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I'm relatively new here and I quite enjoy visiting this web site, but I can't get over the fact that at least half of these people could not form a coherent sentence with decent spelling to save their lives!

What can be done to help everyone realize that proper grammar and spelling is the key to communication, which, in turn, is the key to not stumbling around blindly in life? I really do fear for our generation sometimes.

OH MY GOD. A HUMAN. A PERSON. TYPING WITHOUT CHATSPEAK. GAH. NO. IS IT POSSIBLE?

>.>

Gah, I hear you. I fucking hate how people type on this site 'ommgg my bf dumpd me 2day n i cnt get ovr it, wut do i do? thnx2u!!111 5'zz!!!'. Grrr. It really pisses me off how people can't take the extra two seconds to type out a proper freaking sentence, not only becuase it makes them look smarter, but also because its more respectful to people that are going to bother answering.

Good on you for pointing it out.

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im scared.
my parents are in a fight. THEY FIGHT ALL THE TIME. they cant go at least 3 months without having a huge fight. theyve fought for as long as i remember. i always cry when they fight cause they yell so much, and say such horrible things. but they ALWAYS get over it, and forget it ever happened. but my dad has such a bad temper. he doesnt abuse her or hit her, he just breaks things when hes mad. and today, someone punched him becus there was a party across the street, and some guy decided to be a wisecrack and park right in front of our garage. so my dad asked him to move it, and the guy punched him, and my dad punched back for self defense. and this really scared me. but im so sick of my parents fighting. i dont know what to do, or who to go to becus they ALL SAY THE SAME THING;; "itll be ok. theyll get over it." or "you should talk to them about it and how you feel." but NOTHING I DO OR SAY will help them. ive tried so many times. i really need help. i just feel like bursting out in tears. PLEASE. PLEASE. PLEASE HELP ME.

I'm sorry to say that there's nothing you can do to make them stop fighting. If they fight its their fault. I know that sounds harsh, but my parents used to fight all the time for about two and a half years straight. So what I did at first was cry a lot, but then you learn that it aint your fault. You dont have shit to do with it. If they want to fight, let them. In your life you stand alone, even if they care about you a lot, they cant help fighting - and it shouldn't get you down. If they say they're going to be ok then they are, if they're not, hey, I know it sounds hard - but dont have anything to do with it. You dont have to. You shouldn't suffer. If they get divorced, know that its for the better - instead of just hearing them fight alll the time. Its hard, but if they dont love each other you cant make them. And then again, they got married and had you for a reason - because they loved each other. But maybe not anymore, and you have to learn to accept that. Good luck hun, I hope it all goes well.

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ok so theres this guy. lets say his name is Ryan. Well i met Ryan about 5 months ago, at the mall. you know how it is; you see a hott guy at the mall, and you just wanna stalk him. So i decided to make an effort to go and talk to him, and i did. i ended up getting his sn and phonenumber. he told me thing. SWEET things. i really liked it. i like the way he made me feel. and i like HIM a lot too. i really wanted to be with him. he gave me hints that he really wanted to be with me. but he never asked me out. and i remember that one day in specific, he told me he wanted to be with me. 2 days later, he asked out one of my best friends; lets call her Tori. Me and tori lost touch after that. we always had this weird vibe everytime we looked at eachother. i wasnt mad. but i was dissapointed in myself for beliving him. they eventually broke up, but it seemed like they were going out forever. they went out for 5 months in specific. They still remained friends, and flirted with eachother now and then. well anyways, this previous summer, Tori called me one day because she was bored. and we ended up going to the mall. after that day, we hung out everyday for the rest of the summer. and we're best friends again. Ryan claimed that he still like Tori sometimes. but 2 weeks ago, i was at a football game with my Tori and my other friend ashley. and Ryan was there. so we introduced ashley to ryan, and she started liking him, and he starting liking her too. and today, i was on the phone with ashley, but i put her on hold for a sec and i totally forgot about her. so when i got back on, ashley didnt answer, but ray did and he told me that ashley got bored so she called him. me and ray ended up talking for a longggg time about stuff, and ray kept asking me if i liked him as more than a friend. and he told me that he liked me, and that i was way prettier than ashley. and ashley got mad. so about an hour later, ashley called ray again, and asked him if he liked me. turns out that his exact words were "idk, i mean shes cool and everything but i dont know yet." and he told her that he liked her. i hate it. but im falling for him again. i just LOVE the way he makes me feel. and i wanna be with him. but i cant help myself. im trying to build a brick around my heart, but im too easy. PLEASE HELP??

