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Welcome to the junkdrawer that is my brain! I know something about many things, and I if I don't know it, I admit that I don't know. That I am constantly finding things I know nothing about and correcting that ignorance keeps me busy and happy. More junk for the drawer.

I love and have experience with many types of animals, including the human. I don't offend easy and I am generally cynical and a smart-butt. I love to drive, read, work on the computer and I spend WAY too much time watching Anime and bidding on ebay.

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i'm going to florida in 2 weeks and i'm staying there for awhile. when i wake up early in the morning to go to the parks and stuff, after i get out of the shower i don't really have all that much time to do my hair. i don't like blowdrying it down there because it is really hot! does anyone have any cute & easy hairstyle that i could do while my hair is wet without making it frizzy? thanks! i rate high!

Only if your hair is long, but you didn't mention the length. If your hair is long, try a Frech or Dutch braid, you can find out how to do that on the web. Also there is a real simple pony tail that you slipt above the band and then retread your hair through the holw. It makes a pretty V.

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i heard that when your cherry pops that your no longer a virgin is that true? only answer this if you know

Only if your cherry was popped with a penis. The hymen is a very delicate membrane in most women and many things can rupture it. But you are a virgin until you've had sexual intercourse, hymen or no hymen.

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I'm currently on a swim team and eatin much healthier, but today my friend and I went to the pool and she only brought sodas to drink it was very hot so I broke my 3 week chain of no sodas. I feel terrible, I also ate a few cookies, how can I keep from eating the bad stuff when the oppurtunities right in front of me? .. Ill rate :]

The point is not to make such things a habit. It is perfectly fine to have a soda every once in a while or a cookie if that is what you REALLY want. If you don't feed the craving every once in awhile, you will start feeling deprived and unsatisfied with your diet. Just don't over do anything and you'll be fine.

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Okay, so I'm bedridden for a while. I certainly don't enjoy readering, but I figure it will pass the time.. so I'm not just stuck laying there like a useless moron. I like those cheesy little romance plots and all that sensitive bologna, so if ANYONE can think of something I might enjoy, I would DEFINITELY appreciate your recommendation!!

"Mackenzie"

I've become addicted to Historical Romances. Here are a few authors and one or two specific books you might enjoy.

Julia Quinn (funny)
Connie Mason (you never quite know what you'll get accept that the writing is good. Sometimes funny, sometimes annoying, sometimes just wonderful romance. Currently reading the Outlaw trilogy. Rafe and Jess were very good, now I need Sam.)
Lisa Kleypas
Elizabeth Lowell
Liz Carlyle (she can be hillarious, but she'll throw you some tears once in a while too. Start with A Woman of Virtue, the A Deal with the Devil.)
Kat Martin - The Bride Necklace
Nicole Byrde - Beauty in Black, Vision in Blue
Cathy Maxwell - most are good
Stephanie Laurens - A Rogue's Reform (three books in one)

Enjoy!

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Okay people think that i stuff my bra when i really dont and then people are like oh i saw it but i really dont what should i do?
Signed,
Screw this
.P.S. I rate high

So, stuff your bra and show them what that REALLY looks like.

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I have this friend that i really dont like and i really didnt want to be her friend in the first place..she pretty much took my BEST friend away from me in the first place..! i really cant explain why i hung out with her .. but i really need to end our " friendship " and i really dont know how! Please help i rate high!

It would be stupid to completely cut yourself off. This doesn't mean you can't just drop her like a dirty dish rag. Hang with other people. Turn down any invites you get from her. Don't ask her to go anywhere with you. It's pretty simple. If she cares enough she'll ask you why you're not being a friend anymore. Take it from there. If you have a backbone and really hate the girl you'll come up with something and she'll leave you alone.

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okay well im 15/f, and i recently found out im pregnate. Before i found out my boyfriend broke up with me, we don't talk anymore, he ignores my calls and he won't read anything i send him...so is it useless to tell him??he's 15 to, and lives about 45 min. away. I think I'm gonna keep the baby too, I haven't told my parents yet. I'm a "goodygood" so noone would expect it...and i don't kno what to do...i tried to tell my best friend...but she didn't believe me...what do i do? how do i tell my ex. and get him to listen to me?

You don't need your ex to listen to you. He can't actually do anything anyway.

