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a bit torn on what to do
well, to start with, my boyfriend and i were together for 7 months and i'm pretty sure i loved him. i broke up with him because we fought way too much. for about a week we didnt talk and he literally went crazy..he was extremely heartbroken and he got very depressed and did drugs etc..after a few weeks we became close again..TOO close.. we still hung out and i began telling him i loved him again and it even got to the point where we were kissing and cuddling when we hung out. well, a couple months ago i had told him i hadnt kissed any other guys when i had actually kissed two and he found out and got mad and it started a big ordeal because we were single and i didnt see the big deal. i knew it was wrong that i lied though. anyways, about a month ago i hung out with this guy and started to like him, and my ex boyfriend got extremely mad and called me a liar and said i played him for kissing him and then starting to like another guy..but i couldnt control it..well anyways my ex boyfriend and i decided to stop talking, and about 2 weeks ago he left me EXTREMELY MEAN voicemails calling me a worthless slut, saying he hated me and to burn in hell and im a bitch, etc. i called him back and told him i didnt want us to be hostile (i was crying while talking to him) and he had no right to say that and he told me to stop crying and then he ended up being mean again so i hung up. shortly after, he left me MORE voicemails, not to mention got on aim and called me a whore, etc. needless to say, i completely stopped talking to him. about a week and a half later he called and apologized and i told him i'm glad he apoligized but i cant forgive him right off the bat and were better off not talking because that was just unneccessary and he really hurt me and he said that was fine because he had loved me way too much to be only friends with me. so we havent been talking for about a week and a half and the thing is..I MISS HIM LIKE CRAZY. im trying to move on and i didnt let any of it bring me down..but heres my question..should i begin talking to him..only as friends..and tell him i forgive him..or just let it be and let myself move on? i really do like talking to him and he was always here for me..but yeah..any opinions on what would be best will help! thank you and ahh im so sorry this is so long
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His behavior was absolutely unacceptable. I think it would be best for you to stop talking to him and seeing him altogether. Even if you did start being just friends with him, there's a high chance that you will fall for him and then you'll just fight more and he'll continue to be immature and mean and you'll be right back where you started. It would be different if you both liked other people and had already moved on, but it seems like he still has feelings for you and gets jealous way too easily.
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when you talk to him, you get those feeling back. i think you need to remove him from your life completely. move on. there are so many amazing people in the world, that you cant get stuck on one boy
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Well it looks like if you don't talk to him your a drug addict but the only problem with you two being together is that you cheat on him and that's why he calls you a slut. So I say get back together and don't cheat! Because I think that you two are good together only you cheat but if he cheats then dump his ass.
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comming from one of your best friends..thats hard cause if you miss him you might start to like him again and if you dont talk to him then you might move on...go with your heart..haha
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well i really don't think that all of those things that he said were anything that he really meant. He was obviously very heartbroken over the whole ordeal and that was his way of dealing with it. sometimes the easiest ways to get over a person is to be angry with them or say mean things. While those things he said hurt you, you shouldn't put your feelings for him aside. You should talk it all out with him. You don't want to lose him, but you also don't want to be with someone who could be so hurtful. If he is truly sorry for what he did, you should forgive him but take it slow getting back with him. starting completely over from the beginning might be the best thing now!
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