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Hey, I'm 16 and cute and give excellent advice. I rate pretty high and Have been through almost anything you can throw my way. Just ask it and I'll answer the best way I can and I will always tell you straight up how it is. If you don't believe then just ask. P.S. It doesn't hurt to have me as your favorite columnist- that way I can share my wisdom with you when you ask me directly instead of chancing that I'll come across it. :-)
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okay, my first love, diego, and i were in love for about a year and a half. we always were together, but we never went farther than kissing.
we have both moved on now, and we havent really thought of eachother as more than best friends for about 6 months..
im now with a new guy named sam. sam and i are really close, but everytime i tell him i love him, diegos face comes to my mind, but i dont know why. diego and i were talking last night, and we were flirting a lot.
now, looking back, i feel REALLY bad, and i dont know if i should tell sam or not. i know its not like i went off and did stuff with diego, but im still not sure if its concidered cheating or not...is it?!
what do you think i should do!?
14/f
I think you should let this pass as one of those weird moments. If you love Diego and Sam then you just need to figure out which one you wanna be with. If you and Diego aren't together it's probably best that you stay apart, but sometimes getting back together works. You're 14 you shouldn't be worried about loving 2 guys and give it time. Good Luck!
im in a band and im worried that if i get a gf that the band will get in the way. i would invite her to practice but she would make the other guys in the band nervous. id constantly be saying "nah sorry i cant come see u at the weekend i have practice" also if i did invite her to practice she would just be sitting around and getting bored. i have another problem too. if i bring a gf home my dad and sis will make fun sooooooooo much and i wil just get embaressed.plz help with both probs!!
You need to make time for both things. If you want a gf then you should have one but she would need to be able to accept that you are in a band, while at the same time you and your band need to agree that playing can't take up all of your time. As far as your as dad adn sister, they wouldn't make fun of you. I mean they may joke and have fun with it little bit but I'm sure they would most likely stop if you let them know it upsets you. I hope this helps, Gook Luck!
Hey guys! I'm korean and I like listening to korean artists and bands (Ex. BoA, Se7en, TRAX, Jinusean). Anyway, I tried finding korean radio stations and things but they never seem to work. I have Windows Media Player if that helps. Can someone please help me to play korean music on my computer? Thank you so much! Love, Kimmy.
I don' knoe how t help you get them on your computer but you may be able to google it. Also you can get the new XM radio, it may have Korean music on it (but ask before you go spending money)Good Luck
lastnite i was on the fone with my boyfriend and my mom kept coming in saying she needs the phone and i wouldn't get off cause my boyfriend and i were in the middle of a conversation. So... she took my cell phone which in this case my dad bought for me (parents are split up) and i pay for monthly and she only did it to waste my minutes. so when i got off the phone i walked into the living room and there she was on the couch talking on my phone and i got pretty pissed off about it. So... i tried grabbing it from her and told her to give me my damn phone but she pushed me away and slapped my arm and then she finally got off but she wouldn't give it to me and she went and got the home phone so again i tried grabbing for my cell phone and she pushed me into the wall and started choking me and cussing at me and so i called her a fucking bitch and she pushed me onto the couch and punched me in the chest and in the face and slapped me across the face and kept saying what did you just call me and i tried kicking her off me and then i finally got her off me and she goes to my stepdad you wanted her here then you can stay with her and she left..... thats just the background... but my question is what am i supposed to do, I have a HUGE mark on my neck from where she was choking me and now i have worse breathing problems (i have asthma pretty bad) i mean like should i call the poilce or should i call child services i have no idea what to do!! HELP ME PLEASE
Most schools have a police officer or guidance counslor. The closer this person is to the police the better it is for you. It sounds like your mother didn't really want you living with her but rather your step-dad thought she should have you there. By telling the police they will most-likely take picture of the bruises and talk to your mother and then they'll probably make you stay with your father or a family member. What you went through is abuse and shouldn't be taken no matter what. I hope you know that and don't let your mother intimidate you. And I don't know your parents backgrund but it might be better for you to live with your father or someone else. And don't try to make the marks on your neck go away until you get pictures of them and a date togo along with the piuctures to porve it was abuse. I hope this helps, Good Luck
I kno Im to yung, but I had sex wit my bf like 3 months aftr we went out and I didnt wanna do it but he prssurd me into it, so we did it. Now I unno wat to do but I like him a lot and I dun wanna break up wit him but he keeps makin me do it! Wat shud i do?
