't know if you're into Sylvia Plath, she was sometimes considered a creepy writer because her style is so dark, but "The Bell Jar", by her obviously, is a pretty good book. It's semi autobiographical and it's about a college girl battling with depression and suicide. I like it and some other girls my age did too.
ok how do i turn a peck into like kissing or making out because i dont think i have a clue or like when i go to kiss the guy how do i start making out, sorry if i sound clueless but thats maybe becasue i am
please dont say nay of that go with the flow junk becasue ive heard it before
Whenever I want to kiss my boyfriend seriously, I hug him really tight first and then when I go in for the kiss, I peck him a few times instead of once and then make the pecks longer each time I go back. Like I said, hugging helps because it gets the point across that you want to be close to him.
well, to start with, my boyfriend and i were together for 7 months and i'm pretty sure i loved him. i broke up with him because we fought way too much. for about a week we didnt talk and he literally went crazy..he was extremely heartbroken and he got very depressed and did drugs etc..after a few weeks we became close again..TOO close.. we still hung out and i began telling him i loved him again and it even got to the point where we were kissing and cuddling when we hung out. well, a couple months ago i had told him i hadnt kissed any other guys when i had actually kissed two and he found out and got mad and it started a big ordeal because we were single and i didnt see the big deal. i knew it was wrong that i lied though. anyways, about a month ago i hung out with this guy and started to like him, and my ex boyfriend got extremely mad and called me a liar and said i played him for kissing him and then starting to like another guy..but i couldnt control it..well anyways my ex boyfriend and i decided to stop talking, and about 2 weeks ago he left me EXTREMELY MEAN voicemails calling me a worthless slut, saying he hated me and to burn in hell and im a bitch, etc. i called him back and told him i didnt want us to be hostile (i was crying while talking to him) and he had no right to say that and he told me to stop crying and then he ended up being mean again so i hung up. shortly after, he left me MORE voicemails, not to mention got on aim and called me a whore, etc. needless to say, i completely stopped talking to him. about a week and a half later he called and apologized and i told him i'm glad he apoligized but i cant forgive him right off the bat and were better off not talking because that was just unneccessary and he really hurt me and he said that was fine because he had loved me way too much to be only friends with me. so we havent been talking for about a week and a half and the thing is..I MISS HIM LIKE CRAZY. im trying to move on and i didnt let any of it bring me down..but heres my question..should i begin talking to him..only as friends..and tell him i forgive him..or just let it be and let myself move on? i really do like talking to him and he was always here for me..but yeah..any opinions on what would be best will help! thank you and ahh im so sorry this is so long
His behavior was absolutely unacceptable. I think it would be best for you to stop talking to him and seeing him altogether. Even if you did start being just friends with him, there's a high chance that you will fall for him and then you'll just fight more and he'll continue to be immature and mean and you'll be right back where you started. It would be different if you both liked other people and had already moved on, but it seems like he still has feelings for you and gets jealous way too easily.
alright i just made a new picture for myspace and it relates to this video i saw.
now i want to put a video in my picure caption space, but seeing as the links to video URLS are so long, it's not really possible. i'm just asking to anybody out there, is there any sites that you know of that shorten VIDEO urls or anything so it'd fit in the caption space?
i know there's regular URL shortening sites, but those are for pictures and things, not videos.
You have to use an HTML tag to do it. I'm pretty sure HTML works okay in myspace captions, so you shouldn't have any problems. Here's the tag:
put what you want the link to say here
I don't know of any sites that do it, but I find it easier to just type the tag myself.
ok so heres the deal ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 5 days but i know hes the one i want to be with and he was telling me about his past and he always had sex and he said he had sex with like 5 girls so should i stay with him because its no big deal but then im wondering if he might want to have sex with me and i do but i kinda dont because i havent had sex before and i dont think im that big in boobs and guys dont like small girls so please help cause im scared if i should do it and this might sound like a stupid question but can you give me step by step on how to make-out cause i dont know how to and i want to really bad.
First off, don't give him up just yet because he's slept with other girls. Insist that unless he goes and gets tested for STD's you will not sleep with him. And don't believe him if he says he doesn't have any. Better safe than sorry and make sure he shows you the doctor's note. If he's responsible enough to have sex, he's responsible to get tested for disease and keep you safe, which should be his number one concern.
Another thing you may want to consider is the fact that he might be lying about sleeping with the other girls just so he can sound experienced. He might just be trying to sound cool.
If he gets angry over you asking him to get tested, dump him right away. No guy like that is worth being with. And if you're concerned he won't love you because you have a small chest, you need to break up with him then too. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM UNTIL YOU ARE 100% POSITIVE YOU ARE READY. I DON'T CARE HOW BAD HE WANTS IT. IF YOU AREN'T READY, PLEASE DON'T DO IT.
There are jerks out there, but there are also plenty of wonderful guys out there too. The hard part is just finding them. And every girl deserves a man that will respect her safety, see how beautiful she is no matter what the size of her chest is, and will respect her boundaries.
So, like I said, give him a chance and if he does the good things I just described, he's most likely a keeper.