I'm sorry but that guy is an effing BASTARD, no matter how he makes you feel. He's not worth shit, for what he did to you. He got in between you and Tori and now he might be putting your friendship with Ashley on the line too. I mean come on, you talked to him at the mall for his looks in the first place, I dont blame you for not thinking that he could be a player. All players [and pimps] can be very sweet and make you feel very special, but it doesn't always mean anything. I think the feelings you have for him are just things you're holding on to from when you first met him and thought he was a better guy than that. He doesn't like you. Or Tori. Or Ashley. This guy just wants to have fun and its not that I dont blame him, but I think you guys are all under 20 or 18, and in that case, he just wants to have fun. He might not be taking it as seriously as you.

And thats why teenage relationships suck. But good luck. And your best friend, as you reffer to her, should have never dated someone you had feelings for. Good luck and bye - in no way did I mean to offend in some of the things I said, by the way.

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Hi I'm 19 years old man and a university student. I'm having a feeling of getting a girlfriend, but I feel like I'm not romasive enough to make girls to like me. I'm a good looking guy and very sesitive. I always get challenges from girls but I realise that after, when I'm alone. Would you give me some advices on how to cope with such situations and be able to be romansive?.

Dont bother with girls who play games and put up challenges, thats all a bunch of bullshit and its not worth it. So I say that you wait until you meet a girl that'll love you for you, not whatever romantic tricks or jokes you can do to impress her.

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hey
So this year I moved away and left everyone and everything behind. I love my new life but I also really miss everything back where I used to live. I expecially miss one of my closest friends, i'm going to just refer to her as "dhead." My problem is that I keep asking her for pictures and she just won't send them. Its driving me CRAZY. lol. Other than flying all the way back to kick her royally lazy ASS, I don't know wat to do. Please Help.
neglected FACE :p

Dear Face,

Dhead sincerely apologises for the...er, lack of pictures you have been receiving lately and would like to thank you for not using chatspeak, though. She misses you a loot, more than you think, and while she is enjoying her time at Rahima, misses those days at that gay round table in IPS where she used to sit and complain and bitch and laugh. She is trying to upload some decent pictures of her, but her phone will not co-operate and she knows why. It is because she is not the most attractive girl ever, yer know.

((HAHAHA I L U FACE < 3.))

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I get razor burn ever time i shave... does any one know a good shvegel or a good razor i could used to prevent this?

shaving is an all around bad option...sort of. it makes hair grow back coarser and thicker and darker. try nair wax strips.

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Okay so I have like a BEST friend we have been really good friends since like 4th grade and now we are in 8th well ever sinve like last year she has been blowing me off for this other girll I'll call ash well whenever I ask like what shes doing shell be like oh Im staying after and Ill be like ohh cool for anything fun and she'll be like no not really but than later it comes out that she was with ash and I just bugs me that she wouldnt tell me where she was going..is it just me and what can I do so it doesnt bug me as much..Thanks

Dont show her that you care because she's being a real bitch. Just ignore her and she'll come around and realise she misses you if she really does care about your friendship. Dont give two shits about where she's going wih 'Ash'. Oh, and just so life gets easier, try making other friends. She's not worth being bugged about her new 'friendship'. If she wants new friends, let her be, you can make new friends too. And if not, at least you dont have to stand for what she's doing to you.

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ok, ive been friends with this girl gabi since 1st grade. were both in 8th grade now. were best friends but sometimes i feel left out because she always goes out with her other friends and never tells me. weve been getting in a lot of fights lately and the past few have been really bad. i want her to be my friend but im not sure if she still wants to be mine. as we get older our interests are differing more and more. so basically my question is: Should i break our friendship or give it another chance???i give 5s, just so ya know

I think you should talk about it, and have a break if you have to, to realise how you feel about your friendship. At the end of the day you guys became best friends for a reason, right? There was something that drew you together even despite your differences. Its good that you see the signs, and I think you shouldn't break your friend ship. But take a break. Becuase I think that the reason she has other friends and you dont is that you were hanging on to her and didnt want to make other friends, so hey, you never know until you try, maybe you'll find someone you'll get close to as well and you'll both be close but not best friends, it could be better that way.