Look, you need to look out or yourself, not him. It's fine to like him a lot but letting a guy pressure you into something you aren't ready for isn't good and what's worse is if you keep havin unhealthy sex like this then later in life yo won't find it as enjoyable probably. Look out for yaself besfore you go and do anything you don't wanna do. Seriously, tell him NO, and not a little whisper, you tell him you weren't ready and still aren't. And threaten to let somebody else know what's happening if he doesn't take the no and keeps trying to persue you. B/c it sounds like he wants sex nad not much more. I hope you get help or stand up to him b/c letting him use you like that isn't good for you. Good Luck
m/15
When you are having intercourse, does it matter if the girl is on the bottom or the top? What positions are are best for the guy and the girl? Me and my girlfriend have decided (after going out a year) to have sex and I don't want to mess up or hurt her. I've heard sex hurts the girl. Will she bleed? Also, does sex hurt the guy? I sound stupid, but the doesn't mean I'm not ready. I love her and that's as ready as I can be. I just want to know how to give her my best. -MB-
Look, it doesn't really matter. As long as you both are comfortable and if you aren't sure ask her. You may sound like an idiot but if she isn't then you don't wanna keep doing the same thing and yes usually a girls first time will hurt, but some pain is normal and other pain is from a bad position not right for her or you. It's just about not rushing through it.If you wanna give her your best then take your time, and let her know that your nervous that way she doesn't feel alone. Good Luck!
so i have this boyfriend. almost 3 months. but we have only held hands and hugged. he is going sooo slow. every one is like .. make the first move. but im really shy. like.. really shy. but just around the boy im going out with. are there anyway i can sortof give him hints.. but not make the firt move? 13/f
You are too young to be doing more anyway. Do you really wanna remember your first time as you rushed into it when you were 13 and now you wish this guy hadn't givin in. Plus you must remember that guys are tyring to wait until they are ready too. If he's not ready you should respect that. But if you need to know then you should bring it up in t conversation. Oh and by the way, if you get too shy to even try and make the first move with this guy then do you really think you're going to be comfy kissing him or having sex with him? Let it run it's course, maybe you two just need to take a look at what you want out of it. Are you wanting sex or just a kiss? he may think kissing is a big deal.Talk to him, if anyone knows why he's going so slow it would be him. he could be scared, guys get insecure just like females. Good Luck!
i need advice on what to do .. i went out withmy best friend and we went out for like 2 months then i dumped him and went out with his best friend and i like him a lot and like i still kinda love my ex i mean me and him are still best friends and all but he still loves me and hes asked me for like 20 chances and i just turned him down and hes hurt himself over it he still loves me with all his heart and i just went out with his best friend and i really like who im going out with right now but im very confused the guy im going out with now has a really good personality and im comfortable with him and stuff yea but my ex i mean hes knows sooo much about me and stuff and i gave everything to him like my virigity .. yea but im just really confused should i stay with the guy im with or go back to my ex??help!!have any advice on what to do next??
Sounds like you have 2 huys hot for you and don't know which to choose?I'm confused, but lets make it simple, it's not about wh loves you more, or who knows you better, it's about who you love and who you want. When you brake it down to that there should only really be one guy you want. Don't go with anyone because you feel they are in love and it is crushing them, it would only make it worse, plus if you and your ex broke up there h to be a reason for it so think is it worth giving another try or do you want the guy your with? In the end you have the final say, unless you make them wait too long then they could not want you any more. Good Luck!
This guy I know has told me he liked me a few weeks ago. I STARTED to like him BEFORE he told me. When he told me and continued to confess his love for me, he just got less and less attractive. He got clingy, and obsessive. He calls me 3 or 4 times a day and can't go a day without tlaking to me on the phone, as if we are in a relationship! I suggested we hang out during spring break so I can get to know him, but then I got too busy. Then he made me promise I'd go out with him during the summer when I'm not too busy! OMG! I have tried not talking to him on the phone and avoiding his calls, but nothings working. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I DID tell him I wasn't into a boyfriend right now. Any advice?
The best way to deal with boys like this is to let them down easy. Tell him that you are not interested in him and that it's not really him rather you are kinda busy right now and don't have time to be on the phone every day and sometimes when you do have some you time you don't wanna be on the phone, or promising things. And then let him know that it's not right to either of you to have to pencil in time and to be tied down. Tell him you both are young and can be friends but nothing else. Good Luck!
okay at skool the other day i leaked and it was all over my chair. i coverd my pants with my jackett. i was wearing a extreamly large pad. it went through. am i bleeding to much
this is my 3rd period
Okay, this is normal to be heavy and no offense but throw out that big thick large pad. The newer ones that are ultra thin work better and are probably going to be more comfy anyway. When you are heavy like this you should have a pad made for heavy flows and they do come in ultra thin. And grab some tampons because it does help sometimes to have a tampon and a pad on at the same time that way when the tampon is full you take it out and it would leak right onto the pad. This trick has helped me for 2 years and never failed me. Good Luck!