As for the whole making out thing, you may have heard this before, but it seriously is different for everyone. How you do it and what's comfortable for you is something that you and only you can find out. I CAN, however, give you a few suggestions I have found to be useful:
-guys like it when you run your hands through their hair, up and down their backs, or up and down their chests.
-don't use too much tongue. if you feel spit coming out the corners of your mouth, you're using too much.
-don't be afraid to pause, lick your lips, and swallow any excess saliva before continuing
-don't bite. it's okay to kind of suck on his lip, but don't bite.
-it's cute when the two people hold each other really tight while making out. it's a safe way to be close to each other and feel each other.
name some good movies
Donnie Darko
The Prestige
The Guardian
Benchwarmers
How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
All Spiderman movies
Harry Potter Movies
Don't Say a Word
Constantine
Narnia
Date Movie
Shaun of the Dead
Need more let me know. :)
Okay, so when writing a paper for english class, how do we know when to use just one of these ' rather than two of them ("). Like when you write something you would use air quotes around while speaking it, do you just use one mark (the apostrophe mark) or two (the quotation mark) around the term. Such as in The Taming Of The Shrew they talk about taming someone. Since you technically can't tame somebody, would you write tame like 'tame' or like "tame"?
Do you catch my drift?
When writing a paper and stating an exact quote, put it in quotation marks ("). If there is a quote within the quote, put it inside apostrophes ('). Here is an example:
The governor said, "I believe that when Mr. Cross said 'I don't agree' he meant he really did."
Stupid example, yes, but it gets my point across.
If you are just using one word, use the quotations. Here's an example:
Many people consider her to be "prude."
Get it? Let me know if you need anything else.
i have to convince my mom to let me get my ears guaged.
any suggestions?
i can't do it behind her back, she'll see them.
do the holes heal after a while if you take them out?
thank you!
All holes can heal after you take earrings out no matter how long you had them pierced. Tell your mom that you are growing up and you want to try a more unique way of expressing yourself. Offer to pay for the piercing and earrings yourself. That usually helps. Assure her that you won't get any ridiculous, obnoxious earrings that you couldn't wear to nice occassions.
I am 13/female.
My guy friend is 14/m. (obviously haha)
He likes a girl who likes him just for his looks.
Im pretty sure he likes her for her looks & popularity (she is in 7th grade, he's in 8th) and he is a HUGE flirt, but theyve never even spoken in person!! it's rediculous, they talk on AOL and email all the time, but i can't comprehend how they cn like eachother.
I wish he would find someone who respected him for who he was, and I feel like he's getting annoyed/ignoring me for some reason but I don't knwo why. Ive just been really down lately because he is my best friend, and I know he's a teenage guy and this is gonna happen, but I thought he was different and more mature. The girl isn't even nice.
Thanks
-AW
Why not point out to him that the whole situation bothers you? Confront him and ask why he thinks she's so great even though he's never met her in person. Tell him you don't think they could ever have a good relationship because she just likes him because he's cute. Tell him he can do so much better and that there are better girls out there. If he is a good friend, he will appreciate your concern and heed your advice. If not, just let him learn from his mistakes. He'll learn that you were right and he was wrong in time. Boys will be boys I guess. :)
Hi,im in the 7th grade. I have been taken away from my mother 3 times for abuse. The most recent time DSS said i cant go back with my mother. They are also sending me to alaska(i live in south carolina and have all my life). i cried everyday since november 2nd (well until feb 14 when i met this guy) but he recently has gone away also. I have been taken away from everything i know and low including my family and friends. How do i survive without having a mental breakdown at least once a week?
The most important thing is to have a postive mental attitude. Look on the bright side of things. You get to go to a new place and get a fresh start. You're going to meet a bunch of new people, make new friends, and have wonderful new experiences. And, yes, you'll miss your family and friends in south carolina, but it's nothing a phone call and letters can't help. Just because you are moving does not mean you cannot talk to them anymore. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I truly hope things work out. Best of luck.
lately i feel like noone really care or understands me.
all my friends are mad at me for some reason or another. my parents never cared... im more of a burden than a daughter.
and im ready to end it.
my question is... what can i do to make myself feel better about what im going thru? i talk to a 22 year old who has been there all my life but my parents dont trust him...
It's time to focus on just YOU. Decide what makes you the happiest in life and start doing those things. Join a club or sport you like and meet new people. You're bound to make some better friends. As for your parents, I'm quite certain they do care about you, they just have an odd way of showing it. Tell them how you've been feeling lately and I'm sure they will feel bad for the way they've been acting and will want to help you.
What kind of foods can I eat,
to keep my skin clear?
I normally have pretty clear skin,
and dont get acne or pimpes,
maybe the occasional zit, but hardly ever.
But what foods are good for your skin,
and can make your face glow =)
PLEASE AND THANK YOU!!
Diet has NOTHING to do with getting clear skin. Any dermatologist will tell you that. BUT, complexion-wise, I've read that sweet potatoes are good for glow because they are packed with carotene. Salmon also reduces wrinkles and fine lines. Kiwis help skin to maintain collagen aka remain firm.