But dont lie to yourself. Fights are normal, by the way, they are a part of life but if they're getting too much then its time for a break. Good luck with it all, I hope it turns out well for you.

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I have been friends with Lauren since Kindergarden. We've always been close and I've ignored the fact that she's really geeky. Now, im in 7th grade and I'm starting to be really concious of it. Shes so embarassing!! Her nails look like a witch's and she won't let me cut them. I've been trying to slowly ignore her, but since we've been close since forever its hard to pull away. I know she won't let go of me. I'm her ONLY good friend. Tonight is the football game and I don't want to go with her even though she invited me. I want to go with my other best friend. Number one: How can I pull away from her? Number two: What should I do about the game tonight??

God, someone's a bit bitchy. You don't ditch your best fucking friend because she's 'geeky' in your opinion. Thats something someone thats a label sheep and a follower would do. You said it yourself, you didn't use to notice it before but now you do. Why? So what if people think its geeky? At the end of the day she's your friend and you stick together, no matter what people say. And if you really do want to ditch this girl, I hope that your other friends ditch youu so you can get a taste of your own medicene and I hope that Lauren will refuse to be your friend again after that, just so you can realise what you might be jeopardising, here.

I had a best friend I thought I wanted to rid of for good a few years ago, we're still close but we're not best friends. Tell her you need some time out if thats the case, like I did. Made a few mistakes along the way but I think you can handle this way more smoothly than to just drop her all in one time.

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Ok I was planning to go to school about an hour away from my girlfriend, but in a last minute effort I decided to stay at home and go to school with her. I was transferring to play ball and this is my second year sitting out. I feel like I'm missing something. I can go without thinking about playing, but sometimes I think about what it would be like to be on my team and what would it be like to play college basketball. My question is simple, Should I get in contact with my coach and try to go away? I really don't want to leave her, but I miss ball so much. We just got back together after we broke up for about 3 weeks. I don't want to jeopardize anything right now. I really don't know what to do...

Look at it this way: if this girl really loves you, she wont hold you back from the things you want to do in your life. I'm serious. I mean, in the long run, she might not be sticking around...but your love for basketball will still be there. Go for it. An hour isn't that bad, and I can tell you might regret it at a lot; not going. I really think you should go, and if she understands and really cares about you she wont blow a gasket. Good luck.

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Does anyone kno where T.H.Harris Middle School is?

Down the street and take a left. Then get hit by the T.H.Harris Middle School bus for asking smart questions, kay?

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What are the causes of hysteria and manic depression?
I think I might have it.
I am frequently having hallucinations and my moods are always changing. I feel like I have a split personality at times. One part of me is happy at times, another is so depressed and suicidal.

No one on here can tell you if you're manicly depressed or bi-polar or anything but a psychologist/psychiatrist. Don't take anyone's word, not because they lie, but because they dont specialize in it like people in that field do. You can go to either, and as you know, they have a confidentiality thing, so whatever you say to them doesn't have to reach your parents. So if you really want to know, then yeah, no one here can tell you for sure. And just on a side note - everyone has mood swings, as part of being a teenager, but if yours are extreme like really extreme then maybe you do have something.

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hey, i am a 14 year old gurl who has no problems eatin wat so eva! i weight 49kg's ... is that normal and wat is the normal weight for a gurl my age? plz help me and wb a.s.a.p!!!!

I would say 49 kgs is very healthy, but it also depends on your height! If you're like 172 cm and weigh 49 kgs...then you're underweight. As an example. Go to google and type in BMI Chart, I think it would help.