I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx
Here's the thing, your 14 I was actually that age when I had my first kiss and I wasn't too concerned with age when it happened. Any guy is going to probably judge you by the way your friends act unless you show otherwise. If he see's you doing the exact same immature thing they are then he'll think you're like them or if he see's you just sitting there letting it happen he'll think you're not for him. Speak up and let him know and honestly being one of the ones to get kissed or do more eariler makes people think of you as a little easy anyway. I know that most girls wanna be loved but it helps to know that there are other girls out there that are feeling the same way as you are. Don't feel different feel honored that you are waiting for the perfect boy for you to give you your first kiss, or other firsts (b/c trust me you don't want any of your first with some a** who thinks he is being a player and feels the need to be a jerk and tell people or treat yu like crap after) Feel honored not different. Good Luck!
To tell the honest truth, I dont have a lot of friends & most of them when i call them (like tonight) make up an excuse not to go out with me. *yeah, i know, mean but please dont pity me* So, anyways i have nothing to do! Im not going to just sit around - but im not going out alone! wtf can/should i do? =/ Signed, Oh so lonely
Here's how I see it. Your friends are thinking of excuses because they are either hanging out with someone who doesn't like you or they aren't in the mood to be around you. If you don't wanna be in the house just sitting around then you could do something fun in the house (shopping online, chat rooms, be on the phone with someone who isn't busy) and when you get bakc to school you need to expand your friends to people who have time for you. Don't drop your friends now but just add some of those enemies or don't know yous's into the friend category. It never hurts to have more friends unless you have too many as is. Good Luck!
basically to cut a long story short....
i really i mean really like this boy who has gone to the army before i got a chance to tell him how i feel because i only realised after he left.
its been 9 months since i have seen him and ive been trying to get over him but i cant.
he'll never come back.
then i met a boy on msn through my best mate a month ago. since then we've become really close. he has got deep feelings for another girl and he dosent know how i feel.
i'm just so confused right now.
any help would be so helpfull
xx
I think you need to take some time and just think. If you can't think of a good reason that either of them is right for you then you need to get over them both and the best way to do that is to spend as much time with friends as possible. But in your case one of them is in the army and you may never see him again so that's not the worst part. Now as far as the other guy goes if he has deep feelings for someone else then you need to think about how much you really like him. If you don't think he is into you that much then stay close friends. You never know it could someday form into more. Good Luck!
I'm 15 Okay well my good guy friend and I want to date, but his mother hates my guts. Once his mother said something about me and he was sticking up for me and she said "Don't you start that again or I'll pull you out of school." And believe me she would do it too. So my friends are like just date and dont tell his mother, but his ex girlfriend is one of my good friends and her mother is still really good friends with his mother. So there is no way that we could keep it from her. What do you think I shud do?
Here's the thing, his mother may have good reasons in her mind for not liking you, so you need to figure out what they are or maybe try talking to her. And it may just be that momma thinks her son and your best friend should be together instead of you and her son. You could just leave it strictly friends or you could date and not tell your best friend or if you tell her ask her to not tell her mother. I know it's tough when a guy you like's parents don't like you but you have to be creative and think of ways to prove that you are worthy of her son. And don't go doing anything crazy that may get back to her because that won't make it any better. Good Luck!
Hi.im a 14 year old male and ive known this girl for ages over msn messenger but ive never actually met her. ive seen her on webcam and i really like her. we share intrests and always talk online. i would like to meet her befor asking her out but when it comes to meting girls i get embaressed and shy and wont talk very much. im not sure if she has a boyfriend. recently tho she has not answerd my txts and does not answer me online. im not sure if she just has no credit and her computer is playing up or if she is ignoring me. i also get shy and dont talk much on the phone either. also i dont really know how to tell if she likes me when i do meet her. what should i do!!! (sorry its a bit long)
You should take that chance. You will never know if she likes you unless you talk to her and see how well you two get along and how comfortable and relaxed you are in person. There is no point in ever going out with someone if you are just going to sit there and be silent the entire time. And as far as you being shy, don't sweat it. When you meet her in person you should be able to chat like you would online. Maybe compliment her and get along like this isn't the first time meeting. But also remember to be careful and not to just jump into meeting someone online, it could be a setup so have somone there with you until you know it's safe (have them just be parked where they can see or they could sit near enough to be able to get you in a second out of a bad situaiton. Don't worry though because not all girls are into the loud obnoxious guys but rather prefer them quiet and not ready to tell and say whatever on the first meeting. Good Luck! Oh and don't stress her not answering you online, it could be that she's groundedor someone else is using the computer.
