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The first impression one may get without speaking to me is that I'm the stereotypical girl in today's society. I am anything, but the typical wordly girl. From past experiences, I have come to a realization in my life that nothing will fullfill your life, except God. Throughout these times, I have grown up quite fast and act on my future, not my present. In life, I follow the direction that most people tend to forget. Many people are oblivious to the importance of life. Coming from a less-than-picture-perfect side of life, I try to correct my life and set a purpose for myself. Through the many disappointments I've encountered in my life, I steer away from being a "victim" from my past. Thus, being a stronger, wiser, & more independent person. I live the clean life, and don't fall to anything other. I am learning to be comfortable in my own skin. I have made a commitment, to live a life of purity and with a self image that is based upon God's design.



There's a time in your life when you realize that everything in your life was a test to predict your future. I've held bitterness to a lot of situations, but have come to realize, that forgiveness is what shapes an individual to be a better person. I may have been hurt & disappointed by many, but I still continue to pray for those. I still care about them. I can't hate anyone because that's not who I am. Hearts have been broken, tears have been shed, but you realize what you wanted and hoped for, wasn't meant to be; it wasn't how your life was planned. A simple clich�???????????�??????????�?????????�????????�???????�??????�?????�????�???�??�?�© : I do forgive, but I don't forget.



I find myself learning to deal with constant criticism. Many people find ways to think and say negative things, but none of it soaks it. I strive to be a better & more independent person each and every day. One of my main focus' in life is to show girls, you can be sexy, but classy, and have morals and high standards at the same time. I love and life for God, anyone who disapproves of my beliefs will only be ignored. People tend to find trust in me quite quick because I'm genuine, and hide nothing. I accept my imperfections, which therefore, guides me through life on an easier route. This is me, and everything is sincere.




Other than that, I have a fiesty & protective personality when I feel I am being provoked or judged. I immediately put up a wall. My first approach is "kill them with kindness", but if it continues, I'm a spitfire. I am very protective over my family & friends. I do anything I can to protect them. Typically with guys, I find it hard to get along with. I'm not the girl who loves to flirt and see how many hook-up's I can get. I don't need it to boost my self-esteem, I get enough attention without. Anyone who isn't aquainted with maturity, will annoy me to death. I'm a fun girl - don't get me wrong, but I'm wise beyond my years. I'm at the point where I feel I have already fullfilled my teenage years, and I'm ready for "The Real World". Life isn't a competition; it is not a popularity contest, or a game to see how many people find you attractive. It's a priveledge God gives you, that many take advantage of.









advice

dooes anyone know a website that has music codes? just the music code not the video code 2 ??
also if there is a website that has the code to the song california by phantom planet the theme song for the oc ? i would appriciate it ♥

yes theres a site. its called cdzinc.com

it has everythinggg.

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Compared to everyone else, I have big legs. They aren't fat or anything, I just want to slim them down and tone the muscle. Any ideas?

try running walking or jogging && they should get toned out alot. ♥ carmen

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what is cyber sex and is it fun and is it bad to do cuz someone told me that i should try it and someone els told me not so should i or not

cyber sex is like talking about the sexual deeds that you would usually do but not really doing it just saying it by words over the internet. i personally dont reccomend it.
♥ carmen

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Ok what do i do when my Friend says her brother likes me, but i dont know if he really does??

Ps-The boy already asked me out but i think he doesnt mean it. And how should i act when im over there, i mean she is my bff.

im a 14/f

just keep it cool. chances are shes right && her bro really likes you from the sound of it && not all guys show emotion when they ask girls out trust me i know from experience.
♥ carmen

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um...this is gonna sound weird, but i'm 14, and i'm....like, hairy, if you know what i mean, my gf doesn't like it, how do i get rid of the hair without just shaving it, i've heard that doesn't work

shaving always works i dont know what people have been telling you. but if you want a longer lasting solution you should try waxing which takes out the root of the hair.
♥ carmen

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is there a cure for pubic lice?

yeah there its its basically the same for head lice. but try shaving the hair down there as well as giving yourself treatment && i deff think that would help.
♥ carmen

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My boyfriend isn't very talkative. Even before we admitted to having feelings for eachother, I was always the one to pursue the conversation. We're going out tonight & I'm worried we'll totally run out of things to talk about. Can anyone help me out with some topics to bring up? By the way, we don't go to the same school. Thank you!