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I'm 17 and a senior and I have a serious problem with my dad. I have an older brother who doesn't live at home any more, but when he did, he wasn't exactly the best student. I remember every time interums or report cards would come out, I would hide up in my room listening to him crying as my dad screamed at him. I don't know everything that my dad did, because I never saw it, but I only remember my mom sticking up for him ONCE. He would always tell anyone who would listen what a loser my brother was and how he would never amount to anything. The first time I got a C in math was when I was in the 10th grade. My dad screamed at me and then told me to get out of his face because he didn't want to look at me anymore. He gets pissed off at little things, has thrown chairs across the room and has no clear desire whatsoever to control his anger. He has never hit my mom, little sister or me but he yells a lot and my mom hardly ever says anything to him. He's trying to force me to go to the college he wants me to go to by threatening not to give me any financial support. For a while, I was cutting myself because he made me feel so worthless, but I haven't done so in over two years because my mom walked in on me once. She doesn't believe me when I say I think I'm really depressed. My brother was diagnosed with chronic depression and my dad flipped when he found out because he doesn't believe in psychology, which is the field I want to go into. I really hate him and am sick of putting up with him and I don't know what to do.

Get the big bugs out, and prepare for a battle cause if you want to live your life and get away from this guy, you're going to be pretty much on your own. I'm sorry, but if your mom is making no effort to help and your brother is...lost, then you've gotta take a stand for yourself. Look at it this way - you are a senior. You wont be home for much longer. As for him trying to pick a college for you - girl, fuck him. No, seriously. My dad had that thought in mind at one point in his life, what to do with my future, but I made it clear to him he doesn't have shit to do with my future. So since he's taking the coward road like my dad almost did - blocking you financially, I say, you get a loan if you want to do what you want in your life. Or go his way.

Talk to guidance councillor[s], or find out what kind of financial help you can get at banks in your area. I think you are entitled to financial help for an education, but I'm not sure. What I'm saying is - dont.give.up, kay? Ignore him, like Rahzie said, dont yell back, and just keep telling yourself you'll be out of there soon. I know its not as easy as it sounds, I KNOW, but it depends on just how much you want this for yourself.

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Can anyone recommend any good books? Preferably mystery, romance, teen, or psychological books that are fairly easy to read? If so, can you give a brief description of what it's about. Thank you.

Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants - the movie might not be as good as the book[s]. Every and any girl will be moved by this book - its awesome. Its about four girls that are best friends, and they have to spend a summer apart for the first time, so they promise to keep a pair of jeans that they all wear [one girl keeps it for 2 weeks, then passes it on] to have good memories in. Its better than it sounds.

The Gossip Girl series - its fabulous. Its about rich teenagers in the Upper East Side of New York and how they live, and a girl on the internet posts about their lives. Its so awesome.

Shopaholic & Sister - hilarious. About a girl who is in wedded bliss, well she thinks it is, and then discovers she has a long lost sister. And she's all like 'YAY ME AND MY SISTER CAN GO SHOPPING' and her sister turns out to hate shopping. And this woman is ADDICTED to shopping.

P.S I Love You - one of the most moving stories I have ever read. About a woman whose husband died, leaving her sad but with good memories. A few months or so after he dies [cant remember how long exactly], she gets a package in the mail from him [he had plannned way before he died to have it sent to her when he died] - with an envelope for every month, each month has a new task to accomplish, and all the while her friends and family are helping. Its awesome.

Also, the Harry Potter series are awesome, and Judy Blume, Lois Lowry, Caroline B. Cooney are good too.

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A friend of mine (14) is pregnant and I want to know what kinds of things she can/can't do. Like, what foods are best/bad? And what activities should she avoid? Anything that would be a tip to help me be supportive. Thanks!

This is so sad. Well, besides that there are whole websites dedicated to this type of thing; idiots getting pregnant during their teens, if you would just put 'pregnancy tips' in Google. She's 14. Fucking fourteen. And pregnant. And you're wondering how to be 'supportive'? Damn honey, there aint nothin you can do to be 'supportive'. She just threw her life out the freaking window, by getting pregnant now. Wow. I'm shocked. But by being supportive maybe you could, you know, help her barf that baby while she catches up on the geometry homework. Change them diapers while she complains about her bra size or worries about a spot.