i think i might have genital herpes... i have never had sex so how could i get it!? its like a ton of little bumps on my penis and i want to know how to get rid of it. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me! i need to know, im so embarassed! ill rate 5's! and i also want to know if girls will still like me if they know i have it.. im guessing no. this sucks so bad so please help me out. and if it isnt herpes then please tell me what it is.. im too embarassed to tell my parents or a doctor. if you have ANY information at all, please tell me
Look I'm not an expert when it comes to herpes but I think you should go to the doctor. Your doctor has to keep this a secret from your parents unless it turns out to be herpes, because then you would need medication. And most likely, girls won't want to be with you if you do have herpes nad yea they deserve to know if you have it before they do anything that involves your penis.
My friend and I were making fun of our French teacher in class yesterday. Well, we didn't notice but our teacher was walking by and she kind of stopped for a second. We only thought she heard us but, today she was being extreamly mean to us. And just us. So know we know she heard us. My friend doesn't care that she heard becasue she hates her but I do. I feel really bad about all of it. I don't blame her for being mean and I don't know what to do. Should I just drop it?
You should drop it. If the teacher heard you then she wouldn't be being mean but she would take it like a grown woman and get over the fact that high schoolers make fun of her. Trust me this teacher has something else wrong with her but it's not that you make fun of her and she caught you.
i was going out with someone for 3 weeks and one day, he lives like 30-45 minutes away and so he broke up with me because he said "you need someone closer to you". so it's been almost two weeks .. i still love him, i miss him .. i wanna move on but i don't think i can, i just love him too much. in the summer he's getting his license and we're gonna try again .. but that's just soo far away .. i miss him and i want him back .. i know i should move on .. but i just can't. HELP!! PLEASE!!
Age: 14
Gender: Female
You should try to be with him again and if you find out that he was right in the beginning then you can remain friends but remember if you love him you may love him as a friend and be confusing it for a deeper type of love. But give it time and you'll realize that maybe it was for the better to not be together, you guys are young.
i have this boifriend that lives in different part of missouri!!well my cusion lives out there and i see him every weekend!!but he REALLY hot and all these gurls like him!!well he was over his friends house and my boifrinds brother was there and his brother called me and said that my boifrind was askin for lapdances,kissen on all these gurls's neck,and grabbi their boobs!!but my cusion said that i shouldnt trust my boifriends brother cuz hes jealous of me and his relationship and only wants me and him broke up!!should i trust my boifriend and these gurls??even my boifriends mom said i shouldnt trust his brother!!im so0o0o confused!!
xOx cOnFus3d!!
13/f/mo
You need to talk to your boyfriend. If he says that he was asking for lapdances then you know the truth but if he denies it but also still looks like he's lying or hiding something then you need to handle it. But don't take the word of your boyfriends little brother, he may have a crush on you or just may be mad at your boyfriend for something that has nothing to do with you.
Today my friend Liam invited me to his 18th birthday party. I was rather shocked because I don't really know Liam, but I guess he likes my quirkiness. So I was really excited until I realized that I don't really know any of Liam's friends besides the people he talks to in art class, and only one of them is really a friend. Her name is Rachel. Sometimes I talk to them about things in the art room where I know them from. They're both very open about themselves and have said that they're into drugs among other things. So I'm worried about going to this party tomorrow because I don't want to get caught up in drugs, but I also want to be friends with Liam and Rachel because they're nice people who talk on my level and care about the things I care about.
so should I go or should I stay home and be perfectly safe? and if I go and there are drugs, how can I stay away from them and not come home smelling suspicious?
You should go but be prepared to not take the drugs. Rememb rthat you are drug-free and aren't interested in taking anything. But also be preped for how they react.And as far as not smelling like you were around the drugs you could take some cologn with you and spray yourself with it before you get home, actually do it as soon as you leave that way it has time to settle over the clothes and if necessary you could take some of those fresh body cloth things that are like for travelers who need to freshen up. If you wipe the wet cloth over ypurself it's supposed to be like taking a little wash up until you can get to a hotel or something, i hear they work great for that type of thing and remember to be honest if your parents are at all suspicious, if you have nothing to hide then you should be okay.