So I have a 1 year old German Shepherd. I love him to death, except, he bites. A lot. And it hurts. :(
Thing is, my brother & dad LET him bite them, so then the dog thinks he can go around biting me, my sister, my mom sometimes, and even my friends.
I've told my brother & dad to STOP letting him bite, but he's just so used to doing it that he won't stop!!!
My dog could be as sweet as pie, but the next minute, he'll start biting. :( It's so sad.
So, what should I do...? Is there anything I COULD do? [Besides taking him to the vet. We don't have any time WHATSOEVER to bring him]
A good way to stop biting is, obviously, to firmly push him away and tell him NO. Whenever you play with him and he doesn't bite, tell him his a good boy over and over. Another thing that works, and I was told this by a professional, is to get a spray bottle with water and spray him with water in the face twice whenever he bites you. It will annoy him and he will learn that when he bites, he gets sprayed and he will be less likely to do it.
Why is it that guys can't just put their animalistic urges in check? I'm not speaking on behalf of all guys, but I have a feeling that many guys out there only want one thing, and think with their little head, if you know what i mean.
I just went out with my 'boyfriend' (it's only been a month) and his friends tonight; it was St. Patrick's day, so of course we went bar hopping. All the girls were displaying their goods as though they were on sale. And I understand that it's hard not to look when a girl is wearing something nice/flaunting, has nice body, etc.., etc.., but I could tell that my bf was kind of looking at them in that way. Not like up and down or anything, but it was like, " hello, I'm here!" I don't know if I'm overreacting or anything, but he's a charming guy, and a few girls smiled at hime, and it got me to wonder: when I'm not around, who's number is he getting? And what does he do, or how does he act with other girls when I'm not around. Cause when I was RIGHT THERE, I still had a feeling he was checking girls out, and don't get me wrong: I glance at hot guys too, but if my bf is there, it's like NO WAY< not going there.
SO, i'd like to hear from you, guy or girl: is this appropriate to an extent (on his part), and am i overreacting, or is this understandable?
Sorry for such a long message, I'm just getting it all out! BTW: 22, F
I think, if this bothers you that much, you need to talk to him calmly about it. And he will tell you what any other guy will tell you in a situation like this: he's with YOU for a reason. YOU are the girl he goes home with at the end of the night. He chose to be with YOU over every other girl. Just because he's looking at a few other girls doesn't mean he's ready to go jump into bed with them or anything. Talk to him about this. Say, "Honey, you are a charming guy. That's why I'm with you. And I can't help but wonder how many girls hit on you when I'm not around." Your worries ARE understandable. His actions aren't inappropriate, but they're not appropriate at the same time. These things happen in relationships. It's nothing a good talk can't smooth over.
Ok, so the thing is, i used to have a PC computer. I always hooked my iPod to it. Now, i just got a new MAC laptop && want to hook my iPod up to load new songs.
What will happen? Will my computer and/or iPod break?
The thing is, my sister had connected HER ipod mini onto her PC laptop and then to her PC computer and her computer broke =_=
please hhelp!
I need to know this by MONDAY, MARCH 19!!
I go to camp then and i MUST take my ipod, or else i`ll die on the 4 hour trip there 0_0
thanks!
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE.
btwi`marater.
=}
Loves.
As long as you install the software that you received with your ipod BEFORE plugging it in, your computer will be perfectly fine. If you no longer have the software CD, order one from apple.com OR see if they have a free download feature.
can you tell me your first kiss story? Just what happened?
Mine was less than wonderful haha.
Just to see as a little comparison of things. thanks!
My first real kiss happened on my 16th birthday with my current boyfriend. We had been dating about two weeks at the time. I was giving him a hug before he had to go home and I looked up at him and made a cute face and he kissed me. It was kind of embarassing at the time because I was nervous and I made that weird face, but now that I look back on I think it was adorable in my own cheesy little way.
OK, when i moved here 3 years ago i met two girls who were best friends and i wanted to be part of that group because i liked them both, so i try to hang out with them, but i just feel erally left out, so for a while i would ony hang out with one of them and try to make the other one feel left out, then, if that didn't work i would do the same thing with the other one. I didn't do it conciousely but i realize now that that's what i did. Well, i decided which one i wanted to be friends with and tried my best to leave the other one out. Well, now, 3 years later i am best friends with one of them and they hate eachother. I didn't realize it at the time i was only in seventh grade but now i realize that it could be my fault... is it?
It doesn't matter if it's your fault or not. People change, grow apart, meet new people, etc. Everything works out the way it does for a reason. You were looking to fit in when you moved and you did it the only way you knew how. Fear of being left out is normal.
Would drinking green tea help my sore throat? how about sugarless gum?
Absolutely! Green tea will ease your sore throat as well as any other cold symptoms you might have. I'm 100% certain that green tea is better for a sore throat than gum, even if it is sugarless. When you have the green tea, it will work better if it's hot.
i want a good song with like an explosion in it like something really loud and i also want another song with like glass breaking real loud
Try "Godzilla Eats Las Vegas" by Eric Whitacre. It's a fun, loud song!