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okay, theres this kid im friends with in school. i think its the only reason i go.

and i have a bunch of friends, i dont like talk to them alot as much as i think of this boy.

and i heard from one of my firends that he likeds me because he stars at me in class..

and also he is in my gym and when ever i have to run a mile or so hes like "RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN!" really loud. and to no one else (its foloowed with my name)

so i think i like love him? what do you think?

i think that.

you should know grammar. and i think he liekds yu 2. lust, maybe?

love? in your dreams, babe.

if yu ask ppplz whethr or not yur in love then yur not relli in luvv, kk?

anndnadn if he stars at yu it dusn mean nuthin.

kthnxbai.


((Edit - I spelled the way I did on this to make a point, idiot. I know how to spell. Go look on my advice column. I typed this way on your answer to point out to you thats what you almost sound like.))

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My ex boyfriend was cheating on me, so I kind of exposed the truth about him cheating on me to all my friends and now hes really mad at me. I feel bad that I dumped him and exposed his "secret" because the truth is, i still like him. But don't you think i have the right to be mad at him? Because he cheated on me, lied to me, called other girls behind my back, and blew me off in the hall last friday....

I'm so confused. Should I call him?

OH MY GOD, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. GOD, THANK YOU. GAH, GUILTY MY ASS LOVE! You did the right thing, all the way, I wish all the other girls that complain about their boyfriends cheating on them would do what you did!! You so did the right thing. But look - I'm not going to turn this in to some kind of 'OMGG GURL POWER' type thing. I know it probably hurts that he cheated on you, and that you still like him ( I dont blame you ) - but look at it this way: the.truth.will.set.you.free. The bastard obviously isn't worth your time if he cheated on you then got pissed at you for telling everyone instead of GROVELLING FOR FORGIVENESS LIKE HE SHOULD HAVE >.>. Hah, I say that you did the right thing, and that you should ignore him unless he makes an honest, heart-felt apology and PROVES to you that he is worth your devotion - he's broken that once. Good luck.

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this one guy has me so confused... at times it feels like he wants me ...other times it feels like im the replacement

i dont know if he has a girl or not

and im the ex so i dont want to just come out and ask him if he does

he said he misses me at times

AT TIMES..... doesnt that mean like once in a while....i dont know what to think anymore...as soon as i clear my doubts about him they all fall back on me....

what should i do.... this is seriously getting me to a point that i think i need a pcychologist's help

You don't need a psychologists help =). You just need to know that if you tried once with this guy and it didn't work - then maybe it wasn't meant to happen. If he's not being clear with you then fuck him dude, even if you like him. I think if he's not being straight up about it then ditch the freak. I dont fucking get the games people play these days, they're.not.funny. You're above games, aren't you?

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ok well i just now got home from a pretty interestin night- heres the story.. well ive been goin out w. this guy for 17 months now and things hve been off and on - you know good and bad - && i hve seriously liked this one guy forever. since i first met him but things never worked out -FYI these 2 two diff guys- ok well i was at my bfs tonight and before hand i had plans to go with this guy (that i liked forever but had no feelings for now.. -well when he picked me up) bc things hve been kinda wierd and i needed to tlk to someone.. well i had plans to go to my bfs so i was at my bfs for a little bit then the guy i DID like came and picked me up so we can tlk.. so we drove and then parked and tlked FOREVER! i mean we tlked about everything and he completely understands me.. and then one thing lead to another and we were kissing.. and i mean i know he didnt hve it planned to end like that. and it was all just perfect.. but i also hve a bf like i said.. and i mean we hve been together for a very long time and we hve been through alot together -- good and bad-- but i mean its highschool now and im not sher if i just need to "move on" and see what else is out there. me and the boy both decided not to tell anyone until we r both ready (hes single by the way) so now i cant get ahold of my bf and i dont know what to do.. shuld i tel him and break up? not tell him and break up with him? not tell him and not break up? im sooooo confused!!!! please please help me! and noooo stupid comments from u assholes out there.. and please could you hurry with the responses!

Here's an answer from one of those assholes out there: if you can cheat on someone and still sleep at night, and actually, like actually be torn between two guys like an eleven year old, you don't deserve to be in love.

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