You need to talk to your parents. You are too young to be allowed a choice legally to keep your baby. Your parents are the ones who have to make that decision. If you're lucky, they'll listen to your wishes. They don't have to do that. You need to tell your ex-boyfriend's parents. He's too young to make a legal choice in this matter either. Neither of you can sign a legal document until you turn 18. Your parents or gardians are require by law to take any and all legal action for you. If you want child support, you'll be getting it from his parents. They are respocible for his actions until he turns 18. Russianspy is right your parents will need to arrange for a paternity test and sue you boyfriend's parents for a support order. I can also tell you that shake's answer is pretty dead on too. Only thing is, you won't be the one choosing abortion or adoption. You can't legaly choose either, only your parents can. This mess is one of the prime reasons NOT to have sex till you're ready and ABLE to deal with the consequences. I wish you and you child luck. I hope things work out for the best.

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I'm on my period right now, and I'm feeling pretty crappy. Okay, I was having REALLY bad cramps for awhile before I actually started. I usually have some cramps before I'm on my period (which kind of tells me that I'll be starting soon), but these were horrible, I was having them all week before I actually started, and I couldn't sleep one night (I eventually started that night though). And I feel really sick in the stomach. Last month I actually vomited while on my period. And this month I feel the same way. I can barely eat anything, or I'll feel sick in the stomach, like I'm going to vomit at any moment. Whats wrong? 16/f

You have really bad periods. What you are describing is normal to some women. I suggest you go to your gynocologist and tell them in detail what's going on. It would be best if you could do so while ON your period. This way they can check to make sure your bleeding is regular. Yes, it's gross, but that's why they make money. You will most likely just be put on birth control to regulate your cycle and make it easier to deal with.

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My four friends and I were at the movies the weekend after school was out. So naturally, lots of people were there, including my crush. Don’t know him at all, to tell the truth. He goes to a different school, a couple years older- you know. I know him from friends and church and just other stuff. Anyways, we happened to go to the same movie lucky for me, and then his friend starts talking to us. And before we knew it, we were invited to my crush’s end of the year party that was the next day. My crush’s friend asked the address and stuff and my crush told him and the times and all that. So it was ok with my crush that we were going/invited. He knows who I am. Does this mean anything do you think that he was ok that we were going. I mean, he's older and all that, so it would be strange if we had showed up. What do you think? And any other thoughts?

I hate to say this, but it doesn't mean anything. Except that he's pretty great to let younger people come to his party. He must have had a good time hanging out with you and your friends, so that's one good thing. However, I think in this case he just thought you guys were fun and might enjoy the party. Plus, the more the merrier. No other thoughts, really. But he seems like a worthy crush to me.

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Ok last nite me and 2 of my friends where bored so we went to go see kicking a screaming the movie and there wasnt allot of people there but there was 3 of us and 3 hot guys and all and we started talk and there was one that liked me but didnt saying anything to me but he was really really cute and all and they asked 4 our numbers and I 4 got to give them it. and I really really wont to see them 14/female
-Brittany

This is a question how?

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Everyone is still saying that my boyfriend is bi. And I really like him though. It's just really hard to deal with when some of my good friends are telling me that the person they trust their life says they saw him making out with a guy! It's really bothering me! I mean he's so sweet and nice and everything, but if he really is bi I don't really wanna go out with him...ya know? Someone please help me!

Have you asked him? Would you believe it if he said, no I'm not bi? If you wouldn't believe him, dump him whether it turns out he is or not. If you can't trust him, you have no business being in a relationship that could invole sex.

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i AM punk...(i hate that punk, goth, prep thing but..its the only thing i could think of!) but i live in a small town with absouloutly NO stores with my kind of clothes and stuff. so everyone thinks im a stupid prep. so...does anyone kno any stores with punk clothes? thanks so much

Thrift stores, hun.

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I am 16 i went out with this boy from school we used to be like bestfriend he used to tell me he had no feelings then i realised he had no feelings for me because he liked another girl.we went out for a year and during that time his bestfriend was always trying to break us up finally he managed to break us up.He used to always try and kiss me at the same time as i was with my bf he tryed everything to break us up and finally with his lies he broke us up and me and my x bf remained friends but the friendship is not as gd as it was before.I grew to like this boy because i new he cared for me anyway.Now it turns out he has a gf and everyone says i should try and break them up.But i am not like that i don't know what to do.He told me he wanted to go out with me before he went out with this girl but i turned him down.so what i am asking is what to do now?

Just tell him, that if he was any kind of a man, he'd talk to his girlfriend. If he wants to ask out another girl, it's not fair to hang on to her. Also, he wouldn't be worth your hooking up with. If he is willing to go behind her back to see you he'd do the same to you. It is better to have a man you know wouldn't lie to you just to make things easier on himself. If he has the guts and honor to tell his current girlfriend he's interested in dating other people, then there is hope for him. It is the ones who won't say anything hoping to avoid tears and scenes and keep a poor girl hanging after them that are true scum. A minor heartbreak can be gotten over, the betrayal and disrespect of cheating and lies causes much more lasting damage.