~Allie

well maybe talk about some of the things the two of you are interested in the most and just try to reconnect. like how your summers going. theres all sorts of things just keep it cool.
♥ carmen

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Whats the best way for a guy to masturbate? (that doesnt involve buying anything)

basically just using his hands is they best way to do it. ♥ carmen

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well i am 13 going on 14(in like 20 days) and i dont have cramps or anything, but i sometimes get a little white stuff, but not alot, and not that often. will i be expecting my first period soon?

yes deff expect to be getting your period soon those are most of the signs that come when your about to start your period!
♥ carmen

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Hey, does anyone know why the ♥ thing doesn't work anymore? I know it doesn't work in questions, but now it isn't working in answers either. What's going on? Thanks...

well its only working on your column as of now for me. so i think when you do that ♥ it will only show on your column not on the rest of advicenators.
♥ carmen

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Hmm, this is kind of random, but I'm not sure what CD I should buy next. I like classic rock mainly, like Pink Floyd.
Any ideas?

possibly the eagles? rolling stones? maybe you can buy a classic rock compilation cd with your favorite artists on there.
♥ carmen

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theres this guy whos gonna ask me out on valentines day hes going to give me a rose and bear and a kiss. what shuld i do and what should i wear?

aw thats so cute. just play it cool && war something cute classy && elegant.
♥ carmen

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Okay, I'm looking for a Hot Hot Heat music video to put on my myspace. I have looked everywhere and either the site doesn't have Hot Hot Heat videos, or it doesn't work. If you have any good sites that will have a video by them that I can copy the code to put on myspace please let me know... I'm so frustrated! Thanks... I rate only fives!! Please give good answers!!!

go to singingfish.com

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can someone please give me advice on how i can loose like 10 pounds bye aguest or sept ! THANKS YOU S0 MUCH ! ILL RATE 5 FOR GOOD ANSWERS !

first off start with a healthy diet. cut out all carbs such as pasta && breads && sodas && sugar. start excersicing daily && focus on areas you want to be improved && you should easily lose 10 pounds!

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I need help please. Does someone know what sites i can use for music hosting because when i did search it didn't help me much. thanks a lot. i rate high if you can help

well you can try streamload that is just for music and try angelfire ! hope i helped

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Ok..My friend Max brought this friend with him to my house and like to where we work and everything and like my and his friend, MarC, had a connection you know like I'd known him my WHOLE life and like we were best friends or something and like at the end of the summer he has to go back home to GA and i live in NC and im worried that ill never see him again or talk to him or nething is there anything i can do to like keep in touch since it would be too far to call all the time and im not sure if he has a computer?!?

I rate HIGH!

well if one of you has a cell phone at certain times at night theres free minutes so that might help the both of you && maybe you guys can drive or take trains to visit eachother on weekends sometimes!

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I have this friend thats my neighbor and ive known him all my life pretty much and like we used to be unseparable ((spelling)) and now like since i got a little older and he got more into his baseball and paintball its like were fading apart and i just dont want that to happen because i would die for him if it came down to that and i juss REALLY dont wanna lose him cuz hes like the little brother i never had,,,does anyone have any suggestions on what i could do to help this friendship?!?

I rate HIGH if you can help!

well try to join in with him on some of his interests that hes doing now that are tearing you two apart and it might rekindle your friendship && become much more closer again! hope i helped ♥ carmen

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I'm not too confident with walking up to people and starting conversation...
What would be some good opening points/questions for talking to people? Of around my own age (16/17) (college people) or older? (work collegues)

Any suggestions?

i kinda have that same problem too! its drives me crazy! well you can ask them some of their interests && such and it should start up convos && possibly build up new friendships! hope i helped ♥ carmen

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what are some places you can download music to the ipod.. i cant use iTunes because i dont know how to download the songs and i dont have an account

try using limewire it downloads music to there && always gives me what im looking for. =)*

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um i just put this under a random category but...im going on a really long road trip in a few days and im gonna need some serious entertainment...any ideas besides anything that involves reading?(i cant read in the car, makes me feel sick and stuff) thanks soo much i rate

try to bring any music source such as a ipod or cd player. maybe a dvd player? video games. maybe a laptop? a notebook to draw in? pretty much fun stuff you can do while in the car =)* carmen

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