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m 25..My boyfriend's a rather sexual person but we both never have sex , some time when he touches me i really feel that m not being excited.. by nipple does not get erect & i don't think i cum .. his touches doen't excite me more ! i m being worried abt my sensuality.. please suggest me something. And what does an orgasm feel like for a girl (or anyone)?

Are you on any antidepresants? I know my sex drive took trip to hell in a handbasket on Prozac. I switched to Effexor to see if it would help, but by that time I couldn't stand my husband anyway and the less he touched me the happier I was. That is one possibility. The next is that the two of you are just not sexualy compatable. That happened to me once before I was on meds. I really liked the guy, we had tons in common and could spend hours together and never be bored. When he kissed me, and there was NOTHING wrong with his kisses, I felt nothing. I mean nothing. I wasn't disgusted, I wasn't shocked, I wasn't anything. I couldn't bring myself to kiss him back, but I never turned him away. I kept trying to get interested. We made out in a movie theater, and I watched the movie (which I had already seen) over his shoulder. Nothing there. No chemestry at all, but I'm not cold. I am not gay. We were just meant to be friends. Maybe that is what's going on between you and your boyfriend. Maybe you are just meant to be close friends, no sex involved. Luck and Love!

Almost forgot the orgasam thing, It's like every nerve ending in your body catching fire at once then exploding like a fire cracker. You feel lazy and warm and so relaxed afterward.

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ok so my mum has this friend and i spent some time with him when he came over to stay.I thought he was very nice but the strange thing is he keeps asking me to stay at his house and i am 16 and he is like 30 something.He also keeps telling my mum i am lovely and beautiful do you think that he was just being friendly?because he only asks me to stay at his house and not my mum!

No, he is sexually interested in you. I would stay the hell away from him. If your mother actually lets you go to his house without her, she should be arrested. He'd bed you in a heartbeat.

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My brother is 18 and has nowhere to stay. he is always in and out of jail. When we were little he used to threaten me. he is 5 years older than me and my half brother. I really don't want him to stay at our house because he is a CRIMINAL! I'm scared please help!!
P.S. I already tryed confronting my parents, didn't work.
Thanks!
Sincerely,
Gjohndoe

Talk to your grandparents or any reletive that you trust to treat you well. If there are none, speak to your school councilor and explain the situation. If they can't help, call the local Department of Human Resources and try to get someone to listen to you. Then try the police in your area (NOT 911 unless he is trying to hurt you. Look up the non-emergency number in the phone book.)If this doesn't work, call a local television station with it's own news. Write letters to DHR, police and the local news for help. Other than that, your parents suck that they do not realize the danger they are putting you in. Follow your fear on this one. Hug and support! I wish you the best.

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I am not fat at all.but i want to go on a diet becasue my borther acts hard in front of his friends and says fat cow and stuff liek that.I hate it when hes like this. What can i do?

Your weight is fine. Your brother is a little shithead. Try the following:

I'd start by giving him a nickname. Call him this ALWAYS, like it's the name on his birth certificate. "Stub" "Pinkie" Something that doesn't sound too bad to say in front of your parents , but that you can explain to him means that he has a tiny, little boy's dick. Once he can't stand it anymore, give him the bargain that you'll quit calling him that if he stops disrespecting you in front of his friends.

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I have 2 kids no husband. I have made alot of mistakes in the past escpecially being premiscuous. I have compltly turned my life around now. Is it too late for or will God forgive me and except me into Heaven. Please someone who belives in God or is a Pastor or something help me.

God is the Father and His love is unconditional. If you truely believe and are honest in your desire for forgiveness, you ARE forgiven. God doesn't have a problem forgiving our sins. We have a harder time forgiving ourselves.

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My brother is 26 and is a major drug abuser? Does any one know oof any rehabs we can take him to (also counseling because he wants to kill hisself). We dont have any money and we are in the LA area of Calif.?

Call a local chapter of AA. Yes that's for alcholhol, but drunks are ofter multi substance abusers. The people there should be able to give you some good information on free or low cost assistance.

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okay so it might sound a stupid question but ive got a real important football match coming up and if we win we am the champions of our league. The only problem is im on tag meaning i gotta be in the house before 8.00 its a corfu by the police. but my football game starts then i cant get my manager to change the time should i just play or what.

Check ofr special permission. If you go, even for the best meaning reason, you can be in huge trouble. I don't see why an exception can't be made through your police contact to help you in this case.

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